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Are all signs considered "equal" in terms of good and bad traits. Or are there any signs that tend to be more successful/powerful/accomplished or others that tend to be meek/lazy/etc? — \*\*EDIT, since I think my question is unclear\*\* I think maybe my question is not being understood. Astrology does predict some character traits, right? Confident, creative, assertive, people plea…

Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …

Pouncemonial: 7th Kill - Disciplined Trader — # Here's how I achieved my 7th mission! **Mission**: To become a disciplined trader **What I achieved**: Mastered stop loss and trading discipline **Background**: After my 6th kill, I was eager t…

The Ability to Scale Predictably Is a Superpower (Here’s Why DTC Brands Can’t Skip Performance Marketing) — The ability to **scale predictably** is a superpower—especially for DTC brands. If you’ve worked with or inside a DTC company, you know the drill: * You launch, get some organic traction, and then… …

Business scaling up - what cloud provider should we use? — Our business is scaling rapidly — we’re currently handling millions of unique requests per week, and this number continues to grow. At the moment, we’re hosted on DigitalOcean, paying approximately €4…

10 startup lessons I’d tattoo on every founder’s arm (in comic sans) - i will not promote — 10 startup lessons I’d tattoo on every founder’s arm (in comic sans) 1. no one cares about your idea. not even your mom. show traction. 1. 2. build fast. talk to users faster. and by “talk,” I mean…

Transition into a different role — Career Summary Masters in Design got me campus placed in a MNC. 2 years of UX in enterprise and I did an internal switch. Although my role is of UX Designer, the scope of work I do is mostly with educ…

Should I redirect the sales? — This is not a rant/rave about my e-commerce journey as I expected a lot of turmoil and for e-commerce to not be all it was cracked up to be. This is actually witnessed by the shhear number of people …

Overlooked levers in the returns process — Been thinking about how to address refund requests—not returns logistics Everyone I talk to says to optimize logistics, improve product descriptions, promote exchanges, etc…I’m curious: Anyone make …

2.5 million in fraudulent orders — I have a huge problem and Shopify has mentioned they cannot help and do not give refunds once processed. They insist there is no support phone number and can only discuss the matter via chat. My orde…

Tech Startup advice required - Hire or equity offer (I will not promote) — I’m a serial entrepreneur—what some might call "very successful,” though success is relative and I just did okay. Over the past 25 years, I’ve had some brilliant tech ideas and a brain wired for archi…

Seeking a low-maintenance frontend/CMS stack for modernizing 10+ year old sites — Hi all, I’m looking for advice on a conservative, low-maintenance frontend and CMS stack for modernizing a couple of old but still functional client sites. **Background:** I’ve got two long-lived s…

Shopify Bill Pay - international vendor payments cannot be funded by Shopify Balance anymore — Im not in love with Bill Pay as its so sloppy and support is lazy. Plus they lock down accounts left and right and don't tell anyone. Once the new balance account numbers went out I saw that they were…

Considering a move from big tech to a small company. Worth the risk? — I know this sub leans junior, but hoping to get some advice from senior folks. Especially people in Bay Area, NYC, or Seattle-type tech scenes. Tagging this as Job Search and not Senior Only because I…

We all have this problem, what's your solution? (i will not promote) — I'll cut straight to the chase, do you **focus your marketing on**: 1. **The benefits of your product** (which other solutions similarly provide) 2. **The novel way those benefits are delivered** (wh…

How do you make sure nothing falls through the cracks of your business operations? — I work with companies that use a ton of different tools (CRMs, inventory, payments, shipping, etc.). The problem I keep seeing is that things slip through the cracks, and no one realizes until it’s to…

Anyone else noticing small businesses drowning in SaaS subscription costs these days? — Been consulting with a few local businesses recently and I'm shocked at how many are spending $500-1000+ monthly on various software subscriptions. One client is paying for Salesforce, Asana, Notion, …

How do you balance your input vs AI — As a technical person, am curious about concerns that you trust AI with verses stuff that you feel better coding by hand. For example, even though I know CSS and by extension Tailwind, I usually let …

Yesterday I launched a landing page and I got 3 presales in 24h. (I will not promote) — I'm building a minimalist, AI based bookkeeping app. Went live with a simple landing page yesterday and shared it in a few relevant places. I was prepared for a long period of drought and self-doubt,…

"Mastering Content Creation with Real-Time Optimization, Competitor Analysis, and Smart Editing Tools" — Content is still king—but not just any content. Today, high-ranking content is the result of a strategic balance between creativity and data-driven precision. To climb the search engine results pages …

Anxiety only triggered in romantic relationship, how to manage it? — Hi everyone, I’m a 26M and fairly new to relationships. I’ve noticed my anxious attachment only really shows up in my romantic relationship, not with friends, family, or colleagues. With them I feel …

I need some FA to give me insights on this situation — Break up with a FA need some insights Hi guys, i really need some insights as someone whos desire is to be a safe space for a FA girl. Breakup context: I (M, 23) was in a 2-year relationship with my…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

how to deal with an avoidant's freeze response in hard times? — my partner is FA, I've known him for a long time. He has made a lot of effort and has changed for the better. He's the more secure one between the two of us honestly, and he's pretty good at fighting …

The most painful relationship/breakup I've ever had, cracked me open for healing. Plot Twist: The text message llm tool said I was an FA, I ignored it for 5 months before I figured it out. — For five months I was absolutely certain I was dismissive avoidant. Monthly attachment coaching—as a DA. Studied obsessively, could recite every AP/DA/FA trait. I even built this text analysis tool, a…

Studying attachment theory — I’ve been studying attachment theory for a couple of months now, and I’ve only recently started to REALLY look into it. I started reading a book called Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for…

Anxious Attachment Injury - Nervous System Stuck in Fight/Flight — TW: attachment injury, trauma-bond withdrawal, panic attacks, obsessive rumination I think I’m in severe attachment-injury / trauma-bond withdrawal and I’m struggling to function. I’m asking for nerv…

If you are a dumper missing your dumpee you caused the pain — IF THE SHOE FITS THEN IT FITS What frustrates me is how often dumpers speak about missing their ex as if that somehow balances the situation. It doesn’t. The critical difference is agency. One person…

What’s the healthy way for us (46F, 46M) to resolve conflicts that my boyfriend has? — Tl;dr: what’s the healthy way for us to resolve conflicts? \*\*Background:\*\* I (46F) have been dating my boyfriend (46M) for about 6 months. Neither of us has been married or has kids, and neither …

Supporting an artist — Hello everyone, I appreciate in advance anyone who takes the time to read and respond. I think in general it will be good for me to get this all out there. My (31m) husband (32m) and I have been mar…

After almost 3 months practicing Gatewaytapes, this is the first time i feel my consciousness started lifting off, it's not OBE yet but it's definitely something lifted off there, i have to share this with you — I started the very first tape Orientation since Jan 26 until now i reached wave 3 tape 1 , everyday i practice one or two time but at least one a day, going through each tape i practiced at least tw…

I (28F) care deeply about my fiancé (28M) but feel like the romantic connection has faded after years of imbalance. How do you know when it’s truly over? — From a burner account. I’m looking for some perspective because I feel like I’m at the end of a long internal process and I don’t know if I’m being unfair or if this is just the reality of where my re…

After almost 3 months practicing Gatewaytapes, this is the first time i feel my consciousness started lifting off, it's not OBE yet but it's definitely something lifted off there, i have to share this with you — I started the very first tape Orientation since Jan 26 until now i reached wave 3 tape 1 , everyday i practice one or two time but at least one a day, going through each tape i practiced at least two …

The Revision method works! Trust me, it does! — I have read a ton of books and watched numerous manifestation YouTube channels. Most of their teachings are based on Neville Goddard's teachings. And gotta say, that going back to read his words just …

More insight into my Gemini Saturn in the 12th. How can I balance it? 23F — I’ve recently gotten some good advice regarding my chart and 12h stellium. I’m someone who has struggled with isolation, stagnation, and substance abuse (heavily, but easing up recently) and I’m tryin…

Can a house drain your energy? — Hello! I’m not sure if I’m posting in the right subreddit but: We moved into our house about 3 years ago with the help of my MIL. Though we so gladly appreciate her help, we unfortunately didn’t get…

SSRI Time! — After almost 3 years of CBT and SO much growth and progress, I am still struggling to feel a healthy balance of calm and energized/motivated. My healthcare provider and therapist believe my fight-or-f…

I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…

Is there something in my chart that explains attracting obsession that turns into betrayal — Hi everyone!!! ❤️ I’ve been noticing a recurring pattern in my relationships and wanted to ask if my chart might show anything about how I approach or experience them. A lot of my friendships start v…

How can I build a personal life that doesn’t depend on other people? — Hi Reddit!! I really need an outside perspective on my situation, because I feel like I’m completely lost in where I’m going and what I actually want from my life… Maybe people who have learned to man…

Energy Exchange: How We Give, Take, and Protect Our Vital Force — Energy exchange is, essentially, communication. The energy a person generates is given outward. But, in accordance with the laws of conservation of energy, a person must receive energy from outside. …

Anyone find overly strict Asian Parenting methods don't build discipline — I grew up like many Asian Americans with very strict parents. They monitored my grades, homework, extra curriculars, and leisure activities. However, even though I was able to succeed under their wat…

Midlife dating plot twist I didn’t see coming… (I have breast cancer 🙄) — I was only just musing recently about how sexy midlife dating is.. His suspected sleep apnea, my post-three-big-babies body (haemorrhoids, saggy boobs!)… all the glamorous stuff. And now I’ve just b…

Socrates said" the unexamined life is not worth living" — Socrates once said, ‘the unexamined life is not worth living.’ Basically, he believed that if you go through life without questioning your choices, beliefs, and actions, you’re not really living you’…

Chakra imbalance? — My body seems to reject foods that are generally considered unhealthy , even for a small amount of unhealthy foods like sugar, sauce, or preservatives etc I may feel nauseous, bloated, or uncomfortab…

Meditation hasn’t worked for me — I’ve tried meditation for years. I used to do simple breath work, I tried frequencies binaural beats etc, and for a while I did transcendental meditation. None of them helped me. So recently just a f…

Boyfriend (22M) keeps saying he’d die without me (20F) or commit suicide as a joke, and sometimes it doesn’t feel like one — I’ve (20F) been speaking to someone online for around two and a half years. I know this sounds ridiculous to many, but within the past few months we got very attached to one another. We’ve never met i…

How do I deal with a non-virtuous past that led to a good and comfortable present? — Hello everyone, In the past months I have been studying Stoicism (I have read the Discourses, Meditations, and now I’m on my way through the Seneca letters). I, however, wanted to have an opinion on s…

After 10 years of doing the most, I (30F) told my husband (34F) that we needed counseling or separation. Help me process? — I met my husband when I was a 20 year old college student and even though he is 4 years older than me, I became a pseudo-mother upon meeting him. For the last 10 years, I have been the sole breadwin…

About to be laid off, again - will this ever end? — For past 7-8 years, I have been on the run. I am always forced to leave my jobs - policy changes, layoffs, hostile behaviour etc etc. l am good at what I do, but it’s obviously not enough. Job changes…

My APs "wealth" is just a high bank balance built on neglecting me, and she still takes credit for my success — I am so done with the "stolen valor" from my mom. She goes around telling everyone how she "put me through school" and flaunts how much money she has, but it’s all a lie built on being pathologically …

I’ve read all Nevilles books several times over, but I’ll check out the lecture you’re referring to. About my successes, I manifested more money than I had ever seen before. Prior to that, I thought…

>About my successes, I manifested more money than I had ever seen before. Prior to that, I thought I’d always be broke. I even had to take a screenshot of my bank balance to remind myself of that amaz…

I think its more about your relationship to it, like personally and privately. Before you bring your caregiver into the conversation. If you hurt your child by ignoring their feelings when they were c…

This is 100% a pattern for avoidant attachers. It’s referenced as the “vulnerability hangover” in our own spaces. It’s almost like taking an ice bath. You can do it for a while, like 10-20 minutes, an…

It is extremely difficult to *start* the healing process while in a relationship as you would be required to balance other factors (is the other party willing to work too? What is their level of healt…

'Romantic relationships are great, but I will become resentful and actually deactivate for real if it feels like I can't correct that imbalance.' <-- I would suggest don't be in romantic relationships…

Thanks for your opinion on my 10% figure. Besides that, I did not say partners should be at my convenience. I said other aspects of life can throw a relationship’s typical patterns out of balance. Ha…

Usually most people are a little bit chill and collected in the first few weeks of meeting each other. There are no global standards or benchmarks, but if you’re looking for general guidance maybe som…

That happens when you feel really safe. Which is good but learn how to balance that. You can talk to your therapist about it, also use her as your inner voice - imagine what would she say about this…

It’s unhealthy to project or “mind read”. I think there’s a bit of this going on in your post. It may feel (to you) they hate you, because rejection feels bad. It’s not a good feeling to an ego or o…

Hi there, i know it's only been a day, but are there any updates? Reading this, i feel a pit in my stomach for you and hope that he's just busy. It's almost like getting the news that someone you love…

There’s gotta be a balance. I'm not a spark chaser, but I also dont want to settle for someone Im meh about

Internal Family Systems (IFS) is an approach to [psychotherapy](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/therapy) that identifies and addresses multiple sub-personalities or families within each pers…

Rolling back an LLM at OpenAI scale isn’t like redeploying a web app on Vercel. You’re talking global load balancers, multi-region infrastructure, model sharding, GPU fleet management, and system prom…

As you are already using DigitalOcean, start with Ansible + Terraform. Use Terraform to provision droplets, load balancers, and Spaces, and Ansible to handle server config. Keep Docker + docker-compos…

The whole "hustle 24/7 without breaks" mentality is such bullshit. Nobody looks back from their deathbed wishing they worked more 14-hour days. Balance is underrated.

For me, the reset has been focusing on routines that balance both mental and physical energy. It's not just about productivity it's about consistency in self-care and staying aligned with long-term go…

Internal Family Systems (IFS) is an approach to [psychotherapy](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/therapy) that identifies and addresses multiple sub-personalities or families within each pers…

Taking space from a group of friends during a prolonged outing (like in OP’s case): “Hey guys, I’ve had a great time but I’ve been feeling like I need to recharge my introverted batteries for a while…

Sorry if this is not the applause you may have expected; but to me a translation of your title is "Turns out DAs are DAs, and we need to bend over backwards to "make it work" with them, and that's ext…

Very much this ^^^ It's a hard pill to swallow though, not sure OP will question anything concerning their own attachment style...  It sounds like it comes from a good place of compassion, but it's wa…

This level of “effort” and care to understand someone is what I want for myself from a partner, yet I always seem to be the one doing this for others and getting almost nothing back. Do you feel this …

Attachment issues only appear because of a relational issue at some point in life. It's not innate, you're not born with it (even if people can have certain tendencies) and it only exists in the act o…

Mostly secure but with some DA tendencies. Ugh yes this is SO relatable. I remember an ex of mine saying how cynical I was, and it was depressing that I always felt like people were going to disappoin…

Everyone on these boards has healing to do, so that's not some "gotcha", my friend. >for some reason you’re very emotionally attached and aggravated by this.This is just a personal rant on some perce…

You nailed it, western culture isn’t just “about freedom,” it’s engineered for hyper-independence and maximum consumption. That’s why divorce, loneliness, and relational burnout are the norm, not the …

Thanks it’s hard to find the balance, but I’ll definitely stop turning a blind eye to red flags. It’s hard to trust myself because I use to jump to conclusions

Correct! Emotions are not meant to stay, negative or positive. Feel them, understand them, learn, appreciate and be grateful then let them go. Balance is key, control is better! Don’t live in the ex…

He wasn’t hardly speaking to me at all. He was trying to show up and listen to me, offer advice, etc., but could easily get very irritated and ‘bitey’ with me. He wasn’t doing the things he enjoyed. …

From the purely bystander's perspective, ie. the rational and adult brain perspective with 0 emotions involved, him telling you to "act normal" was yet another of his defense mechanisms. From the po…

I do have issues with Sam Altman, yes. He is pushing unregulated technology that perhaps has a great usecase for many but he's pushing it so hard that it's deeply hurting every day people so he can ma…

I'm an FA and I agree with my friend here. You kind of can't. It would be a little codependent of you to try to navigate it for her. All you can do is be consistent in your behavior according to your …

Agree with most everyone else who has commented here. I don't know that the act of giving 3-4 weeks of space is either secure or AA. Instead, I'd look at the motivation behind it and what the space fe…

This is interesting. my ex was fearful avoidant, and she broke up with me just after 12 days of coming in relationship, and mind you the relationship was at its best at that time.  I'm a secure guy,…

No one has an attachment style. You engage in behavior strategies that are effective for that specific relationship. People do end up dating others that are familiar that allows for that behavior to b…

Text of original post by u/Dralexus: Hi everyone, I’m a 26M and fairly new to relationships. I’ve noticed my anxious attachment only really shows up in my romantic relationship, not with friends, fam…

I think it may be a sign that the relationship is being allowed to take up too much of your time and focus. I find if you have a hobby or you balance your attention time and effort across family and f…

First, controversial opinion: there's nothing wrong with wanting consistent texting. It's ok to ask for that and consider how much you really want that, or to see if you can find a compromise with you…

I got rid of social media except for reddit. Social media in general can make people very insecure and cause them to not be able to form their own opinions or values. I’ve made sure to communicate wit…

I'm really proud of your journey to healing. On an unrelated note, it always surprises me how FAs can just bring up such intense feelings in other people. Anyways, focusing on your healing journey, …

That’s great. Working on your compulsive behavior is hard at first but you will eventually reach a balanced behavior strategy for your attachment system.  I’d recommend you get a copy of assessing ad…

Well, it is a book that essentially expands on attachment and shifts the focus to behavior patterns instead of 'styles.' It acknowledges that people use attachment behavior strategies towards attached…

Congrats on your hard-won self-awareness! It sounds like it was painful and difficult and you're still grieving. I just find one part problematic: >I decided to go on a rescue mission, for myself, a…

As someone who studied linguistics, I don't believe in text message analysis used for clinical purposes. Written text especially in short format and within an unbalanced and highly emotional atmospher…

I think you're right in your concern that forcing yourself to be alone to get better is a trauma response. Some people get hyper-independent to cope with being let down by others. I found that I was m…

That's life! If the sugar isn't enough, I recommend the addition of ghost pepper sauce. re. a 'strong enough' government, what is your concept as to how a government that manages a capitalist politic…

This might not be the exact comment that you are expecting but i would just like to say that it’s understandable that you’re confused you’ve done so much honest reflection already :) From what you sha…

How to balance contact with friends and family after a breakup? I'm here after a breakup less than a week ago which left me in shattered. After doing a lot of reading, I concluded I have very much AA…

Do you already exhibit anxious attachment tendencies with your friends and family? Just because you have it with romantic relationships doesn’t mean you will with friends and family. There is no spe…

If you do experiential therapy and work through developmental trauma / relational trauma / CPTSD followed by repatterning, your autopilot reaction will organically become healthier and balanced.