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Consult a lawyer. Many do free consultations. If you have to pay, it'll be worth it. See more than one if you need to. Write down any questions you have beforehand. They'll give you a more accurate pi…

Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …

Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading — # 6th Kill: $20,000 Money Mission **Mission**: To make $20,000 from futures trading **What I achieved:** I made $20,000 from futures trading **How long did it take:** 5 and a half months **Backgro…

Cannot stay attracted to dating app matches — I've never been in a relationship but I've been working on myself a lot and trying to put myself out there to find love. And I've just noticed a pattern of mine. But I just keep losing interest or ge…

Why am I losing keywords? — I'm a bit lost. For the past 6 months I have been working on improving the rank of my website. When I first started, I just left an agency that wasn't doing a great job. When I switch from them, they …

What will it take? — Seriously… What does it take to land a UX role these days? My wife is graduating with her masters in UX from a good program but it seems that the industry is evolving and everyone is making it seem …

Freelancers – the only person that can evaluate your pricing is the buyer (not Reddit) — *(TL;DR at bottom)* Questions like this pop up on this subreddit every few weeks: > How much should I charge for a basic website? Or: > Is $500 for a single-page Figma design a good price? ...and…

Site review and feedback requested — Hi there, I am new to the e commerce space but have been a crafter/sewist for a long time. With Joann's craft and fabric stores closing in the US, I made an ecomm site focused on subscription boxes fo…

Ecommerce shop losing money inconsistent results with ads — Hi hope everyone is doing fine. I am running a woocommerce store for the past 5/6 years. The first few years had been great I had been generating a lot of revenue and profit. I run a woman fashion st…

Ecommerce shop losing money inconsistent results with ads — Hi hope everyone is doing fine. I am running a woocommerce store for the past 5/6 years. The first few years had been great I had been generating a lot of revenue and profit. I run a woman fashion st…

Are Powerful Social Commerce Solutions Actually Helping Small Businesses Or Just Making Big Platforms Richer? — We keep hearing about powerful social commerce solutions—tools that connect shopping directly to social platforms like Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook. Sounds exciting, right? But here's the real quest…

E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…

This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…

Founders, Seriously, Please Don't Quit your Day Job (I will not promote) — I say this as a lifelong Founder who spends all his time trying to make other people lifelong Founders - **"Please don't quit day job" ... at least not yet.** Seriously, hold on to that steady incom…

2.5 million in fraudulent orders — I have a huge problem and Shopify has mentioned they cannot help and do not give refunds once processed. They insist there is no support phone number and can only discuss the matter via chat. My orde…

International return labels — Hi guys! So I’ve encountered a major problem with my company, and I’ve been scouring every forum for the past several days to find a solution but I haven’t been able to. The problem is sending my …

Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…

A little positive reflection for anyone feeling they’re in the trenches right now. — I only learnt what attachment theory was during a breakup with my most recent ex 2 years ago. When he dumped me seemingly out of the blue because ‘I deserved better’, ‘he needed to be alone.’ Etc etc …

Struggling with losing my best friend/coworker, anxious attachment + limerence making it unbearable — Hi everyone, I apologize in advance for this long post. I’ll just post the TL;DR at the start. TL;DR: Lost my best friend/coworker of 7 years after a conflict. He’s now cold/avoiding me but friendl…

Ignoring after an argument. Deactivating or disinterest? — I’m not really sure if this belongs here or in my Taurus subreddit, because he’s a Taurus, as am I, and we can be stubborn. But he also leans very avoidant, and has started ignoring me after arguing.…

I had a breakthrough tonight! — Hello! Brief backstory here. I recently got divorced, and dating has been an interesting experience since. I went into one relationship very quickly with another anxiously attached person. It didn't w…

Losing (F23, AA) my mind in my relationship with my (F22, DA) sister. — We’ve had some real struggles, and I’m at a loss for what to do. I feel generally pretty secure outside of this one relationship, but recently it’s been making my AA flair up in my romantic partnersh…

I don't want to cry all day and feel lonely anymore. I don't want to fear abandonment anymore. I want to improve myself. — In 12th grade I became very close to a classmate of mine. Both of us bonded over shared trauma and basically became inseparable. We texted each other 24/7 and became very VERY affectionate which then …

Physically Reacting to Jealousy — My first post was about my deep attachment to a former friend who cut things off because she is now my employee. I'm actually making a lot of progress with that. Well my stress level is very manageabl…

I’m in the middle of these two (anxious vs secure indicators in early dating) — • I do the fast texting (could be due to my ADD though), but I can give space for days if needed. • I’ve become better at not spiraling. • I can handle changed plans. • I still want to put a label on…

I want to believe in LOA so badly, is there any small experiment I can try to regain my faith? — Hey everyone, I’m writing this because I’m honestly at my wits’ end and I don’t know where else to ask. I *want* to believe in LOA and manifestation. I really do. I’m not a skeptic or a hater, I’ve…

Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…

Signs.. but am I interested now? — I stay in india and sp stays in canada and been struggling to get him back for a while and then slowly started losing interest.. turned towards myself.. on new-year eve I did some powerful affirmation…

how to apply skills from therapy and date like a sane person? — tl;dr how to keep a connection going with a secure potential love interest who likes to be alone when you’re anxious-preoccupied af 😭 i’m a lifelong anxious-preoccupied and through years of Doing Th…

Feeling friendless — Hey guys, Sorry long vent, you can skip to the bottom if needed. Recently I have been doing great attachment-wise on the romantic relationships front. But for some reason I feel like I can’t mainta…

i feel safe with being almost loved | disorganized attachment style anthem | i want love but i'm scared | (cathartic release) — Lyrics: Love, for me, is just a hallway, Soft light, shadows drifting slow. I see a silhouette approaching Then I turn before my heart can get too close. Sometimes I feel a brush of something ten…

A letter to my fearful avoidant ex — 31st December 2025 So here we are. Another night, another thought. It’s been nearly 25 days since Eddie left me. Recently, so many emotions have been running through my mind. I never thought I would…

Feeling conflicted, I don't know if I don't love him and I am settling or if I love him and the "cons" are avoidant deactivation? — I 33F have ve been dating this guy 32M for 8 months. He's chased me for years and eventually recently I started to feel attraction back, he figured it out and kissed me. For some months I didn't feel…

so what is ”healthy”? — so i’ve read over the several attachment style subs and something interesting i’ve found is that on the anxious side people are talking about how the society is pushing us to be hyper-independent and …

Mission success (progressive goal structure for social media growth) — Hi everyone, I just reached my first success story which was reaching 10k followers on TikTok. I used the progressive goal structure process and initially started with 5k and then moved to 10k. Li…

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Are pre-birthday discards the norm? — I’m trying to understand this through attachment theory because I genuinely don’t know what just happened. We’re both women. I was 23 with a grad degree, she was 38 and just got her culinary degree w…

Keeping Focus in SH — Hey all, I've lurked here without an account for a bit. I've had a few successes - money, changing circumstances etc. Historically, I've struggled to keep focus in SH when life has been hard - for e…

Life's expectancy for life & love — Unfortunately, I think for the rest of my time on this planet, I will carry a quiet fear. Even in the midst of real, full-blown love, I may never truly trust that one day I won’t be lied to, cheated o…

Lost my lucid dreaming ability the same day I told someone about it ,could metacognition explain this? — Hi everyone, I’m curious if anyone has experienced something similar. For about two years I practiced lucid dreaming very consistently. I used reality checks, dream journaling, and other methods, and …

DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…

I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…

The post-abuse life is rarely worth it — Losing your youth to abuse, coming out extremely fragmented and almost disabled when it comes to forming relationships, chronic illness that prevents you from work that prevents you from money that pr…

Getting rid of nihilism/pessimism — I (24M) am a pessimistic person, it is a really bad thing and i'm struggling to get rid of this thing. A lot of things happened these last years that chopped my illusions about life, such as losing my…

I (28F) had an affair and don’t know what I’m doing. Please help. — I’ve been with my husband for 8 years, married for 2. He is genuinely the best person I know. Kind, safe, loyal. He’s my best friend. When I cry, he’s who I want holding me. When something funny happe…

I just need to rant, Y'all. I'm so angry!!!! — My 83YO Ndad is selling the farm/family business Emom left my brother (48) and me (52) in an irrevocable trust. Dad is tickled pink with himself for installing legal loopholes to fuck us over. His IQ …

Second Guessing My Feelings — Hi, I am starting to heal my DA attachment style but today, a minor thing has me second guessing.... my AP girlfriend normally leaves the house at 7am and I'll sleep till 8.30am. This morning, she wok…

How do I end my relationship with my fiancee — Our relationship has been codependent for like 5 years and has been very. Very unpleasant and unhealthy for both of us. I’ve been going to a lot of therapy and realizing that I really need to end it b…

Be honest ladies, how much does being bald impact your interest in a man? — I'm sure in our 40s and over, there's plenty of men who are losing their hairline or just shave it off. I'm newly single after finalizing my divorce and worry about how I look. I've lost 30 lbs so far…

Choosing myself feels like betraying my family, but staying feels like losing my life — I’m 21F, Bengali, and coming from a strict Muslim family who are very traditional where marrying outside the culture is almost unheard of. All of my siblings had arranged marriages, and my parents hav…

How do I get over this desperation ? — I am a 24 year old student for a professional course which requires me to stay at home and study for it as there is no college or an institution for its qualification. One thing which overwhelms me is…

Okay, thanks. About all I know in regards to this it's that I'm a Leo. Lol the post that you shared this link to I had asked my mom what time I was born and she told me 10:58 p.m.. I just looked at m…

yes , it took me like 2 months to master it , all i did was lay on the back look up and close my eyes , i would invision seeing myself fly around my neighborhood while doing this practice , , this ga…

I sometimes question though: was it good that we would have stayed with them forever? If they were that disinterested? Wouldn’t it be a bad choice on our part to stay with them? I know what you…

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

Ya when she left I bagged her not to go her phone had shit the bed too but I had bought her a back up phone because she was a frequent breaker and losing phones so I had one for back up for her lol an…

If that's how you want to look at it. I quit smoking this year after 15 years. It took constant "affirming" in my mind that I was no longer a smoker. Same with losing a ton of weight. I decided I was …

1. That doesnt disprove anything. It just means it may be more difficult. That's like saying mindfulness doesn't work because some people have ADHD.  2. Decent point but keep in mind some scientist …

Luck doesn’t exist, first of all. He manifested his losses AND his wins, and he could have easily manifested losing in this case too. 

So pardon the length (I haven't told anyone yet) and thank you for reading. I might have a crush on a good friend ("Steve") who I've reconnected with after a few years of not hanging out. We didn't …

For me a big part *is* (cause I’m still working on it)… not fearing losing myself in an attachment. Being able to establish clear boundaries early on, and keep to them even if I lose the other person…

I think building discernement and self-trust will reduce the risk of "inevitably being discarded". Meaning, at some point in your healing journey, you'll learn to identify people who are good relation…

'Anxious attachment people can and often do cross boundaries to soothe their anxiety, disregarding their partners very real very understandable need for personal space (regardless of if they are avoid…

Love the question!! You don’t need a relationship to grow, that’s the beauty of it (you can but it will be slower, depending on what kind of partner you end up with) You could try to explore being mo…

Here's what I found helpful to figure out my own feelings. I look at three angles: 1. If they suddenly told you they were done and didn't tell you why, would it hurt you? If it wouldn't hurt at all, …

My brother i think it's good you posted here bc you can begin to recognize you have anxious attachment. It was one date. Even if she's brushing you off and lost interest, she doesn't necessarily owe …

If you have trouble visualizing, try listening to a friend's voice on your phone.  Remember what it feels like to touch something. You can practice by closing your eyes and touching different object…

Maybe (as an FA) I can offer some insight… I was raised by a narcissist. In spite of my best efforts (15 years in therapy), I still have a high risk of ending up in a relationship with one. The mom…

You are correct. Your perception of love is warped. And thus it can be really hard finding it without accidentally finding yourself in shit relationships. As many have commented, avoidants typically …

I’m FA and my current relationship has me feeling like I’m losing my mind half the time. I’m really into him, but when conflict hits, I shut down, even though he actually tries to talk things through.…

This is interesting. A DA I was with didn't want to commit or name the relationship but seemed shocked that I started dating someone else. He was too busy chasing an ex that he refused to believe was …

What makes an avoidant is not so much the way you do it, it's having the unhealed core wound, the fear of losing independence, what makes you avoidant

" But I just keep losing interest or get unbearable anxiety around guys I meet on dating apps. As a man who has been on over twenty dates from dating apps I can say you are not the only one and you m…

Competitive set is an important variable. It can teach you if you're underpriced, especially. I also consider my future price increases (and their timing) as well. For example I may pass down two smal…

Great observation. Ever since I've had a situationship with an avoidant, I came to notice this a lot in songs. I've heard them written seemingly from the perspective of each side... more commonly anx…

Once I built a startup, I had loads of customers, then I struggled acquiring more customers, so I decided to call it a day, all the users were upset and started sending me message why you closing it w…

There’s a No Doubt song called Open the Gate that I recently realized must be about a DA too: “I see you from a distance From beyond the fence you’ve made Hiding all your feelings Behind your barrica…

Well then it’s either your fear of engulfment pushing people away and then your fear of abandonment making you panic when they do the same to you, or your fear of abandonment making you push people aw…

The depth of their reflections if you ask them about previous relationships, how they healed, what they want from a partner, relationship with parents… etc How they feel around children: if they’re …

I love what you write at the end. It s so true. We're here spending time and losing sleep over stuff they do they themselves dont even know why they did this/said that. Who cares!

Yeah same as you I wish I knew about this earlier. I probably wouldnt have tolerated so much. But at the same time, I think this whole experience taught me alot. It all appears so clear to me now.  …

[We just had a discussion about this in the AvoidantAttachment subreddit.](https://www.reddit.com/r/AvoidantAttachment/comments/1kp4duk/the_hottest_hot_take/) What you're describing is very indicativ…

I'm a dismissive avoidant. I've never broken off a long-term relationship. And being alone is not challenging in the slightest. This isn't a universal DA thing I don't think. APs and FAs rebound faste…

Please help, I am currently dating a DA, and I feel like he is pulling away. She does not express any interest in seeing me, despite us being in a long distance relationship and almost a month of not …

Alright unfortunately it’s impossible for me to determine whether she is actually losing interest or if she is having trouble regulating her own emotions, but what you need to do in both cases is let …

Mostly because the information isn't necessarily what the person needs or may even be harmful or untrue. From all accounts people say it "tells them exactly what they need" and doesn't challenge them,…

I know you directed this at DAs - I'm an FA and autistic; hope that counts. I don't struggle with responding to messages really. I like inbox zero. But socially, overwhelm is a huge problem for me, es…

This was very useful. Thank you very much. >Women test men to gauge their reactions, to see if the man can control his emotions, and if the man is safe and emotionally mature. They can also do it to …

Keep that guard up. You losing interest is your healing, so make sure you don't undo it. She is not out of the woods yet - if work makes her so stressed out she is unable to communicate, I'd watch out…

Seems like a person who got spooked and having escaped unscathed has calmed down, reflected, and realized that perhaps their anxiety was irrational. And that is a good indicator that when times get to…

The only phrase that would make this message work would be, "Losing you shook me up enough to get me into therapy and I'm sorry my issues hurt you."

You told her you'll wait "as much as she needs" - but aren't you losing yourself? Shouldn't you have some boundaries? I thought that's what secure attaches have naturally. I don't, I am an insecure (a…

Healing DA here, and my best advice: don’t wait on her at all. She’s losing interest due to ur availability and her lack thereof. You waiting only makes her lose respect and even more attraction. Not …

From my perspectives, doing the internal work is about being happy and comfortable with what you have and who you are. Happiness is no longer outsourced. Learn to value peace more than companionship. …

The feeling of attraction by the way disappears with fear, and we are all afraid of good relationships. Thats why, since in the past Ive almost always been in avoidant mode, I dont trust my feelings o…

My fa ex posted this as WhatsApp status for me after 3 months I didn’t reply I know an apology won't change anything, but I still carry the weight of my mistakes every single day. I lost someone who g…

Well my post was more about my experience with learning to take space and regulate myself and focus on myself instead of my previous behaviour of being completely focused on him instead. Security is a…

Thank you for sharing this. I'm happy you're learning and improving.  I messed up and have too much space. Because he was used to me being the one to reach out and instigate and start the conversation…

I think romantic relationships are a funny thing - and kind of special in adulthood because your body makes them feel crucial to your very survival - as it is when you must rely on parents when your a…

Hey everyone, I’m completely new to posting here, but I just needed some advice. About a month ago, I went through a breakup it was only my second relationship ever and since then, attachment theory…

Hey. There's a lot there. It sounds like you just want more connection with your partner and also to know that they aren't going away. If the digital self harm is making you feel worse, perhaps try no…