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With the very limited information I have, if he's stopping temporarily, its in his control and not an accident. Like if someone only acts a certain way behind closed doors and not in front of other pe…
Found out my friend and her coworkers are stealing money from their job — My friend works at a small franchise location that is a self serve food place. The amount of staff is small (8) and I recently found out that the they all essentially steal money. The owner doesn’t li…
EMDR therapy fail — Today I was so excited to start EMDR. Before booking treatment, I told the therapist that I need help with sexual dysfunction resulting from child abuse and multiple SA’s as a young adult. She said 95…
Sunken Cost Fallacy — Married for almost 27 years. Got married at the ripe age of 19. Funny thing, I thought it was a mistake on my wedding night when he got out of bed to jack off because I was so exhausted from the long …
My full story 2 weeks since DDay 4 days NC — (Cheater fiancée 26f) (me 26m) (AP 46m) So it all started about 4 to 6 months ago I noticed that her drinking had become a concern she was showing up drunk after work very frequently and it was both…
Did they ever really care? — 1st - I'm not a doctor, I can't say she has NPD, I can only say that I experienced some strange things in the relationship which could align with someone suffering from that condition. Long story sh…
I (27F) feel absolutely numb because of my boyfriend’s (37M) behavior towards my boundaries — Me (27F) and my boyfriend (37M) have been together for 5 years living together for 3. I was originally from Belgium and he from the UK. I planned on studying there anyway so I moved. Everything bet…
I’d like advice from partners who survived together from betrayal trauma. — Maybe this doesn’t count, I (22F) and my boyfriend (21M) have been together for 4 years. Since high school. The first 3 and a half years were beautiful and absolutely amazing. I have never trusted s…
Update: Be Blunt: Am I (29F) a bad partner to my wife (32F)? — Original post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/s/gYsr3GR6N2](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/gYsr3GR6N2) Thank you all for you support last week! Many of you have commen…
Minor rant: has anyone noticed hypocrisy in their parents' words, actions, and behaviors? — As I keep dwelling more on my crazy past, more and more dramatic events keep resurfacing. I notice that my parents are not consistent with their dramatic statements and actions. For instance, I have m…
Yes, i am asking this question again, i am still confused 🫠😔 also maybe it turned into a vent — I (17f) keep flopping between whether i am a rotten abusive daughter who is ungrateful and my parents (50f) (54m) are the problem i absolutely hate them and wish the worst. soo yeah...... i guess i so…
I actually need physical proof or an admittance of guilt? — Pretty sure I already know. My profession involves data analysis and pattern recognition. Unfortunately, I also have residual trauma that provides a substantial foundation for self doubt, projection,…
Do you need more time from your dates as you’ve gotten older or had kids? Why? — When I was in my twenties, it seemed like no big deal to only see my girlfriend a few times a week. Now in my late 40s, with teenage kids, having spent a decade married and most of a decade in two lo…
Anyone else's parents ONLY ever look for a magic pill? No lifestyle changes. — Any suggestions to improve the health issues they constantly whine about is taken as an attack. Then they act like you are impervious to exhaustion because you are under the age of 50 and you can to…
Bed bound as a young adult in diff country - mom not connecting at all with me — Hey guys so I learned about emotional intelligence/neglect fairly recently. I'm a young adult and sadly become very sick after moving from my home country to be with my partner. My dad is a covert na…
MY [26M] Girlfriend [26F] of 3 years cheated on me with one of my closest friends — Hey everyone. I was thinking whether i should write about what i experienced and I came to the conclusion that sorting out the story and putting it black on white as they say might help me overcome i…
I (32M) had a date with (32F). She went with the other guy? — A few weeks ago I met a girl on hinge shortly after moving to a new city. We grabbed drinks/tacos for a first date and ended up staying for about 2.5 hours. Conversation flowed and we had lots of bant…
Can I consider this a small win? :) — So around 10 days back while exercising I “broke” my knee. (I didn’t break it, but I hurt/tore something) Went to the doctor and took medication for a week and no improvement. It was so bad, I was l…
Me ‘19F’ and my situationship but also relationship ’22M’ is giving me silent treatment. 5 months — Help me??! I never thought I’d post something on Reddit but i genuinely need some advice and some support tbh. Little backstory: we were on FaceTime and he always compliments me and gives me attent…
I think i fucked up.... So I (32F) just ended things with a guy (33M) that I've been seeing for 2 ish months. I cant tell if my anxious attachment style got the best of me or of there were genuinel…
More info needed. If you met them once for a date - it is annoying to ghost, but no big deal. If it has been multiple times, they deserve a kind note.
He's being wishy washy so it's unsurprising you feel insecure... He wants to keep you, and his career/location options open at the same time, so he won't commit to saying he'll stay vs go. It's not l…
3 months passed since I started dating someone. Sadly I still struggle with comminicating about anything that feels more delicate... including asking what our relationship status is, asking for more t…
That too. The health issues you have in your 30s and 40s determine the rest of your life and how you’re going to age. I’m not going to be so cautious with my health at this age that I rarely drink and…
This is really it. I live in an American city where you must have a car but if public transport is good where OP is then I can see that being no big deal. Neither is height Income, however, is an iss…
Thank you for this post. This is my point - I have enough things working against me - I don’t need to add to the list. Both of my previous partners asked because they met people on internet dating ap…
So this exact thing happened to me and my now husband when we first met, we weren't sure who it was who gave it to who, but we jsut went together got it taken care of and moved on, no big deal, shit h…
Another psycho I found in OLD yesterday Matched with him Sunday, he asked to chat off the app sent him my number. Immediately got a call from a blocked number. Asked if it was him. He text me the nex…
For me I still react, but it doesn’t stick. And I can have compassion for myself and everyone else. The emotions and judgement are no big deal any more. 🤷♀️
No one can answer if you should change your flight without detail analysis of your chart. However, statistically, flying is safe. On 9/11- there were roughly 7,000 planes in flight in the United Sta…
I feel a kindred spirit here! I stopped all contact with my mother in my 40s when she pulled the same crap. I had MAJOR surgery a few years ago. My mom ASKED to take me and be my support person. All g…
The one who said ED, gay, or asexual? Yeah. My experience with something like this: dated a guy for a few months. There WAS some physical affection, cuddling, hand holding, some kissing..... but ne…
Aging is not linear, you think 40 was no big deal! Its fine! You still look 30! at 40, 45, 48..and the ninute you become confident- it comes for you...in a day
Money is no big deal until you don’t have it anymore. Tbh, marriage being based on love is a relatively recent construct. When I met my husband, I loved him dearly but I also had to be practical. Wh…
Of course you aren't crazy. I would never put my daughter under general for an unneccesary procedure. Under general, with all its risks??? Never. In fact, I would never expose her to the risks of ANY …
See I thought the "that would be strange" was them denying the possibility of the idea or saying they didn't want to do it pre emptively. I still think it's on the friend to say I'm honestly not comf…
I've said it before and I'm sure there'll be another dozen opportunities to say this again in the future: **You'll NEVER see them do this to Black people.** Imagine the same exact setting only in a m…
Yes! It upset me that he kept in touch with them on social media and would engage in conversations. To him, it was no big deal and normal behavior. He didn’t care that I got upset when he added them. …
I alternate between physical books and audiobooks. For classics and fiction, I use audiobooks. For non-fiction, I use physical books. Being able to hear lengthy books while doing other things(chores, …
Sunk Cost Fallacy is a real killer, kept me in something I knew was awful from the start. I also was shown a red flag on my wedding day, a real boundary crossed and he wrote it off as no big deal. I s…
You know, you can end the relationship, right? You aren't married with kids. Dating is supposed to be about finding someone you can live with. If a man talks shit about my body jokingly or not, he doe…
My mom told me that for the first few years of my life she'd give me a bath and get me ready for bed. Then she'd place me on the couch and leave me there. She would then go out with her friends and pa…
I think abuse from both genders is minimized. Women are seen as docile and sweet. They'd never hurt a fly! And even if they abuse their partners, people think it's no big deal because it's a *woman.* …
Yeah his own friends being horrified is especially telling to me. Like if it genuinely was no big deal like he seems to think it should be, then his friend's reaction makes no sense. Sounds like what …
With respect to intention, the problem with it is that manifestation is an area where you need to tread lightly, if at all. You should care but be so close to "so what" that it's no big deal if it nev…
I used to be very anti-divorce for any reason and was skeptical of people claiming it was the right thing to do. Reading infidelity stories changed my opinion on that. While I do think there are some …
To me SP stuff is no big deal really. Obviously lots of others don't feel the same. Oh there are definitely big and small manifestations. This is why people can be very good at getting free food or co…
Money being massive to you and love being "no big deal" is clearly a personal insight. I've manifested health, my job, repairing a very complicated family situation, SP's as well as a lot material stu…
I distinctly remember, about 3 months in MAYBE, we were getting ready to go to an office cook out that he’d set up for his business(he was the owner of a small town body shop- all of his mechanics wer…
My friend’s husband did the same thing and kept acting like it was no big deal. He’d throw out really nice or useful items and it was usually only her stuff. She’d come home and their bedroom furnitur…
Let her know you’re gonna go kiss a random girl on the street and that since it was no big deal for her to do it, it will be no big deal for you.
Insane, she have no respect for you at all. She know it's wrong and did it anyways, now she's trying to pass as "no big deal, I had no feeling" while telling she would have a problem if it was otherwi…
You should break up. She admitted to the kiss, but partner, they always admit to 1/3rd of what they actually did. Kiss is = to 1, fondling and making out is 2, oral is 3, junk to junk sex is 4. She ei…
I think casual dating has helped me grow a lot! Internalizing that rejection is no big deal, understanding the differences in my self-perception vs other's views of me, setting boundaries, and learni…
You do what makes you comfortable. But let me warn you, some women’s breasts grow post pregnancy so if you plan to have kids, you might want to wait on surgery. Everyone in my family had larger breast…
I’ll add that this applies to techniques, too. If you focus on affirming all day long or try to visualize as often as possible (especially if you’re struggling to visualize something specific and fig…
If this is something important to you, you shouldn't let anyone stop you. I will just suggest that it's an bit unfair to paint this as a big deal for your mental health/self esteem and then - in the …
I had something similar happen when I accidentally dropped something as a young child and not in front of my parents and it was no big deal! Revelation.
Someone who loves you won’t “test” you. That’s some high school shit. Being a decent partner (and human) involves being transparent and straightforward about your emotions and thoughts. He just hurt y…
I got a notification for this thread just as I was sitting on my bed sobbing. It’s been almost a month. I have good days and bad days. I am angry. I am sad. I am terrified about the future. For him, t…
Nah this is just reddit where I talk to Redditors like it’s Reddit. No big deal just forum stuff like digging into ppl’s profiles to be snide lol. In real life you behave.
I didn’t see the Sand pebbles” but I do understand diarrhea “cha cha cha” So many justify the cold and dark as “no big deal” , set the standard for dating
Talking about relationships. I kept a lot of my relationships from my parents because I've seen how they behaved with my older siblings when they started to date. They were forced by our parents to en…
Nah these comments are low key CRAZY LOL. The bf response/behavior is some of the weirdest shit I’ve seen on this subreddit and y’all coming in here acting like it’s no big deal lmfao. If I were you, …
It wasn't for him. I don't like the word "trashy" about a person for personal preferences like tatoos/piercings/body mod; feels harsh to me. That written, I know it can be a hard no for some, a warn…
If I were the Dad and saw my wife not only lying but defending cheating and making out asking about it being no big deal, I'd be asking OP to do a DNA test to prove he's really the Dad's biological so…
And this is how great betrayal stories start. With some ridiculous idea followed by the line you dont trust me? OP its simple. Tell her youre going too. Or just dont say anything and go anyway show …
I wasn’t accustomed to my parents doing something nice for me just to be nice. I didn’t know how weird this was until I was 17 and at a girlfriend’s house. I was watching a movie with her and another …
I'm pretty similar to you. Ghosting doesn't bother me (and depending, I'd prefer that than a message telling me I'm not their vibe after a couple of days msging.) I'm able to temper my emotion…