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Sad reading this. My wife just broke her foot. Put a damper on all our weekend plans... but no questions I've given her the princess treatment for days now. ....and it was really nice when I got her …
Bf (M28) left me (F26) home alone throwing up to go out with friends. Is it valid that I’m upset? — Long story short. This man and i dated for 5 years. We got back together after a year apart. Last night i was extremely sick and was throwing up and kindly asked if he would stay home with me, as we h…
My (24F) boyfriend (23M) is in a Psychiatric Unit for Brief Psychotic Disorder, and my family wants me to completely cut him out of my life. Is that something I should consider? — On Friday (over a week ago), my boyfriend went on a work trip to Chicago and had what we thought was a manic episode. He basically roamed the streets all night, discarding his phone and wallet, destro…
cheated on 4 years in, finding out 4 years later — my partner and i have been together for 8 years in total, we’ve had some rough patches but overall a very good relationship (or so i thought). he’s been my space place after an abusive relationship in…
My (36F) partner (37M) recently got a medical diagnosis and now wants an open relationship. Is it selfish of me to not want to? Or selfish of him to ask for one? — We’ve been together for 7 years now and been through a LOT of life changes and difficulties (grad school, moving, new jobs, etc). All of the stressful things and have come out on the other side strong…
If you get married you’ll already have confirmation that this is not a relationship that honors “In sickness and health”. Disgraceful for his lack of follow through. At least you know what you are sig…
Men don’t have a clue. Having a baby is traumatic. It is the very rare person who makes it through a pregnancy without physical damage. We have to learn to do the best we can with what we’ve got. Soun…
Ah yes, wedding vows. “For richer or poorer, in sickness and in health-unless you gain 40lbs”
My husband has been overweight for years. He has also been up and down, loses it then gains it back on. Im not attracted to overweight men and I have openly told him this too in the hopes that it wil…
You’re not going to get an apology from him. Please take your fit self to the next relationship. He will never honestly be able to truthfully vow “in sickness and in health…”
"In sickness or health, til death do us part. Or, until I'm just like not totes feeling it anymore and am just kinda getting bored."
Please leave. It’s never too late to start over and this isn’t who you want to grow old with. He won’t be there in sickness and health. I’m older than you, twice divorced. I regret the time I spent wi…
what did he think “in sickness and in health” meant? I would never invade my partner’s space like that though. it is admirable that he is at least trying to acknowledge and process through his emotio…
Wow, she sounds super selfish. Ring cost aside, how seriously will she take the vow to support you "in sickness and in health?" If you can't answer that to your satisfaction right now, then you'…
The question should not be "how do it get over this" it's "why would you get over this" especially if there is no accountability or self reflection being done. Good lord. Gets angry at you in sickness…
Your husband is resentful he had to help you through ***the death of your father***?? Like… do you hear yourself? What if you develop cancer and *can’t* work? “In sickness and in health”, right?…
This isn't the behaviour of someone who is your best friend nor demonstrating "in sickness or in health" that he vowed to when you married him. I would have major red flags that he could neglect your…
*sigh* This is probably going to get buried and you aren’t going to see it, but just in case you do, here is what my life looks like. I am immunocompromised, when I get sick, it’s bad…like, BAD. W…
This is so sad. He is being incredibly selfish making you feel guilty for something you cannot control. And of course you get sick more, you do the majority of parenting the germ factory! Though he ca…
I'm 54M. On dating apps, the women almost exclusively want long term relationships, and most want marriage. Having said that... after my divorce, while I want a long term relationship, I'm opposed…
Ugh. Skinny or thin doesn't mean healthy. It just means he's lucky to have a higher metabolism than you. It doesn't mean his cholesterol is good, or his blood pressure is. If he drinks a lot, it doesn…
I find it appalling that he’s more concerned with (what sounds like) a trivial amount of weight gain than he is about your autoimmune disease. His comments are outrageous and beyond shallow. And you h…
So what if you *were* fat? Being fat happens sometimes in life, and you can't always control it. And being fat isn't a moral failing either! When you marry someone, you're vowing to love them throug…
So, I’ve been where your wife is. And I’ve been in a similar place to where you are. The simple reality is that for her, the discomfort of not facing her trauma will have to be greater than the “com…
This is so true that I went about it the opposite way. I'm mentally ill and incredibly traumatized, in therapy, on meds. As such, my boyfriend saw me right away as someone who exhibits symptoms of OC…
It is one thing to prefer fit body types, it is totally another to be disgusted and make unkind comments about those types that are not as fit Many woman want a man who will love them in sickness and…
OP, you've got nothing to feel guilty about. Reddit likes the saying "Don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm." and you've been burning yourself for someone who chooses not to do the same…
This reads like my story. I thought she was checked out emotionally since 2024, but I pushed through until late 2025 so our kid was old enough to be able to rationalise with about a separation. But it…
If your only reason to leave is disability then that’s kinda terrible. The vows are in sickness and in health. however, If you reasons for leaving is everything else you stated. If you’re miserable…
I looked at your past posts. You are not worthless. You have tried to work but you are experiencing health problems that you haven't gotten to the bottom of. And your "wonderful" husband's reaction to…
Don't forget you promised… For better or worse, for rich or poor, in sickness and in health.
Something alot of people don't understand is that love is a choice, not a feeling. Neurologically, our brains are not one organ but in effect lots of separate brains (lobes) that are wired together. …
Weaponising anxiety to avoid the consequences of being a shit life partner. “In sickness and in health, except when it makes me nervous.”
You are completely valid. What if (heaven forbid) you get really sick? Like I was saying from my experience, there are a lot of things my wife and I miss out on, especially last minute cause she just …
Most of them were those hyper-specific low-traffic subreddits named after specific streamers and manosphere charlatans and other content creators and I’m a little reluctant to name them lest I identif…
You are being a wonderful partner right now, recognising that this is out of character meaning it’s probably one of the scariest times of his life is deeply empathetic and your comment about in sickne…
Until he gets a diagnosis, therapy, and meds, your love for him isn’t going to help him. He is your boyfriend, not your fiance. You haven’t made the “in sickness and in health” vows just yet. Step awa…
Having a health crisis isn’t letting anyone down. It’s him not stepping up. In sickness and health and all that.
He broke down about you gaining 10 lbs? 🤨 This is extremely immature. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but people don't typically stay the same size throughout their life. You will likely gain w…
Divorce the asshole who wants to risk your health and is willing to potentially leave your child without a mother just so he can get his dick wet. 😒😒😒😒😒 What happened to the ‘in sickness part’? …
Unfortunately there is no simple answer here. He is not in a state to make his own decisions and needs a lot of care. By being in a relationship with him you are taking on a carer role. This may get b…
Lemme start by saying I refuse to justify how his behavior has impacted you. I empathize heavily with your stress and fears. My heart goes out to you. Now things to consider: if you took “traditiona…
Oh my god I feel like I wrote this. I was sick in the hospital and he barely listened to the doctor regarding what my med schedule would need to be when discharged. I figured he would take care of me …
Thank you for your empathy. I do fully believe in the vows I took... In sickness and in health. I dis leave out a bit of information that has led to my exasperation... only very recently did he quit…
Also, they’ve only been dating 3 months so saying “if you loved me xyz” is a bit premature. They’re in the dating and getting to know each other stage, not the in sickness and in health, till death do…
so in sickness and health, till death do us part or until I just change my mind and leave you because you're struggling with mental sickness
It could very well be that she's on the asexual spectrum. But also worth considering reading up on primary and secondary reasons for attraction (psychology keywords are: spontaneous and responsive lib…
Yeah no. Medical diagnosis doesn't mean you have to open the relationship. That's actually shitty of him to ask. If he were asking for extra help walking or using the bathroom from a diagnosis that's …
Another way to look at it is, you were with him “in sickness” and now that he’s “in health” he wants to leave you behind but also keep you tethered as a safety net. The moment he ignites feelings with…
This would be the smartest move. You are guilt tripping yourself into thinking your early pregnacy issues caused your boyfriend's actions. True partners are there in sickness and health. He does not …
I stopped reading at the point whereyou wrote that the relationship can be open for you too but only with women?! Wtf? If he's having women you should be able to have men! But also yeuk, he clearly fe…
I mean it’s not like he’s making active decisions to put you in harms way like drinking. He does however need to stop driving until this is resolved. In sickness and in health blah blah blah. If he re…
In sickness and in health or till he totals your car? Sounds like your marriage wasn’t really strong…to think what you would do if he a had serious health problem…divorce him