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My bf (m19) is constantly rude to me (f18) because of hemorrhoids and I'm losing feelings for him. How do I know when it's time to leave?

it’s time. game over. I’m calling it. you are in an abusive relationship. [free pdf of Lundy Bancroft’s Why Does He Do That?](https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-doe…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/13/2026
My husband (34M) told his friends about my miscarriage as a “joke” and now says I’m overreacting (32F)

hi! here it is: [free pdf of Lundy Bancroft’s Why Does He Do That?](https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf)

r/relationship_advicecomment3/19/2026
30F My 30M keeps commenting on what I eat with a magnifying glass. How do I go about telling him how this makes me feel?

Please, read this book!!! https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf Big hugs.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/26/2026
My boyfriend (39M) threw his bag at my (33F) face, refused to apologize "because he thought I would block it", then stormed out to leave after I said I just wanted to be alone

That ‘dynamic’ is how abusers normalize their behaviour and justify escalating the abuse to more harmful levels. He will call back and ‘forgive you’. It is very, very important that you do not take h…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/28/2026
My boyfriend (39M) threw his bag at my (33F) face, refused to apologize "because he thought I would block it", then stormed out to leave after I said I just wanted to be alone

Please read “Why Does He Do That” by Lundy Bancroft. https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf

r/relationship_advicecomment3/28/2026
My boyfriend (39M) threw his bag at my (33F) face, refused to apologize "because he thought I would block it", then stormed out to leave after I said I just wanted to be alone

Does he show a pattern of not being able to admit fault for anything? He blamed you because he knows he did something wrong but can’t admit that to himself or anyone else. Read [why does he do that](h…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/28/2026
My boyfriend (39M) threw his bag at my (33F) face, refused to apologize "because he thought I would block it", then stormed out to leave after I said I just wanted to be alone

Please, read this book and be grateful the trash took itself out. https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf Big hugs 🤗

r/relationship_advicecomment3/28/2026
My boyfriend (39M) threw his bag at my (33F) face, refused to apologize "because he thought I would block it", then stormed out to leave after I said I just wanted to be alone

let him go, angel. he’s abusive. you break up with him by text after he clears out all his stuff. never ever go back to abusers. [free pdf of Lundy Bancroft’s Why Does He Do That?](https://dn790007.ca…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/28/2026
Don't know where to go from this, is my marriage dead? 38F and 38M, 15y relationship

I don’t think there’s anything that you can do on your own. Your husband really does sound a little unhinged unfortunately. I’m sorry that you’re going through this and I know that it’s a lot, but i…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
My (23F) husband (26M) gets offended over EVERYTHING and I don't know how to handle it anymore?

Walking on eggshells is how he wants you to feel, it’s like the gateway into full blown abuse. Stonewalling is another big tell. If you’re not convinces, at least [read this](https://dn790007.ca.arch…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/1/2026
My partner (23M) makes it extremely difficult for me (24F) to sleep

Here is a free PDF of the book, please read this and take this very seriously. https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf It’s not just his behavior a…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/2/2026
My ‘35F’ boyfriend ‘54M’ of 9 years broke up with me today over personal toys.

Please read this. https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf

r/relationship_advicecomment4/3/2026
Told my husband (37M) my life (34F) would be easier without him following a disagreement about household chores.

Please read 'Why Does He Do That?' by Lundy Bancroft. It breaks down abuse tactics like these and makes everything so crystal clear. Getting out of the FOG (fear, obligation, guilt) and seeing clearly…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/3/2026
Told my husband (37M) my life (34F) would be easier without him following a disagreement about household chores.

Relationships aren’t like calculators where you cancel out bad things with good things. The negatives just stay negative no matter how much positive you have. You just have to decide where the line is…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/3/2026
My [27F] boyfriend [29M] goes through my phone regularly and says he trusts me but not "other people's intentions" -- how do I bring this up without it turning into me defending myself?

here it is, Op. you need to cut him loose, permanently. [free pdf of Lundy Bancroft’s Why Does He Do That?](https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf)

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
Partner picks fights when we go out saying I look at other men - 46F and 43M

breaking up repeatedly is a really bad sign that you’re not making any progress on communicating. lowering your head to avoid conflict? you are in an abusive relationship. read this: [free pdf of Lund…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/6/2026
My (25F) boyfriend (30M) invited his parents to my masters graduation and then called me entitled and selfish after I said that it made me feel sad to hear that they felt awkward at the invite.

yeah, do this! ⬆️ he’s a real piece of work, he’s *doing so got dam much for you*. don’t let him and his *awkward* parents bring down your whole ceremony and ruin the after dinner, too. spend it with …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/6/2026
My nightly vent session 26/F & 30/M

You’re in an abusive relationship. Please [read this](https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf) to learn how to recognize the signs and how to get out…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/7/2026
Boyfriend (M/25) told me(F/25) to “fix my life first” when I asked for reassurance, what does he mean?

I think it’s time to call it! you’re repeating a pattern now where he promises more, but delivers less and less. 5 years is enough of this. [free pdf of Lundy Bancroft’s Why Does He Do That?](https://…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/7/2026
Do I(21F) not have the right to break up with my bf(21M)?

STOP TALKING TO HIM! you need to get away from this abuser and break up from a safe distance. no person needs permission to break up a relationship. it’s not working. you’re tired and fed up with the …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/8/2026
My (32f) partner (37m) says I “don’t let him talk,” but he talks in circles for so long that I can’t even respond

So, there are two books I'd recommend. Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft, and The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. This is because two things are really raising red flags for me. …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/8/2026
What are most men like when they are upset? I (42F) am considering leaving my husband (46M) over how he acts when upset.

No not all men are like that. Not even close. You’ve been unhappy for so long wouldn’t being single be better than this? ETA: this link it’s free and I hope you give it a read! [why does he do that?]…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/9/2026
My (22F) boyfriend (26M) got very upset when I unexpectedly started my period

Please [read this](https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf) OP, it sounds like you haven’t learned how to recognize the signs of an unhealthy relatio…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
What are most men like when they are upset? I (42F) am considering leaving my husband (46M) over how he acts when upset.

Your children are seeing your husband verbally abuse you and over the years have probably been conditioned to see it as normal as you have stayed and accepted it. That’s the example you and your hus…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
What are most men like when they are upset? I (42F) am considering leaving my husband (46M) over how he acts when upset.

you’re in an abusive relationship. call the lawyers in private. make a plan. get therapy. read this: [free pdf of Lundy Bancroft’s Why Does He Do That?](https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWh…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
What are most men like when they are upset? I (42F) am considering leaving my husband (46M) over how he acts when upset.

Your kids are going to develop an anxiety disorder and depression. Guarantee that they already pick up on how hostile and toxic their dad is and feel the tension in the house. It’s better to be a sing…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
My boyfriend (39M) threw his bag at my (33F) face, refused to apologize "because he thought I would block it", then stormed out to leave after I said I just wanted to be alone

This is only going to escalate. Also notice how he punished you - by withdrawing - for standing up for yourself. I’d recommend “Why Does He Do That” bt Lundy Bandcroft. [Here](https://dn790007.ca.…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
My boyfriend (31m) has been making comments about me (27f) doing more "chores" lately, but would these comments bother you?

your relationship is transactional, and he thinks you’re not paying in enough! it’s veering on financial abuse. this is the kind of man that will become angry that you aren’t performing, when you beco…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
do i break up with my boyfriend before or after the surprise 30th birthday party i’ve been planning for 3 months? (24F, 29M)

Your edit is sadly a very common feeling. The feeling like you’ve done nothing but love him and don’t know why he still treats you like this. You can’t love someone into being a good partner. Loving t…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
I (29F) think I hate my (M30) Husband 8 months postpartum. Divorce or stick it out?

I don’t believe in giving narcissists additional chances. they just get better at fucking you over. add in an enmeshed, narcissistic MIL? you’re never going to win peace. I admire that you want to giv…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/11/2026
My (27F) boyfriend (29M) makes me feel unattractive and I’m not sure what to do

This one is easy. He belittles you and makes you feel small because he’s insecure and dislikes himself, and this is how he makes himself feel better. In his mind, at least he’s better than you. This i…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/11/2026
Am I Overreacting for Divorce?

read "Why does he do that" Below is a link to a pdf version of the book. https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf

r/Divorcecomment4/11/2026
35M bf wants to control how much I eat. I’m 25F

He's controlling. That's it. Here's a free copy of [Why Does He Do That? ](https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf). All the warning signs are alrea…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/11/2026
my (36 F) bf (48 M) has anger issues: do I leave?

get away from him before he kills you in a rage [free pdf of Lundy Bancroft’s Why Does He Do That?](https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf)

r/relationship_advicecomment4/13/2026
Please help me (33F) make my boyfriend (35M) realise this isn’t normal behaviour and isn’t ok?

My god. Have you not considered that he’s making your health issues much worse and you wouldn’t be in such bad shape if you weren’t with a literal enemy combatant? Free copy here of Why Does He Do T…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/13/2026