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This is a powerhouse chart that is currently "stuck" in a difficult planetary cycle. You have an Aries (Mesha) Ascendant with the 10th and 11th Lord (Saturn) sitting in its own sign in the 11th house …
Sunken Cost Fallacy — Married for almost 27 years. Got married at the ripe age of 19. Funny thing, I thought it was a mistake on my wedding night when he got out of bed to jack off because I was so exhausted from the long …
My mom cheated. She refuses to understand why we are upset at her — # Trigger warning for suicidal content My mom cheated. Looking back, I’m not entirely sure I’m surprised that she did, but I was still so shocked when I got the news. For most of my adult life, my …
My boyfriend (39M) threw his bag at my (33F) face, refused to apologize "because he thought I would block it", then stormed out to leave after I said I just wanted to be alone — Pretty much what the title says. We live separately but visit each other every weekend alternating (about 1.5 hours apart). We've been together 2.5 years. His bag was on the couch with all his clothe…
Update to: How do I (23F) talk to my boyfriend (26M) about how I feel for the third time. — [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/s/fyGljIvnXQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/s/fyGljIvnXQ) here’s the link to my previous post. I posted this back in January I believe and two months h…
How to handle guilt of messing up with partner? — Hello all, this is a burner account (just so you know). But I have recently been told I show co-dependent traits by my therapist. And honestly, it has been really helpful because I’m able to put my fi…
The one time that I noticed a sign and was correct was when they would say that ALL of the people they’ve dated, they just didn’t click with. Just nonchalant, didn’t click with any of them. I just r…
If you had truly followed this sub,studied and read the index, you would have learned to use the search bar to find previous posts concerning a similar topic as well as an assortment of advice on how …
I have more of a list of donts… Reject us only if you mean it, and never pretend in order test us. We’ll fail that test rather epically, and it will go off more like a defcon evacuation drill. Reject…
I think just being honest with yourself about how you feel with your partner is really important, at least speaking from my experience. We dated for 5 months and I just broke it off after a month of r…
I recently moved to a new country for work. I met someone through a dating app who is 8 years older than me. In terms of career, I had just graduated and was at the very beginning of my professional j…
My child, she is soft launching your breakup. You can't undo that, she's already out the door. The best you can do is dump and/or ghost her and take comfort in reclaiming your power in that way.
I agree fully here. Once she mentioned "cold to my kid" I was out the door. Add to that everything else... yes OP I do believe you are ignoring red flags 💔
you are training him to view you as his mother/servant. as someone 13 years older than you and has dealt with the same before, now married to someone else for about 6 years, PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN OR PUT …
Living with someone is not the same thing as being married. It’s not some magic workaround that avoids the risk of separation. If anything, just moving in together without that level of commitment sti…
He pretty clearly has a fucked up relationship with food (gonna guess mommy dearest has something to do with that), and is projecting his fears and insecurities onto you. That’s not fair, and you don’…
He is sliding himself stealthily out the door. Don’t give up your budgies for this bs-er! He is really not showing the desire, fortitude or internal resolution it takes to compromise during rough…
You say you deeply love him but he doesn’t deeply love you. He’s got one foot out the door. Let him go, he is not worth it. Don’t fool your self. Take that apartment and leave with your birds.
Don’t give up your birds you will regret it. I worked in exotic bird stores in Denver CO for about 30 years. I met so many people men and woman that gave up their birds for someone and totally regret …
> he cannot promise the relationship will work long-term Girl, he’s already got one foot out the door. Someone who’s committed and their only problem is the birds would not say something like that.
I think he already has a foot out the door. He wanted the birds and then just decided to get rid of the commitment a pet is - not a good sign, frankly, imo you take care of the things that depend o…
He’s already got one foot out the door. Also is this the kind of person you want in your life? Someone that dumps and runs on helpless pets ?
He just doesn’t want to be with you anymore. The whole “even if you got rid of them” statement. He’s a foot out the door. Move out and take the birds. They sound like an expensive nightmare (we’ve als…
If he is saying he can’t promise the relationship will work out long term, he already has one foot out the door. He doesn’t sound committed. If you were to ask him, “are you sure you want to be with m…
Seriously. Birds aside*, someone who says something like that already has one foot out the door. My guess is he's hoping she chooses the birds so he won't look like the baddie when he bails. *unless …
\> What makes this harder is that he also told me he cannot promise the relationship will work long-term even if I give them up, because we’ve had some conflicts recently and he’s unsure about the fut…
Yeah, and I know 1) it’s a temporary situation and 2) the marriage is really, truly 100% over, but obviously my dates can’t read my mind to know I’m telling the truth. If this does turn out to be de…
If you can't trust him to Be honest and upfront about everything then there is nowhere to go I the relationship except out the door. You have a son to look out for not two sons. Time to hit the do…
Yes something isn’t adding up, but he said her face specifically…. Full Botox, filler, facials, microneedling, lasers, peels, etc, add all of that together and it’s still not 14k out the door. Plus y…
Why do you go? If it was me I’d be out the door. Don’t accept being abused or lied to.
Yeah, it’s kind of a funny thing about relationships where one person is helping the other. The receiving person is very happy to see you there until the problem has been solved. Then suddenly the…
Look man, I make life changing money every day. My wife doesn't wear a 3 carat rock around on her finger. That's ostentatious consumerism for the sake of ego inflation. Even if you could easily aff…
My ex and I were together for 5 and a half years. We talked about marriage, buying a house together, and blending families from our previous marriages. I was her person and her best friend. She went o…
The first time you pulled out "conversation cards" at dinner I'd have been out the door. He is who he is. If you don't like who he is, don't date him. You're not doing him any favors. That said, th…
Oh damn... That's rough. It's like both of you were attached, but she was never fully invested 100%, probably only giving you half of herself. I can't imagine being with someone or loving someone th…
Used to be a fancy black diamondy box whose seams disappeared after closing kinda like the pod Jody Foster used in the movie Contact to travel through the wormhole, but lately I've been playing a lot …
Nah, it’s the petty little bitches who steal their ex’s stuff on the way out the door. Your approach is for petty little bitches looking for a criminal charge.
I don’t care if she begged, I’d be out the door. There is nothing on her phone that is so important that it is worth physical violence. Please choose you OP
You’ve been married for three years and you have a difficult challenge and you are almost ready to separate? Love isn’t just about fun dates and sex. And marriage is going to be different from datin…
If someone's going to sulk and be using porn in my room, he is out the door.
It sounds like your boyfriend has a strong fear of engulfment. It may be more serious with you, as you may actually mean something to him. Allowing someone in, could potentially mean getting hurt. So…
If he’s still worrying about the greenness of the grass at 30, he is ALWAYS going to be wondering if the grass is greener elsewhere and have one foot out the door.
It sounds like he’s got 1 foot out the door.
Harsh but probably true. If I knew for sure, even I would manage to get my sad self out the door. It's just so baffling because in almost every other way, he is very kind, endlessly supportive, ACTUAL…
So I'm going to be so real right now. I say these kinds of similar things to my now boyfriend because I'm not in it for the long run with him. I manipulate him into thinking I am in it for the long ru…
Been there. I had a full on emotional breakdown. She backed away from me when I was begging for her to hold me. She wouldn't because someone has done that to trick her. She still won't discuss wh…
You can talk to her if you want to preserve the close bonds your families have and be able to close things out in a way that you feel isn't just being mean to her or saying bad things about her, but y…
Personally for something on this scale she'd be out the door.
Sounds like you stumbled over some red pilled manosphere weirdo. Good riddance. Everyone's entitled to their preferences. But decent people don't feel the need to tear you down on their way out the d…
What you are is too old to even question this bull shit and caring about what men might think of your appearance! We don't do that in our 30s. In our 30s is when we come into ourselves, accept who we …
Sticking to your status quo will get you either a husband with frustration, anger, and/or hostility or a husband walking out the door. He opened up and voiced his wants and needs while you shot each…
You shouldn’t trust a spouse who would (1) do this at all and (2) volunteered to go knowing that you would be upset. Tell her she is free to do anything she wants and that you have no input on her dec…
When I met my now husband, i I had a 19-year-old who lived with me full time and he had three kids 50/50 ages 8 to 12. I was terrified of that many kids and of “starting over,“ because my daughter was…
I had to go through several bad ones before I got the great one I have now. Make sure to specially seek a **Clinical** Psychologist and preferably one that deals in trauma therapy. You have to go over…
This is bizarre! I guess she was hoping to marry you one day and since that obviously wasn’t happening, she was taking your last name on her way out the door. So very odd!
Preach🫶🏼😂🤦🏽♀️🇨🇭🇨🇦🍁🩷🚩🚩🚩 Plz don’t make more kids,you have two babies already and please tell him that and show him this right here: have you done any or looked at behavioral or psycholo…