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It's not like that for me. Acceptance was like...immersing myself in a fluid of understanding. Man that sounds so weird reading what I typed. I'm not a giver upper. I don't usually EVER give up, but "…
Upwind's Cloud Security CNAPP. Is it viable? — Can anyone share their real-world experience implementing Upwind's "Runtime-Powered" Cloud Security Platform? The promise of using real-time runtime data (I think they use eBPF sensors?) to focus onl…
Bouncing around a new business idea — Hello everyone. I have an idea to purchase a commercial property in my town (old government building) and outfit it to be mainly a golf simulator business with multiple bays including small kitchen an…
Losing (F23, AA) my mind in my relationship with my (F22, DA) sister. — We’ve had some real struggles, and I’m at a loss for what to do. I feel generally pretty secure outside of this one relationship, but recently it’s been making my AA flair up in my romantic partnersh…
I deactivated again while healing, wondering whether your experiences are similar — A few days ago I (DA) deactivated again, the first time after working on healing (4 months now). It was short (just 10 hours) but gave me more understanding. For context, I'm trying to reconnect with…
DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…
DO NOT GIVE UP — DO NOT GIVE UP!!!!! I have so much to say. But ima try to keep it short ish. I just wanted to make a quick post about my journey. I’ve been “manifesting” for five years. I actually have not. Those f…
Spiritual Awakening & Instant Manifestation (wtf???) — So as the title says, wtf? I've been using multiple different ways of manifesting, manifesting with feeling, robotic affirming, and I've realized one thing. Manifesting is an act of creation that …
OKAY LISTEN Y'ALL. — I don't know which tag this would come under but I just have to say this because the amount of 'im gonna give up' , 'its not working' ' what am I doing wrong' posts am seeing is insaneee. First of all…
I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…
How do you take your power back or create it? — I had all the time this passive role in determining my reality .things are happening to me rather than me choosing them.This victim mentality but stemmin from feeling powerless and defenseless. I know…
Decided to stop blaming things on my breakup, the world, and my mental health — Ever since my break up last year i’ve turned to alcohol, gambling, lots of random hookups with girls i would never make my wife. I’ve come to realize that she was one of the most important lessons in …
I am dropping Loa — LOA is draining my energy and it's becoming like a chore where you are not getting paid but you have to expend your energy. I have been trying to shift to my reality for so long like a year has pass…
“ he never harmed me” good to know my suffering meant so little to you — My ex husband left me for the mistress 6 years ago. It was hell. I am still to this day dealing with the trauma of having the person you trusted and loved so much just pull the rug from under your li…
Why do people on shifting subs avoid sleeping methods? — Most successful shifters I know use some variation of WBTB, lucid dreaming, astral projection, or just shifting when they are already super tired. It is pretty obvious there are common threads between…
how to really manifest! you don’t need to “do” more. you need to live differently. — it’s not that deep!! i really want to help people with this and share what i know but it’s so so hard to put into words what im trying to say! it’s like it’s almost too simple to explain in words, so…
Are we giving up on relationships too easily nowadays? — A friend send me this message this morning and now I am curious to hear from you. "Life has evolved in a way that it's easier to run away and start over than to fight for something that's already bui…
If I Never Discovered Manifestation, I Probably Would Have Killed Myself. (NOT A VENT!) — **This isn't a vent, I'm just reflecting on how much Manifestation has changed me for the better, and hopefully, this post will encourage people who are new to manifestation to keep trying!** (Yes, I …
Thank you gta 6 for keeping me alive ❤️ — Was extremely depressed and sucidal , every day i thought of giving up , but this damm game is saving me every day from giving up on life and giving me hopes that one day I could see mount kalaga. an…
I don’t know where to go in my life. — Im 18 years old, I graduated from highschool June 4th 2025 and im attending a community college. I wanna be an actor and im studying theater but my parents don’t think it’s realistic and i understand …
I'm fourteen and I've been in a really weird situation my entire life. I don't know what to do. — trigger warning for sensitive content such as abuse (only financial abuse is really explicitly stated), alcoholism, s icidality (in the past, censoring in case it gets the post removed or something)?…
I NEED HELP !! p — I NEED HELP!!! I'm a 23 year old girl from India. And i seriously need some real life advice or help. I'm currently in my 3rd year of a 4 year Nursing undergraduate program. And I can't do it anymo…
How Do I Stop Getting Over Excited? — My questions is basically exactly what the title says; how do I stop getting over excited? I’ve had a lot of success with methods like WILD up until actually seeing hypnogogic hallucinations. As soon…
How to deal with Trauma and depression from Asian parent — So I' am a filipino and 19 years old student I have a big brother and a little sister who is 5 years old I had a huge fight with my mom. While my dad was working in different state in Australia so he …
My 71 year old mother escalated to throwing objects at me tonight because I started vacation from work — Quick intro: I'm a 49-year-old man earning \~$225K/year, living with my 71-year-old mother in a house that's fully paid off. I'm planning to move out within the next few weeks. You can see the post hi…
My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. I'm still in love with her. — Quick backstory. My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. We broke up after being together for 4.5 years. We met on a dating app, I was 21 and she was 18. Everything clicked instan…
A year of changes and effort and i still dont feel any less anxious — Long story short, my girlfriend and I have been together just a bit over a year. Within the first 4 months she lied to me about a party and hid that she went alone instead of with her sister as she …
Is it normal to feel resentment towards my mother for asking me to get therapy? — I (F17) have been asking my mother to get me into therapy since I was 11, because of some issues I have been going through, both because of my parents and because of peers and personal issues. Each ti…
Saved by Aliens! Twelve Benevolent Encounters — [**Saved by Aliens! Twelve Benevolent Encounters**](https://youtu.be/aPMjZJDOfis) by Preston Dennett https://preview.redd.it/78ywlpbo7zsg1.jpg?width=1604&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=bac3d50493e2b7125956…
How to ask my boyfriend to take care of his appearance — Throwaway account because my boyfriend is on here. I (27f) have been with my boyfriend (26m) for three years. He is my best friend, we get along so well and he treats me so well. I would consider my l…
Where do we go from here? — My girlfriend (F42) and I (M42). Both divorced for many years (her a couple longer), both have kids elementary aged (her 2, me 1). We have been together for about 2.5 years. We travel great, our kids …
Reflection on Giving Up Instagram & Tiktok For Lent. — Wasn't sure where to post this, just wanted to share what I observed in myself, and my habits. For some who may not know Lent is a period in the Catholic religion's. It reflects Jesus' 40 days of …
My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. I'm still in love with her. — Quick backstory. My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. We broke up after being together for 4.5 years. We met on a dating app, I was 21 and she was 18. Everything clicked instan…
Where Did you Go to Find Your Therapist? — I am a very experienced clinical psychologist with a PhD from a very strong university. I have recently left an agency where I was pressured to do unethical things (for example: record things in the m…
My ex is getting remarried tomorrow — My ex is getting remarried tomorrow. Today he sent me a text “I’ll never understand your choices” and “I would have always fought for my family”. He says this because I’m the one who initiated the d…
Shadow work and fear of giving up — \* This post is more about shadow work but it's still related to my shifting journey and somewhat subconscious and old fears) Basically, by doing shadow work, I have understood that my biggest strug…
Am I giving up too easy? — ‼️MENTION OF DV‼️ I want a divorce. Back in November he put his hands on me. Resulted in a hairline fracture on my arm from when he grabbed me by the neck and threw me on the ground. He kept screamin…
How can I do better — My Story — A Journal Entry Where It All Began I grew up in a joint family — grandparents, cousins, relatives all around. On the surface, there was warmth and togetherness. But my immediate family wa…
I'm struggling living abroad, but I'm not going home because I don't want to live near my mom — I’m really struggling living abroad at the moment, but I also know I can’t live in the same country as my mom, even thought it means sacrificing my comfort, happiness, financial stability, quality of …
I'm (29F) ready to throw in the towel on my 3 year LDR with my bf (39M) — Background: LDR for past 3 years. We met in my country while he was living here, he had to go back to his home country (11 hour flight away) after 6 months of knowing eachother for work reasons but it…
I'm about to lose everything and having panic attack all day — I (24M) really need some advice. I am having the worst day of my life today. So, basically, I'm in college studying engineering. It's my fifth year. It is normally a four-year program, but I basically…
I [M23] am facing a decision that might cost me what I think is the love of my life [23F] — TL;DR: After a wonderful but complex 4.5 years, me and my partner separeted. We then kept spending a lot of time with each other and stayed exclusive, before completely ending our contact for a few mo…
Breaking up is my last resort — I broke up with him last night, and it took a lot of chances and time before I finally snapped and resorted to this decision. For months, I tried to raise what hurts me, understand and justify your …
Help me manifest the impossible...please. — i hv a career defining exam within a month and it feels impossible to achieve my goals thru it since the chances are 0.03% if even that on top of that it's not any random event to happen like getting …
Anyone else feel like making more money is costing them more than they expected? — I’ve been thinking about this lately… Every time you get a raise or take on more responsibility, it looks like progress on paper. But no one really talks about what you’re giving up in return. More…
Realistic Sacrifices for a relationship… — I realize that dating at this age there has to be sacrifices. I (45f) own my own home, business, and have created a life for myself in my current community. My partner (54m), took a job out of state 2…
My friend (18F) relies on me (21F) for everything — Hi all, I’m just here to rant/ask for next steps since I’ve been in this situation for years and I’m over it. My friend and I met through work a couple years ago, I had to train her in retail etc. S…
51 Days since break up; I broke NC twice — He (33m) broke up with me (34f) the day after Valentine's Day, it felt like the rug got pulled out from under me. There was so much built up that he hadn't told me about, that he didn't want to add to…
Giving up but in a good way — I broke up with the person who i thought was the love of my life in November. I tried so hard manifesting him back. Luckily we reconnected in March (i initiated the conversation) and it seemed to go r…
i feel like this was manifestation..but could it be a coincidence — So I’ve been in this group for a while just observing, but I feel like I’ve had a big enough experience with manifestation that I finally want to share—and also get some outside perspective. I’ve kno…
4 Years of Being His Emotional Crutch – I Finally Left When He Refused to Grow Up (87 Days No Contact) — I (29F) was with “Jake” (30M) for just over four years. We met at a mutual friend’s house party right after college. He was charming, goofy, the guy who could make anyone laugh. Within a year we moved…
Hi! So one thing I can tell you from lots of therapy and recently spending time around her is I realized I had been only remembering her good qualities and putting her on a pedestal in my mind. When w…
Repeated failures are valuable learning experiences that can refine your approach and resilience, not signals to abandon your entrepreneurial dreams. Instead of giving up, reassess your strategies, se…
Wow I had my phone read out the post. You must really like her. I applaud you for not giving up.. Or is there a different reason, that like you like challenges and 'fixing' people for example?
I'm a FA that leans anxious, and someone going quiet only interprets abandonment if there is a sudden drop off of otherwise normal consistent communication. It's that inconsistent dynamic that creates…
FA's can really lean into DA and bail when true intimacy is on the table. Committing to a relationship can really freak them out. ***To an outside observer***, FAs look like they can discard just as e…
I hear you. I’ve also been there. Acceptance is tough because it feels like giving up, but it’s actually about shifting perspective. Friendships evolve, sometimes they deepen, sometimes they fade, an…
Follow up question to your reply. If the answer to everything is go back to not bring any of their boss I’ll take that. It may be hard for many people to imagine giving up 40% of your pay but try hav…
Dating is one of my biggest struggles in life. I think I am disorganized leaning avoidant attached. I have never been able to date. When I was younger I didn't understand how people do it because of h…
Has an apology for overcommunicating / overpursuing ever went well? Very long and complicated story, but I realized I was messaging her too much when she was pulling back and now been left on read for…
I'm in a miniature version of your dynamic with a guy who makes me feel on top of the world sometimes and forgotten about others. The hot and cold is exhausting and the good times are just enough to …
When i am experiencing something that is the opposite of what i desire. I let it for a day or two. When i first did it it lasts for a week up to 2-3 weeks. After sometime, that "bad feeling" lessen th…
I'm not qualified to give you any pro opinion but I can tell you what I've done, for myself. First step is admitting you can't continue this way, for your own sake and the sake of your close ones. S…
Self- love and desire for a partner are two different things imo. Humans are built for connection and that comes in many different forms (friendships, family, romantic etc). If you have a preference…
I guess that’s exactly the reason why I’m asking if time will help. I’m deciding if it would be better for my nervous system to walk away. I could see talking to him for years just for friendly banter…
3 is really great. I've been calling it my giving up mentality, like if I just say yes all my fears will come true so I'm fucked anyway, it actually makes me feel better and worry less lol. Not sure i…
sometimes you feel different ways about different people. what are you wondering about giving up on? feeling a crush on a woman doesn’t mean you need to be attracted to all women, but it is worth list…
At the end of the day, she has to want to be with him and it doesn’t look like that’s the case. While I personally don’t think she’s being 100% honest about the reason in this post, I think it’s hel…
Oof, I've never met anyone that I like being around more than I like being alone. I always put that down to introversion, but perhaps I too am a malcontent? What I have found, is people who are tota…
I'd love to get some concrete data on the app decline. But of course the companies will never release that lol. I only went on one app date in all of 2025 and it was with someone I already knew and we…
You're gonna need to change your outlook. You come out of dates basically already giving up is how your post reads. >I get to a place after a date or two where I wonder if it's worth it to keep dati…
>I want to be hopeful, but I also don’t want to settle and don’t want to be pressured into giving up. I just don’t understand why it’s so hard… Idk I really don’t have a clear train of thought but fee…
He was consistent with his therapy and medication, to the extent of not needing medication anymore (he's still in therapy), got NC with his abusive dad, and started dieting and going to the gym. He's …
I'm thinking of giving up on dating after I turn 32 in two months. I didn't pursue women enough when I was younger (shy/awkward as a teen and in my early 20s and i probablyhaven'tgotten much interest …
This is like giving up in the second inning. You still have a lot of game to play.
My bf and I are both close to 40. We met last year, and we're both in it for the long haul :) Before him, I had a long string of short-term relationships and my last long term relationship was 10 or m…
I'm having a few pints with a friend later today. He's in a relationship but they actively dislike v-day as a concept, so it works out in my favour. I had a few early things going a week ago, and I f…
I've had this feeling to an extent. For me it was the codependency element I'd end up morphing who I was to compliment my partner and then I'd start emeshing with them all done unconsciously. They'd …
She's started turning up at social events I've been going to for years. And bringing new bf and being super handsy and whatnot with him. We also still have a legal entanglement she's refusing to …
32F and tired of the apps. I went out on 11 first dates last year, the longest guy lasted almost 3 months. The 3month guy I got over him pretty quickly but it’s the one I went on a date after him that…
No comment on giving up but if you want a cat you should definitely get one
Thanks! Our relationship improved a great deal when I became more emotionally present and stopped stonewalling. I would love nothing more than to have a happy marriage with her the rest of my life, bu…
As a woman who reasonates with everything you've said and is looking for her person (and giving up onnit), you need to figure out what are your uncompromisables? Mine is emotional intimacy. I can sort…
I'm turning 40 in six weeks, and I've been thinking a lot about the last decade lately, and by extension, my twenties. I say this without looking for sympathy or advice, but I think I'm giving up. The…
I'm a bit younger than you but accepting that 'no hope for me' is just as much a reality as hope. I very quickly became at peace with the idea of being alone forever. Not in a giving up way i'm still …
33F here, feeling like giving up on love. It's so hard to date people who wont even reciprocate the love I give them. I don't even think I'm the issue here coz I believe in communication . Do I ask fo…
this is very much what i needed to hear, and spot on. and as much as i realize that - i think about giving up the first guy and i get grumpy even thinking about it. my brain is broken. :(
i cant do online dating anymore. it's done. ive said this to myself and my friends many times, but i truly mean it now. i know im giving up on the very small percentage chance that i might find someon…
You make great points and I do agree with being careful about giving up on a potential match to quickly. I usually have a minimum two date rule if there's any potential. Unfortunately in her particul…
How does one find the confidence to try and date in the future. Unemployed right now after Masters, not for the lack of trying though. But I also feel like I'm just not physically attractive enough es…
Some details - im an anxious person. Im medicated. The guy that I’m dating - let’s call him A. A is a PhD student and has his thesis/defense due and works crazy hours and is very stressed. His texting…
Lord you said so much of whats been on my mind about meeting men in the wild. I go out to various events and its mostly couples, depending on the venue sometimes families, I dont approach because I'm …
Thank you! I won’t lie I still have moment I feel sad but it’s not the “why didn’t he choose me sad” This might sound funny but I watched Avatar the last air bender and i actually relate to Zuko. He…
What you described can be frustrating, sure. But rather than giving up, focus some of your dating energy into real life pursuits. [meetup.com](http://meetup.com), hobbies, volunteering, etc.
Honestly, I’ve just split up with my girlfriend I adore her She’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me And I’ve got two children from the past relationship. I can still say that she is witho…
If it was just one of those things, then maybe sure, you could adapt. This sounds more like giving up a huge part of who you are, just to keep a man. That would be a no. Food, clothes, housing, tradit…
It’s so true. My mom blew about my aunt not telling my mom she looked nice when mom arrived at my aunt’s who was hosting her daughter’s wedding shower. My mom was seething with jealousy. I didn’t have…
Match making is not a numeric score. If you have been with your partner for 10 years you have mostly gone through a combination of dasa bukthi periods and your relationship has survived it. As a contr…
I have recently taken to hugging a stuffed animal (suggested by a coworker at a DV shelter - so I have permission 😉). As for not having someone, allow me to caution against giving up the peace of sol…
Depends. Do you feel comfortable giving up and staying single? Then give up. If you don’t feel comfortable enough - try something else.
Yes. I rarely want to see any of my dates again. Kinda close to just giving up hope. Maybe I’m gay