Not Now

been there honestly… i wasted like an entire summer after graduating doing basically nothing but scrolling and feeling bad about it. the plans and goals thing is a trap because you wake up motivated,…

Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…

A letter to my fearful avoidant ex — 31st December 2025 So here we are. Another night, another thought. It’s been nearly 25 days since Eddie left me. Recently, so many emotions have been running through my mind. I never thought I would…

My (28F) boyfriend (26M) has recently got back into religion and it’s affecting our relationship. — I’ve listened/watched so many Reddit podcasts, but this the first time posting. This a weird situation and I have no one to talk to about this, I’m left feeling quite numb about everything. My boyfri…

It’s Been A Year… So Here’s My Last Post — Well, tonight makes it official. It has been a full year since I was dumped. Whoever said you lose track of time when you’re having fun is a liar. You REALLY lose track of time when you’re miserable a…

How do you just… fall out of love that fast? I’m genuinely confused. — Hi everyone! I’m not really here to be told “move on” (I already know I have to even if it hurts). I just want to understand what might be going on in his head. We were together for 4 years, long dis…

My 71 year old mother escalated to throwing objects at me tonight because I started vacation from work — Quick intro: I'm a 49-year-old man earning \~$225K/year, living with my 71-year-old mother in a house that's fully paid off. I'm planning to move out within the next few weeks. You can see the post hi…

Do I need a therapy ? — ​ Hi, 33 Male from Egypt, well It's really hard for me lately, a lot has been happening in my life, and for past couple of months sleep has become really challenging, my thoughts and imaginat…

Read this if you're miserable and want your ex back. — # Your ex won't come back until you've COMPLETELY let go of them. ...and it's not gonna take 30 days of No Contact. I wish it was that simple. Let me explain how I've come to this conclusion while …

Am I (19F) a bad partner if I'm often irritated by my boyfriend's (21M) constant negative emotional state and the feeling that he's not moving forward in life? — I'm 19, and my boyfriend is 21. We've been in a long-distance relationship for about two years. We talk on the phone every night and visit each other whenever possible. He's finishing his studies this…

Do you ever feel like you lost the “innocence” of love after a narc breakup? — I just remember thinking how in love I was. How I felt like I found my person, and how it was us against the world (during the love bombing phase). How everything felt right and how I couldn’t wait to…

am I difficult or is everyone terrible? Therapy, trauma and trusting — The way people talk about therapy and therpists feel so different to my reality that I feel silly, like I can't trust myself, like i'm overreacting... Is this overreacting? Am I giving up too easily? …

I feel quite lost. — I've never really had someone I could talk to about my problems. I have lots of people in my life I COULD talk to, but I feel like there's no one who could understand. I don't know where it starts. …

My mother died and I'm finally free, I'm just scared I'm too old — I'm kind of nervous to say this because I can't help feel like an imposter here, my mother wasn't all that abusive after all, but now she's dead I can't help but feel like she caused me a lot of harm.…

I'm a Taiwanese-American scientist running for Congress in CA-32. Another candidate called me a Chinese spy and asked a rival campaign to act on it. Here are all the receipts. — **Edit 2**: The full unedited video of the forum I attended on April 8, 2026, less than two hours after seeing the March 5-6 texts from Anna Wilding is now live on YouTube. I showed up, I did my job, …

That overwhelming need to sabotage their own children — My sister and I both need to lose weight for health reasons. We are both not only very overweight but we have family histories on both sides of illnesses that are exacerbated by carrying more weight. …

Anyone still posting on here? I drove my ex away with my insecure attachment style, looking back he kept putting in little effort and I felt as though I was trying very hard to change. I’m sure he wa…

Hi, I’m 22F and was in a relationship for over 3 years with an avoidant male. In June, I decided to leave the place we shared together and move home because of his emotional regulation that presented …

Hmm, you say there is a feeling of creepiness but no sign of dubious morals, but you also said he doesn't take no for an answer sometimes and keeps pressuring. That alone is enough to deter many peopl…

It'll suck for a while any time she comes into memory, it's like poking an open wound again. The wound will close eventually, as you're doing now fill it with happiness from other friends, family, co-…

I was a little while back, sort of. Not now, don't even want my ex back at all 😅. It's very bizarre

Assuming this is male chart. Venus exalted in 12th house, it is a strong yog for marrying a foreigner, different religion/cast, and settling abroad. I have this placement and have all of the above. Th…

Just for the record, the person I mentioned in my other comment is in addiction recovery with a couple of years clean. He has been upfront and brutally honest about it with me. I have no fear of him b…

you deal with this by realizing that you break up so you can worry about your own mental health. you are not a clinically trained mental health expert and you should not be around this person. you…

Therapy. Healing the childhood wounds. The childhood wounds were what drove the compulsion to rescue others as I couldn't rescue myself. Once I started to rescue myself, the compulsion faded. Believe …

"I wanted to so bad but I was afraid everyone would find out what I was up to" - exactly what a good wife tells her husband. She obviously doesn't care about hurting you, not now, not back then. Ho…

I think this is a strange take. When do you think he's going to pick up the habit of sitting at the dinner table, if it's not now when it's just 15 minutes and the child is in a high chair? Do you …

Thinking to myself that my brain is trying to sabotage itself. Imagining that there's darkness around it and it can be cleared, or that there's something, a literal monster of some kind, trying to tak…

I could have written this post at some point. Not now, but also not that long ago either. I still live with some shame, but I am much better now and so is my marriage. One thing that clicked in my hea…

That hot tub is the first time they have sex. Your wife is not cheating. To be honest there is no way to explain to you but she is not cheating on you. I know you are gutted. And her bestie should hav…

Your abuse was very severe, it looks like to me - and it is amazing g you survived much less thrived as much as you have . Recovering from all of this is hard , it is long , and you have already start…

The advice I scrolled through is all focused on him getting his OCD treated, so i'll leave that alone - you've got plenty of it. I don't have OCD but I AM the tidy one in the relationship, so i'll gi…

By Saturn dasha you are supposed to be married and starting a family. So expect some progress in that direction from Dec 2025 onwards in Rahu period. Saturn transit is excellent for you unlike how it …

I tune in the ringing. It's so hard to explain but when I hear it, it will often be something that rotates AROUND me - the ringing will disappear when I say, "Okay. I see you. Not now though, friend."…

But you were the dumper, no? Just wanted to know what kind of relief you were feeling, and if you just woke up one day and felt you made a huge mistake throwing him away? It has been about 30+ days s…

It sounds like you were comfortable. This seems to be working for you as much as you miss her. The same reasons that made you leave and how you felt then is what you need to remember not now. I get yo…

It really depends on the beings. I think the ones that visit me try to respect consent as much as possible (if I start hearing a bunch of rapping and clicks while trying to go to sleep I’ll loudly thi…

With the "Stop talking back" (especially if they asked you a question just before), I'll add the one that goes with it "Answer my question!"/"Why aren't you answering?!" (said really angrily) \*Joke …

First things first. It does not matter if nothing physical happened. You're already feeling massive negative emotional impact which can put your overall health, physical and mental, in danger. If not …

I was the dumpee and I agree, as much as I want to be the one eventually (not now) I shouldn't be, because I feel like shit. Forever was just an empty promise but I meant it. I wasn't worth fighting f…

If he is doing this to you he is doing it to others and maybe even his kids (if not now someday) Report him please, you have the power to help make sure other people don't have to go through what you…

I would say , go for a ride buddy. Find someone else. In the end , you will regret this...you may not now but you are missing a lot for things for your age. Be in your daughter life and live your OWN…

Exactly! I will not beg. Not now not ever. No one can make another person want them, or want to be with them

Wow, I'm so sorry you had to experience this. I wish we could be friends hahahaha. Luckily, I know very well I will never go back to him. He just asked me to chat because he wants to apologize for eve…

I had relationships that had broken me. I am currently in one that has also fucked me over. But every time I try to leave he stops me. When I start to pack my stuff. When I tell him I’m done and I’m t…

You don’t have stay married to him. This is who he is and you know that. I’d divorce but anyway, I’m not advising you to talk calmly to this man. I suggest you set your boundaries forcefully. You let …

Not now, I don’t, but before I started processing and healing? Well, it’s part of the reason my marriage fell apart. Not the whole reason by far, but my contribution to the demise was hugely fueled by…

What made it feel like the right time back then, but not now?

What made it feel like the right time back then, but not now?

6 months down and I still hold onto the hope, maybe not now but I always think in the future once time has passed, because I just can’t imagine being with anyone else, there isn’t a day that’s gone by…

I’m here now. I wouldn’t say we had the happiest of marriages but I thought we were better than we apparently are. We never communicated well and kept things in. We’ve been married 21 years told me he…

I mean in perhaps a more abstract sense. I’d likely think “please, not now” or if it were painful I’d holler, and beg for help most likely.

You tried to show him you are not a sexual object, and especially not now that you're a mother. You succeeded. Don't come to the internet crying about your own major eff-up. And it would be perfectl…

this is honestly just bad timing more than anything you did everything right, like you weren’t trying to mess around, you were actually serious about it. but if she’s saying she’s not ready, that’s k…

This is an easy choice, and do not have a simple grain of empathy, your partner is supposed to support you the moment he goes in like this with a vision of completely taking you down from all your ach…

Exactly and thank you. *I* don't want to feign interest in being his friend the same way I wouldn't want him to feign interest in dating me.  I wanted a romantic relationship with him. I really thou…

Divorce doesn't seem imminent at least not now. Maybe 16/17 years later. Maybe go for counseling. There is something about WhatsApp group issue that you think is a non-existent problem. To you, obvi…

Sorry, you made a bad choice with this man. Go on the trip and enjoy it. If he divorces you for going, then good riddance. He is a controlling and possibly abusive man, if not now, then possibly in…

yeah but getting railed by two hot dudes was only my fantasy when I was single, not now that I’m with someone.  

Yes , will do ,but not now . Send birth details

I could answer this as a “no” even with still waiting divorce document court filing. She’s been in a relationship with her new BF before I was aware we were over… pretty sure she doesn’t view me as in…

It sounds like this all boils down to: 1. your girlfriend wants you all to live together and fully integrate your lives—that’s what she wants your relationship to look like 2. you want to keep thin…

I would make a note that saying 'not now' will tell your subconscious it is only parked. Simply acknowledging it is all you need

It isn’t easy, but it’s also a bit inevitable. If not now, then in months or weeks from now. Your only silver lining is with it happening now, you save yourself any future regression if it happened th…

u asked if someone has had money controlled im just dropping by to say my experience . massive TLDR im a victim of munchausnen by proxy. i was held captive till age 29 . only thanks to my fiance did…

I want my ex back, but not now! I have to work on myself first to make sure that ANY kind of relationship with me would work. I’m realizing from our no contact and time to think & reflect that I was…