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You are NOT a predator for talking to your partner about your sex life. While you are not to blame, yes you did set the standard by "not caring" in the beginning. However, it's never too late. He …
Can someone tell me how to shift??? (Successfully shifters only pls) — No methods. No LOA. no assume you’re in your dr bs. Tell me HOW. how does it work??? How to get from point A (laying in bed) to point B (in my dr). Six years of trying every single method, every sin…
My (29F) brother (34M) asked me if he ‘still has a sister’ because I’m not excited enough about his baby. How do I fix this? — My (29F) brother (34M) and his girlfriend (31F) are expecting a baby in May. I’m happy for them because I know they really wanted a kid, but I don’t feel particularly excited about becoming an aunt. W…
Unexpected gift of healing — The unexpected and awesome gift of healing from codependency (or rather the trauma that underpins it) is the gift of time. I have so much more time for myself now when I: * don’t get involved in th…
The only thing you'll ever need to manifest ANYTHING. — *And it's so clearly is the internalisation of the idea — "being good with it and without it".* *I'd Like to quote Nero Knowledge here who perfectly describes what manifestation truly is, "Manifestat…
6 months. — It’s been 6 months since the discard and me initiating no contact. I’m doing so much better now, a lot happier, progressing in my life with goals I’ve wanted to achieve and I’m no longer heartbroken. …
What is the difference between being too clingy/attached and being neglected? — Theres no doubt I have a codependent relationship with my best friend (scrolling through the top posts of this sub did it) and it caused her to want a second break from me. I really want to change for…
I (20M) haven't slept in my own bed in almost 2 months because of my (19F) girlfriend — We have been together for almost 3 years and both go to the same college. We live in dorms on opposite sides of campus. Lately I feel like I don’t have any time to myself anymore. If we’re both free, …
They started to be so healthy it was almost unhealthy? — In no way am I trying to put trying to better your health in a bad light. But in my story, healthcare in general played a weird part. She was always more focused on her health than me, but in the las…
I wish someone would have warned me — I guess this could be tagged as progress, not really sure though… I’ve got a longer follow-up coming, but the TLDR is that I’ve suspected for months about my wife stepping out, but really confirmed i…
Breakup with fearful avoidant — So I just want to tell my story of how the breakup is and how I assume that the person who broke up with me is fearful avoidant after analysing what happened and what was going on. I want to get some …
My story, just have a need to vent somewhere — 25 years old desperately trying to finish his uni to maybe finally have some independence, crying in the bathroom stall at the internship again. I guess I'll just put my story here to cope. Througho…
The wound reopens everytime I see them. — My ex broke up with me a month ago after a long term relationship and got with the guy they told me not to worry about just a week ago. Their friend group began treating me weird after the breakup and…
I can't stop thinking about what I did to deserve this. I've been cheated on so many times in my life. What's wrong with me??? — (I changed some details and names for privacy reasons,) My ex-fiancé and I were together for just over three and a half years. We got together in 2020 when I was 19 and he was 20. I’m 25 now, a trans…
Y’all were right about manifesting… — Y’all were right about not caring about the 3d. Y’all were right about persisting. Y’all were right about the importance of self concept. After so long, I finally got my manifestation. When I menta…
What Detachment Really Means… — I still see many people worried about detachment and not caring and how that affects manifestations. It’s not that you don’t care or don’t desire, it’s that it’s so engrained into you that you no lon…
My husband is horribly addicted to video games — My husband 26m and I 25f we been married for one year in the early stages of the relationship he was very depressed and used games as a way of cope and he used to ignore me and prioritize games we tal…
Rekindling Relationships — Partner of loving four years called and wanted to go on a break/breakup very recently over distance, and needed space to find ourselves again. My mental health was at its worst this year, and did weig…
Back to square one in an obsessive loop — Currently on day 11 of a 3 year breakup I am deciding to use this account as tracking, as venting, and maybe a place to seek advice from the few kind people that reply. I want to be completely ho…
How do i(30M) deal with my partner(29F) running away when we argue? — I want to make this short and sweet but there’s some background. We’ve known each other for over a decade and have been sort of off and on mostly flirting and all that though nothing physical ever hap…
How do you move on when you gave everything ? — For some added context I (25F) and my ex (25M) were together for about 4 years. We were long distance because he was still studying, but we did visits often and would have been able to finally move in…
Help in what to do about boyfriend’s brother? — Hi guys so my bf (21M) and I (20F) have been together for just her a year. And living together for 11 months. Last week Monday I made a mistake and I realized that as soon as I did it but I left, I m…
Am I wrong for wanting to leave my parents house? — I need an unbiased and outsiders point of view. I've been working on creating a plan for independent living with an organization because I'm really beginning to reach my limit. I'm stressed all the t…
How to break things off with a significant other? ‘F 21’ and ‘F 23’ — (Fake name Lana) This all started about 11 weeks ago, so a little less than 3 months ago. It started wonderfully, both of us getting and giving flowers, going out on little dates, not caring whether t…
i know where i need to improve and i know how to get there, but i just don’t start and i don’t know why — as the title says. i went through a lot and hit rock bottom at some point a few years ago. i climbed out of it, and i’m a pretty positive person now and i can’t deny that i improved a lot since then a…
Had to get involved with Title IX this week, my parents don’t care — It actually makes me mad bc no one in my family is concerned. My friends have shown a lot of concern, and my professors/ school obviously bc I feel like a guy is stalking me. Basically had to speak wi…
My short break up story — so I'm going to leave out a lot of details except that we're from ATX . So when I met this woman she had just got out of a relationship , she had put this guy in prison. We had a on and off again re…
Does your n parent(s) dominate the dinner conversation every day — Throughout my whole childhood and honestly still to this day, the dinner table conversations would always be centered on what my mom wanted to talk about. If we start talking about smth she doesn’t li…
did i block memories of csa or not as a 7 years old? — hi,so before i start,i'm a 17 years old girl,and i'm going to discuss topics that include sexual behaviors at childhood that were harmful i think,and other things. so when i was 4,i remember waking …
How do you deal with still leaving an abuser who has changed? — I am still living with my older sister \[24F\] who was abusive to me all of my life. She would purposely put me down, scream at me, gaslight me and victimize herself among other things. In her adult l…
Be Doers Of The Word and Not Hearers Only — # (I'm long-winded by nature so LONG post ahead!) Hello beautiful people, I felt called to write this post because my life seems to have done a 180º flip overnight. For context I've been applying N…
I wish i could react and care more — For starters, i like to think of myself as empathetic or sympathetic (i forgot the difference, and I'm typing this post out in distress so im too lazy to search), but i also like... dont gaf??? (btw i…
My Gf (30f) mom doesn't like me (30m), how do I approach this ? — Hello, I’ve been with my girlfriend for over a year now, and I’ve met her mom maybe 3–4 times. Whenever we see each other, she’s all smiles, but apparently she’s not so nice about me when I’m not arou…
It feels like a child is clinging to me and then getting angry with me if I try to have a life or any interests outside of them. It starts with needling comments from them, passive aggression, accusat…
i think you're getting triggered by these times when your primary attachment figure is hurt/not caring for themselves more for a couple reasons. for 1, it is genuinely concerning, and can be a red fl…
Have you tried surrendering, being, focusing on your self-concept and personal vibration alone? Have you experimented with extreme gratitude? Have you tried not caring so much? Have you tried not tryi…
Oh man I have felt this exact same way. The thing that helped me the most in the early dating stages was to be clear about my wants/boundaries and consciously keep myself out of the loop of imagining …
Why stay in contact with someone you’re not with romantically? I know it sounds good to be friends on paper but aftercare isn’t his responsibility and could be traumatic to both of you. Did you not…
Men, what would you reply if you were texting for around 2 weeks with a woman on a dating app, then she went missing, then she sent you a text apologizing for disappearing and saying she started seein…
It really depends on personal preference as everyone will see it differently. I know for myself, I sorta like the sweater and sweat pants look but that’s just me haha. I myself am in my Adam Sandler e…
With my last date that ended last week, I realized that I don’t think that I want to chase that high again. It felt so good to just take things chill with her, with honest discussions, and not caring …
Thank you so much for the reply, and I apologize that mine is so late! This is very insightful, and it resonated a lot with me. I don’t think this is related to attachment theory, but I really strug…
But then he deletes the texts afterwards? Nah. If he ain’t too concerned with this, then he is guilty of something - not caring about his wife’s mental health at the very least.
Yeah, that’s what I’m saying! To me it is clear as day that it’s him, But him not caring the distress she’s going through (if on the incredibly small chance it’s not him..which it is..) is just wild.
I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. If you communicate, and communicate, eventually, you are going to no longer care enough to communicate. You need to tell her this softly, and gently. Tell her …
Hold up a second. You're thinking of this in the wrong way because of the guilt and shame you feel. But look at the matter factually. For your entire relationship, you were the emotional pillar. You w…
Was your sister subjected to similar abuse or were you singled out by your parents? It could be that she’s had such a different experience with them that she’s not seeing your very valid feelings of n…
YES. ALWAYS. Work on the not caring part, and you'll get it. The tricky part for me is that i get it always when I don't want it anymore. So a nice exercise is to tell myself the reasons why I dont wa…
Girl. No. If he shows you who he is believe him. He wanted the pets and is now not caring for them, they were his idea in the first place, he is a grown ass adult who apparently couldnt be bothered to…
Same, I carried my academic success only until the end of high school and I crashed because I took a gap year and realized I actually do not want to be a STEM major in any capacity, I am not built for…
I think both of you guys lied, you lied about 'not caring about porn' and he probably sensed that you actually care and to try and impress you he lied about it. I think you guys need to be honest abou…
I thinking I'm in the minority of understanding how u feel when you're single there are things you miss when being in a relationship and vice versa. But that doesn't mean you dont appreciate what you …
He’s not caring for you or your child, why are you caring for him? He is prioritizing himself and you should do the same.
We do not “make others do things” such as laugh or cry. This therapist likely shed tears for reasons all their own. I am of the belief that if a therapist is having “heated discussions / disagreements…
I agree and media expectations, more glamorised violence & drugs in films, drugs /addictions issues, less help in community, systems that don’t care, less investment into & society & what people actua…
I went from thinking I was useless and not caring about myself to being genuinely proud of myself. I’m really proud that I survived what I did and I didn’t become a bad person to others in the process…
There is clearly a difference between how each of you respond in certain situations and it seems like you expect him to respond the same way you do. I get it because, in your mind, it makes sense to s…
Yeah, they would do this too and I remember not caring I was alone because I hated being around them so much.
The absolute joke of it all is that he was nowhere near the male-equivalent of what he wanted me to be! Hot and sexy? He was morbidly obese. Smart? He had a GED, which I forced him to get when we …
So then don't call her until you've decompressed. It sounds like you really don't care about what she has to say. She's literally just trying to share her life with you. You finish telling her about y…
I am going to avoid the word abuse. But still speak to what this is not. It is not kind. It is not healthy. It is not supportive. It is not loving. It is not caring. It is not respe…
While people might disagree, my personal experience has been the same. It’s been a few months and I still wonder how the person in front of me could become so nonchalant. How could the same guy who sh…
I have to ask, what do you actually want? You have communicated with him and he is not only receptive to changes (doesn't argue back) but also adaptable (he made the changes). That's a green flag, …
Please confide in a trusted teacher if you have one. Tell them what has been happening at home. Do you have any family nearby you can trust? Your dad? If not go to the police on your own and report t…
Except for a select few, men make me so nervous. Now that I know abuse by them, coworkers, boyfriends, parents friends, uncles...only twice was it a stranger and those instances were "mild" compared t…
He is not a great dad. He is not caring for the child you are currently growing for your family. He is not a great dad. A great dad cleans the home. A great dad appreciates his wife. A great dad picks…
Yup, this sounds like my dad. Whenever I would try to have a conversation with him, he’d just snap, “Get to the point, will ya?“ And any enthusiasm would be gone. Sometimes when I’d walk away he’d tel…
That's not what Stoicism is. It's about focusing on the things you can control, and then caring about those things only. The thing you can control is your attitude. Also, this isn't a solution or com…
I have asked her if she could just get any part time job just to have some sort of income for years now. But she see's that as me not caring about her feelings.
Friend, your girlfriend is not caring or understanding. You shared something vulnerable with her and she’s showing you exactly what her true colors are. Please cut your losses with her and find somebo…
I have finally come to terms with my mother not caring about me or my future. My dad and I were very close. She resented me because of it. I was raised with her competing against me. I tell people …
While the context was conventionally good: 1. Nice-paying, high-pressure work 2. Great relationships 3. Much pleasure I felt something was wrong: 1. Too much stress 2. Too little peace and calm …
You aren’t his gf anymore hon, you are his fleshlight. Find someone that cares for you and not using you as a sextoy for his pleasure and not caring about you or your pleasure at all. Dump his sorry a…
first, i don't really consider one kiss with no one she knows or can contact again a relationship-ruining event, but it probably does mean that she's willing to explore and follow a whim rather than t…
Best thing you can do is just give her space now and feel all of these emotions. It sucks and it hurts but there's no way around the pain, just have to sit with it and distract yourself the best you c…
Not OT; the first year and change, he received $700 a month from her social security paycheck and the rest went to charities and MIL (who was not caring for her at the time). The expectation was alway…
I've had a few therapists and with some of them it was somehow similar like for you. But later they all started frustrating me, making confrontations, emotionally abandoning me, not caring for me. Us…
As someone else said in a comment, a happy woman is an attractive woman. Who doesn't love a *genuine* smile? Not caring about the male gaze likely drops a lot of insecurities, leaving "happy" and "c…
I was with a therapist for 5 years on and off and never really got into the nitty gritty. Maybe that was me never feeling totally comfortable, but I feel he could have helped me more. It was definitel…
You're an adult, OP. How you feel about your grandfather is no one else's business, including your parents. If they accuse you of not caring enough about what happened to him, just quietly say "I do…
Omg So true - I too had a three month guy who noped out zero warning etc burned himself out from masking? Idk - no idea. I have friends in terrible marriages do not ask about my dating life as if …
In my case, I’ve seen the messages. AP was definitely the pursuer. Would follow him to his car and sneak in it and try to kiss him and he still turned her down. She did shit like this for months. I gu…
Yeah, I went through this. I had a hard time after recognizing my 4 year old tendencies and behaviors. I felt so much shame over it. Then similar to your experience. I realized that I was shamed fo…