radical honesty

How honest are securely attached people? — I'm curious how honest secure people are with others in their life. I'm healing from dismissive avoidant attachment and my instinct whenever something bothers or upsets me is to dismiss it as not a bi…

radical honesty is not always appropriate especially if your tendency is to find faults in a lot. Secure people tend to find fault in less and have more flexibility

I wouldn't say "radical honesty" is linked to secure behaviour (I'm not earned secure, so don't take my word for it), nor would I say they tell more white lies about small things/honest about big. A …

Patricia Crittenden’s way of understanding attachment behaviour really helps me with thinking about what security looks like. In her framework, avoidance is marked by privileging cognitive information…

I think secure people are better at expressing needs and setting boundaries. What you are asking about is not only about a secure attachment, you seem to be asking about (1) is radical honesty the bes…

I've been practicing Radical Honesty (the branded modality you can learn from books & workshops) for a couple years now and it's been the #1 thing that's helped me. It's not "brutal honesty" or whatev…

I do not think “radical honesty” is a secure way of communicating and more often gets used as a way to have an excuse for being a jerk. It’s not just about honesty it’s about understanding what’s goin…

I believe the point in radical honesty is to also be honest with your partner in establish boundaries when those “faults” harm or affect you. I don’t believe “radical honesty” means consistently and b…

ENFP/Type 5/SA here. 45 years old with about 20-30 friends, most of them over 30 years. I wont speak for SA in general, I would just share my little world/POV. \--------- Extremely honest to the po…

Heey :). Earned secure, formerly FA here. \- sorry, this got very long :P <3 I relate to this behaviour so much. I can really understand how difficult saying no, setting boundaries and advocate fo…

I would say I actually keep count of my lies on one hand per year and I grey rock the hell out of anyone trying to regulate through me that does not reciprocate. I barely contribute to society anymore…

OP, I hear you. I have often wondered the same thing. You may find the “The Gift of Therapy by Irvin Yalom” helpful. Yalom is a famous psychoanalytic therapist, i.e. he didn’t do the cookie cutter b…

I am an earned secure. I would say those 4 examples are all very different and need to be evaluated separately. Secure attachment isn't all about just not being afraid of saying no, it's also about le…

I’m very honest to the point where it can get me into trouble sometimes, but part of that may be my AuDHD. Being secure I can tell you that I am certain that in the two meaningful romantic relationshi…

That sounds like a great scene. I think it would be a good idea to add them to the scene but you dont have to if you feel it is good enough. I personally have never seen anything take more than a f…

Sorry to say this but you helped create this monster/mess. I will say you kinda didn't treat him as a partner but as a parent (disrespect). Like you LOVED the life you were living while he was slowly …

I need the truth. I need radical honesty, even if (especially when) you feel the truth will hurt me.

Of course, I know others need help in these situations so trying radical honesty at the moment

It sounds like you are carrying an incredibly heavy burden right now. Ambition can be a powerful fuel, but when it becomes tied to your fundamental sense of worth, it stops being a fuel and starts bec…