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Are all signs considered "equal" in terms of good and bad traits. Or are there any signs that tend to be more successful/powerful/accomplished or others that tend to be meek/lazy/etc? — \*\*EDIT, since I think my question is unclear\*\* I think maybe my question is not being understood. Astrology does predict some character traits, right? Confident, creative, assertive, people plea…

Plan to build the healthiest farm-to-table meal delivery service. Seeking advice. I will not promote. — I WILL NOT PROMOTE. Plan on building what I believe can be the cleanest and most transparent farm-to-table meal delivery service brand, and I’d love feedback from anyone who’s worked in DTC, food or j…

Overtraining and being effective — Wanted to share about a recent breakthrough I had in being effective and getting things done. Like many of you, I believe that being physically fit is a huge part of operating at peak efficiency. Whe…

Why hold out hope for other people to meet my needs when it feels more productive and ultimately better to want nothing from other people? — I try my best to be the most attentive friend I can be no matter my internal state. I don't mind doing this for the people I value, and it makes me feel better to be helpful to other people, although …

I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…

Feeling “off” after trust rupture — attachment system or intuition? — I have been dating my current partner for about a year now. Long post incoming. I’m posting because I’m noticing a significant avoidant shift in myself and I need perspective specifically on my own at…

Want to hurt a covert narcissist? Tell people the truth (but be smart about it) — **DISCLAIMER:** Only do this if you are physically, financially, emotionally, and psychologically separated and safe from a narcissist. The following will probably not be applicable if you have to mai…

Lack will dissolve when you realise: Manifestation starts from irony, and feeling it real starts from memory. — I said it. This post is for people whose brains are very logic driven. Those who think: “I need to see proof before I believe something.” i have something for you. Let's go. We all know the key: The…

Movie List: Chinese movies where the antagonist(s) are racist/imperialist White/Westerners and get their asses kicked — I thought I would make a list of some Chinese movies(mostly martial art action films) where the main antagonist is a racist and/or imperialist white. These movies are all fun and feel good, and while …

can somebody tell me about their nsfw expiriences in lucid dreams ? — im planning on lucid dreaming tn and yeah i want to try out some of my darkest fantasys , how well does sex work in lucid dreams ? does it feel good ?

Exercise for you! (Strength your manifestations + my success story) — You can use this exercise to strengthen your trust in yourself and your manifesting abilities. The goal of these small exercises is to give your mind the proof it needs… to show that you can manifest…

Some Pointers after 12 Years of Meditation — Meditation is an invisible skill, which makes it especially prone to confusion and obfuscation. I wanted to jot down some pointers and opinions about meditation that have served me at one point or an…

I stopped chasing happiness and started building contentment instead and it made all the difference — For years I was obsessed with being happy. Every self-help book promised that if I just did this one thing, happiness would follow. Gratitude journals, affirmations, visualization, cold plunges. I tri…

The 'technique' that helped me manifest in 1 week what I have been trying for months — I decided to make this a more general post since it's extremely helpful for any manifestation. Like everyone, I was trying to manifest something for a few months with common techniques like visualizi…

Fear of the death of the people you care about — I have been suffering from anxiety for almost 4 years now. It all started with my narcissistic relationship. Everything was OK on a surface level however, lately I have been experiencing the fear of t…

Chasing that high after trauma bond — I’m eight months out from a highly toxic relationship and significant trauma bonding. I find myself chasing that high, only to crash and burn. Then, I reach clarity and feel good for a couple of month…

I wanted to discuss letters 3 to 5 of Moral Letters. — I just finished letters 3 to 5 of Letters From a Stoic by Seneca.  I wanted to summarise what I got from them, and talk with y'all about the parts I didn’t fully understand. If I misrepresented or mis…

Something I wished I had heard about sooner when I struggled leaving my now nex that would've made me leave a lot earlier. — Why we stay is because of trauma bond and hope even though they play on that and say to you "if I am abusive why don't you leave", unhealed empaths stay because we delude themselves on what they could…

What does heavy/pulling “black hole” feeling energy mean? It felt neutral not good or bad — What does heavy/pulling “black hole” feeling energy mean? It felt neutral not good or bad and I did not feel compelled to engage with these people, nor did they try to engage with me. They didn’t come…

I don't know anything anymore — I(25m) feel so lost, i don't know what is going on. I genuinely want to end it. I feel so tired. I don't enjoy anything anymore, i have no place to go. I lost both my grandparents within a span of 2 y…

I’m spiraling. Need movie recs. — it’s been 3 months and I’m spiraling. I feel an intense need to be with somebody irl and pour my heart out. I did meet a friend and we are driving on a 16 hr trip down south for a week which will…

Literally do what you want. — Yall i literally manifested three guys and want to know what i did? What i wanted. no im not telling you what i did, because I did what was comfortable to me. Stop asking “what methods should i do wh…

Getting a story about an ex from 20 years ago off my chest — TLDR: Had a weird break up. Reached out after 20 years. Got a response that made me feel bad. Learned a lesson about not trusting what people say during a break up, instead listen to what they do. I …

my heart is so broken — there’s something wrong with me its been eight months but it still hurts so much sometimes. how he can choose to not talk to me everyday. it hurts me so much to not know him and miss him, how i am not…

Some supportive words to all you going through this. — just as the title says, I wanted to share something with you all. A bit of trauma dumping. If you’d like to know how I was feeling a few weeks ago, you can look at my profile for my most recent post…

My boyfriend (23M) keeps asking me (23F) to change how I dress because of other men, and I don’t know how to handle it. — So me (23F) and my boyfriend (23M) have been together for about two years. When we first met, he actually liked the way I dressed and would compliment me. But once he started taking me more seriously,…

Life Happens — Recognize patterns of being controlling and possessive: You’re not allowed to visit family, or friends. Because they restrict you from going. They cling onto you and always accompanying you in everyth…

We desire a change in the Self — Many times when it comes to a desire, we are actually seeking for a change in ourselves. This is because you can only be aware of who you are in the moment. Really, you are always aware of yourself as…

I found my old diary and realised I never really changed just got distracted — I recently found my old college diary, and it surprised me. Back then, I was naturally drawn to reading, not just Mills and Boon stories, but history, space, black holes, and spirituality. I also ha…

ex feels too guilty to be fwb — he says he wasn’t a good boyfriend & feels it’d be wrong of him to reap any benefits of affection since he hurt me & feels like he wasted my time. i tried to assure him that it’d be okay & i wouldn’t …

My ex hooked up with a literal model weeks after the break up. I still love her but I have no hope. — My ex of 1.8 years broke up with me in January, we both made our mistakes. Mid-January, she reached out, we kept seeing each other to make It work since she missed me but she said we couldn't be seen …

After 4 years of Inconsistency, I want to make lasting change... — I started my self-improvement journey when i turned 18. I realised my life was in my hands and if i wake up at 30 and am unhappy with my life, it would be my own fault. I am 22 now, and I have overcam…

Parents divorced, but my dad also stopped talking to me — I (21F) never had the best relationship with my dad (53M) but we used to still enjoy time together. He recently divorced my mom and took his anger out on everyone and now doesn’t talk to any of us. Th…

Have you ever dumped someone you really love? — Hi everyone, I hope you are well. To all dumpers, male and female, have you ever dumped someone you were actually in love with (different reasons, practical, fear etc) and how did it feel afterwar…

How to ask my boyfriend to take care of his appearance — Throwaway account because my boyfriend is on here. I (27f) have been with my boyfriend (26m) for three years. He is my best friend, we get along so well and he treats me so well. I would consider my l…

I need to clean my instagram — I’m in a period of change and taking action. I’m past the period of just analysing and pondering about my life and my path and my daily mindset. I know that instagram has a huge impact on my mentali…

Anyone else ever become obsessed with getting into your body? — When my therapist told me that i have to work on getting back into my body, it didnt really make sense to me. We did work on things like body scans and deep breathing, but it didnt really amount to m…

AI is your friend. — I am an expat in a foreign land, and fell in love with a delightful woman here. The first month was glorious and beautiful, but soon after she began exhibiting many of these traits (before I even knew…

Leaving the group — Being a med student I had group of friends, group had 7 people including me. There were two mini groups of 3 and always I was alone , the one group of 3 people they always used to try that I don't fee…

Need advice navigating ldr in college — I(18F) have been with my boyfriend (18M) for almost two years now. We both had to move away from home for college last year in August and we get to see each other after 3-4 months. When we first start…

My (F34) husband (M35) hasn't tried to learn what makes me orgasm in our seven years together. I don't want to leave the relationship but am beginning to feel like a predator. Any advice? — I've been with my husband for almost 7 years, married for 2. He is legitimately my best friend, and I am very much still in love with him, so please don't immediately tell me to leave him. Throughou…

I can't love nor care about anyone — Forgive me for my bad English it's not my first language. I feel like I can't love, I find girls attractive I like looking at them but I don't feel like I would want an emotional connection with them…

Moneyfesting 50,000 money without even trying — This is crazy idk how this happen to me, I was listening to money subliminals with intention while I was not specific about the amount. Also, I wrote in a large amount like 1,50,000 but didn't manifes…

I feel like shit whenever I’m alone — Whenever I’m with friends or family I feel good but whenever I’m just lying alone i feel horrible is there any like big causes for this or any way to deal with it because it just feels horrible

My(20F) boyfriend(19M) says our sex is bad and has made me insecure beyond repair — Is this fixable at this point? My 20F boyfriend 19M tells me that my pussy doesn’t feel good in his words “my pussy is trash”. We have been together for about a year and 3 months. He tells me that it’…

THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! (manifestation and neville) // PART 1 — (YA'LL I DONE POSTED PART 2 AND 3 - GIVE IT A READ OR DONT -YOU DO YOU LOVELIEESSSS!) Alright now ! it's gonna be some tough love so take it that way.' Also it's gonna be one long post so imma need y…

THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! (manifestation and neville) // PART 1 — (YA'LL I DONE POSTED **PART 2 AND 3** \- GIVE IT A READ OR DONT -YOU DO YOU LOVELIEESS) Alright now ! it's gonna be some tough love so take it that way.' Also it's gonna be one long post so imma need…

My mom gives me silence treatment all the time. what can I do? — Idk, she has been doing this since I was eleven years old. She says I'm a selfish person who wants to see the worst of her so I can feel good. Now, I'm seventeen and she still does this to me, this ha…

my (m30) bf is convinced I don’t take care of myself (25f) because I don’t eat meat — This has been going on since I can remember. We have been together for 9 months, moved in together after 2 months knowing each other- very fast moving & loving relationship. I have never lived with a …

Its always this way, the moment you feel good and do things you love, they smell it and they suddenly send you a message 😒

Happy endings like this makes me feel good, haha. So glad it worked out for you. :)

I honestly agree with this post. So much. It is hard to be "victim-blamed". I victim blame in my own personal life, and I know I have been victim blamed as well-- it does not feel good. Bravo for co…

No 5. Think positive or negative, it doesn't matter. Be a depressed ahole or whatever - you can be whatever you want, and also still belive sp loves you til death do us part. I can feel much worthy …

But isn't it just you bending over backwards while she's exactly where she was? This sounds like a project and you can see positive results so it might feel good. But imagine, there's someone out ther…

I was also the hopeless romantic that's why I held on for so long. Nowadays I feel so free from everyone's expectations, I want to improve my life and feel good in it, I no longer think that only a ro…

Be careful with this because AI may be fast, thorough, and feel good in the moment, but that doesn't mean it's right. I personally don't think people should get therapy from an algorithm but each t…

This makes me feel good. Like I’m working on becoming someone more resistant to burnout/stress by being assertive, calm, positive, embodying good energy and releasing negative energy. So I can just *b…

Okay, this is long and it might sound harsh, but I relate to a lot of what you're going through and acted much in the same way as you did, and I've gone from anxiously attached within a friendship to …

You MUST build a support system. You have to. The whole point here is to get better, not perfect, but to get better you have to do it. More of a network would show you that this isn’t a doom spiral,…

Looking for some advice because I am struggling a lot at the minute. I (31F) have been with my (35M) partner for 2,5 years. We have a good relationship and it is the first mature relationship I have b…

I struggled with this for years. First of all what I learned is that when I get anxious from not receiving texts, I remember that that is a response caused by seeing texting or the lack of it as a “t…

“And I'm just supposed to be cool with that?” At the end of the day, yes you are. I’m in the same boat except a bit older and I haven’t even had what you had. I know what you feel very well. There ar…

Attachment theory channels and healthygamergg on YouTube and discerned reddit browsing and books have been godsends to me. I'd say as a starter, if you don't already, try and figure out what about ha…

Okay, that makes sense. I think your husband might need to be more gentle and respectful with how they ask for space and how he sets your expectations for it. Ignoring you is flat out NOT GOOD. Anyon…

I’m also an FA, and I’ve been in therapy a while. I’m not an expert, just been trying to improve little by little and your post really resonated with me. I also feel like it’s hard to determine what i…

I literally have been having these same conversations with my bf the past month. There was a week or two where he wasn’t initiating— i told him that this made me feel not desired which was emptying my…

This is me, 10000%, and I do the same thing, when I’ve had enough I switch off and just can’t care anymore. It’s really toxic I think but it serves the purpose of self preservation. I wish I didn’t ha…

I don’t understand how you have collect all that information(that resonates with me evrn though ofc doesn’t feel good) just from what I’ve said but that just shows how blind I am to my own thoughts an…

When i am experiencing something that is the opposite of what i desire. I let it for a day or two. When i first did it it lasts for a week up to 2-3 weeks. After sometime, that "bad feeling" lessen th…

I’m not sure I understand your question. Is it normal to feel bad when you break up? Uh yeah. It’s not supposed to feel good. You would have to dig into why you put yourself down though and feel as if…

Giving her gifts is not the answer you’re looking for. If you give someone when they’re in a emotionally charged state can feel like a love debt, like they have to repay it or like they have to do bet…

I am looking for concrete actionable items that an avoidant male (43) would like done in a new romantic relationship. I ENFP just started dating an INFJ. He's anxious. About everything. Including t…

I can tell you my experience. I have been in a close to 7 year relationship with a BPD ex girlfriend, quit that one more than a year ago, if you know the dynamics you know that's a huge slap in the fa…

for me, it took about a year after my ex to feel good and alright about dating. I was still out there but i wasn't 100% in it yknow? I would be slow with my dating style and put my phone away. Right n…

Yes to all your questions. How you were raised plays a part. What you are doing to fill the void affects things. It’s all connected. There is not like one answer that explains everything. A trauma inf…

I guarantee you probably had those doubts prior to reprogramming but seeing the opposite only triggered them to be front and center. Even if you only feel good about it during your sessions, don't let…

Makes sense. I won’t quit now especially because sessions still make me feel good but with how bad the circumstances are getting it’s quite hard to believe anything good it’s going to happen out of th…

They are the same things to you. Don't use empathy as an excuse to self abandon. You're not being treated in a way that feels good to you. Read that again I'm a fearful avoidant, was heavy on the a…

I'm not sure on this one since a lot of context is missing. Based on the responses you made in the comments, it's hard to tell because everyone is an individual but being avoidant alone doesn't alway…

I've been there. I could have written this three years ago - the second guessing that you feel someone is inconsistent and not safe, but you fixate on the times that feel good. With closer inspection …

This is what I was going to say. I was not anywhere near secure when I had casual relationships, but thinking back on my experiences now that I've experienced some earned security, I would say one of …

You need to prioritize the relationship with your self. Find more things to fill your life. It could be things like hobbies and other friendships. Centering your life around other people will create c…

What I do is actively spend time in my own life and make it fulfilling on its own. I have a bad habit of dropping everything I love and centering only other people, which becomes a problem, so what re…

It's more complex than that. Anxiously attached people tend to emotionally enmesh with others. So, it's not that real love is boring, it's that most anxiously attached people aren't equipped to deal …

okay so I actually think I lean more towards anxious preoccupied attachment now… not that ChatGPT is always right but I used it not too long ago when I questioned my attachment style tbh and it made s…

when i do certain things that i associate with anxious attachment it makes me feel good at the time because i feel like im building a connection but then later on when i think about it i feel like an …

Well, people are giving them to you and you kinda keep pushing back. Just like the therapist is. Not every way is going to be the right way for you but you can’t just jump ship or get your back up eve…

How do you broach the topic with your friends of if they know anyone they could set you up with? My friends like me, so they already have a better sense of how to sell me than I do as I deeply do not …

The guy I’m seeing never compliments me either. One time I told him he was handsome and he responded: “and you are… handsy” 🤣 We both laughed pretty hard at that. But he has let me know on several …

In your opinion, is the lack of physical touch at a coffee date one reason why you're not developing that connection to the other person? Whether it is romantic and emotional or physical and sexual? I…

I also feel like the other person knows. It doesn't feel good to be with someone who's "giving you a shot" ... I'm pretty sure I've been on both sides of this.  You can be curious about compatibilit…

It doesn’t sound like you’re in good working order for relationships right now. I know that sounds harsh but it doesn’t sound like you’re in a place where you can both be in a relationship and feel …

I think one thing we women sometimes underestimate is that men lie a lot ( maybe consciously or unconsciously)… If they didn’t most would be single anyways and wouldn’t be getting any. They learn how …

Went with my brother and family to get him fitted for his tuxedo for his wedding When discussing whether they should shell out for a custom tuxedo my mom offhand said “it’s probably the only wedding …

"Didn't mean anything by it" I disagree, comments like this slowly wear you down over time, and the people making them usually know exactly what they mean by it. I can completely understand why it did…

3 months almost to the day. I just sent a text advocating for myself and allowing me to have some agency back. I wished him well again- I do truly hope the best for him. I don’t expect a reply. I feel…

Haha I don’t want to be malicious I think highly of him and of our time together. I ended up sending a text that makes me feel like I’m getting my clean break now. I feel good about it! :)

Oh absolutely! At first I thought he was ghosting me and I was SO devastated by that. When he finally sent it I just felt relief. And of course now I’m sad gal central but it really was truly the best…

I KNOW!? Because I'm like "Ok, so I guess you DO want to see me again...?" I mean, I'd have to see him again to see the key? Unless he just has a lock box and then never talks to me again. But also, t…