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My (33M) partner (32F) revealed something about herself in a moment of vulnerability that feels like more than I can non-judgmentally accept...

Why did I have to scroll so far to see this? [The Hotline - Identifying Abuse](https://www.thehotline.org/identify-abuse/)

r/relationship_advicecomment4/12/2026
My husband (36M) told me (33F) that I don’t deserve love until I’m 140lbs again?

This is abuse, OP. Specifically [psychological abuse](https://share.google/IjeJYWyAuU5ow3rF3) and [emotional abuse](https://www.thehotline.org/resources/what-is-emotional-abuse/). Not all abuse is p…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/12/2026
Got an insane flying monkey voicemail this morning

The [Power & Control Wheel](https://www.thehotline.org/identify-abuse/power-and-control/) is a useful tool for identifying signs of abuse outside of being hit. If you’re familiar with these things, yo…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/12/2026
I have to leave tonight, I'm not safe. Am I missing anything?

So impressed with how you’re handling this really scary situation. Good thinking about all these practical issues. One thing is that your physical possessions can be replaced. You and your kitty canno…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/17/2026
If someone is repeatedly triggering you despite knowing what your triggers are is it emotional abuse?

They change but only to continue to control you. It is confusing. I hope you can break from him. Please find some support to help you. [national abuse help](https://www.thehotline.org/?utm_so…

r/CPTSDcomment3/18/2026
My (23F) husband (26M) gets offended over EVERYTHING and I don't know how to handle it anymore?

Also, if you're in the US, check out www.thehotline.org For anyone outside the US, there's this directory that guides you to websites that will help you recognize and navigate toxic relationships: w…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/2/2026
My 23M bf gets a panic attack every time i ask him to pick up after himself 22F am i the problem?

If you've been in one abusive relationship, it is common to fall into another one unless you've done the heavy emotional lifting of therapy and solitude.  He's weaponizing his incompetence and his e…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/2/2026
My [27F] boyfriend [29M] goes through my phone regularly and says he trusts me but not "other people's intentions" -- how do I bring this up without it turning into me defending myself?

This isn’t normal. This is an abusive relationship. This kind of extreme controlling and jealous behavior is a glaring red flag 🚩please figure out how to safely leave this relationship. Personally,…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
20F and not allowed to dye my hair

There are actually resources that can help you get out safely and realistically without just being stuck Call 211 or go to https://www.211.org They connect you to local housing programs rental help e…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/5/2026
I (28f) found out my bf (41m) has been requesting cash back on my debit card?

[https://www.thehotline.org/](https://www.thehotline.org/) The answer is that talking to your abuser about why they're abusing you is going to do absolutely nothing good for you and never going to fi…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/6/2026
[48F] Planning a secret exit from my highly volatile partner [56M] of 10 years. Seeking advice on safely executing a remote breakup under the guise of a work trip.

If you are in the US, Please take a look at this website https://www.thehotline.org and call or text for advice. They can connect you with resources in your area. There are counselors that can advise…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/8/2026
[48F] Planning a secret exit from my highly volatile partner [56M] of 10 years. Seeking advice on safely executing a remote breakup under the guise of a work trip.

Yes, you’re an Attorney, an educated person but these people are experts in domestic abuse situations. Be smart, use them: National Domestic Violence Hotline Hours: 24/7 Call 800-799-7233 Text BEG…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/8/2026
My (32f) partner (37m) says I “don’t let him talk,” but he talks in circles for so long that I can’t even respond

I think people are recommending Lundy's book because it sounds like they're concerned that he's an abuser whose mask has finally slipped now that he's hooked you with acting great for a while. Which c…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/8/2026
My (32f) partner (37m) says I “don’t let him talk,” but he talks in circles for so long that I can’t even respond

https://www.thehotline.org/resources/what-is-emotional-abuse/ I hope you can get free and clear of them.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/8/2026
Sexual coercion/ threats for divorce

[Sexual coercion is abuse](https://www.thehotline.org/resources/a-closer-look-at-sexual-coercion/). It took me too long to realize that but it is why I’m leaving. I am never having sec I’m not into a…

r/Divorcecomment4/8/2026
I still havent recovered my sleep schedule

I’d encourage you to contact this hotline immediately: https://www.thehotline.org

r/Divorcecomment4/10/2026
Family drama between me 45F and my brother 46M after I was named executor of the estate

Talk to a legal aid society of womem's shelter near you about ways to file for restraining orders.  Keep documentation of everything you can abiut his threats and verbal harassment toward you.  You ca…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/12/2026
How do I, 19f, tell my best friend ,19f, I've lost all my respect for her and I think that she's pathetic?

don’t say all of that. send her the link to www.thehotline.org and the number to the local DV shelter. mute or block her. tell her mom what’s going on. at that point, you’ve done all you can to help …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/12/2026