too needy

This is a very good point. People should be entitled to how they wake up — & that is going to be different for each person in many couples. Personally, I experienced this most mornings with my ex-h…

How Many Times Can You Break Up Before It Sticks? — I’m having a really hard time getting over my ex, and I don’t know how to move on. We met 4 years ago and dated for about a year. The relationship ended largely because of me—I’m bipolar, but at the …

He contacted me 2 years later — 2 years ago, my ex boyfriend broke up with me for the second time. To say that I was devastated was an understatement. I had a lot of trouble eating and cried every day for 6+ months. About 4 months a…

He contacted me 2 years later — 2 years ago, my ex boyfriend broke up with me for the second time. To say that I was devastated was an understatement. I had a lot of trouble eating and cried every day for 6+ months. About 4 months a…

How can I feel fulfilled in my relationship? — I am a 40-year-old woman who was married for 15 years before separating five years ago. Since then, I have been with my current boyfriend, who is 44, and we have been together for four years. I love h…

I (36/M) am feeling newly disconnected from my partner (35/F) because she works too much, is this normal? — Hey all, I'm 36 and my partner (35) and I have been together almost a year. I'm beginning to feel disconnected from her and I think part of the problem is that she overworks herself. She works fr…

I feel this! The stakes are higher when I truly love/like someone (idk about you OP but for me this even extends to platonic friendships/ coworker relationships) and so my fear of messing up and pushi…

When I was younger I was anxious. In my late 20's I started self-help and working on boundary control, which fixed a lot of that and left me more secure. Committing to a career and conducting myself a…

>The excuse would sound something like "You're too needy," or "You're too insecure," or "You're trying to control me," which causes the partner to start doubting their own very reasonable boundaries a…

You attract them because they confirm in you something you’re unintentionally looking for - that you have to work for love. And you confirm in them that they aren’t too needy, it’s you and everyone el…

>And you confirm in them that they aren’t too needy, it’s you and everyone else. I am not sure what this means (probably because I am not a native English speaker). Could you please explain?

Same boat as you are. But i doubt if it’s entirely me. I keep thinking wont they have done something to have triggered it too. How can someone tell if its entirely my fault? I got called out by being …

Ok, given the further context, you’ve tried directly communicating to them, that didn’t work and they’re constantly seeking reassurance from you, I’m not sure what else you can do but to distance your…

Am I (26M) being triggered by my anxious attachment with this guy I'm seeing (25M)? Hi everyone, I (26M) am struggling to separate reality from past trauma (a toxic avoidant ex) and need a rational a…

I’m new here… wanted to ask some advice. I’ve been dating a man for a year and he is also my coworker. We had kind of a bumpy road, and have even broken up twice in Aug and then September but came bac…

Interesting timing,I have gotten in conflict with my partner about this. We have been seeing each other for a year now. On most weekdays, because we live half an hour apart ,we chat on the phone al…

Bravo! I'm at the last stages of the divorce from my DA wife. I said this exact thing to her, among many other things, to which she said her usual - nothing. She believes that hyper-individualism …

I think a quick cut off like that is either something about your behavior was unattractive, just in different places in life, or maybe she met someone else. Unfortunately it’s just how things go som…

Anxious preoccupied attachers like to do that to avoid being seen as too needy and unlovable. In my marriage, there was a point where my wife blamed me for expressing my relationship expectations and…

I think this post is true, especially if you have a pattern of getting into these sorts of relationships. But if you're in your first go-around with an avoidant, I feel like it can be so easy to ratio…

" I do not have the capacity to prioritize a relationship..." why are you in one then? really unfair to the other person. you're saying the quiet part out loud, don't blame the other person for being…

Original copy of post by u/KaleidoscopeNext1466: I am a 40-year-old woman who was married for 15 years before separating five years ago. Since then, I have been with my current boyfriend, who is 44, …

Honestly, for me it’s been too needy. Until I’ve gotten to know someone, I can’t text with them all day long or for hours. I do text daily and multiple times a day, but I had one man say I didn’t put …

I feel this too, even after therapy, and so much work trying to not be too honest, not too available, not too needy, but not too distant, pay attention to what they like, keep track and remember well …

Was coming here to say this exactly! And shes gaslighting him making this about Ex? Shes been outa the picture for years? And now the wife is moving goal post that, he just does not understand her! Ne…

What you shared is so real. ❤️🫂 I feel the reassurance needing part. It makes relationships so hard! Especially feeling like we will always be "too needy" for a relationship. What’s been the hardest…

Yes dogs are too needy and I’m not a lovable person all the time. I would rather have a cat cuz they’re not as needy. It sucks that everyone thinks we should break up over this especially considering …

I still struggle with everything u listed at 30's. Reminding myself everyday that I'm enough and not to look at myself through my mom's eyes is difficult, but I'm determined in winning the war. Be …