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Sidelined by my (F34) fiancé’s (M38) groomswoman (F37)

> *"I thought OP said the family invited her as well to easter though? Are you saying friend should’ve called him out for not bringing OP?"* Yes, in a *healthy* friendship, calling him out for ditchi…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/8/2026
Cooling off or anxious attachment?

You are focused on how you want him to see you but how do you see him. Is he husband material? If he is not putting in the effort and doing things which help you feel loved and nurtured, you may be se…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/2/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 09, 2026

Another psycho I found in OLD yesterday Matched with him Sunday, he asked to chat off the app sent him my number. Immediately got a call from a blocked number. Asked if it was him. He text me the nex…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/9/2026
I (24f) am tired of cooking for my bf (25m)

you are training him to view you as his mother/servant. as someone 13 years older than you and has dealt with the same before, now married to someone else for about 6 years, PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN OR PUT …

r/relationshipscomment3/10/2026
r/relationship_advicecomment3/12/2026
How many of you had suitors before meeting your NPD partner that were actually really nice, attractive, and ready to go all in with you, but you turned them away?

Three other guys… THREE decent suitors when the NPD (he’s NPD ASPD - a malignant or just a psychopath) showed up in my life. I chose him over the others because he checked more boxes I guess?. But als…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/13/2026
6'4" ✅ Jacked ✅ Veteran ✅ CEO ✅ ... Dating Stills Sucks ✅

I play devil advocate. I met Asian guys who settle in marriage and stayed married because I think they felt this is it. Like I knew guys who married their first girl friends or wouldn't leave a toxic…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/15/2026
I (36F) want to eat dinner together every night. Husband (37M) is resisting.

I find guys like this act like the choice of having children is taken on their behalf. He'll passively agree to kids but never actively contribute to child raising as a result as it was something he i…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/17/2026
My husband (34M) told his friends about my miscarriage as a “joke” and now says I’m overreacting (32F)

How your friends reacted when you returned from the kitchen tells me that what he said shocked them as well. Evidently he does this type of thing a lot. My advice: This guy is not father OR husband m…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/20/2026
I (23F) was too nervous to finish a threesome and now my boyfriend (27M) seems to hate me

This guy is not boyfriend material. Manipulative as hell. If he needs a threesome to find out if he wants to marry you, he’s not husband material. Don’t rush into another ill-advised marriage because …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/22/2026
30F My 30M keeps commenting on what I eat with a magnifying glass. How do I go about telling him how this makes me feel?

Get a divorce. He's riding the metabolism of his youth straight into a serious comeuppance in health complications. Also, thin isn't the same as healthy. Healthy is more complicated. This guy is try…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/26/2026
Do men think nipple piercings are trashy? I’m 31 W he is he’s 36 M.

A guy who is husband material will consider who you ARE, not make snap judgements based on aesthetic choices you make, and won't call you trashy or promiscuous or require you to change your body for h…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Do men think nipple piercings are trashy? I’m 31 W he is he’s 36 M.

There are 100% men who are into it, so I absolutely wouldn’t be worried about that. At bare minimum it sounds like a solid hint that there would be many other areas where you would have incompatible…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Do men think nipple piercings are trashy? I’m 31 W he is he’s 36 M.

in this story the issue is the way he approached it. calling it t trashy and you laying "value of a partner" because of it lol. he is definitely not a husband material , way too judgemental and weird.…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Do men think nipple piercings are trashy? I’m 31 W he is he’s 36 M.

>A guy who is husband material will consider ... On the flip side, someone who uses the term "not wife material" when referring to any physical characteristic of their partner is someone who, ironic…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Do men think nipple piercings are trashy? I’m 31 W he is he’s 36 M.

It's trashy imo, especially going into your 30s. I only had a couple of piercings (nose and belly) but I took them out. As far as wife material, you might attract some guys but who knows if they'll b…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Do men think nipple piercings are trashy? I’m 31 W he is he’s 36 M.

HERE HERE!!! My husband would totally dig it if got mine pierced but not my gig. I do want a tat soon and he just shrugs even though he would never get one himself. OP’s ex is not husband material.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
M26 F24 How do I move past my boyfriend ruining sex for me?

You're in a critical period here. You are forming the attitudes that you will have about sex for the rest of your life. You like sex and it has been a positive thing in your life until now, but by all…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
I 20M broke up with my 21F girlfriend after she proposed to open up our relationship and now everyone is telling me to get back with her basically (Update)

The other guy is probably a player and not husband material. This is cake eating. She likely wanted to have fun with the hot bad boy who would laugh at how stupid she and her boyfriend are, while keep…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
Just found out my (26M) fiance cheated on me this past weekend when I (23F) was visiting family in another state. How do I even get past this?

How do you get past this? By being thankful it happened before the wedding. He’s not husband material…at least not at this stage in his life. You deserve someone who will cherish you, and he’s not i…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/7/2026
18F 19M unhealthy no?

Don't get with either of these men. 22 wants pussy and 19 is an asshole. If he's an asshole now he won't be husband material in 5 years either. That's going nowhere and yoy should not make any future…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/7/2026
33M Fiancé (32F) told me she feels regret with me but our wedding is in 2 weeks

And u caved to the pressure. You're not husband material.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/11/2026
Should I get a divorce ?

I have a similar situation kind of, but on the other end. My boyfriend who I’m marrying before he goes into the military wants to be a pilot and I’m terrified for him because i’m worried for his safet…

r/Divorcecomment4/12/2026