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**Please, for your own sanity, read this before you walk down the aisle.** You nailed it. He showed absolutely zero interest or respect for you. I cannot even imagine being in this situation. Aband…
What is your emotional safe space/ coping space? — For me, when I was in shit circumstances or experiencing emotions I couldn't deal with, going online on social media or YouTube, watching TV shows and sometimes playing video games was my form of copi…
Thinking about my ex constantly — ​ I haven't stopped thinking about my ex since we've broken up. I've been with my ex from the end of February to half of August last year. Since then, she's been on my mind almost non-stop. I …
Understanding True Spirituality: Avoiding Illusion — True spirituality does not pull us away from the world—it roots us more deeply within it. In times of uncertainty, what we need is not escape, but a fuller embrace of life with clarity, compassion, an…
We had our games — I bought Arc Raider because of her, i started playing The finals again because of her, Marvel Rivals only with her. Now i cant look at the games, specially Arc Raiders and it sucks because its a great…
i feel like since i started meditating consistently, i can’t handle noises the same way i could — i feel like i have to explain this further. i came here to discuss about it and also because i wonder if others have experienced the same. i started meditating consistently almost a year ago. it chan…
am i a monster — sorry, idk if this is even the right subreddit for this, and i’m super new to reddit to begin with, so i’m honestly just trying to get stuff off my chest. for context, i’m 16F, an only child with REAL…
[48F] Planning a secret exit from my highly volatile partner [56M] of 10 years. Seeking advice on safely executing a remote breakup under the guise of a work trip. — **Background:** I have been with my partner, "P", for 10 years, and the relationship has completely drained me emotionally and financially. P is a severe alcoholic who drinks about a liter of vodka a …
Lightbulb moment this week — I realized this week something big: our lives our not to be ENDURED. For me, growing up with abusive parents that I could not escape, it was all about enduring, navigating, adjusting & developing cop…
>Daydreaming is just like watching a movie, we just live in some place as an escape, but it doesn't change our self-concept nor the beliefs we hold about our 3D. Once we come out of daydreaming, ***th…
FA's can really lean into DA and bail when true intimacy is on the table. Committing to a relationship can really freak them out. ***To an outside observer***, FAs look like they can discard just as e…
That makes a lot of sense. What you’re describing doesn’t mean you don’t have feelings. It sounds like a nervous system shutdown when you’re pushed to go inward. When the body tenses and wants to run,…
Are you me? No but serioiusly its crazy how many parallels we have, emotionally overwhelmed mom, absent dad, also thought I had BPD for so long! And my friends would always say i had such low self est…
Ohh absolutely, writing has always been my favorite way to escape, and I even started a blog with my first post a couple weeks ago now! Once some of the chaos clears and I have some more time, I think…
Usually enabler threats are empty just like narc threats but I feel a sense of vindication for you OP, knowing you can defend yourself. Juxtaposed to the helplessness we felt as children, without a re…
My mum has always maintained “all I care about is my kids, nothing else matters to me”. It’s so bizarre she can’t even reply to my messages asking how she is, to talk to me, and what’s been happenin…
and the education she \*thinks\* she's going to get if she has this baby is, not gonna happen. She's going to be chasing debt and 2 kids while in the kitchen with a shitty husband who won't help. This…
The police will give you a ride to your boyfriends house if theres nobody else who can, they will be in jail so they cant come after you immediatly, and file a restraining order. Dont try to convince…
What you’re experiencing is exactly where that advice usually fails. When the emotion is strong, it is not just “thoughts,” it is a full bodily state, and trying to step back from it often just create…
The title will never be in your name. Abusers do NOT gift their victim with the means-to-escape, sadly. Other advice has been mostly good here (leaving car a few blocks from friend's house, etc.)
Yes, as you said, Im going through something similar, I tried to escape, and that approach wasnt healthy.
Thank you.❤️ It was very confusing, and I truly have no idea how little me managed to cope with it, since my only other supportive/safe adult was my grandma, and we only saw her once a year as she liv…
I recently read about a conservative religious sect in the state I grew up in that has been rocked by hundreds of allegations of abuse. I went to a school run by a sister sect- the system is designed …
I’ve started looking at sunsets recently, as a way to get outside and look at nature, looking at the plants watching the sunset and taking pictures of it is so nice I have problems going outside bec…
Not an energy vampire but 100% an abuser who traumatised you and continues keeping you in a constant fight/flight, so your nervous system never gets a break and because of that your body never feels w…
Congrats on the escape, OP! Also, don’t just get a new phone number, get a whole new phone. If they have the IMEI and they owned the phone, they can and will track it. Get a burner for now and give th…
Oh my gosh, OP. I was legitimately thinking about you over the weekend. I was so stressed wondering if you got out safely. I’m so mad that your friend you were relying on to get you out bailed. I’m al…
It was my mother she tried to gas us in the car, and other stuff. I knew that I had to get away from her. Nobody believed me. Over and over. When I was old enough to escape, I thought that my sibling …
I’m so happy you made it out safely. I’m sorry that they have decided to make such cruel threats to emotionally manipulate you. I’m sure you’re exhausted from the escape, and they‘re obviously throwin…
Are you being aware about what you do and why you do it ? I think you have tendency to avoid things and meditation is an easy escape however if you end up thinking it is the cause of your avoidance th…
I would always recommend using a condom - regardless of how the guy feels with it on. You are risking your health without using one. If someone cant respect that - walk out, and say goodbye. Same goes…
Well, I can only answer from the Bibclical viewpoint I have found helpful. With no offense intended to anyone, stated simply, the scripture says that anyone (any spirit) that denies that Jesus Christ …
I'm also at that area now too at 33, but my hygiene was awful in high school, so I didn't get those compliments at all. The compliments I did get early on in high school was that I was funny, and when…
You say that it is about others, other people, other situations, other energies. That's good to notice, and very good to be able to do what you're doing (leave, know you don't like it, prefer the for…
I so feel that. I use the tapes to escape, not widen the keyhole! But I'm still so grateful for this path
It’s interesting how people who cheat often follow the same script—lack of affection, wanting an escape, feeling lonely or misunderstood, and so on. It usually comes down to a constant need for exter…
> lack of affection, wanting an escape, feeling lonely or misunderstood, and so on. There's a reason for these "justifications". You can't really argue against them. I can't argue I gave them enoug…
It sounds like a hot, predatory mess, but there’s not really anything you can do about it, at least not right now. I’d just keep my eye out. It’s possible one day she’ll realize how messed up the situ…
Because a lot of us have tried that already, and because our parent's gave up on us before even giving us a real chance, it blew up in some of our faces, and now some of us may or may not be living wi…
I am in a similiar situation. Movies/TV used to be my escape, but not able to watch anything at the moment. I am trying to learn a new skill at the moment. Think about what is it you could like for yo…
Yeah, When you finally come to realization with what monsters you are dealing with and that everything that was done to you was with purpose to destroy you, the damage is already enormous. Then when y…
Yeah, I am sure he is. But unfortunately, a lot of stories about infidelity (even on here) involve studf like this. A lot of stories have unresolved trauma involved. (Sexual) abuse, sometimes as a chi…
Yes they definitely can push you and no this is exactly the reason why you should not give up. There is a whole life in front of you and it's absolutely yours to dispose, but YOURS, not hers. Start …
I was once where you are at. I just didn't know what I was dealing with. But I knew I needed out and that college was my ticket to get out. Fortunately, I realized during my first year that my origina…
Because with the current state of the US and this toxic administration people need to find their escape, even if it’s temporary. So I see this adoption of this philosophy something that may be helpfu…
Think about it,he married someone else then "thought" about you on your birthday. He is still trying to have attention from you and his new wife. If I'd married him I would be sickened by his behaviou…
I am going through the same thing right now. I am making some progress, and you will too! It was a long process for me, very similar to grieving. Grieving the image I had of my parents. Grieving the m…
Does anybody else struggle with memory gaps from traumatic events? Personally, I tell the truth to my therapist where I feel safe, but when in the real world I almost convince myself that things didn’…
What you did was cruel, but the fact that you are naming it this clearly matters. A lot of people do harm and spend all their energy protecting the image of themselves instead of facing the pattern. Y…
You are not a loser. Tell that to yourself real quick in every mirror you see. Go lose yourself on a pool table, make some sort of art, go all in on diet and fitness, find something to obsess over and…
I actually still live with my family. As I said, I believed him for 18 years straight, until about six months ago, when I was 17. It’s only in the last six months that I’ve mostly realized something i…
I actually still live with my family. As I said, I believed him for 18 years straight, until about six months ago, when I was 17. It’s only in the last six months that I’ve mostly realized something i…
I'm in a similar situation but older, I have been trying to leave them for 5 years now, when they understood I was ready to be alone they really became vicious in the way they sabotaged me the gloves …
Yeah, I do wonder if it's not just us though. My dad's generation, my uncle and aunts etc, are very materialistic and all about making money. This probably has a lot to do with losing everything durin…
The people in my life tell me that it does, and I believe them. I don't think they would lie to me. A lot of times I don't think it will, but I try to remember that my brain lies to me a lot and tells…
it does matter how you go about it. not everyone is shifting to a fictional reality, and not everyone is micromanaging everything about where they shift to with a script. I do see many people treat it…
I’ve lived in 5 different countries and ended up feeling the same in each place. I’ve worked so hard on myself and that nervous, anxious, disillusioned person I keep running from, that I cannot escape…
OP, I hope all the comments have been eye opening to you. You said you weren't expecting them bc you thougjt what he was saying is true. ITS NOT He is manipulating you and using you. And gaslightin…
**Please, for your own sanity, read this before you walk down the aisle.** You nailed it. He showed absolutely zero interest or respect for you. I cannot even imagine being in this situation. Aband…