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Yo you provided some great details. I have had a struggle very similar to yours. In the teen years (which I didn't think about until later), I had no girls and had tons of internet curiosity. So when …
Manager vs. IC when recruiting soon? — Hi all! I have the opportunity and flexibility at my job right now to move up into a managerial role, and I get a lot of freedom in deciding what it looks like. E.g. I could oversee and manage designe…
Being a parent exposed everything bad about running a small business — Before kids, I founded and ran a small food delivery business for 5 years. It was locally loved, I had a steady stream of orders, and from the outside, it looked like freedom. But then I had my first…
I am solofounder and I love it — Sure, it can get a bit lonely sometimes. But there are a lot of upsides! * Fast execution * Total decision power * Absolute creative freedom * No back and forths on colors or small things * You can s…
I have the safety net, I need the ladder — I have a full time job and make $160k a year, but I want some time freedom back and I’m ready to build and grow something. I have a safety net and I want to jump into something as profitable and pa…
Awaken Your Freedom — Forget long lectures - in just minutes, you'll get a fast breakdown, raw ideas, real-world examples, and powerful insights from the greatest books on personal growth and financial freedom https://ope…
Pouncemonial: 9th Kill - 30 Successful Trades — **Mission**: To accomplish 30 successful trades **What I achieved**: Accomplished 30 successful trades and learned how to execute and manage trades well. **Background**: With the previous kill, …
RSD potential cause of AA? — Hey fellow AA folks, Since discovering attachment theory 2+ years ago, life has improved quite a lot. However, for the sake of anyone else who might be fresh to attachment theory, I want to spare yo…
I'm so tired of people. — For reference, a couple of years ago, I was in an abusive relationship that kinda changed who I am. I won't go into too much detail, but let's just say that I used to be outgoing and fun, but also I h…
Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…
My sun and rising are in Sagittarius. Why am I so shy and reluctant to express myself? — Based on my limited understanding, having your sun and rising in Sagittarius signifies being outgoing, expressive, and freedom seeking. I couldn’t be further from that. I know other aspects in my char…
Divorce isn’t all it’s cracked up to be — I miss coming home and kissing my wife. I miss coming up behind her and hugging her, kissing her neck, caressing her breasts. I miss her laying beside me in bed at night. I miss the conversations bef…
Choosing myself feels like betraying my family, but staying feels like losing my life — I’m 21F, Bengali, and coming from a strict Muslim family who are very traditional where marrying outside the culture is almost unheard of. All of my siblings had arranged marriages, and my parents hav…
muslim girl trynna move out without family knowing — hi guys, i’m not gonna talk too much and ill try to make this as concise as possible. im 23 and i’ve been wanting to move out since my mom decided my big brother could become a father figure and tha…
THE PHOENIX LIGHTS 29th ANNIVERSARY This is what I saw that night March 13, 1997. It was a totally solid piece of machinery not just lights. I could see the bottom of the UFO clearly by two light sources illuminating the bottom of the craft as it flew over my head — I posted this also in UFO sub. March 13, 1997 I was working in East Mesa, Arizona in a 10 bed Hospice inpatient unit as the Charge RN. We worked 12 hour shifts getting off at 7:30 PM but that night t…
Is my relationship doomed? I love him, but I’m so alone. — Hey everyone, I’m Lucy (F, late 20s) and I’ve been with my husband, Rick (M, late 20s) for about 8 years, married for 2. I know he cares about me and our family, and I see that he loves us. But latel…
Buffalo Boys(2018) and Grisse (2018): about Indonesian resistance to Dutch colonizers — WARNING SPOILERS!!!! Buffalo Boys is an Indonesian movie about two brothers who return from working on the American transcontinental railroad to overthrow a Dutch colonizer who killed their father an…
It Was Always About You — I thought I would share an experience I had a while ago that really changed my understanding of Neville’s teachings and manifestation in general. **How it started** In 2022 I was very into occultism…
I (26F) told my boyfriend (26M) I sometimes miss the freedom of being single and he broke up with me on my birthday — I (26F) have been with my boyfriend (26M) for about 2.5 years. A couple nights ago we were lying down together and having a really open conversation about different things going on in our lives. The …
When does “just being single” cross into being non-monogamous? — If someone is having sex with multiple people, on an ongoing basis, I always thought that was polyamory/ENM. I myself automatically go exclusive after the first time I sleep with someone, and verball…
Why does nobody talk about unsuccessful manifestation journey? — Well, here we are. Changing oneself, assuming new beliefs, new ways of interpreting life and it's meaning, healing, flowing, call it whatever you want. Commanding, choosing, focusing on who I am or wh…
After 30 years of being a people pleasing, peace-keeping, manipulative, caretaking, dysregulated, codependency "addict," I've finally reached a point where I have enough control to simply STOP. In a very short amount of time, my whole entire life has changed. It's nearly impossible to describe. — The first part of this post is just context, and you can skip it all by scrolling down to **The Proof** I'm not going to go into much detail, but just for context: I experienced some pretty major chi…
Considering divorce from my husband. I need perspective. — Hey everyone, I've been lurking, but it's my first time posting, so sorry if this is inappropriate. For starters, I'm not asking for advice, as in "what to do", but more like perspective in case I'm …
I don't know the difference between what's real or not anymore — I don't really know where to start other than this experience was over the weekend, and it made me see things in a different way. On Saturday night, I took a gummy, I dabble in it to help with my anxi…
Anyone's Nparents raised you to become dependent, then complain about your dependence and pressure you to be independent? — I was raised to become dependent. As a child, i used to not speak and be selectively mute, because i thought i didn't need to speak as my mother controlled all aspects of my life. She didn't just pres…
Almost enlightened — Been doing my regular sadhana for a few years. One fine day, I did my morning sadhana and was sitting there watching my breath and boom! I was there! No need, no cause, no feelings or emotions. Only v…
The Moment I Realized Astral Projection Was More Real Than I Ever Imagined — Last night, I had an astral projection experience that completely blew my mind. At first, I was skeptical, thinking it would just be another lucid dream. But as soon as I felt my consciousness lift fr…
Energy Exchange: How We Give, Take, and Protect Our Vital Force — Energy exchange is, essentially, communication. The energy a person generates is given outward. But, in accordance with the laws of conservation of energy, a person must receive energy from outside. …
Anyone find overly strict Asian Parenting methods don't build discipline — I grew up like many Asian Americans with very strict parents. They monitored my grades, homework, extra curriculars, and leisure activities. However, even though I was able to succeed under their wat…
Bad things will lead to greater life. — It's one of the obvious, but sometimes even the obvious things are good to remind yourself. Everything bad that happens in your life will eventually lead to life with more freedom of mind. It filters…
My girlfriend drove 10 hours to see me and my mom showed up at 3 am and ruined everything — Someone told me I should come over here and check this community out. I’m not sure if my mother is a narcissist or not. I just need some similar stories, advice, or ways to handle this going further. …
Robert Monroe — I was listening to a video of Robert Monroe yesterday and these are his exact words: Knowledge to me doesn't even have to be a belief but a consideration of yours, and that is that - that more than …
Almost 1 year since I left... And I just started my own business!! I'm living in MY own apartment and I own everything I need — I decide how ALL of my days are gonna go now! FU! — I can't say it to my nex(because I am keeping absolute no-contact), but I'll say it here, hell I will scream it: #Fuck You!! Fuck you for every time you put me down Fuck you for every time you deci…
the anxiety is gone... but now there's just a massive void. How do you handle the "nothingness" after liberation? — Hey everyone, First of all, thank you for the incredible support on my last post. It’s been overwhelming. But I need to be honest with you today: while on the outside it looks like I’m finally "winni…
Admitted to Stanford but at the cost of my childhood — I am a high school senior who has spent the past 18 years growing up in a middle-class Asian family in the Bay Area. My parents constantly complain that they have no money, no connections, and no adva…
It’s sometimes weird and overwhelming to go from being SUPER controlled to having endless amount of freedom…. — Does anyone get anxiety? I’m so use to him controlling everything
I've achieved what I imagined 5 years ago: freedom in time, location and money — 5 years ago I quitted my job and told myself I'll be my own boss from now on. I wrote down 3 things I wanted to achieve: 1. on the personal level, I love traveling also being an entrepreneur. I w…
The illusion of fighting your bad habits — Many people define their relationship with a destructive habit by the fact that they are "fighting" it. But the simple act of trying to stop usually fails because it keeps you trapped in a dependent s…
Update: Tried to set boundaries, now they want to be paid 25k — It's been a few months since my \[last post here\] (https://www.reddit.com/r/AsianParentStories/s/lXVFmvyxxM), but its mostly come to a resolution. I wanted to do an update because I got some really …
The western treatment of Korea's feminism in hindsight. — A Korean feminist's post that I encountered on twitter made a good analogy. If a group labels itself a disability rights or working class organization, it doesn't tell you about their full political l…
Is it ok to seek validation/support here...? — I am a mid 40s woman that historically had always wanted to have a biological child. In recent years I did a lot of work/therapy to let go of that as I was single for years and getting older, and I be…
Broke up with my gf because she wants kids now and I'm not ready. — I (30) just broke up with my gf (31) of 2 years and instantly feel awful and am questioning if I made the wrong decision. She has severe endometriosis so basically needs to start trying for kids now.…
Just trying to gain closure on my own... — This is something I wrote in my journal, trying to process emotions and gain closure. Lori, Since you would not give me the opportunity for closure, I'm going to do what I can to get it here. This…
Everyone is going to "break" your trust — Not everyone necessarily because they mean to, but because sometimes we really can never know another person's feelings, thoughts, or expectations of us. And maybe you had expectations that you didn'…
are my parents overbearing? — im 20F and i currently live alone. i would say my parents are not very strict, they let me go out although i have to be home by 9-10ish PM. just like most asian parents, they wont allow me to have a b…
My wife ‘35F’ has told me ‘38M’ that she wants me to hit on and potentially sleep with another woman. — We often fantasize together and my wife has told me that the thought of me being with another woman turns her on. She has basically given me complete freedom to try and pick up another woman. We hav…
Have you ever manifested a life you thought you could never have/thought you'd have to work very hard to get? (Please respond if so, I'm so emotional right now) — okay I am almost in tears, because I feel so lonely and behind (21) I feel so hopeless and sad because I truly am behind in life, not only that, I don't have the money to do the things I want to or ge…
lying to parents — currently a high school student 'n I need to get this off my chest my APs r loving sometimes, but also abusive. im grateful of the opportunites that they have given me, i really am, and i do feel bad…
Talk about fresh beginnings. — You read it in the title, new beginnings. In simple text: I was able to start over and a kick start at my new life as I literally entered my 30s. Long story: female late 20s/Early 30. Definitely s…
I broke 8 months no contact. AMA — And it went… good? I(18m) got broken up with by my ex(18f) about 8 months ago for mental health reasons according to her but I also know she wanted some freedom her senior year if yk what I mean lol.…
Need help with my life — ​ Hi guys, this is going to be a long one, please check the TL;DR at the end if needed. I’m a 20M in the final days of my computer science degree, and honestly, I feel like everything is mess…
You’ve been very helpful, thank you so much again. I’m going to carry on with the training every day to impress my subconscious with ideas of health and freedom.
Shouldn't everyone be free to stay or leave a relationship for any reason, anytime? I mean, our partners don't own us. I like to think what's great about a relationship is that two people have every…
You think you don't owe your partner, someone who's entered into a loving partnership with you, anything? That you can just walk away from that righteously, whenever? Sounds like a paltry, wispy comm…
I was very much like you, and I had lots of commitment issues. I didn’t want to be anyone’s “girlfriend”, because I felt I would lose freedom, so I would willingly choose unavailable people because I …
Love the question!! You don’t need a relationship to grow, that’s the beauty of it (you can but it will be slower, depending on what kind of partner you end up with) You could try to explore being mo…
This also marries up with the individuation conceptualised by Jung ( by recognising and accepting our repressed/scary/bad sides, we rise above the duality of a spectrum of an emotion- e.g. it can't al…
It’s good that you’re reflecting on past relationships - that’s what transforms them from painful failures into learning experiences. 1) In confronting your deep sense of unworthiness (which I totall…
It’s unhealthy to project or “mind read”. I think there’s a bit of this going on in your post. It may feel (to you) they hate you, because rejection feels bad. It’s not a good feeling to an ego or o…
To be fair, not exactly pressured because I just wouldn't do it. The implication of one day not doing it and the relationship being tied to this little game would make me avoid it. And how do you real…
This is so true and I never viewed it that way! My ex showed contempt during moments when I pushed for inter-dependence, such as holding him accountable or asking for transparency. He later said to me…
You nailed it, western culture isn’t just “about freedom,” it’s engineered for hyper-independence and maximum consumption. That’s why divorce, loneliness, and relational burnout are the norm, not the …
Yeah… I had a rough time with my DA ex but he never suggested sleeping with anyone while we took some time apart. As for how long, it depends on the person. He usually didn’t need more than a week b…
Yes, I myself was thinking about the last part that you said - I too tend see it as she needs it more like an "illusion of freedom" rather than she has some serious intentions
But still though, even if this is the case of an illusion of freedom, do you think I should talk to her about it?
I think it's the control. Limiting their freedom of movement is a big thing for me. Literally can't run away from me loving them. I also really like to take my time with this. Easily an hour+, and reg…
There are a lot of people who don't understand trauma and vulnerability. Then there are people who have some understanding but do not understand how to interact in an appropriate way that is empathet…
Just found out I have an anxious attachment and thought I would share my current journey….This book was my intro into my anxious attachment journey https://a.co/d/hkWAHRB from here I purchased a journ…
Doing the work, my latest test scores say secure. But previously I’ve always gotten anxious. Though I think I am more FA with fear of losing my freedom in a relationship, wanting to be single shortly …
>*In order to move on, you need to not only stop feeling sorry for yourself,* *but also stop feeling sorry for the world.* *That is forgiveness in its essence.* *To give up a certain lens to see…
Hi, with all due respect - I'm formerly disorganised, and with some secure-leaning (work in progress). This being said, I have been in therapy with regularity for 11 years (I had seen therapists and …
I’m DA and never wanted kids. I always enjoyed their company and fundamentally liked them, but thought I was just too dependent on my freedom to make a good full time parent. Then I fell for my partne…
Text of original post by u/prouticus: Hey fellow AA folks, Since discovering attachment theory 2+ years ago, life has improved quite a lot. However, for the sake of anyone else who might be fresh to…
Great for you to have this realization! It isn't easy! I sat on my decision the evening before ending it for many hours, cycling through the data and seeking support. It will be unfamiliar at first wh…
If a comment was true victim-blaming, why can't we trust that the community would downvote it heavily? If the comment remains active, we can reply to the victim-blamey comment and identify it as such.…
I think the real question is, do you want to be in a relationship that’s always on their terms? You’d be doing things their way, on their timetable, and your needs would be at best pushed aside, and a…
An incredible poem — thank you for sharing. Here's a contribution. Vibe is a little more optimistic, perhaps speaking of the moment before beginning healing. Everything is Waiting for You David Why…
I don't "know this," otherwise I wouldn't be struggling. Polyamory isn't mutually exclusive with being chosen. I do think my ideal form of polyamory involves a very secure "home base" relationship th…
Hi!! I highly recommend these: For core wounds and relationships : 📚Mathew Micheletti and 3 more The Inner Work of Relationships: An Invitation to Heal Your Inner Child and Create a Conscious R…
You say you do not want validation but your questions at the end show that is what you are hoping for. You are trying to interpret her behavior so you can set expectations for the outcome. In order to…
At least for me it’s helpful to remind myself that this type of thinking is the “avoidance” I’m trying to fight. “You want freedom? Well when you have freedom, you eventually get sick of casual conne…
I’ve been in your shoes. Still kind of am, but I’ve gotten better at being kind to yourself and you should do the same! 90% of my close friends are married and have settled down, but that doesn’t m…
>90% of my close friends are married and have settled down, but that doesn’t mean that I’m behind and I’d say that applies to you as well. You and I also didn’t deserve to be in this position as we…
One of the gifts of getting older is not being dragged around by your dick all the time and having the freedom to be CURIOUS about other people.
I think you're looking at this wrong, you have the means and the freedom to do as you please. Why does the judgemental attitude of strangers bother you? They are scared because they are not independen…
What a petty, insecure little man. Enjoy your new freedom girl ✨️
I just went through something very similar. Dated someone for approximately a year after an emotionally abusive relationship and noticed things were cooling off/I was feeling unstable and dissatisfied…
Hi I previously recommended these to someone so will copy and paste it here Book on understanding and healing trauma : 📚The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma…
For me… Aquarius Jupiter is my chart ruler and is in my 2nd house (3rd in whole signs). I’ve somehow chosen things to study that require massive machines and lots of space lol. Like printmaking, piano…
Uranus (in mid-Taurus, a few years ago) square natal moon (Aqua). I got into a relationship with someone who seemed great at first, but was bad for me. It was confusing because we explored a lot of th…
I'd recommend making some single friends and building up more of a single-focused lifestyle. By this I mean joining singles events, social media groups and there are even adventure holidays for single…
big question, but the historical pattern is clear enough to sketch. **what's already happened:** - **pluto in capricorn (2008-2024)**: global financial crisis, rise of authoritarianism, surveillance…
I have two stellium with its ruler in the house Jupiter mars and Venus in Sagittarius and Scorpio mercury Pluto in Scorpio Although Venus is lowest degree I feel Jupiter is the lead of the stellium …
THIS!!!! Like I’m sooooo excited for my future now!!! I plan so much and the more time goes on I realize I have more freedom to do ANYTHING! Like he use to get mad at me over so much. Like some of the…
If you were that compatible you wouldn’t have broken up. It’s rare to meet anyone you’re compatible long term with, that includes the ex. I enjoy being single, I have freedom, friends and enjoy and at…
Lol. That's rich. You talk about the imperialist war machine but conveniently leave out Communist China, their slave labor practices, experiments against humanity, restriction on freedom of speech, th…
My time writing that? It literally took 3 seconds… your pleasantries and performative formalities are going to hold you back from the self discovery that leads to freedom.
Why is that controversial in America though lol. Like if Chinese citizens were mad I'd get it How does it affect white Americans crying about how she's a "traitor" that China's giving out passports …
Omg!!!! SAME!!!! 5 years…. And I am free!!!! Happy freedom day!!!
Don’t stress what you can’t control. I would encourage you to start with the process of mourning the parents you never had and never will. You can move past it in a healthy manner and, should you c…
Hey, I’m really sorry because I know first hand from similar how much this particular flavour of dysfunction sucks. To give you the short version of mine, my father died suddenly when I was on my ear…