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I'm the same way. I was a teenager when the book about highly sensitive people first came out and I'd checked it out from the library. You don't want to know what nmom said when she saw me reading it.…
My mother won't stop grabbing my crotch — Not sure exactly how to flair this. Marked it NSFW just in case. Sorry if that's not right. I'm a 22y/o living between my divorced parents (don't have the means to get out on my own right now). Thing…
I (21M) have survived two decades of severe physical, emotional, and financial abuse from my Indian parents. I'm finally exhausted and need to tell my story. I am not free yet. — # TL;DR: I'm a 20-year-old only child in India who has endured severe physical, verbal, emotional, and financial abuse from my parents since toddlerhood. They have beaten me, medically neglected me, …
Im so scared of the future coming. The world looks so bleek — Im so scared of the future coming. The world looks so bleek. Im crying. I can't handle it. I feel like the world is gonna collapse before I even get a chance to finish my 20's. I had dreams and goals.…
It’s okay to walk away from someone you do not vibe with — I feel like so many times I have invested time in people i wasn’t compatible with because I didn’t want to be “ too picky”, but I’m 44 now and I have learned a lot. 1. You will never change a person a…
Realizing there is caretaker codependency happening in my relationship — My own journey with codependency has been a lot. My previous relationships were abusive. I’ve been in intense talk and EMDR therapy for a very long time and made lots of progress, but it feels as thou…
Therapist gets frustrated when i freeze. Am I in the wrong? — Hey all I'm working with my third therapist and have been seeing her weekly for about 5 months. Largely it has been very insightful. She is jungian so we have been working a lot with dreams, which h…
The deep scars of emotional neglect. — I am the 4th, and youngest child of an emotionally unstable, single mother. Growing up with her was hell. You never knew what you were going to get. One day she would be distant and completely unrespo…
I’m so tired of feeling guilty — I’m tired of being the villain all the time. How is it they can belittle me, speak to and treat me like crap, make fun of my interests and then tell me I’m too sensitive, yet when I give them any of i…
Help.. — Is it panic attack ? Help... Hello, please help me. I don’t know if this is a panic attack. I didn’t sleep all night and was talking. Then I decided to go to sleep around 6 AM. I started feeling unwe…
HELP ME UNDERSTAND — Hi everyone, I've been reading a lot about the subject and i'm also in therapy since 3 months. I'm already non in the relationship with this woman but i sort of need to make clarity and hear other…
I think there is such a thing as too sensitive — In trying to heal from my break up I have been reading a lot and watching a lot of videos and I have seen a lot of advice about validating your partners feelings and not saying they're being too se…
Therapist keeps minimizing my situation? (CBT) — I need outside perspective because I genuinely don’t know if I’m being too sensitive or if this is actually not great. Whenever I talk about how overwhelmed I’ve been the past few years, especially wi…
Realizing at 57 that I’ve been the family scapegoat my entire life — Hey everyone, I’m 57 years old, and I only recently learned there’s actually a name for the role I’ve lived in my entire life—the family scapegoat. For most of my life, I believed I was just too sen…
Realizing at 57 that I’ve been the family scapegoat my entire life — Hey everyone, I’m 57 years old, and I only recently learned there’s actually a name for the role I’ve lived in my entire life—the family scapegoat. For most of my life, I believed I was just too sen…
i am weak minded — my mom just called me weak minded and too sensitive and emotional for coming to her about my concerns and stuff she does that affects my mental health. I also told her that she was not my slave and sh…
i’m weak minded — my mom just called me weak minded and too sensitive and emotional for coming to her about my concerns and stuff she does that affects my mental health. I also told her that she was not my slave and sh…
dad said the worst thing ever to me. — *“I did choose to have a child, but not you in particular. You're just the sperm that won the race. However, I did choose mother in particular, and I will defend her against anyone, my family, strange…
Maybe I’m just too sensitive — I was always told I took things too personally and was too sensitive as a kid. I could not take criticism (even constructive) and got easily hurt by what others said or did. maybe that’s why I’m like …
Breakup tears me apart — Due to my (F29) fear of abandonment I became ill with burnout/dysregulated nervous system 2,5 years ago, which meant I couldn't work, couldn't play sports, couldn't see my friends and family and was c…
Totally wrecked after breakup — Due to my (F29) fear of abandonment I became ill with burnout/dysregulated nervous system 2,5 years ago, which meant I couldn't work, couldn't play sports, couldn't see my friends and family and was c…
am i a monster — sorry, idk if this is even the right subreddit for this, and i’m super new to reddit to begin with, so i’m honestly just trying to get stuff off my chest. for context, i’m 16F, an only child with REAL…
I (19F) hate playing games with my bf (21M) — We recently started playing it takes two which i heard tests many relationships and i feel as if mine is being tested too lol… we play a few chapters each day and every time we play it, it ends up wit…
Major Blow-Up on Easter — I have a relationship with my parents, for context. Lately, I would say things with my mom have become more strained because I’ve been in therapy and the position to push back and set boundaries, whic…
My Fiancé (M36) thinks im overreacting (f26) — I’ve been angry with my fiancé for the past two days after something that happened at a pub. We were with some of his friends who turned out to be extremely homophobic (I didn’t know beforehand that t…
Living with all the things he can’t remember — I saw a post about a guy getting kicked out of a comedy show for making sexist/homophobic comments and his date leaving with him. And all I could think was: Oh shit. I used to be that date. We (30F…
14 year old russian yay — hello! I'm 14, live in Russia (i hate it here honestly) Im also gay, which only makes the matters worse. so... My dad is an alcohol addict my whole life, also, my mom told me he started drinki…
My Mom Kept Killing Our Pets — I always thought that animals had very short life spans. Through my childhood, we had adopted and buried at least 7 cats, 5 dogs, 2 rabbits, and 3 hamsters , not to mention a myriad of wild animals li…
Why do narcissistic parents think time passing = an apology? — This is something I’ve dealt with from my parents. Whenever I tell them how they have hurt me they say “you still are holding onto things from that long ago?, stop holding grudges.” Or they tell me I’…
I (36/M) am feeling newly disconnected from my partner (35/F) because she works too much, is this normal? — Hey all, I'm 36 and my partner (35) and I have been together almost a year. I'm beginning to feel disconnected from her and I think part of the problem is that she overworks herself. She works fr…
I [30F] and my boyfriend [30M] are struggling with recurring drawn-out arguments and communication issues — My boyfriend and I have been together for about 5 years, and the last 2 years have had a lot more ups and downs. I care about him, and we’ve built a life together that I really value: we have a home i…
Looking for advice regarding my marriage — Firstly, thank you to anyone who takes the time to answer this. Long story short, my husband and I have been married almost one year and I’ve recently found out he cheated \*\*very\*\* early in our …
Break-upable? — My birthday and my person takes me out for dinner. I realize after a minute or two it's a "singing servers" type restaurant. I am painfully shy and introverted. As we're checking in with the host,…
Distraught after feedback from my dad — I've been working really hard recently (and generally in the last few years) trying to improve my resume and career prospects but the job market and AI have been extremely demoralising. It feels like …
I feel like I’m back to being a child — I have memories of my (42F) putting me (29F) down as a child and telling me ‘I’m too sensitive’ when I would get upset. I felt like an inconvenience, and I don’t have much in the way of fond memories…
am I difficult or is everyone terrible? Therapy, trauma and trusting — The way people talk about therapy and therpists feel so different to my reality that I feel silly, like I can't trust myself, like i'm overreacting... Is this overreacting? Am I giving up too easily? …
Need Help Sharing my Story — Hello. I am going to be sharing my story to other athletes at my colleges club for mental health in athletes. I have been asked to speak about my experience having been in an abusive relationship, and…
I want to learn how to cope and accept everything in order to be functional — I know I'm catastrophizing. I know I'm so young (17) and I know I have so much ahead of me but at the same time these feelings are all I am right now and they consume me sometimes. It gets so bad some…
Strict Parents — My parents aren't normally too strict, they don't let me do whatever I want but they aren't very controlling. But recently my mum has been really strict about certain things, it's not even things like…
Making sense of a past relationship, still dealing with the aftermath — I (F30) am trying to make sense of a past relationship with my ex that lasted a year (M30), because even 7 months later I still feel really stuck, angry, and unable to move on. I keep replaying everyt…
1 Year NC -Still Confused — I still feel extremely confused and like I haven’t really made any progress in understanding or healing etc. I still feel personally guilty a lot of the time. I’m still very confused about if my mum…
My (22F) roommate (23F) won't apply feedback that me and my other roommate(22F) apply to her. — Hello! This is a throw away mainly to vent and maybe get a few second opinions about this? I'll be using fake names for privacy reasons. let me give a small backstory for context. I (22F) moved to t…
I’ve always been a year younger than my actual age — Hello, I’m not really sure where to write this, or if it’s weird or awkward, but I need to get it off my chest somewhere! Basically, I’ve always been a very sensitive person—someone who overthinks t…
I feel so disrespected over the littlest things and I have nobody to vent to — I (28f) was raised really Mormon and honestly never felt close with your parents because they used religion as a cop-out for parenting, as well as a lot of very strict expectations. it's been really R…
Seeking a reality check and validation on a “Trauma bond” and how I was treated — This is my first Reddit post so bare with me. Also pre-warning, some notes of DV And Emotional Abuse. I’m posting this because I need an unbiased reality check. I asked an AI to help me organize myse…
I (27F) feel like my boyfriend (33M) constantly monitors and criticises how I spend my time — I’ve been feeling increasingly on edge in my relationship and I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or if this is something I should take more seriously. I feel like my boyfriend is always watching or com…
2 Months after I broke up with my abusive Ex. — I'll give a bit of context before I get into how my recovery has gone so far. I (19M) met my now ex (21F) at university through a club that I am an exec in and that she was at the time a member of. w…
How to act around emotionally abusive parents? — Yesterday I got into a big lesson, from my kind brother, that I should be more patient with my mom, and while she may argue and have mood swings with us and whatnot, that we should still be kind since…
My mother (56F) berates me (24F) for going low contact — \[context is a little long, sorry\] I'm a daughter of a vulnerable narcissistic mother and a grandiose narcissistic father who was also diagnosed with BD. My father became physically abusive in the p…
Hey, thanks for sharing your story and I am sorry to hear what happened to you, it sounds pretty hurtful. Yes totally agree, as anxious we tend to overlook or blame ourselves for our date or partner s…
I’m also new to attachment theory after a therapist pointed out that I have some avoidant tendencies from my childhood. I got different results when I took tests too! I’ve noticed that when I was in…
Plus, it depends on the person. I have dated people who had secure attachment that were still very clingy and needy, or a little too sensitive for my taste. Someone being secure in their attachment do…
I hear you with trauma. Im too sensitive when it comes to going to these singles events and finding someone that piques your interest and when you get their details and text them and they ghost you, i…
His hearing was too sensitive.
They "corrected" my reality all the time. It was the main way they tried to make me lose my grip on reality. For just about everything, I was reacting wrong, misunderstanding, being too sensitive, rem…
I am currently going through a break up and we are still living together while this is happening and we sort things out, split up things etc. I am not coping too well with that situation. To make it w…
There's nothing wrong with you. Don't listen to a bunch of randos online who enjoy telling people they're the AH. People are way too sensitive and triggered. If you feel guilty, that just means you'r…
I completely agree that this was a completely inappropriate decision for the office/therapist to make. I’m also saying that it’s undeserving to label a therapist as “too sensitive and unprofessional” …
Omg I remember being told I was too sensitive whenever I complained to my mom that she and my sister were beating me or that they were hurting my feelings by making fun of me. It took me so many years…
Looking at both charts together — yours (Virgo lagna) and his (Scorpio lagna) — the friction you're describing makes complete sense. **His anger and language** — his ascendant lord Mars sits in Gemin…
When they say something hurtful to you and then claim it was a harmless remark or joke and you are overreacting or cant take a joke. Telling someone they are tired is a normal harmless remark. Tel…
"You're too sensitive." "It's just happened." "I don't remember." "It's was basically just interactive porn." "If you had just (insert bullshit blame shifting here)..."
They insult you and when you object they say you are too sensitive.
yup. i remember being super little and my mom taking off at a sprint in grocery stores or other unfamiliar places while declaring over her shoulder "I'M GONNA LEAVE YOU!" another one of her favorite g…
Yeah I think so too. People always say ”just talk to them”, when I'm upset at someone, but that doesn’t always help. It can often make things worse. I've always been very outspoken and stood up for my…
I struggle with hard conversations too, but have done a lot of work to grow in this area. A tip: Have the conversation, sitting on the couch toward him with a hand on his leg - this immediately set…
He knows exactly what he's doing. He knows it would hurt his feelings if you gave him "compliments" with a sting. He's negging you, hoping to lower your self-esteem and have you questioning your self-…
Yes emotional peace and my own closure I know he can’t give me closure I’ve accepted this part, i don’t want to be with him. I’m just wondering how I can close the loop of rumination abt it. I’m in …
I'm trying to think of any similar scenario where my husband would talk about me or something that hurt me this way, and honestly, he simply would never. My husband would never sacrifice me for a laug…
It’s survivable if you either ignore it or talk it through. Doesn’t sound like he currently wants to though - that could be for a lot of reasons. I don’t know your husband, the knee jerk reaction is …
"Just a joke" is the rallying cry of every bully on the planet. And blaming their victim for being "too sensitive" or "taking it wrong/it's just a joke" is their way of shifting guilt. Your husband is…
For the second time I had someone who matched with me on hinge and planned a date in the near future update their profile before our date. The first one updated his pics between our first and second…
My dad made my mom the butt of his jokes for almost 50 years. She was in tears many nights. He always came back with “You’re too sensitive” or “you can’t take a joke” He was never the punchline.
I would hope your counsellor would be able to guide you if you felt able to show what you have written in this post but it would depend on how well they are informed on narcissism and trauma. Your m…
I don't want to have a discussion about transphobia with you because I highly suspect it won't go anywhere. What I will say: no matter if you understand/agree that the joke is transphobic or not, you …
This is sexual assault. You are not being too sensitive, I am so sorry.
Do we have the same dad?? I literally get told that the reason I get made fun of all the time is bc of my reaction. But like why would you expect a child to take being the butt of jokes all the time i…
Oh, no, please don't worry. I didn't feel pressured at all, really. On the contrary, I meant it when I said I appreciate your comment. Thank you so much, for taking the time to say all this. I mean, I…
Original copy of post by u/Baseball_bossman: I feel like so many times I have invested time in people i wasn’t compatible with because I didn’t want to be “ too picky”, but I’m 44 now and I have lear…
It’s also okay to walk away from someone you DO vibe with, if they put all that “you’re too sensitive, it’s your issue” stuff on you and deflect everything. That type of challenge will drag you down, …
Trigger warning, violence. I was emotionally abused by an older brother. When we moved away from the family and got on with our lives, I assumed that he had reformed, chalking it up to being a childh…
“You’re too sensitive” “I don’t remember that” “That never happened”
“YOU’RE TOO SENSITIVE!!”
I feel like something similar happened to me to an extent. Obviously I was molested but it was also "no harm intended" type sexualisation from my mum for example, who would slap my ass and tell me I h…
"You're so/too sensitive" usually after grabbing my ass and getting her hand swatted away by me. I'm sure y'all have heard it for different reasons. "If you hurt yourself doing something stupid, I wi…
You’re too sensitive
Hey, you're the schoolmarm that's too sensitive to live in communities without wanting to ban stuff.
I had a really rough week at work. Meanwhile the man I've been seeing for the last 3 months was abroad on a trip. He's coming home tonight (Friday) and I leave Sunday night for a 5-day vacation with f…
Amen. Someone telling you you’re too sensitive is a major red flag.
Yes, I’m 1.5 gen. Personally I find it liberating to be able to consume culture/media from two of the world’s biggest GDPs, as well as being able to mingle in both 1st gen and 2nd gen social circles. …
Sadly, we see threads in this subreddit all the time that go “my white husband’s family always make racist jokes and comments at me and he tells me I’m being too sensitive and won’t tell them to stop.…
yeah this is the part that really gets me too. I can’t handle how many times I’ve tried to talk to a counsellor/therapist to be mostly just given a sigh and an eye roll and a “get over it, you’re not …
Aww social anxiety doesn’t exist nobody cares what you do it’s all your brain again. Also, it’s the DM bro dw you’re safe but it’s alright if you don’t want to. I’m just too sensitive for the fellow h…
I’m 25 next month and finally realized last year that my mom is narcissistic, and potentially my dad. Spent years gaslighting myself into believing that being emotionally abused was normal and that I …
It's a *paid* internship, yes? Tell your parents that this summer's internship can turn into next year's full-time job. That you working at the restaurant this summer is *not* on the table. That you a…
My dad tickling us (2 daughters between 5-13 years old) until we peed ourselves even though we were begging him to stop « we were having too much fun » « and it wasn’t the end of the world, we were ju…
He gets offended over the smallest thing. I’m constantly filtering my words and tone. Yet he is always mocking me, poking at me, etc and tells me I’m too sensitive and can’t take a joke when I tell hi…
I’m so sorry. I hate that there’s even this pull to mention that you’re aware you need therapy like, as if you’re already bracing for people to harshly tell you that in response :( and I completely un…
Totally have. He minimized anything I said by telling me I’m too sensitive and “it’s not a big deal.” They don’t give a shit about feedback from those that really know them.