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There are tons of patents on the tech, but they aren't telling us certain aspects bc it would reveal the true nature of reality. The Youknowverse is mental af! Yes your mind is being read by devices,…

Struggling with losing my best friend/coworker, anxious attachment + limerence making it unbearable — Hi everyone, I apologize in advance for this long post. I’ll just post the TL;DR at the start. TL;DR: Lost my best friend/coworker of 7 years after a conflict. He’s now cold/avoiding me but friendl…

For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? — For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? I began therapy 4 months into our situationship because of how strong he came on,…

Reflection on over friendly therapist? — Hi readers. This is something that has been on my mind for months and I don't know how to wrap my head around it. Some professional insight might be helpful. I left therapy a few months ago. I had …

I hate narcissists! — I tried so hard to forgive. I even made a comment here months ago about forgiveness. I was trying to delude myself. Narcissists deserve to rot and burn in the lowest depths of hell there is. How can y…

My parents raised me to just serve people — I'm 22(F) and have moved away from my parents place but might have to go back because it has become too expensive to live alone and my parents bought a bigger house so it would all work out for me if …

I don't know the difference between what's real or not anymore — I don't really know where to start other than this experience was over the weekend, and it made me see things in a different way. On Saturday night, I took a gummy, I dabble in it to help with my anxi…

I (22 male) slept with my colleague (30 female) and fell in love, but it was unrequited. — I apologize for possible errors in the text, translated by Google. I got a job as a loader at a store. And when we first met, we didn't really like each other. I just went to work; I didn't talk to h…

How do you deal with resentment toward a parent who “did their best”? — I’m in my 30s and just now fully realizing I was emotionally neglected growing up, and it’s honestly messing with me. I was raised by a single mother. I know she loves me, but love wasn’t enough. I d…

I finally went to therapy and I'm angry at myself for waiting so long because of stupid stigma — For five years I told myself I didn't need therapy. I told myself I could handle everything on my own. I told myself that going to therapy meant I was weak or broken or dramatic. Meanwhile I was bare…

My boyfriend (27M) embarrassed me in public and I’m not sure how to address it — I’m F23 and I’ve been dating this guy (M27) for about 8 months. He took me to a place I’d been wanting to go, which I really appreciated, and he spent a decent amount on the date. But for most of the …

My (31M) GF (28F) Informed Me That She Kissed a Stranger At an Outing While Playing Truth or Dare 2 Months Ago. How do I navigate this? — While having a conversation with my girlfriend today, I joked that I have magic powers. To which she stated rather casually that if I did I would have seen that she kissed a guy two months ago. I tho…

My therapist says she can’t see me after I graduate, and our session turned into this chaotic, bittersweet back-and-forth. — ​I’ve been spiraling a bit because graduation is coming up, which means I might lose my school counselor. We had this long, intense exchange today and I’m still trying to process her attitude. I wante…

nmom ruining my pregnancy by bullying my body — went no contact again and she won’t stop blowing up my phone — My whole life my sister and I have been bullied by our mom. When I was anorexic skinny, she’d say I had “no ass” and looked like a stick. Now that I’ve recovered and I’m at a normal, healthy weight (f…

Ex of 3 weeks collected stuff and… — It went really well! We hadn’t spoken for over 2 weeks. The only time after the break up we had spoken is regarding logistics. He stayed for over an hour. We spoke about the relationship, the hurt th…

Thinking about my ex constantly — ​ I haven't stopped thinking about my ex since we've broken up. I've been with my ex from the end of February to half of August last year. Since then, she's been on my mind almost non-stop. I …

My (23F) husband (26M) gets offended over EVERYTHING and I don't know how to handle it anymore? — We have been together for 4 years and married just last year. We also have a child together (unplanned but very loved). For some background, I grew up in a very insensitive family and I know I still …

I thought I finally found someone. — Hi! This morning I got a text from a guy that I’m seeing that he doesn’t want a romantic relationship. He said with anyone but that I was perfect, kind, sweet and I’d make the perfect gf/wife. I fell …

I don’t know if I’ll ever get over my ex — I feel a little silly writing about this but I recently broke up with my long distance boyfriend. I broke up with him because at the time I thought it was the right thing to do. I was dealing with men…

My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. I'm still in love with her. — Quick backstory. My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. We broke up after being together for 4.5 years. We met on a dating app, I was 21 and she was 18. Everything clicked instan…

My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. I'm still in love with her. — Quick backstory. My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. We broke up after being together for 4.5 years. We met on a dating app, I was 21 and she was 18. Everything clicked instan…

[31M] My wife [32F] of 4 years (together 9) wants a divorce. We survived family deaths and her Bipolar 2, but I'm exhausted. I just need someone to tell me starting over at 31 is going to be okay. — I’m just kind of aimlessly describing my situation right now. I have no clue what I’m looking for, maybe just perspective, or someone to tell me I'll be okay. My wife and I met in college. We've been…

Comments about body 48F with 51m, nine month relationship — I am a fit 48F , my bf is 51M. We have been together for nine months. I am 5’4” and 115-120 pounds. I have had three kids and have some loose skin on my lower stomach (only evident in certain position…

My girl 26F gives multiple answers in almost all of the arguments we have. I am 26M — Each argument we have and i ask her what she thinks about something, she very usually gives two or more answers. Sometimes she says or does things that are very confusing for me and i don't quite unde…

Does anyone else struggle to make friends and connect with people? — I’ve been feeling really disconnected from people my whole life, and I’m wondering if anyone else feels the same. I’ve always had a hard time forming genuine friendships. I crave connection, but it ju…

am i a monster — sorry, idk if this is even the right subreddit for this, and i’m super new to reddit to begin with, so i’m honestly just trying to get stuff off my chest. for context, i’m 16F, an only child with REAL…

All roads lead to Rome, huh? — Update to this [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/1sahmmf/this_is_it_my_final_day/). Basically, I was ready to leave. So, it's been three days since I made the post, and a l…

I talked to the other woman — I found out that my avoidant cheated on me based on location sharing. Nothing physical happened between them, but he was on a date. I know why he did it. Avoidants look for an escape hatch when the …

What the hell do I do? UPDATE — An update to my previous post, since it seemed like someone was interested and because I still need support. We talked about it. He saw no wrongdoing in what he did, and said his intention was never…

asking advice on if i was fetishized — CW for porn, past confirmed CSA, potential CSA (?) For starters, this is a new account because I have DID and don't want any other parts to know about this right now. I have been diagnosed with D…

I feel overwhelmed and lost and I think being the only and eldest daughter plays a role — I am 25 years old and the eldest and only daughter with four younger brothers. After spending the last few days with my family, I feel completely unimportant, like I don’t matter. Growing up, I was al…

Avoidant ex reached out after 4 years to apologize, but the conversation reopened old confusion for me. Did he actually care and communicate terribly, or is this just guilt/retroactive idealization? F24, M25, dated for 4 months — tl;dr Avoidant ex reached out after 4 years to apologize, but the conversation reopened old confusion for me. Did he actually care and communicate terribly, or is this just guilt/retroactive idealizat…

My best friend's [20F] boyfriend [21M] is aggressively flirting with me [19F] — I’ve \[19F\] been best friends with this girl \[20F\] since birth and we have done basically everything together. We are in college pursuing different things but manage to hang out daily. She’s dating…

Am I (F19) being dramatic abt my boyfriends (M19) comments abt me? — TW: EDs, Assult, body dysmorphia etc. I (F19) and my boyfriend (M19) have been to for abt 6 months. He is the first man I have ever truly loved and I feel incredibly lucky and grateful to have him in…

My best friend kissed me on the lips, after my boyfriend had set clear boundaries on that specific topic. Now i broke his trust, how can I fix this? — TLDR My (19F) boyfriend (20M) went to a gathering at my best friend's house(20F). We went there knowing things would get a little out of hand, we bought alcohol, we have truth or dare games planned a…

This girl is ruining my self appreciation — I've known this girl for almost 3 years now, I'm 19, I was 16 when I first knew her, I got attached very fast to her, and she too did, we believed we were soulmates, we talked for a while before she s…

Is there ever an element of truth/belief to a joke ? — Tl;dr: partner and I tease each other, but lately his jokes have been a little harsh. Is it possible that jokes are rooted in a belief of what is being said ? Me (29M) and my partner (36M) have been…

Need insight on new relationship — I met a guy (40) on a dating app who came across very intentional and wanting to date with the intention of marriage (I wrote this on my profile to weed out serious people). We talked for a month and …

I 24m am gay but I started dating a woman 25f. Is it unethical of me to keep dating her? Update — I copied the original post below I posted this a few days ago, a bunch of people said I’m a terrible person, others told me that I need to tell her and then come back afterwards. They also said that …

Penso di essere stato abusato da piccolo — It's hard for me to write this post. When I was in fifth or fourth grade, I was pretty innocent, and after inviting my best friend over, we joked a bit about the size of our and my brother's dicks, an…

Blown away — Wife of 20 yrs just walked away. Won’t talk about our life together, not willing to reconcile, got a lawyer… her dad died last year and I knew something was wrong when she stopped talking to me. We wo…

Extreme Selfishness and delusion — Since I’ve been dealing/ dealt with other narcissists in my life, I’ve started wondering whether this person might also have been a narcissist - which is why I’m posting this and asking for perspectiv…

I (19M) made my partner (18NB) uncomfortable during our first visit and now they ended things how do I cope with the guilt? — I have been in a ldr with my ex-partner for about 2 and a half months but have been friends casually for some years, and actually close for the better part of six or seven months. We bonded fast becau…

vent — I (21F) had a messy situationship with a guy (27M) who described himself as an FA. It ended around late december and it ended BAD, when I tried to hold him accountable for leading me on and treating m…

Is my therapist innapropiate or am I overly sensitive — Im 29F, hes in his 50sM. Okay this may be long but please bear with... a year and a half ago me and my partner were on a break and started seeing a couples counsellor after 4-5 months he suggested due…

Tell or not tell? — TL;DR: A coworker joked that if a man chooses to stay with the woman of Asian decent (but she’s born and culturally British) , people might assume he “paid for her.” It wasn’t said to her face, just b…

I (20f) excessively yawn and or am sleepy around him (21m). Solutions? — I just had a bizarre realization and was wondering if people had ways of managing this phenomenon. I’ve been with my partner for just over two years and to say he’s a unicorn amongst mules is puttin…

How to be brave and less afraid of confrontation? — I (24M) always avoided conflicts, debates or arguments, because of some childhood trauma, with parents fighting at home. So most of the times i avoid conflicts or people who are loudly arrogant, becau…

Thank you! Yes my current therapist does IFS! I struggle with it because it feels like I'm "faking it" when I'm speaking as one of my parts. Like I can't get out of my head and really let the part tak…

I feel extremely confused and don't know what to do.  I honestly don't understand if I don't understand myself or what's going on.  So the guy I am seeing came to my place yesterday's afternoon and st…

I do think I am struggling to accept the acts because the words aren't there. Yes, it could be a love languages thing. He does know what it means to me, it's honestly become kind of a joke... he sen…

Should I make the next move? For context: I'm a 35 yo, cis het woman living in nyc. I recently (about 1.5 weeks ago) went out with a guy (also 35, cis het male) I met on bumble. The date took a bit …

I recently moved to a new country for work. I (30) have just started my career, and I matched with a man (38) who works at a local bank and has a very established career. We met 5 times over about 20 …

The first time it was "haha" and the conversation carried on, nothing major, but when I joked about it the second time on a different day, it wasn't the same reaction - not necessarily offended but it…

Lmao I can relate to this a little bit. I often joked I needed to come up for air, especially cuz my nose has a lot of anatomical air blockage in its own already lol. Let a girl breathe!

My Experience was awhile back & I didn't keep a Spiritual Journal then. But the jist is I was visited in the astral everyday in meditation by a tall Grey. In a nut shell he said that "there was no lov…

Hit it off with someone lately. Things are going really well. I joked with her that she shouldn't have taken so much time matching with me, since dating has been an emotional slog these past months.…

He called it off over the phone and joked "look, love is like a fart... if you have to try too hard it's probably shit" Apparently me asking if we could define the relationship after exclusively dati…

I shift between anxious/FA/D and secure, depending on the person I’m with and the type of relationship. Recently I started seeing a wonderful guy, not sure which type of avoidant, but I feel I’m losi…

Thanks for your insights. I guess it's hard not to settle when someone seems like a relief in many ways compared to your ex. I think my compatibility is higher with this guy but we do come from very d…

This reminds me of my husband. His parents, mom and aunt specifically, are “health nuts”… so they have done some VERY questionable things to him growing up. His mom (and I assume dad? But hi dad was a…

One guy, on finding out I did improv comedy in my spare time, tried to teasingly joked that I hadn’t been that funny so far on our date. I instantly knew I would not be seeing that man again.

My narc used self deprecating humor in excess as a defense mechanism but I couldn’t bring up anything he “joked” about or he’d be so angry.

I don't disagree with your critiques, including the ones in your reply below, but ultimately KPDH is a movie aimed at kids. You could probably find similar plot holes or questionable themes in any kid…

So about 2 weeks ago I mentioned a friend who seemed hurt I joked about him [friend zoning me.](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/1rllcsg/comment/o8wzph9/?context=3&utm_source=share&u…

Is it possible your husband is using humour to cope? I had an abortion (necessary but still emotional difficult), and I oscillated between crying and inappropriate jokes (one time I joked about how I’…

I had a miscarriage in 2004 and was so gutted, I couldn’t try again until 2008 when I had my son. There is absolutely nothing funny about a miscarriage and your husband is a jackass. Mine was very qu…

I have a big gathering of fellow boardgame geeks coming up tomorrow. About all of my friends are coming, as well 50-or so other people. So I've spent a better portion of my day in the kitchen preparin…

A little over a year ago, I found out that my dad(90) had died. My aunts and I joked that he’d decided to let go because he’d put up with Nmom for 63 years. I was 62 at the time. I’d been NC with them…

My situation is that we agreed to go no contact after a month of initially breaking up and still being intimate with each other. I’m blocked on all social media but she hasn’t blocked my number. She s…

I’ve seen guys on hinge say on their profile that the way to their heart is cooking for them. No match. And there’s the guy I did match that “joked” about me doing his laundry. Instant unmatch.

My SO was a slob whose house was a disaster when I met him. His family joked about needing a tetanus shot if they entered his house. The thing is that he was depressed and overwhelmed and like most pe…

It’s not just being “friendly” or playful, she can be quite physically touchy with people. She also makes jokes about kissing, including things like joking about kissing someone or even kissing betwee…

He does it in private, not often, but enough for me to notice. I used to ignore it because I didn’t want to seem uptight, but looking back it’s not okay. He’s joked about me not cooking, made comments…

>certain dignity for men - you'd get a job and support your family and feel like you were doing the right thing. With the decline of this type of work, I think a lot of young men now simply aren't sur…

I’ll never forget the moment it dawned on me my best friend from high school was no longer speaking to me. I had NO IDEA why. I was home from college on spring break. We had gone bowling with our high…

I had the worst date of my life. I wasn't very interested because dude flirts with everyone online. But gave him a try. Not worth it. I have social anxiety and can't look in peoples' eyes. He demande…

I was the one dumped after trying and giving him my all for 3 years he always broke up with me when he gets really mad at me after we have huge arguments ab girls ( every break up was bc of girls btw)…

Having a conversation with my first bf at 15 about disciplinary actions your parents have taken against you. He laughed and joked his mum slapped him once but he deserves it. I was absolutely floored.…

So you accidentally groped her. Apologized for it. Then joked that next time you’ll do it on purpose. What this reads to me is Creep 101. Guy gropes me and pretends it an accident. That’s always sus…

Completely fair. We joked about it right after it happened and I thought I could leverage on that “funny” incident for a joke. I also thought things would evolve to the next stage naturally. I w…

I asked him what he meant and he completely walked it back and joked that he was exaggerating and only needs a hug sometimes. Like until we talk exclusivity, I don't need reassurance. I know it can …

I’ve already done enough damage. I don’t like admitting it or saying it out a lot of I was good at acads, I was good at the work that I did. Somewhat motivated too, I’m around rank 180/400 in my colle…

Oh god, we were watching game of thrones and I mentioned how cute Jason mamoa is and my now ex husband lost his mind. Said he looked nothing like Jason therefore I wasn’t really attracted to him and w…

I could have written this post myself as our situations as basically identical. My father always joked "well I spent more of your inheritance today" I started responding with "its your money, do what…

Fighter and flighter. I always joked my go to is running away while flipping you off. However I’ve become much more of a fighter as I’ve gotten older

I'm sorry that happened to you :(. I think what sucks is that I genuinely thought he was different and I was so blindsided. I was aware I have a pattern of dating avoidant/non-commital guys, and he se…

i'm not one to judge, I was a suger mama, for almost 15 yrs before I realized. I laughingly joked he was my cabana boy, when he moved his adult kids to pay his share of the bills, and let them be raci…

Well, my advice for you is to just where you are alone until you're ready. My gf and I have been dating for a year now, and she's brought up moving in together. She doesn't have any kids. We live 40 m…

lol. yeah even better dream. they made movies about it. [https://letterboxd.com/film/unsung-hero-2024/](https://letterboxd.com/film/unsung-hero-2024/) [https://letterboxd.com/film/wild-rose-2018/](h…

We all joked about it, this guy pulled it off!!

>Did you do Asian American studies? No, I would say it's just an awareness of and interest in the lived Asian American experience. It was quite eye opening when I went to college in the USA and learn…

Yes, I really liked the guy I worked with. We joked around at work but nothing more.

My experience with sex was that it took until I was 30 to find a girl comfortable enough with herself to teach me and answer all my questions. I genuinely wanted to learn *everything* about girls anat…

I’ve only ever joked with my spirit guide ( a purple lady) and she has a better sense of humor than me, but I’ve never thought to joke with other entities.

Please, don't do this if you're not fully over your ex. You could end up hurting yourself even more in the process and hurting someone else as well. Take time to heal. Allow yourself the grace of bein…

When I had ended my marriage and contemplating the "well, what now" sort of stuff, I decided that long term I would be most happy living with someone else. I enjoy having a partner's back, and want s…