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> *"I thought OP said the family invited her as well to easter though? Are you saying friend should’ve called him out for not bringing OP?"* Yes, in a *healthy* friendship, calling him out for ditchi…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

What I'm realizing: I relate closest to others with deep trauma and that is a troublesome recipe. — TW: addiction, suicide, physical and emotional abuse, CSA. I have CPTSD, routine struggles with depression and anxiety and the corresponding executive dysfunction. I grew up with an alcoholic parent…

What is my core wound when I don't worry what others think about me, I'm not afraid of being alone, but still no boundaries with closest people — I want to heal my wounds and spot and correct the false truths that I have about myself and others, but I'm finding it quite difficult. It is because it seems to me that I lack some essential traits o…

feeling numb in dating but longing for intimacy — For the past few years, I've been mostly numb in dating. I don’t really feel anything romantic. I don’t feel sparks. I don’t feel excited about anyone or attached. I don’t miss people when I’m not wit…

a song about longing for something that never was - disorganized attachment style edition — lyrics: Who am I without wanting you? A shadow tracing something true There's a part of me that still holds onto you tight To every place you touched in my life I can't tell where you end, and I b…

Trying to navigate a "casual" relationship — Hi everyone, I (30F, trans) have been talking to/seeing a woman (24F, cis) for about 5 months. The chemistry is legitimately the strongest I’ve ever experienced - emotional, intellectual, creative, s…

Tired of my own inability to connect — I try my best, but even my best really isn’t that much connection. Sometimes I wonder if my childhood and young adult experiences permanently destroyed my ability make attachments at all, let alone h…

Septile vs Novile — Hi friends 🩵 so I've been digging pretty deep into astrology recently, I had been messing around with it lightly for a couple years but now going in headlong. Not to make a career out of it or act li…

I recently found out my close friend slept with my girlfriend while we were together. I'm struggling with how to process it. — I’m a 22-year-old Japanese guy and I recently learned something that completely changed how I see a lot of people in my life. About a year and a half ago I was in a serious relationship. We lived tog…

Coming to terms with possible childhood emotional neglect - curious how others turned out — As I’ve gotten older and started reflecting on my life, I’ve slowly worked backwards and realised that I might have experienced childhood emotional neglect (CEN). What’s funny is that it actually sta…

I have been trying to astral project for 12 years but nothing works — I’ve tried pretty much every method. Even the Monroe tapes didn’t work. Idk why I can’t do it when so many others can. I first learnt about it when I was 15 and I am now 27 years old. I can meditate v…

Hypomania with MDMA and doubts — In December I had an experience with MDMA that made me increasingly happy until, in mid-January, I was told in the emergency room that I was hypomanic. I was prescribed Olanzapine 7.5 And that caused…

THE PHOENIX LIGHTS 29th ANNIVERSARY This is what I saw that night March 13, 1997. It was a totally solid piece of machinery not just lights. I could see the bottom of the UFO clearly by two light sources illuminating the bottom of the craft as it flew over my head — I posted this also in UFO sub. March 13, 1997 I was working in East Mesa, Arizona in a 10 bed Hospice inpatient unit as the Charge RN. We worked 12 hour shifts getting off at 7:30 PM but that night t…

Can you still think of your WS as a ‘good person’? — I was having a random conversation with my WH today about something… and he said, “Well, I’m a good person, so I could never do that…” I was quiet for a beat, but eventually agreed with him… though I…

Manifestation Hack: Choose Your 5 Closest People Wisely.

I almost shifted in CLASS🥀 story time — Now, there were very special conditions that will probably never happen again. We were working on a worksheet all period, and the sub was quiet. No one was talking, absolute silence. I whispered to so…

Found out my husband resents me a lot for my mental illness — Let me start off by admitting I did something wrong. I looked at his Reddit history after seeing his username on his computer. Yes, that was wrong of me. Basically, I found his post on depression\_pa…

I don't know the difference between what's real or not anymore — I don't really know where to start other than this experience was over the weekend, and it made me see things in a different way. On Saturday night, I took a gummy, I dabble in it to help with my anxi…

Caught wife with her best friend (F) — Im looking for advice, just this past weekend I discovered my wife with her best friend. I had previously never had any reason to believe that anything like this would happen and have left her with he…

Mom! There's a Flying Car Outside the Window + And Other DR Memories — https://preview.redd.it/qg8vkwaixvpg1.png?width=1024&format=png&auto=webp&s=ddddae1cd2fa8a918133c6c3655c21cd7e63afd6 https://preview.redd.it/am1xwmqjxvpg1.png?width=680&format=png&auto=webp&s=2814916…

Carl Jung wasn't a psychologist. He was a shaman. — Carl Jung quietly wrote one of the most profound esoteric texts of all time, at least in my own personal opinion. Seven Sermons to the Dead was written in 1916, privately shared between a handful of J…

Aphantasia might be superior — I notice so many people feeling like aphantasia is holding them back, or it’s something that needs to be “fixed”. What if I told you, that you are the closest to the truth with aphantasia, more than…

Am I in a codependent relationship and if so how do I set boundaries/what should I do? — I’m looking for outside perspectives on a close friendship that’s started to affect me emotionally. Over the past year, I became very close with someone. This is the closest I’ve ever been to another…

I (27F) keep getting mocked about my lack of friends by my boyfriend (32M) — To provide context, my boyfriend (32M) has had the same friends since he was in diapers and I love that for him. I’ve had friends in phases as a result of my upbringing. For more information, I grew …

Processing my NDE and the paranormal experiences that followed — I can’t sleep and i’m feeling the need to document a sequence of experiences I had from February 2019 through 2020 that forever changed my life. I’ll try my best to keep each section somewhat brief, b…

Are you easily get upset or resentful — Fine I have expectations from people. But I am expecting what I give. If my friend wants to enjoy his last ride with car and invites me for example, I wouldnt say “its too late,its too far,too much t…

shifting with LOA is intolerable as an autistic person — Autistic shifter here. I've been in the community since 2021, and the closest I ever got was... in 2021. There's been almost nothing after that, and it gets worse as time goes on. I believe it's becau…

The Most Shifting Symptoms I've ever felt listening to a guided meditation — I'm actually pretty excited to talk about this because I've literally Felt things I'VE NEVER EVER FELT BEFORE IN MY 20 YEARS LIVING!!! I've got into shifting and started actually trying it a lot mor…

April 2026 Astrology: Key Dates, Weekly Forecast and Mundane Astrology World Events — April is one of the most active months we’ve seen. Not one planet is in retrograde. Aries fire and cardinal energy sets the stage for initiation, assertion and spontaneous energy. There is a bit of na…

My horrible mushroom trip by Jimmy Burnt — It all started during an environmental school excusion/protest. I had packed my lunch that day, drank my water, dressed well and expected nothing to happen. To preface I live in Sydney and lived aro…

Me (F19) and my (ex?)boyfriend (M20) are on a break/broken up and I’m unsure how to regulate my emotions — We have been together for around a year. We have always been very intense, honest, and serious about eachother. We are also both very intertwined with each other’s families, and overall everybody on b…

Trying to help friend who can’t stop drinking and can’t get past MH issues — Hello, so my best friend has had serious mental health issues that have led her to having serious physical health issues in her life and idk where to even start… She has messed up her liver and pancr…

Not sure how to make friends after my mom destroyed any attempts I made growing up — I just remembered this as I woke up and checked my phone and there were no messages or anything. My mom was completely emotionally immature and unavailable and I turned to boys for attention. This got…

Lucid dreaming vs astral projection - is there actually a difference? — Hi, What do you think the difference is between lucid dreaming and astral projection? I’ve been looking for an answer to this for years, and I’ve heard many different ones, but none of them felt tru…

Thinking about my ex constantly — ​ I haven't stopped thinking about my ex since we've broken up. I've been with my ex from the end of February to half of August last year. Since then, she's been on my mind almost non-stop. I …

How do I stop oversharing and being talkative — Hey guys, I really need help. I’m a little bad organizing this into words, so please bear with me. For a little background info, I had a bit of a strict upbringing (and its made me isolated for my pee…

I ignored my self-critic for a full week and boy was it exhausting — A week ago I decided that since behavioural activation therapy, CBT, other therapies, and trying to find ways to be productive or find meaning with others or by myself, and even low pressure advice we…

800-1000ug+ FIRST acid trip complete ego loss most terrifying thing ive ever had — Before I get into this, I want to make something clear right away. I am not encouraging anyone to do this, and I am definitely not presenting this as some cool or impressive story. This was not enjoya…

Day 5 — Been 5 days now since we broke up. 5 days after 5 years, ironic isn’t it? Today was a good day tho, the best day I’ve had so far. Went to class this morning, then got back and actually ate some food b…

Should I (31/F) confess to a close friend (36/M)? — I have a friend I’ve known for three years. We became close at work because we both love eating good food, especially when we’re stressed. When we were working in the same company, it was usually just…

Please help me - Highschool senior rant — This is my first time posting in here, so sorry if the tag is wrong or if this is overly long or something. I also aren't very good at putting my thoughts into words, so I don't think this will even b…

i can’t keep pretending i have this under control — Found another empty bottle tucked behind the radiator while I was looking for my phone charger. It’s pathetic. I tell myself I’m "functioning" because I still make it to my client calls, but my hands …

I mini shifted!!! (I think lol) — So I’ve been in the shifting community for a few years now (I’ve taken a few breaks here and there so I don’t get burnt out). In the past I’ve gotten very very close to shifting, many times when I’ve…

Bless Another—Bless Yourself — Hi everyone, So today I'd like to talk about a nice situation I manifested for someone else. **Context** For a long time, my mom's husband has tried to build his own business and also to purchase o…

Losing friends after doing the work in therapy — In the last few years I've lost five of my closest friends. I found out, from having therapy, that my unhealed self had unknowingly befriended very co-dependent people who wanted access and control ra…

My ex (40M) is dating my closest friend (38F) and I (39F) don’t know how to handle it — I ‘39F’ have been in a high-conflict separation for almost 4 years from my STBX ‘40M’. The 16 year marriage involved emotional, physical, and sexual abuse, along with substance issues. Post-separation…

25M, Ex-situationship keeps breaking no contact, advice needed — Hi I’m 25M, Bi and live in London, UK. I met “Tony” (same age and also Bi - might I add we’re both discreet/DL) in 2022 via Snapchat (lol). This “situationship” (I don’t even know if I can call it t…

Advice for OBE — Ive been doing the tapes for around 6 months and am currently on wave 6 up to focus 21 but never OBE’d fully so I’d like advice for them. The things I’ve tried for OBE’s are this: As I was starting I…

Husband choosing affair partner, we have two kids - how does anyone survive this???? — Ten months ago I found out that my husband of 13 years was in a long-term, physical and emotional affair with one of my closest friends. I spent the past ten months trying to save my marriage and my f…

What happens to you when you're dreaming and you become aware that you're in a dream?? — I'm asking this because personally it doesn't matter what was happening before I realize I'm awake I just start screaming and crying and I scream "I need to wake up!" and I bang my head against whatev…

Lucid dreaming will not affect your quality of sleep. The only time it is possible is in REM sleep, where your brain is already closest to waking state. You won’t be any less rested by practicing luci…

I've been in therapy for over a year for various reasons, and for me the first thing I needed to work on was my self image. Understanding and accepting myself, building confidence and a stronger sense…

I'm a dismissive avoidant for sure. I've been in therapy for like a year I guess and my therapist is really the only person I have any sort of emotional connection with. It's honestly weird but it tot…

Hey, love the initiative! I work with a lot of entrepreneurs (I help ADHD founders scale their businesses) and having an accountability partner is genuinely one of the most underrated success hacks. …

Thank you for your kind, comprehensive comment. I don't know, I feel I'm in such an odd place. I am legitimately intelligent, extremely emotionally open, & reflective. But, I just cannot get close to…

Thanks for that insight! >he would ask me “how are you doing?” In the morning. I didn’t know why at the time, but that question used to really annoy me. I can resonate with this. While usually I app…

You are so correct. After dealing with anxiety/panic for 25 years the shocking thing I find that I have to tackle above all else is the behavior of my family and friends toward me and the fact that …

I'm anxiously attached to a friend of mine who broke up with her longtime partner 4 months ago. I made the mistake of telling her 2 months ago that I have feelings for her. I'm not sure now if I reall…

Why is he arguing against it? Maybe I'm misunderstanding something, but isn't all of this basically what moonbeam says over here? [How Our Thoughts Create Our Physical Reality](https://www.reddit.com/…

Hey everyone, I’d love some outside perspective. I have been seeing this guy for a while. We’re close, he’s said I’m the person he feels closest to, and we stay in touch every day through TikToks, sm…

Hi, (18M) sorry for the long story: For context, my girlfriend and I have been dating for around 7 months now. Her and I both have avoidant tendencies but she talked to me about my avoidant tendencies…

My partner and I had a disagreement about living arrangements. They feel ready to decide to move in together when my lease ends in 6-ish months while I am still not sure I’ll be ready. We didn’t have …

Yes, and I think I am able to feel that capacity because the relations are uncomplicated. They don't expect anything from me, so I don't get into situations where I feel pressured to give something I …

Avoidants typically harshly assert distance when their subconscious feelings are coming the closest to being exposed though. They will also often keep people they have genuine feelings for in their or…

Do you have any insight into why you might have said those things to those you were actually closest to?

I'm not so sure I do say them to the ones I'm actually closest to -- more ones I want to be close to. So it might be different from your friend? But I think it's a way for me to verbally assume and / …

I was hoping someone would say this, actually. He thinks he’s secure and tried to convince me of it. I agree, which is why I ended it. But this was still the closest to a healthy relationship I’ve e…

It’s entirely reasonable to cry in front people you care about. What I like to do is ask my siblings (people who I’m closest to the most) if they have capacity to listen to me. When they do I let it o…

Late to the convo here but this is a very grounding post to read. I believe I’m securely attached with anxious tendencies and found myself exploring a connection recently with someone who based on the…

He said he needed space for his life to change. I accepted this and was happy because I assumed it was going to be a few months. Nope, it was about all of a week. I feel frustrated because I've litera…

>However, Day T evening he texts he's going to go "vent" to someone he had a slight romantic spark (no relationship) with in the past and is one of his strongest/closest support systems where he lives…

My partner and I do not cohabitate and don't plan to. The closest I think we would get is sharing a duplex. We love each other very much and love spending time together, but we both very much value ou…

Bravo! I'm at the last stages of the divorce from my DA wife. I said this exact thing to her, among many other things, to which she said her usual - nothing. She believes that hyper-individualism …

I’m aro/ace + dismissive avoidant 🙃 I’ve never had a romantic relationship and I’m 19. Even friendships feel like they’re too much sometimes. I’ve pulled away and made my fair share of enemies- of …

My friend is eloping then throwing a big Italian, family-style dinner for her closest friends and family! She gave me a plus-one, but my response to that was, "Haha, good one," so I'm sitting with her…

Perks of being in a big city. My closest rink is... three subwaay stops away.

welp I lived with my best friend after uni and yep, ruined our relationship. on the flip side, I moved in with two strangers two years ago and one of them has become one of my closest friends now, so …

Not awkward.  I'll date any race and have done so in the past. The men who go for me the most tend to be White, South Asian, and Black (in that order). I'm also open to any religion. I'll love whoeve…

The last time that I saw my ex boyfriend I became well aware of it being the last time of ever seeing him, touching him, smelling him. Hearing him. It was what he wanted. He wanted no contact. This w…

For politics I'd recommend putting whatever is closest to what you'll tell someone when they inevitably ask. If you'll start by explaining you're very apolitical, then put not political. That way you'…

I'm 32/F, one of those people who is super independent to a fault and rarely asks for help. Over the years I've had many friendships and men who were interested in me, but I tended to just friendzone …

Let alone going to one and deciding the whole concept is bunk! The first public book club I went to at like 24 was basically all retirees. The discussion didn't hit for me so I didn't go back. The sec…

I absolutely love arcades and a barcade is a dream date for me. I am sad the closest barcade closed. But a Dave and Busters is opening soon. Not exactly the same (too generic for me). But an option. …

How financially enmeshed? I still talk with exes from time to time and I don’t see anything wrong with it. If their mom or dad were also kind I don’t see the harm in a chat. I don’t know, for me it’s …

At one point do you start to question your friendships and if they really matter? Like if they’re really your friend? I’ve known my roommates since high school, and at one point I start to ask mysel…

The closest equivalent I can think of is if a woman followed a lot of accounts that spent a lot of time trashing men.

Yep. This person feels like the closest in terms of compatibility so far and I'm trying to focus on the positive things I'm learning.

Not sure if avoidant attachment generally extends towards avoidance of *tasks* and other responsibilities and such, but I’ve been dealing with avoidance in a lot of different places in my life. Work, …

Sending good luck your way too x Oh and I forgot to say the thing I meant to. I tell my closest friends to feel free to set me up. About 75% of the time I’m not into them or they’re not into me, but h…

Think it's a combination of both. I definitely do have undiagnosed mental health issues which may contribute heavily to my inability to connect with people and a preference for my own company. I can…

Meditation is supposed to teach you to see all life as a meditation. Sometimes swimming, running and cycling are the closest people get to the zen state

Yeah. Running is the closest thing I have to a sitting practice that actually works for me. Something about the rhythm of it, breathing locked to stride, nothing to solve, just forward. My mind gets l…

I expect (or hope) for an end of suffering at the end of whatever this life here is. I have several reasons for wanting this, with severe chronic pain and illness for which there is no treatment or cu…

Ah that would work quite nicely, then! But yes, if the closest verbal confirmation you have is “kinda”, maybe asking to chat is a good idea. (fwiw I’m one of the yap ear off enthusiasts, and I’m not s…

Oof. I'm so sorry :( And the current relationship you describe is why people were hopping all over OP's post.  If your gut is telling you this at the 1 year mark, it sounds like you know what you …

I’ve befriended the women closest to him that he's in contact with. I laid everything out on the table... luckily, they believed me and they still do. We talk often and always discuss what's going on.…

There is Swedish document about guy called Felix Åkerman (i don't think you can find it translated anywhere) He started to get weird messages arond 2015, first compliments and then threats and accusat…

I am someone who's faith is very important to me but I do not believe in "forced forgiveness". I pastor i respect tried to explain it as "keeping the bitterness" out of myself. For me, remembering my …

My husband was kind of similar and yeah, he says it was just different when we met. He just felt like it was easier to be his most natural self with me, I can't say why. I was 38F, he was 37, when we …

she'll reach out to check in somehow at some point. my guy, literally do nothing and focus on staying and keeping yourself in motion. my domestic ex of 3 years didn't reach out until a year later. i j…