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I was first going to say it was probably somewhere in the middle. Your husband's being an mild dick, but so are you. You need to work on your own trauma recovery. But then I read the end of your post.…
A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse. We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon. W…
Research -- What makes you hire a copywriter? — Hey everyone, I'm doing some market research and would really appreciate any input you have. Also, this isn't a promo post or anything of the sort, just me diving into the market. First off, a bit ab…
Can AI content make your site disappear from Google Discover? — Hello! For the past six months, I've been using AI to help me create blog content, but in a smart way: I write what I want part by part, add context, rewrite some sections, etc. Our rankings remain so…
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
Is 6-8 years of career enough to start a business on? — I notice a many industry wide consultants are in the field for 20+ years before providing advice and their services for companies. While im not wanting to become a consultant, I’m wondering if someon…
What do I do with an empty property? — A little background on me first. I’m a dentist, I already own my own practice which I’m not looking to relocate. Next to my practice my there is a 2800 square foot property with a small garden at th…
What made you hate component libraries? — Component libraries make life a lot easier, cause I don't need to spend 6 hours trying to figure out why my dropdown menu won't align to the middle by 3 and half pixels. However, as time goes on you …
Row Level Security Postgres/ Supabase — Currently building a web application with a node.js backend/api and react/spa front end. I'm using supabase/ postgres as my database. Currently I'm using the service key supabase provides in my backen…
How can wireframes help streamline my website redesign? — I run a small online boutique that sells handmade home decor, and I’m in the middle of redesigning my website. I want to make sure the user experience is smooth and that the structure supports an easy…
After raising for 7 startups, my pitch decks have fallen into three categories (I will not promote) — Over the years, I've raised funding for 7 startups. I've also raised for startup funds and stare at a hundred pitch decks a month. Based on the patterns, I've realized my pitch decks have fallen into …
I am having a fork in the road — Hi all, I need help determining what to do I am in the middle of picking between two paths, and I have a meeting today option 1: do a start up cleaning company using college students at my unive…
Small business idea for neighborhood store — Hi everyone, I'm based in europe, greece and I’m looking for feedback on starting a small, neighborhood-oriented business that I can run mostly on my own. Here’s what I have: A 110 sq.m. ground-flo…
Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…
Manifestation coach hired me and fucked me over — Hi everyone, this is my first post here and I’m writing because I’ve exhausted every other option. And I am FUCKING DONE WITH IT. I hope some of you will see this and help me to hold that person accou…
Self-soothe tips during ruptures? — I am the anxious partner, and my husband is the avoidant partner. He is also an addict, which has been traumatic in our relationship and in my trust in him. He is currently sober and working recovery.…
Working on becoming secure has made me more susceptible to toxic relationships — I think. Here's the thing, I'm fearful avoidant, and before I was aware of attachment styles at all the moment a person I was interested in made me feel at all rejected in the slightest (took too lo…
Why do I get upset when bad stuff happens to my partner and it doesn't even impact me? — I'm struggling to understand my pretty intense reactions to certain things. I don't know if attachment theory can help explain this part of my brain. For context: Me (38 F) and partner (44 M) have b…
I’m in the middle of these two (anxious vs secure indicators in early dating) — • I do the fast texting (could be due to my ADD though), but I can give space for days if needed. • I’ve become better at not spiraling. • I can handle changed plans. • I still want to put a label on…
Update: Self-help group for anxious attachment — Thank you to everyone who responded to my [**prior post**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AnxiousAttachment/comments/1plm1g1/selfhelp_group_for_anxious_attachment/) re starting a self-help group. (Yes, The…
A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…
I finally realized my fear of closeness is really a fear of being known — I've been working to understand myself better as a DA, in part with the help of Reddit. I now feel the last puzzle pieces fell into place and I finally have a coherent story of why I am the way I am. …
Took the stock advice and joined social activities to meet people. Here are my results. — I (37M) decided to conduct an experiment and went out to the types of boilerplate events/gatherings/functions people suggest. Book clubs, sports, volunteering, etc. I joined a public book club throug…
Feeling “off” after trust rupture — attachment system or intuition? — I have been dating my current partner for about a year now. Long post incoming. I’m posting because I’m noticing a significant avoidant shift in myself and I need perspective specifically on my own at…
I’m 20 and my mom still asks for my phone and laptop every night or there's consequences — I'm 20 (F) and turning 21 in a few months. My mom recently started asking me to surrender my laptop and phone again. "Again" because she did this to me as well when I was 13-18 years old. Before, she…
My boyfriend and I had an argument over his marriage demands, and now he claims he means none of it... — Tl:dr: My boyfriend of two years has a list of requirements from me after we get married, and after our argument over it, which lead us to break up-- he said he didn't mean any of it and wants to go …
DDay - 2/19/2026 - Online Emotional Affair Led to Full Blown Infidelity — I found out my wife was going on “solo” concert trips, but was also using them as a way to vacation with a guy she had been talking to online for years. Seventeen years together and seven years marri…
I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…
42M. Do these things basically disqualify me entirely? — I'm 42, Male, home owner almost half way paying off the mortgage, university post-graduate education, full time job in retail middle management that I actually enjoy doing, a bunch of mostly solitary …
Honestly? I enjoy lucid nightmares. — Is anybody else like this? We've all had out fair share of absurd random chaotic dreams, but I actually prefer nightmares to those. While I'm having them, they suck, but when I wake up I love thinking…
Broke up with DA after a year. — Met her a year ago, almost to the day. Things started well, relatively slowly which was nice for a change compared to other situations I have been in around that time. After two months, we became offi…
A Positive Dream, For Once — I'm usually among those who dream of apocalyptic events, like nukes, the world blowing up while im in space, etc., but last night i had a better dream for once. I found myself in the middle of a war…
I was able to communicate with someone….. — I don’t know if this the correct sub… let me know I’ll explain my situation hoping some one can orient me : A few days ago, I had a weird dream/astral projection experience—I don’t even know how to …
When did you finally realise, your life would never be ‘normal’? — I am 47M I grew up in an EXTREMELY dysfunctional household, with every type of abuse you can imagine, and death of a parent at 12. I’ve had to fend for myself since that age, whilst being used and a…
I found 2 tricks to help focusing on my breath. Beginner + Adhd here. — H56, overstimulated by screen (shows, movies, youtube podcast, chess online), stimulants (amphets like), and since my childhood, overthinking (the worst addiction ever). Sorry my English is not perf…
How to survive transit Uranus Square natal Sun? — Everything's been super intense for me lately. My old career blowing up. Sudden extreme desire to break free and do something different. Identity crisis. Tons of stress and anxiety. Like a very intens…
My (28F) boyfriend (26M) has recently got back into religion and it’s affecting our relationship. — I’ve listened/watched so many Reddit podcasts, but this the first time posting. This a weird situation and I have no one to talk to about this, I’m left feeling quite numb about everything. My boyfri…
Tips for attracting left-leaning men? — The men who engage with me online the most and who don’t ghost and aren’t flaky end up revealing themselves as conservative eventually. I am ok with someone who’s middle of the road maybe but I’ve com…
Does anyone else just not tell their mother anything — I have too much trauma to write here but in short I stopped telling my mum anything from about the age of 16 (now 31) because I learnt the hard way that anytime I was brave enough to share my true tho…
muslim girl trynna move out without family knowing — hi guys, i’m not gonna talk too much and ill try to make this as concise as possible. im 23 and i’ve been wanting to move out since my mom decided my big brother could become a father figure and tha…
UPDATE: My (32f) fiancé (28m) repeatedly does not clean the house — Hello lovely reddit. First relevant links. My first post I deleted (so you can peruse the comments if you are interested): [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/18yjl0g/my\_32f\_fianc%C3%…
Knowing the exact time when waking up - psychic or circadian? — Recently again I keep waking up at VERY different times every single day (anywhere from the range of 7am to 11am - UPDATE: actually 3-11am as covered later in the post) and as I'm laying there in tha…
The Revision method works! Trust me, it does! — I have read a ton of books and watched numerous manifestation YouTube channels. Most of their teachings are based on Neville Goddard's teachings. And gotta say, that going back to read his words just …
THE PHOENIX LIGHTS 29th ANNIVERSARY This is what I saw that night March 13, 1997. It was a totally solid piece of machinery not just lights. I could see the bottom of the UFO clearly by two light sources illuminating the bottom of the craft as it flew over my head — I posted this also in UFO sub. March 13, 1997 I was working in East Mesa, Arizona in a 10 bed Hospice inpatient unit as the Charge RN. We worked 12 hour shifts getting off at 7:30 PM but that night t…
My cop husband cheated and now I can't trust him when he leaves for night shift. — My husband became a cop in 2024 and our entire relationship changed. We've been together since 2019 and we have three kids. Before this, I truly believed he was loyal and strong. He always told me he…
Heart Chakra opened, and I feel very very calm — Last night I laid down to meditate. After a while, my thoughts began to drift away again. They felt strangely random almost like they didn’t belong to me. I saw a woman and her child. She looked noth…
Succes? — I am shaking while currently writing this basically in the middle of the night I woke up and I thought why not astral project I tried it didn’t work and I fell back asleep later on I woke up again and…
Should I help repay my sister’s debt to protect my parents? — I’m 31F. My sister is 29F and lives in Canada. We come from a lower middle-class Indian family that has mostly lived paycheck to paycheck. My sister always dreamed of studying abroad. She completed …
Idealization vs Devaluation: how it looked like for me — Tldr: Just read the Idealization and devaluation parts. ## Idealization * You're a king! * You sexy tiger, handsome god of a man * You're the best! * Gives gifts early on in the relationship * On…
Some men have questionable hygiene and it has made dating even more challenging than it already is. — Dating is already challenging enough. I (43F) am completely exhausted from conversations about hygiene before a date - because I don’t want something like hygiene to prevent us from getting to know o…
This will definitely help. I'd recommend the FILD method, it's pretty much the first (relatively) consistent method I've tried. Just remember that you can only do this after either waking up at a cert…
Just wanted to say that my first lucid dream was successful with the "piano key" method. I forget the actual terminology but basically you wake up in the middle of your sleep (3-5 hours) and you're no…
I had a really concerning dream just now and fear of my boyfriend didn't wake me up something bad was going to happen to me.. It started off in a house I've never seen before the kitchen was upstairs…
*Can i lucid dream* *Without waking up in the* *Middle of the night* \- complex\_blacksmith94 --- ^(I detect haikus. And sometimes, successfully.) ^[Learn more about me.](https://www.…
I’ve had this pulling sensation happen to me before. It feels really scary tbh. So scary that you feel yourself gripping your bed so “it doesn’t take you.” “It” being this invisible force trying to li…
Both of these also happens to me. Sometimes if I wake up in the middle of the night and I want to come back to the dream I was having, I give myself a quick suggestion to go back where I left and it h…
I think I'm in the middle of a spiritual awakening.hightened sences.. intuition spot on.lucid dreaming..can't wait to see what happens next
I’ve felt like a whiny little wimp for getting PTSD from something that I saw as not a true threat to life. I so relate. This kind of things happens through out my life till middle school. I always …
Let me tell you about the first experience I had with the LOB. Back then I only knew about Neville and read a few lectures here and there. In my 2nd year of University, in one of my exams, I did not …
i am a 51yo married man and educated with a professional degree but stuck in middle management which is fine. I have become more or less an alcoholic in some respects because i love sleeping and my…
“Would you be ok if we slow our cadence down a bit? I like to have some time between our dates and texting interactions, so I can settle into my feelings and intentions.” Or something like that… If t…
I think your question is valid. You showed vulnerability by posting it here. I’m sorry so many adults in this sub choose to use their inside voice when responding. I think it would be different if we …
Oh, this is a cool topic, there is nothing cooler than the fucking time that is chasing us. I was just in the middle of my first mission related to a new job. At that time I was already quite burnt…
My lil cousin(20F) was having relationship issues- she is an avoidant and he is an anxious. I pointed this pattern out and she said, "My therapist said the same, does having this attachment mean I'll …
Heed your username and grow the fuck up. This is middle school logic.
Im sorry, but 80GB ingest/month is not medium company. 80GB/hour may be middle sized company. You are really looking for small scale/homelab sized solution. Worst part of grafana stack is loki. If yo…
Not a good metric. It's used by middle managers to justify their existence (my opinion), as it's as useful as counting github commit lines. Or bugs found and squashed. Additional process limits pro…
The ostensible answer is to just go back in time to before docker --- create VM images, run them in something like proxmox, and configure with something like Ansible on startup. At some point you'r…
I have found reddit to be possibly the worst place to ask these questions. You pretty much always get the same answer. regardless, someone always says " vending machines" and " pressure washing" Th…
All the middle managers where I'm at love Backstage. The devs range from disinterested to liking it. Devops ... aren't fans, lol.
Upper middle class in the US aren't even making that money at their prime. I either am living under a rock or your friends are full of shit and you are somewhat naive. Not enough information. Your fri…
There is a lot of middle ground before you hire an employee. You could contract out for a personal assistant. They work for themselves and usually have several clients. You could contract with an over…
Secure here. I still do learn and learn to accept that a lot of people cant express themself and selfreflect. Long distance friend of mine and, probably DA, got into arguments with me via whatsapp. …
At first I didn't understand why the moderators were so strict, now I do. There are enough examples on this subreddit, even of beginners who get their shit answering every question. I'm in the middle …
Back in the day, the village was your middleman
So instead of replying individually and repeating myself, I'm just going to make a comment addressing it all. Firstly, it was interesting to read all these perspectives. I see where some of its comin…
Thanks. Even if Im anxious or fearful, I usually bring up pretty quickly what bothers me because I hate mis understanding and I also hate to think badly of my partner. This way I am vulnerable even in…
Before I say anything else, I want to say that there's no excuse for abuse, including emotional abuse. Ever. I'm sorry to hear you've experienced that. I also don't think an anxious person should sac…
So the solution to "jumping to conclusion" is not "giving the benefit of a doubt": it's learning to investigate with kindness and with non-violence communication. From a neuroscience perspective, you …
Yes I understand, but sometimes this need to step away happens in the middle of a date or some kind of quality time, so it feels weird and rejecting to ask for space during those moments. I also don…
My fa ex posted this as WhatsApp status for me after 3 months I didn’t reply I know an apology won't change anything, but I still carry the weight of my mistakes every single day. I lost someone who g…
Agree with most everyone else who has commented here. I don't know that the act of giving 3-4 weeks of space is either secure or AA. Instead, I'd look at the motivation behind it and what the space fe…
I am in the middle of a pretty un-fun cycle that is causing a ton of friction/pain/overwhelm in my current relationship, despite knowing for sure that we both love each other with such a great depth. …
*Hm, but I thought FA would distance when they feel too much of closeness?* It's like this. FAs will distance but then softly test for intimacy. They aren't afraid of being too close; they're afraid …
If you can have a neutral conversation about texting. Hey I'm just curious what your texting style is? My BF for example is not a texter; that's not just with me that's with everyone. He replies whe…
A re-framing that has been helpful for me: reminding myself that I’m not daydreaming about how this other person makes me feel, I’m daydreaming about how I make MYSELF feel. There is nobody here but m…
I think my boyfriend (33M) and I (30F) might break up and I can’t tell if it’s my fault. This might be a long story so I’m sorry in advance. My boyfriend and I usually text most of the day, every day…
He was amazing, thoughtful, and genuine… until he vanished (I think?). Help me stay zen while I wait. --- So… I (35F) matched with this guy (43M) mid-July, and honestly, he’s been kind of wonderful.…
It’s kind of normal to go through this with a lot of mental health treatments. People finally understand themselves and others better, there’s new skills to implement, but the outcomes initially swin…
this is the pendulum swing most people don’t talk about you go from hyper-vigilant to hyper-permissive, thinking that’s growth. it’s not. it’s overcorrecting. healing isn’t about overriding your inst…
This is such an honest and important realization... and honestly, something a lot of people don’t talk about enough when it comes to healing attachment wounds. When you start working on yourself, espe…
I’m kind of embarrassed to admit this, but after many years of cbt therapy that didn’t help, lots of journals that had prompts and other attempts, I use copilot (chat gpt) I say “ act like you are a J…
I have this thought spiral frequently. I am also very susceptible to gaslighting so after my last relationship, I had no ability to trust my own thoughts. I am still dealing with this but something th…
I'm not a texter, and I keep my phone on silent if I'm not expecting a call or in the middle of a text conversation. I reply to messages when I see them, it might be within minutes or a few hours if I…
I don't think you got it "completely wrong"! These are venn diagrams and trends in messy human behavior, not clean engineering categories. There's no ERD for attachment. You're doing a great job learn…
New friends & hobbies is my therapist’s request and I am in the middle of a plan to do that. It’s incredibly hard for me to put myself out around people I don’t know but I will try.
I have upcoming first dates with new women, but I plan on being steady and consistent for her until I find someone else or she does. I think this is the middle ground.
I have these random moments where all my feelings come to surface almost all at once which push me to want to break no contact. I feel the same regret and anxiety when there’s silence even after tryin…
I've wondered occasionally if FA was a kind of BPD-lite situation and DA was NPD-lite. It's like they're on the same spectrum just more towards the middle. The reasons: \- BPD people are responding t…
I am AA, he is displaying avoidant behaviours. I don't want to speculate on his attachment style, I can only work off of what he says and does. The honeymoon phase was fast and intense, and it ended …