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Yes, the chart maps this really well. The key is that career communication is not just one placement - it is three systems working together. **Mercury sign and house** is your default communication s…

Ex came back with lustful intentions and its so humiliating — i really need some support pls. I was in my first relationship in 2024. He was my first love i was intensely attached to him and i was a mess when he left. he admitted that he never fell in love with…

Help me understand something...I am literally a victim of multiple gropings, physical abuse, a knife assault, rape and other crimes. How can I be "playing a victim role" if I am constantly placed in one? — What is up with people dehumanizing victims of trauma on social media and in real fucking life? For my very first relationship I was in a DV relationship and was beat for 3 years. I got groped as a …

I still feel like all the abuse was normal — Three months ago I had a realization that my mother was abusive my entire life. Verbally and physically. Silent treatments. Emotional neglect. Hitting me in public as an adult. About a week after tha…

Does the chart share how you’re meant to communicate in career? — Recent post on using your chart to learn more about suitable career paths inspired me. now I’m curious if the chart speaks to how you communicate within that career. In my experience some people are …

At Portland’s Lone Fir graves, a long-awaited apology is finally heard — At a ceremony honoring ancestors and marking the start of memorial construction at Lone Fir Cemetery’s Block 14, Multnomah County’s chair and commissioners read their apology on site for the first tim…

Don't you think it's sexist for my fiance (28M) to not want our future children to have my (28F) last name? — my fiance and i always fight over this issue. i think if i'm the one that's getting pregnant, going through labor, and giving birth, of COURSE the child should take on my last name instead of his to h…

Parentification is sick and effed — Idk just needed an internet space to metaphorically scream it from the rooftops I am very grateful for this subreddit Parentification is so sick and effed. It was so dehumanizing. I have put effort…

how come (certain) people react aggressively to suicide, and suicidal thoughts? — I started thinking about suicide when I was 12. I'm 21 now. One of the first things I heard was that I was being "selfish" and "stupid". My grandmother was dying back in 2016, her brother found out ab…

i feel like im breaking and idk where to say this all — maybe there is a better more specific to what im saying kind of subreddit to put this on but i dont really know much abt reddits or what exactly im allowed to say where so: **tw: abuse, neglect, vio…

Did anyone else grow up in the 70's with these ritualistic, delayed punishment "ceremonies" from their narcissistic parent? — I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the weird, almost ceremonial punishments my mum used to put me through, and it’s been stirring up a lot of old feelings. I’m wondering if anyone else experienced …

being "tolerated" hurts so much — I don't think this will ever get any less painful. The idea that people have to tolerate my mental illness, feels like such a deep wound that i don't know what to do. Ive always been a person with the…

I'm not suggesting that sub is 100% bad (nothing is all bad or all good). But it's absolutely an echo-chamber that frequently becomes toxic and dehumanizing, conflates every negative behavioral trait …

>While it's indeed true people (and early on myself included, until I knew better) confuse or wrongly attribute abusive patterns and narcissism to avoidant attachment, I don't think it's intentional. …

Everyone on these boards has healing to do, so that's not some "gotcha", my friend. >for some reason you’re very emotionally attached and aggravated by this.This is just a personal rant on some perce…

Avoidants are demonized because they don’t communicate and often deny their (ex)partner the ability to communicate and that is dehumanizing becuase communication is what separates us from the rest of …

I guess I don’t believe everyone who interacts with an avoidant is anxious and I guess that is my key confusion around this. While I guess I can imagine a person being annoying and constantly asking i…

Funny thing is, I don’t like it when I’m “their type” either and they take pains to point that out. It just makes me feel like they don’t care about me as a person, it’s just that I fit a certain phy…

Same. That’s how I felt with mine. Like a fleshlight. And look I can be for that kinda thing but we need to TALK about it. No communication with intimate partners is so dehumanizing and it’s why I k…

It’s so dehumanizing constantly being put under a microscope in the most vulnerable time in your life its so gross that people can itemize someone like that like it’s a game

I think it's weird to tell someone you're dating what your type is. It's something that can mess with people's heads, and no one needs to know. It can also seem kind of fetishizing/dehumanizing toward…

Right there with you. For me it’s my intelligence and wealth, I just don’t feel as intelligent and financially well off I drained my life savings, equity in the house to entertain the relationship, a…

>It is actually loneliness and not having any access to women and/or human touch and intimacy.  This. I hear a man says this, and a huge alarm goes off in my head. We can of course say that by human …

"But when I hear "access to women"... it feels dehumanizing." To be fair, there are some whackjobs out there who think what you're worried about. However for most men, what this means is that they wa…

Exactly, it's dehumanizing to only be praised when you're the perfect robot/Barbie doll husk. You're not seen as your own person with your own wants and needs, simply an extension made to please every…

You basically grew up in a cult (all dysfunctional families are cults, but especially the crazy religious ones). It's okay to feel all your feelings about that. It's okay to cut off your abusers. You…

---Please read this all--- They are angry. Uhh, I love my dad, and I notice he becomes a nitpicky narcissist--when he is unhappy with his life, and almost afraid of life, or insecure about life. I…

our moms sound pretty sick, and i hope you don't stay with your mother because she will stomp the light out of you like my mother did with me. due to health and other issues, i've found myself constan…

Hey OP, I'm a little low on spoons, but I wanted to chime in and I just wanted to say that I feel a lot of these comments are glossing over the fact that they haven't been in your *exact* shoes (maybe…

I remember even Gabor Mate who worked with people who were addicted to drugs, heroin addicts mostly, saying how he has not met a single addict who wasn't heavily abused and traumatized in childhood. I…

I focused on one goal: my crush. So the first visualization was about me holding, feeling, smelling my crush, going on the perfect date, etc. And it turned out that visualization was completely count…

Okay, so life as we know of is a cycle. A cycle in loop until certain karmic aspects are nullified. Now, humans run in loops of recurring patterns at certain intervals. Now, this is usually \~ 2.5 y…

Real vedic astrology is extremely blunt about the reality of a person's life. Life is dehumanizing by itself, vedic astrology simply affirms what is seen and felt.

Seconding all this and sending so much love and care, OP. You are not in the wrong at all. A grown man's predatory decisions and actions, especially coming from a therapist!, are not your responsibili…

nbd just the fact that my mother kept repeating that children are exactly like dogs and she trained me as a toddler to go to her when she whistled. totally dehumanizing.

honestly, that's such a gross thing to say i would be grossed out even if he was talking about another person. it's not a problem just because he was unintentionally talking about you, it's a problem …

Hey! Former obese woman here the same age as you. He is allowed to have a type yes and it is true he didn’t know what you looked like. The issue isn’t that he isn’t attracted to heavier women. The…

It’s so disrespectful, dehumanizing and generally hateful. A person who can be like that about *anyone* isn’t a safe person to me in a relationship with.

how dehumanizing, i wouldn’t be comfortable staying with someone who said those things about fat people. like it makes it worse that it was you, but even if it wasn’t, he revealed something very impor…

That’s exactly what i am talking about it is like spiritual thing they cut you from you real true self your strong capable existent present and magical and free real self and they want you to live as …

I gotta be totally honest and tell you I’m not entirely sure what the best way to go about getting over this, in whatever way is right for you. My heart goes out to you and I’m so incredibly sorry you…

yeah any longer OP and she will probably start accusing you of shit you didn't ever do. or it reaches emasculating/dehumanizing levels - both not good at all. hormones are a weird thing to work with,…

Oh please. Half of Reddit is men talking about their preferences. It’s 100x more common to see men post about their partners looks changing than women. And outside of relationships, other subs are f…

>"Foid" is a derogatory slang term and a shortened form of "femoid," which is used primarily within online **incel** (involuntary celibate) communities to refer to women. It is considered a misogynist…

Foid means "female humanoid". It's a term to refer to women when you view them as less than human. Fwiw, if anyone ever called me this, even as a joke, I would be disgusted and rethink having anythin…

I hadn’t heard “foid” before, but it doesn’t appear to make any sense to say you’re the “foid to his chud.” Sounds like he’s proud of his gross far-right manosphere bullshit and gets a kick out of deh…

It’s the worst. He gives me compliments that I feel are objectifying and dehumanizing. I told him that once and he got all offended. Told me I should feel lucky my husband still finds me attractive af…

I had to look it up because I had no idea what it means. But from what I can see (and I may not have the full picture here) this is a dehumanizing term that basically implies that you're *like* a huma…

It is short for female humanoid, but here's the deeper disturbing part - it can refer to anyone or ANYTHING that is female humanoid, including sexbots and silicone torsos, so saying it to or about a p…

As your elder I’m gonna warn you, if you normalize dehumanizing terms that belief starts to become ingrained without you even realizing.

You say you'd "die for me", but won't put in any effort to not be abusive, neglectful, and dehumanizing, so your words are hollow.

Their "best" was abusive, neglectful, and dehumanizing. It's not the flex they think it is. People that try their best at school and it's horrible don't graduate. People that try their best at work …

There's a direct link. Child abuse and neglect cause insecure attachment. A good therapist can help you work through your attachment issues and learn secure attachment behaviors. Here are some trust…

The chart absolutely covers this, and it goes deeper than just Mercury. Mercury shows how you naturally process and express ideas, but it is the delivery vehicle, not the full picture. For career com…

This is horrible and dehumanizing. What any person has done with their life is part of makes them who they are. If men don’t care about that then they may as well just state openly that they’re seek…

Yes. My take is that it's because emotionally abusive/neglectful parents are so dehumanizing and disrespectful of boundaries that it sets off some sense of predation in our minds. Somehow, we grasp …

Yeah like my partner is a slow waker whereas I wake up in like 1/8th the time he does. He is definitely more grumpy in the morning if we wake up at the same time. It can be anxiety inducing because …

right? the MOST dehumanizing and sexist tradition?? what?? talk about a hill to die on!

My parents divorced when I was 4. My father sexually abused me when I was 2-3.  My husband is incredibly abusive. DARVO, dehumanizing "Are you dead yet?" in response to my being in severe pain, he r…

You definitely must check it out if you like her work, she's a lovely writer. I know almost nothing about Mariah Carey, but her memoir sounds intriguing. I've listened to I'm Glad My Mom Died and a …

Unfortunately this is the only thing helping me truly move on from my ex, whom I loved with my mind body and soul. And I'm sure our moments together were some of the best for him too. That's why he co…