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A theory I read somewhere, but makes sense to me * kids behave like their Moon sign. Because Moon is (unconscious) reaction to environment * puberty is about Ascendant - how ME does things! How ME do…
Revision is where it's at. — People say that revision works faster and this is my experience as well. I'm a fairly good manifestor but there were a few things I was stuck on, namely my height. I carried a bit of disappointment …
My parents raised me to just serve people — I'm 22(F) and have moved away from my parents place but might have to go back because it has become too expensive to live alone and my parents bought a bigger house so it would all work out for me if …
She wants to know things, but isnt actually interested — Really just using this post as a sounding board for some thoughts I’ve had recently. My mom and I’s relationship has always been strained and at the core, emotional disconnect was the biggest issue. I…
Husband (46M) keeps "helpfully" rearranging, hiding, and disposing of my (46F) stuff--what tactic or wording can I use to stop it? — **I'm getting private messages now so I'll add: please don't repost or use this anywhere else.** TL/DR: husband keeps "helpfully" rearranging, hiding, and disposing of my stuff--what tactic or wordi…
My body constantly feels like a panic attack ... how do I ever reverse this? — Hi, all! I really would appreciate some help here. I've had a lot of traumatic things happen in the last few years, and I realized a lot of traumatic things happened in my childhood. There is a lot I'…
My slut shaming parents — A few months ago my parents saw my hickeys. This led to an awful fight in my family because they couldn't handle the thought of their 19 year old daughter having sex with someone. Me being me, I stood…
How to handle this stoically? — Hi everyone. I've been reading books about Stoicism for a couple of years now, plus, more importantly, I've read Marcus, Epictetus, and a decent chunk of Seneca. I feel like I've taken in a fair bit a…
Update after miscarriage and blindside divorce from STBXH — Two months ago my STBX husband (39M) blindsided me (34F) while I was pregnant. I was abroad doing a graduate course when he ended our marriage by text. Three weeks after he dropped me off at the airp…
nmom ruining my pregnancy by bullying my body — went no contact again and she won’t stop blowing up my phone — My whole life my sister and I have been bullied by our mom. When I was anorexic skinny, she’d say I had “no ass” and looked like a stick. Now that I’ve recovered and I’m at a normal, healthy weight (f…
16M mental health declining — I think that really, there are around 4-5 things I can think of that contribute to my mental health declining,mostly rooted in isolation, so this might drone on. Firstly, in the about year & a half i…
My nervous system is ruining my life. — I'm 28. I live in a constant state of fight or flight (and sometimes fawn/freeze). I also carry a large amount of shame, which manifests in different ways. My nervous system is incredibly sensitive a…
My boyfriend (23M) keeps asking me (23F) to change how I dress because of other men, and I don’t know how to handle it. — So me (23F) and my boyfriend (23M) have been together for about two years. When we first met, he actually liked the way I dressed and would compliment me. But once he started taking me more seriously,…
Partner and best friend for 6 years cheated online — It's hard to think how much I still love this girl. We were engaged, relationship started on rocky terms and she was on drugs. Helped her get off them and shared everything I know, we were 4 years apa…
Manifested away a bed bugs situation — Hi everyone. I wanted to share one of my most recent success story. I am young student living by myself. 3 weeks ago, my body started to randomly itch pretty much everywhere. I would scratch my skin …
On incubi and sexual possessions — It’s been five years since I first began sensing invisible entities around me. I underwent psychiatric treatment throughout all that time, and my life eventually stabilized. I finally got a good job a…
Smearing campaign begins. Paints cheating as retaliation — tw: narcissism Backstory: STBXH of 15 years admitted that he did in fact had an affair with my best friend for 1 year at year 5 and lied and gaslit me for 10 more years. Also fucked prostitutes when…
Smearing campaign: cheating was now in retaliation — tw: narcissism Backstory: STBXH of 15 years admitted that he did in fact had an affair with my best friend for 1 year at year 5 and lied and gaslit me for 10 more years. Also had sex with prostitute…
Mist woods from childhood inside a dream — when I was a kid maby 4 or 5 I got a nice red bunker and i loved sleeping in the top bunk it made me feel like I was someone important i have a few weird storys in that bed all very short exept this…
Dream life mist forest help — when I was a kid maby 4 or 5 I got a nice red bunker and i loved sleeping in the top bunk it made me feel like I was someone important i have a few weird storys in that bed all very short exept this…
Does anyone else's nmom lack physical boundaries as well? (TW) — TW- molestation My nmom has no boundaries and is very enmeshed with me, she thankfully isn't very touchy-feely but has had some moments and tendencies which make me feel (kind of) afraid of her in a …
From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned my into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) She works at a shoe store. From whe…
my ex maybe did a number on me — as much as i miss k. she did do things to me that aren't even possible for me to just outright explain, and she took no accountability when she dropped my clothes off, just lured me into a conversatio…
From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned my into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) She works at a shoe store. From whe…
My dad stripped me naked for wetting the bed — idk if this is the right place for this but a lot happened to me as a kid. my father was....mean to say the least. I'm m23 and I can't bring myself to list the things done to me even in a space like t…
From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned me into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) From when I was really small, she’d…
Did my brothers manipulate or abuse me? — In short, my siblings emotionally neglected me while I was in a state of extreme exhaustion for about a year, and they didn't let me stop until six months later. They pushed me until my psyche began t…
Am I (20M) asking for too much from my boyfriend (19M) or is this unhealthy? (4 months dating) — I (20M) have been dating my boyfriend (19M) for 4 months, and we’ve known each other for 6 months total. I’m starting to feel really drained and confused, and I don’t know if I’m expecting too much or…
my self improvement journey — So here is my self improvement so far: In summer 2023 i was a slob, I was mastrubating 4 or 5 times a day, i made very little social interaction and when i did it was annoying, my room was a mess, i w…
How to move forward after a traumatic relationship? — TW: SA, emotional abuse I know this might be a long post, but this has been weighing on my mind for the past year and a half and I just found this community and thought someone may have some advice. …
He threatened to take away my child just because he got mad i’m divorcing him — We’re divorcing over infidelity, double betrayal, going to prostitutes when i was pregnant. And just because he didn’t like my tone in a TEXT MESSAGE where i kindly asked him to think how we’ll split …
let's share our depression hacks that no one ever talks about — 1. depressed in bed: i just switched onto the other side of the bed (head is where feet normally are.)I'm still depressed, but it's a hack and I feel \*different\* at the very least. 2. sit up. I'm no…
Found out the 60+ year old man in my apartment building is a sex offender. — I made a post a week or two ago about weird interactions with my neighbor. Like him commenting on my appearance, watching me for hours sit on my deck, driving up slowly behind me as I’m walking and co…
Do I tell my partner I’m smoking? — My partner (25M) and I (25F)got together 11 years ago and both smoked heavily at the time, 4 years ago he got told he had problems with his heart and if he kept smoking he would die before surgery so …
The difference a year can make. — So I'm very thankful that I'm in a position where I can do some traveling during the divorce process. Thankfully, my business took off essentially after my divorce started. After my wife left me, and…
NC since christmas. got ambushed at easter. abuser parent showed her colors infront of family(socially), first time ever. need emotional support. (struggling to come to terms with MBP,/captivity /starvation abuse and abusers complete refusal to acknowledge) — to preface , id like to say some of my story/past (although, for those of u who are regular here im sure u have seen some of my olde rposts from 2 years ago) the easter incident will be at the bottom…
How do you deal with being the only one who was hurt and knows the truth ? How do you deal with the flock of flying monkeys ? — I'd like to share a story. Unfortunately, I'm still dealing with the narcissistic person and the flying monkeys. I feel like I'm trapped in a spider web and that the pain is going to stick with me for…
Start small (Mine's way too small) — Today's the most productive I have been this week. And I had 3 meals today!! Washed my clothes(left them in the washing machine for 3 hours. I was busyyy and lazy) and studied too(I watched 2 videos n…
My mum used her friends to blackmail me into stripping naked for my schoolmates at 16 (1987) — This happened in 1987 when I was 16 and it still messes with my head. The older I get, the more I realise how deeply messed up and abusive it was. My dad died when I was 7. After that my Mum surround…
What a confusing month. What do I do (long post)? — Hello all. I wish this were a better story to tell, but here we go. Thoughout all this, my girlfiend soon to be ex is living at a bad home place stuck with an ex-best friend gone to no contact. She i…
LEAVE ME ALONE MOM AND DAD — I legit made an account just to rant/vent about this. Okay so my mom makes a big deal out EVERYTHING especially on my studies which is sure I can understand but in VACATION?? I spent my whole school …
Controlling parents — TW maybe abuse warning, SA mention, Self harm, what i consider as animal abuse, more of a vent.. Unfortunately, I'm a 24yr old stuck at her family's home because I can't afford to move out. I've be…
Getting out of this rut. — From 2017 to 2024 I had dealt with serious mental health concerns, tremendous guiltpression and substance abuse. During these times I lost myself. I barely showered and only showered until I was in …
Can anyone else relate to this or know what it might stem from? I have a huge issue with ignoring inconveniences in my life until I'm forced to address them, but not sure if it's due to trauma — Never really thought this was an issue until other people in my life started bringing it up, but as an adult I'm beginning to realize I have a serious problem with either ignoring huge inconveniences …
From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned me into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) From when I was really small, she’d…
Covert destruction of my property — The guy I have been staying with for the last 5 years cuts the threads and puts holes in all of my designer clothing, then says I'm crazy and he's not the one doing it although he's the only one aroun…
I wasnt allowed to have *my own* underwear, up to this day — TW: Childhood obesity, talks about body development, and a bit of weight loss When I was a kid I was obese, my mother force feds everyone, makes you feel bad if you dont finish your plate; and like e…
I cannot wait to move out and cut contact — I can’t wait Hi there, I’m 24F, work full time, saving up to move out. I have already decided contact with both parents will be heavily limited when I leave. \- Disclaimer: I know that I’m 2…
I (M19) talked to some girls yesterday and my brother (15) is jealous despite having a girlfriend. Why? — For context, our parents asked if I could take him to a sporting event since schedules were going to clash and I agreed. We had about two hours of free time before he needed to compete, so I told him…
What happened between me and my therapist? (Erotic transference/countertransference) — I am a 26yo girl, and I am seeing a new therapist after a long psychoanalysis when I was younger. this new therapist (lacanian approach) is a 40 year old male, I respect him very much and I started fe…
I’m struggling with jealousy and insecurity in my relationship because of weight changes, how do I work through this in a healthy way? — About a year and a half ago, both my boyfriend and I started gaining weight. Fast forward to now, and he’s pretty much back to his old physique, maybe even in better shape than before. Meanwhile, I’ve…
Had a really tough 2025 and my exercise routine and diet definitely got impacted. Ended up putting on a lot of weight (around 14lbs) because of this. This week I’ve been back to the gym, back runnin…
Spoke with a guy on Grindr yesterday and we arranged to go for a couple of drinks today and then hook up after. Drinks went well, conversation was easy, I made him laugh a few times. After we’d had …
Yeah, but wanting your partner to dress nicely and wanting your partner to have good hygiene and a clean house isn't exactly apples to apples. One of those feels like a nice-to-have (preference on clo…
Yes! I would ask him what was wrong and he would say “nothing”. But I would keep asking because he was acting cold and distant. It was almost ALWAYS something irrational, so when I would get upset abo…
**Rant and a Warning** If you’re sexually active, make sure to spread out your sexual partners over months and be upfront with your partners about how many people you’re having sex with. My boyfriend…
It's not inferior to any other hobby but i have found gamers to be several undesirable things: bad at convo, avoidant, bad at hygiene, not great at holding down a job, not tidy, not educated, not heal…
That's a way more nuanced take that I can get behind. And personally I have about half those issues - I'm overweight because I struggle with an eating disorder and honesrly don't care that much about …
if you saw that partner change would you ever consider giving them another chance? I am so conflicted right now. Lost the girl I wanted to marry bc I was immature and did not have my priorities straig…
I've never really been to school, and I've struggled to get employed because she keeps sabotaging me by throwing all my clothes out and my stuff in general, which is not illegal in my area. I also hav…
Ah.. I’ve read through some of the comments and like a smelly toy .. the experience came back. I went on a blind-date, set up by a friend who’d been hounding me or their blind-date bothered them f…
My issue is I know if everything is not perfect I am fine who cares. Let Greg suffer he treats my kid well and pays for fun experiences for him. Though if they do have a perfect relationship that mess…
Absolutely. One of my birth mom’s favorite punishments during my formative years was to lock me in my room and only let out to go to church, school, and doctor appointments. Which in normal circumstan…
One time someone left their clothes in the dryer at my apartment building. Instead of texting the community groupchat or just taking them out I spent 4 hours sneaking in and out of the laundry room ch…
Radical acceptance? I have cultivated a sense of style that is very me. I like my hairstyle, I like my clothes. I have a very modest/easily maintained skincare and makeup routine. It will be some p…
Not my memory, but mum said I didn't cry much as a baby. That's scary. I didn't cry much because I obviously learned no one would come... My own memory, all of these happened before I turned five be…
On our anniversary (after taking her out to her favorite restaurant, giving her a very thoughtful and expensive gift) she told me that she’d been seeing someone else and that she would rather be with …
I have a very embarrassing story. One day I had an upset stomach and had to run home to finally use the bathroom. I took off all my clothes, including my underwear, and after everything I went straigh…
My husband is like this. He has an absolutely obsessive need to touch my stuff. Unfortunately, it took me literally losing my shit entirely - I mean a screaming, tears streaming down my face, snot b…
He kept my clothes. I took his prized big screen tv… and my clothes. He forgot I had a key.
Seriously? It’s the opposite for me. I know more ways to have fun now, with or without my clothes on! I don’t go on a date thinking of what it could become. I don’t live my life in the future. If …
I could send my parents a list of what I want for my birthday or Christmas and they wouldn’t get any of it. It’s not about the cost, either. For example, I like to travel and one year I asked for a …
1. Yes, figured it out during my divorce when I started questioning why I let someone else treat me so poorly for so long. I was 35 2. In my 20s I was misdiagnosed as mildly autistic because I had s…
I used to go to DRs inside my dreams whenever I just wanted to do some stuff like arranging furniture and live a simple life, but I also did some weird segues in my dreams whenever I encountered other…
Who’s telling you that it needs to be clean? Is it still the voice of your parents? If you are ok with a little mess let it be. I mean I don’t live in a total mess. But letting my clothes on the floor…
yeah. i'm deaf and i've been trying to escape my mom for years. this time the man i was with stole every penny i had, my mom said i deserved to die at his hand, created a situation that put me right b…
Im constantly told about how terrible of a child I was. I had undiagnosed ASD and would run and strip my clothes at 3/4 years old. No one has forgotten anything I did from prior to 5 years old. It is …
Thank you, I appreciate that. :) Strangely, the only other connection I can't explain was being pushed at another time from behind. I was doing laundry when no one was around, and I fell over the bas…
Yes!!! Exactly. My mum always tried to make me dress like a 40 year old woman omg as Im writing this did she want me to dress like her? Once she made me buy a horrible skirt/jacket for sixth form that…
Omg I realised this! I realised when one of my friends described my style as "mom chic" one day and I was gobsmacked because that's exactly what it was. I thought I was choosing my clothes but it was …
Yup. My mother always bought my clothes bigger than what I needed. She was my biggest bully as a child and body shamed me numerous times. This is something she has done to me even when I'm on a diet, …
My mom would hem my jeans without me asking or wash my clothes and put them in a hot dryer on purpose to shrink them. This was in the 70’s and I was a little chubby and there was no such thing as plus…
Today. I'm 46. I get compliments all the time. Like most men, I could count the number of compliments I received in my life on one hand for the first 36 years or so. Then, I decided to stop trying t…
I have always been fit and thin. My husband and I bonded over our love for the outdoors. We have been together for 20 years. Last year I became very ill with a debilitating autoimmune disease. I was h…
Yes! I’m also 8.5 months PP and I was one of those women that thought ‘oh pregnancy surely won’t affect me too much’. I had lost a lot of weight and had some loose skin and soft fat, so I was sure i w…
Girl I get it, I’m a 34 year old mother of two toddlers working full time. I am exhausted! I’ve also been with my husband for 15 years. To me it seems like it’s a pretty stale time for you guys and …
It'll be easier to figure out what to wear once you know your post-married life style. After divorce you're going through an identity transition. In our long marriages it's easy to get into a routine.…
It's very important that I feel comfortable in my clothes. I wear dresses from time to time, and it's especially nice in the summer. But usually, I wear pants, and I have a favorite pair that are my g…
I have been with my husband for 28 years. He never ever says anything about my clothes ever. I will often ask if he thinks I'm showing too much cleavage, and his answer is always no. Trying to control…
Tell him “I’m not changing the way I dress for you. I dressed this way when you met me and I haven’t changed anything. I like the way I look and I don’t want to alter anything about my style so I’m no…
My Mother was Sexually Abused by her Mother, and in turn I never even learned how to physically care for myself until I was a teenager. My Mom refused to potty train me, teach me how to wipe, teach m…
Yep! i mean they taught me some only so they didn't have to do it but then they did everything for me so they could maintain control and still do, so i have no idea how to use a washing machine. I cou…
If you like the way you dress, stick with it. I’d have a calm and honest conversation with him and say hey, we’ve both stated our stances on this. I am not changing how I dress. Stop bringing this con…
It's BIZARRE. Sounds like she was so weirdly jealous of a child she had to find ways to drag you down, fucking gross I to this day do not understand why Grandma took my clothes from me. She would ta…
One guy looked like "the dude" from Big Lebowski (which was a plus) but just wanted sex meet ups, which I did kind of know in advance, but after hanging out with him decided against (not really for me…
Please don’t. He will continue to get worse and worse. The more you submit to his controlling behavior, the more he will take. The bar will continuously rise and forever be unattainable. Mine is dis…
Hahaha ok this one really hits the spot for my mom. Sorry for the essay but I have a lot of material on this subject. I grew up with a mom who hoarded cats. Now, it wasn't Hoarders TV show level but …
My mom used to say I looked like a prostitute in my clothes and that I couldn't wear them out of the house. Then I would go to work in my uniform and she would go to the bar wearing my "prostitute clo…
You’re manifesting ALL the time, it’s “worked” for you over and over but you’ve probably not noticed. Examples You think of Girl. You think of Girl for a little bit, a few minutes maybe and wonder “…
I experienced that too when I was 12-15. It's after a really inappropriate behavior of her that I finally was sure that's what she'd been on to. It was horrible living with her. I felt like carving my…