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Update: my husband (33M) wants me (33F) to dress more revealing

In my first marriage, my ex was addicted to porn. Intimacy was difficult because he always preferred to "do it himself" while watching/reading something. The goalposts on what he liked on me kept movi…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
My (37F) partner (43M) is obsessed with having something in his ass during sex and its ruining it for me.

My (37F) partner (43M) is obsessed with having something in his ass during sex and its ruining it for me. — My partner and I have been together for almost 5 years and at the start the sex was amazing! Over the first year he would drop subtle hints about getting off on anal play (on himself) but it wasn't a …

r/relationship_advicepost3/21/2026
My father won't clean up the mess he made in the bathroom and he thinks it's funny. Am I overreacting? Would I be if I stopped doing things for him that I would usually do?*

My father won't clean up the mess he made in the bathroom and he thinks it's funny. Am I overreacting? Would I be if I stopped doing things for him that I would usually do?* — Marked as NSFW due to the general content: mentions of urine/fecal matter (in a bathroom), but with some level of descriptions of the bathroom as a scene visually. (Note; I hope that that is okay to t…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/3/2026
Advice on how to proceed in this situation

Advice on how to proceed in this situation — I, 40F, am in a relationship with my bf, 31M for 1 year and 2 months now. We met online, but coincidentally, we've met before on two other occasions and only found out while getting to know each other…

r/relationshipspost4/8/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

This is exactly what I was thinking as well. He wants the relationship to end but doesn't want to do it himself and be the bad guy.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
Is my relationship doomed? I love him, but I’m so alone.

I feel like the reason he gave me the responsibility of managing the finances was to show me how we are doing financially, as well as him not having time to do it himself. It’s a work in progress but …

r/relationshipscomment3/14/2026
My (37F) partner (43M) is obsessed with having something in his ass during sex and its ruining it for me.

>failing to communicate, Do you not know how to read?? From the OP: >I have tried talking to him about it. And has that helped? Of course not: >He knows things have changed for me because he point…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/21/2026
My (37F) partner (43M) is obsessed with having something in his ass during sex and its ruining it for me.

Getting angry when she doesn’t stimulate his ass *constantly* while he himself is stopping every 5 seconds and then rolling over to masterbate to porn right in front of her to “just do it himself” is …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/22/2026
My (37F) partner (43M) is obsessed with having something in his ass during sex and its ruining it for me.

wtf. ew. break up. “if i stop everytime he does he gets cranky with me and rolls over to do it himself while watching porn” why are you dating this manchild creature

r/relationship_advicecomment3/22/2026
My (37F) partner (43M) is obsessed with having something in his ass during sex and its ruining it for me.

> do it himself while watching porn If he stops watching porn and masturbating, he will get back to normal.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/22/2026
inappropriate relationship with my therapist

This is WHOLLY inappropriate. He took advantage of a privileged position, an ethics committee would yank his license so fast. My fiance is a mental health nurse and he’s disgusted by this guys actions…

r/CPTSDcomment3/26/2026
I (34F) have to move from WA to CA for my dream job and my boyfriend (42M) would have to quit his job to move with me

I think you’re trying to make too much change palatable to him at once. You’re trying to get him to move, leave his job, be a stay at home partner, leave his dad, and change his whole life. You need t…

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r/relationship_advicecomment4/2/2026
Told my husband (37M) my life (34F) would be easier without him following a disagreement about household chores.

You know deep down that you're better off without him. This man can't even feed his own kids without being told what to do. He's weaponizing his incompetence. He knows it's easier to have you do it th…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/2/2026
Told my husband (37M) my life (34F) would be easier without him following a disagreement about household chores.

LEAVE HIM. My BIL is like this, and it's damaging my niece and nephew so much. I'm pretty sure my niece at least has an anxiety disorder. SHE'S EIGHT. Your life WOULD be easier without this miserable…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/3/2026
Told my husband (37M) my life (34F) would be easier without him following a disagreement about household chores.

I feel for you. I went through something very similar and it was hell. I also have ADHD, which made me blame myself for all my quirks instead of him for his behaviour. Eventually I fixated on the cy…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/3/2026
My (F34) husband (M35) hasn't tried to learn what makes me orgasm in our seven years together. I don't want to leave the relationship but am beginning to feel like a predator. Any advice?

Maybe there is a way. Sit his ass down and watch porn together. Explaining what you like and don't like. But do it like you're seducing him. Tell him these are the things I want. If i don't get them, …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/4/2026
Husband (28M) wants to cut off lifelong friend (28m) after he made AI porn of me (28F) How do we move forward?

He also might’ve been sending these photos to other men who then generate the porn through an LLM if he didn’t know how to do it himself. See a lot of that happening on Reddit.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/6/2026
My 22F husband 22M texts ai chatbots

I think it might be easier to do it himself than do foreplay, sex, & aftercare. Which, I understand but damn this sucks lol. Hes fit, works out 5 days a week, but also works 40-50 hours a week. I unde…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/7/2026
How do I (F24) nip my boyfriend’s (M26) weaponized incompetence in the bud?

There's a couple of options. 1)Talk to him properly about it. Sit him down and say you're getting fed up with his weaponised incompetence and find it really disrespectful when he plays dumb about no…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/9/2026
My (36F) partner (37M) recently got a medical diagnosis and now wants an open relationship. Is it selfish of me to not want to? Or selfish of him to ask for one?

You're being very polite about how you describe the years you've been together before this, so allow me to take a guess. It has probably been near to a dead bedroom for *years*, when he's not in the…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
How do I (F22) convince my longterm bf (M24) to go to the doctor

You can’t make anyone do anything. He has to want to do it himself and you pushing him constantly is gonna make him resentful

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026