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I've mentioned on another post that I'm convinced my narcs don't believe I can have problems that are serious enough to take care of (ie they want me to ignore things) but also mild enough that I can …

Sharing my learnings as a mid-seniority job seeker — I started job-hunting in April. After two weeks of sending applications and receiving zero feedback (only ghosting), I scheduled a few calls with my mentor. Based in Eastern Europe and looking for a f…

What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond — Sometimes it’s so hard to keep up with all the AI news. It seems like it's taking over every platform and us as well. But the most important thing is staying updated on everything important. So let’s …

AWS network automation — I find myself in a funny position to redo part of the network in AWS. We have two parts: one is newer and uses transit gateways that are centralized in a single account, the other is older and vpc pee…

Upwind's Cloud Security CNAPP. Is it viable? — Can anyone share their real-world experience implementing Upwind's "Runtime-Powered" Cloud Security Platform? The promise of using real-time runtime data (I think they use eBPF sensors?) to focus onl…

How to target global traffic but prioritise the UK? — Hey folks, I run a .com ecommerce store and I sell globally to English-speaking countries. But I want to make sure the UK is my main audience — most of my marketing and SEO focus should benefit UK u…

Does cold email still works in 2025 ? — Hi there, I'm a beginner to freelancing, and I make landing page designs, currently I haven't landed any clients yet, I've tried cold DM for a while but got no results, that's why I thought to start m…

I need you advise am i a UX Jnr Midwieght or more? — **Hi everyone, I need some advice.** I’m currently a Junior UX Designer (30years old) in the UK at one of the top for new broadcasting companies such a Sky BBC ITV etc. **A bit about my background:*…

My experience winning a chargeback — Sharing my experience winning a chargeback recently. We specialize in gaming collectibles, and our store has been running online for 3ish years. We have had 2 chargebacks in that timeframe, and won bo…

Using a MacBook — Hello everyone Just starting to build my storm but I am on a small Apple tablet it's older. I have an opportunity to get a good deal on a MacBook Air 13 in mthree chip. I'm just curious if anybody e…

E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…

This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…

Is this site using a bootstrap or plug-in? — This bookstore has a section where, if you you click on one of the books in a slider, it expands a panel about that book below. These sliders under "New and Featured" and "Trending" (the entire div is…

Shopify Support is the absolute WORST — I have had issues with payouts- as in first they disable my payouts for verifaction then I get an email saying everything is okay and then within hours without no communication or email, I´ve checked …

I made $32 after 16 months of coding. Was it all a waste of time? — Over the last 16 months, I’ve done something that sounds cooler than it really is: I built a SaaS. In my free time, at night, on weekends, while everyone else was at the beach or watching Netflix, I …

Strange WordPress Login Activity – Need Help Understanding — I've set up a new website, and **I'm the only one who has the login credentials**. However, I'm seeing **many login attempts recorded**, and I'm not sure who is trying to log in or why. I had installe…

New Email Accounts? Stop Landing in Spam with Mailgo! — Hey marketers! Tired of putting hours into your email marketing campaigns only to have them end up in the spam folder? Our Mailgo Automated Email Warm-Up is the solution you've been waiting for! Why…

Best practices for organizing large web projects? — Hey everyone, I'm currently working on a large-scale web development project, and I'm trying to figure out the best practices for organizing the codebase. How do you structure your files and folders f…

Aspiring Dance Studio Owner - First Steps? — ~ TL;DR: Aspiring dance studio owner (currently in school). Active in the dance community and planning ahead. Looking for first-step advice, financial tips, and mindset guidance from other small busi…

How do I properly embed Webpack-bundled JS/CSS into a WordPress site? — Hey everyone, I built a JavaScript app for a client using Webpack. The final dist folder includes: A JS file (bundle) Two CSS files A PNG and SVG The client wants to embed this into their WordPr…

A Modest Proposal — A Manifesto for Metrics-First Everything — Picture it: Q1 FY 2025. A Medicaid patient opens an app to request mental health services. The screen is sleek—gradient buttons, playful microinteractions, and conversion-optimized flows. A calm anima…

Finding Like Minded Business People — **TL/DR :**  Looking for people who are stuck with unsure with what business they want to pursue and end up learning a little bit about all of them; that want to partner up to stay focused with each …

How do you promote kubernetes environments using ArgoCD? — I've watched a video by Anton Putra, [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=\_G\_RY5trQao](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_G_RY5trQao), on production grade setup with Argo. The video is great and I've l…

Head of Digital - Feeling burnt out. — Hey everyone, I’m in a “Head of Digital” role at a mid-sized company — but in practice, I’m the only technical person in a team full of editors and project managers from a traditional print publishin…

How can I let devs update their lower environment terraform while protecting production environments? — I know the title is a rather open ended question, but let me lay out where I am now, in the hopes of getting ideas on how to do this better. For a given service, we'll have one directory for environm…

Spent 1 year solving a problem users “loved” but wouldn’t pay for: my learnings [I will not promote] — We are 2 years into building our SaaS, but spent 1 year building something people “loved”, “were excited about”... yet did not pay for. Since then, we have slightly pivoted and gained traction, but I …

Found out my friend and her coworkers are stealing money from their job — My friend works at a small franchise location that is a self serve food place. The amount of staff is small (8) and I recently found out that the they all essentially steal money. The owner doesn’t li…

Small business idea for neighborhood store — Hi everyone, I'm based in europe, greece and I’m looking for feedback on starting a small, neighborhood-oriented business that I can run mostly on my own. Here’s what I have: A 110 sq.m. ground-flo…

I need some FA to give me insights on this situation — Break up with a FA need some insights Hi guys, i really need some insights as someone whos desire is to be a safe space for a FA girl. Breakup context: I (M, 23) was in a 2-year relationship with my…

I have become obsessed with finding someone. — After my breakup in winter of last year, I went through a long period of mourning and not knowing what to do or how to move forward. Now, over the past 2-3 months, I have become obsessed with finding …

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

The monster jar theory of FA or avoidant attachment. — So I was talking to a friend of mine and supporting her and my own feelings of shame and I was reiterating somethjng that isn’t anything new at all but hit on an analogy that really worked for both of…

I have been feeling a capacity for love I never knew existed and I'm a bit scared of it. — I'm a dismissive avoidant now leaning secure after 1.5 years of therapy. I've made huge progress and communicate much better in my romantic relationship and with my roommates. I have 2 toddler nieces…

Next Anx Attachment healing group in 7 hours — UPDATE: Apologies - I need to cancel today's January 18th meeting. I'm not feeling well and need to call it an early night. Sorry for the late notice! ------- The next weekly Anxious Attachment heal…

I'm so tired of people. — For reference, a couple of years ago, I was in an abusive relationship that kinda changed who I am. I won't go into too much detail, but let's just say that I used to be outgoing and fun, but also I h…

I want love but can't push past knowing that I would be a burden in all of my relationships — Hi, I am a 26F and want to seek some advice from this subreddit because I truly do not know who else I can talk about this with, and writing has always been easier than talking out loud. Sidenote: I …

Women keep telling me I need to date younger and now my daughter has too. — I (39m) look young for my age and have been dating for the last 4 years. I have mostly dated women in their 30s and about half of them have told me to date someone younger after things didn’t work bet…

The Shift at Age 30: Did you feel a stronger connection to your Ascendant or your Sun sign as you got older? — There is a common belief in astrology that we grow into our Ascendant sign as we get older, especially after our Saturn Return. Over the years of studying and observing birth charts, I've seen so many…

I (28F) cut off my in-laws after how they treated me before and during my wedding, but I get anxious when my husband (27M) still talks to them. How do I move on? — TL;DR: My mother-in-law and sisters-in-law insulted me, fat-shamed and color-shamed me before our wedding and caused major drama during the wedding itself. Now they act sweet in front of my husband. I…

“My father always wanted to be the corpse at every funeral, the bride at every wedding and the baby at every christening.” - Alice Roosevelt Longworth — Written by Alice Roosevelt about her father, Teddy. I feel like this quote perfectly captures the dynamics of having an nParent. Whenever sympathy, positive attention or adoration is being doled out …

Herpes — hi everyone! So I met a great guy lots in common and lots of green flags. One of my requirements before being physically intimate is sti panels. It used to feel awkward for me to ask but it also tells…

Will I ever not feel so lonely? (Seeking input from older folks on this platform) — I am nearly 47 years old and the emotional neglect I suffered as a kid and still suffer at the hands of my parents, still has such a profound impact on me. I know there are people of all ages in this …

I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…

Reflection on over friendly therapist? — Hi readers. This is something that has been on my mind for months and I don't know how to wrap my head around it. Some professional insight might be helpful. I left therapy a few months ago. I had …

freezing very hard — Hey guys! I've been taking psychedelics for several years now (mainly ayahuasca and mushrooms, occasionally bufo), and in most sessions (especially during the colder months) I always get these short-…

Coming to terms with possible childhood emotional neglect - curious how others turned out — As I’ve gotten older and started reflecting on my life, I’ve slowly worked backwards and realised that I might have experienced childhood emotional neglect (CEN). What’s funny is that it actually sta…

how common is it for 2nd generation asian americans who didn't really connect with their ethnic identity during their younger years to embrace their ethnic identity as they get older? — when i was younger i desired to fit in with whiteness yet with age, I became more embracing of my ethnic identity.

Six Months of Dating in Europe as an East Asian Guy — Honestly Better Than I Expected — Today marks my sixth month living in Europe. Looking back at the past half year and all the European girls I’ve interacted with, I thought it would be fun to do a little reflection—what I did well, wh…

I’m scared of everything I love becoming old and I’m scared of the world right now — Okay so for starters I’ve always hated time, I hate it so much and I don’t know why, the thought of years passing makes me feel so uncomfortable and I just want to go back in time to when things were …

Job hunt anxiety — I have had a very, very challenging job hunt over the last year. I have developed some pretty intense anxiety as a result. These are the things helping me to get through it. I'm wondering what has wor…

tried dating sites at 41/42 and only get messages from 20 year olds — i'm a 42 year old female, never married, no kids, live alone. i'm chubby, have a shaved head, and am covered in tattoos... yes, its a look that tends to limit the kinds of responses i've gotten when t…

I would google those number look them up in numerology there is also angel numbers too look them up under but it’s personal choice I like numerology because it is older I have the number of my and my …

Yes. I was with a dismissive avoidant and I divorced him, and then my older sister is a DA as well and I have been regaining my voice after I left my ex. So I have set very limited time to talk to my …

“It shifts your worldview to think that some people can love and care about you, but still fee nothing about hurting you.” WOW wow wow. I’m going thru this with someone I believed to be chosen family…

The other setup I've seen used is a two layer system, the first layer is something like the LGTM stack, and from there certain key metrics or aggregates are pushed to something like NewRelic or DataDo…

"Bare metal" is a term that older than k8s. Its meaning is derived from virtualization. A bare metal server is a server that runs directly on the physical hardware, as opposed to a virtual server whic…

Seeing explanations on what Bare Metal means makes me feel way older than I am.

Rolling back an LLM at OpenAI scale isn’t like redeploying a web app on Vercel. You’re talking global load balancers, multi-region infrastructure, model sharding, GPU fleet management, and system prom…

There's all sorts of reasons why it might take that long, though I'd echo that 24 hours doesn't seem that long to me considering their scale of operations. Ignoring all of the technical side of thin…

I have found reddit to be possibly the worst place to ask these questions. You pretty much always get the same answer. regardless, someone always says " vending machines" and " pressure washing" Th…

That's a really cool idea, can you explain how you use VS Code to do a diff afterwards ? I know you can compare files, but folders ?

Simple SEO is beneficial for the site, and you can use ChatGPT to make sure to highlight keywords and phrase your page descriptions in a way that makes it stand out in the algorithm. Social media is…

Waterfall in all it's forms is a problem. Hand off between teams are never smooth. DevOps principles recommends integrating all stakeholders in the process. An isolated software developer building a p…

He was definitely avoidant and also very emotionally unavailable so maybe I’ve confusing the two! I also like to take things slow, and hate rushing into anything as I’ve gotten older but there’s slo…

It can be hard to make friends as we get older that's why I joined a Social group of people who enjoy a similar hobby.

We’re a fitness group I'm being cryptic because I don’t want my friends finding my reddit. I’m very vulnerable on here. We have young and older people in the group, but we party and hangout on the wee…

I think skepticism is always warranted. But I would make the case that psychological processes like cognitive dissonance and projection are likely magnified in insecure attachers.   Plus some peopl…

Not all women will engage in situationship. I’d argue that confident and secure women who aren’t looking for something casual especially won’t entertain this type of situation. Unless they don’t take …

Don't even answer. Ppl say don't respond and just block him but I wouldn't even give it that much effort. Just leave him on read/unread and put him in your spam folder if u dont wanna see him show up …

As I’ve gotten older I’ve realised a lot of people don’t want to work on themselves or change . It’s just the way it is . I believe the underlying reason is working on emotional reactions stirs up to…

This! Don’t be a placeholder..for anybody! You are much more worthy than this. Mine called me egotistical for being proud of my gym gains and sharing my friend’s kind support for the work I’ve been pu…

I think that’s what made me sad about staying so long . That I valued someone else so much instead of myself . I’m sure with reflection and learning more about yourself you will get there . I haven’t …

Reducing therapy as a concept to a script of a two person conversation is a misunderstanding of what therapy is and what makes it effective. Here are three links for you about the danger of AI therap…

I am working on these things the same as you are and I am 8 years older than you so I think it’s amazing you’re this aware at 26. Some things that have helped me in my journey: -keeping myself busy w…

’m in a really difficult spot with my boyfriend. We’ve been together since late 2021, and recently he’s been second-guessing our relationship. I think im anxious and he’s avoidant. I’m 22 and he’s 25 …

Wow, you have done a significant amount of research. I am just now learning about these Avoidant Attachment Styles. I'm not real sure what my SO has, and I'm also not sure which attachment style I hav…

Text of original post by u/nintendonaut: After my breakup in winter of last year, I went through a long period of mourning and not knowing what to do or how to move forward. Now, over the past 2-3 mon…

“And I'm just supposed to be cool with that?” At the end of the day, yes you are. I’m in the same boat except a bit older and I haven’t even had what you had. I know what you feel very well. There ar…

Unfortunately for me, I had to learn the hard way that my relationship was one-sided. I was too into them than they were into me. Which ended up with me getting broken over text after a year into the …

I thought that healing is something I need to do alone, meaning not in a relationship, but an Instagram reel by a therapist spike of something that felt true: attachment issues come up in relationship…

I struggle keeping relationships for a full 2 years, people usually get fed up with me being so needy but I think the older I get and the more comfortable I am with myself and understand myself more t…

Living with a fearful avoidant for 30+ years... My personal experience: It looks like they want to connect, to be close emotionally. They want you to be close and available. They, however, find …

You’re really doing great - this is just so hard! I’m gonna say something that might sound counterintuitive and blasphemous, but I hope you’ll stick around to read my long winded explanation of why 😅…

These are my personal experiences from FAs: bad texter, late replies, hard time describing themselves and their emotions, past history of relationships (or none), problems with parents, retreat in soc…

i think it was as attempt to get the " daddy dont wants me" wound solved . i was physically attracted, never had proper social contact in my life and wasnt able to read between lines. he was always …

Thank you. Our relationship was closer to family than romantic. We're both hapily married & I'm a good deal older than her. This is all very new to me, know I have these feelings, that these attac…

I’ve so been doing this lately and saving things in my notes folder. It keeps me from dumping anxious thoughts on other people and has really helped supplement my healing journey

Sorry this is long. I’m 27, I have only been on dates with like 10 guys in my life (I don’t understand why getting a date, let alone a relationship is so incredibly hard, but that’s a different topic)…

I just got out of a 10yr relationship, we still talk and have talked since we broke up. We broke up due to distance and needing to become our own people after having been in a relationship for so long…

Your ex is 30 yrs older than you?! And you got together when you were a little older than the new guy he brought in….and then he brings in someone 40yrs younger than him???? Sorry your ex sounds creep…

Most employees don't want to spend leisure time with their boss. You can not be their friend and their boss. One line or another will be crossed. Stop trying to be friends with the people under you. …

Parenting is a “little to no alone time” endeavor when they are young. It’s not that all children are all clingy all the time, it’s just that they have a lot of energy, a lot of needs, and take up a l…

Yeah, let’s talk about that. I am speaking from my own experiences only, and Im sure there are many types of children with temperaments that I havent yet encountered. From my experiences, I don’t thin…

I think people who deeply desire to raise children are often the best parents. It does sound like working with a therapist or professional who could help you repattern some of the older habits would …

“Normal” is a frame of mind. I know many long term happily cohabitating couples who sleep in separate rooms. It also can become more of a thing once people have babies and get older, have health issue…

This might sound quite bad, and I don't want to risk anyone here thinking they are "boring". I've dated people who are more like me, anxiously attached, and that's anything but boring. It starts ver…

To an extent. As for how I feel? When I was younger, a lot of guilt and regret towards how I treated them. Now that I am older, I see those relationships for what they truly were. A transactional rela…

> Well there is no existing relationship lol. that's what I mean. I was wondering if using an online dating app felt like an admission of that. I certainly have a level of anxiety about people as…

Hi all - this could be considered a graphic post. Just FYI. I wanted to introduce myself and say why im here. My first memory is of being used as a human shield by my dad when cops pulled a gun on him…

You are soooo much more aware than I was at your age so that's amazing! I was pretty much just going along thinking I just hadn't met the right person. Once I went on 50 dates to see if I liked any …

Ok chiming in as earned secure: I don’t think secure attachment automatically means “no casual sex,” but I also don’t think casual sex is some kind of requirement or proof of security either. In my …