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I honestly don't need to read the reasoning. With my trauma, if they can "see past" woody Allen, we are so beyond incompatible. I also *need* you to know that you DO NOT need a checklist to break up …

An open letter to my wife — I want her to know this but I know it wouldn't be healthy so I'm writing it here because if 1 person sees it then maybe I will feel seen. To my 'wife', When we met we were smitten with each other. …

I (31M) feel at my wit's end due to my boyfriend's (36M) underemployment and that I have to financially cover everything — I (31 M) feel at my wit's end with my boyfriend (36 M) and I just don't know what to do. We've been together for just over 2.5 years and moved in together back in October. He lost his job last May and…

Sexual coercion/ threats for divorce — my husband is saying that if I don't do what he wants sexually (anal, swallowing monthly and blowjobs 2-3x a week ) he wants a divorce . We have 3 kids. I feel stupid but has anybody gone through an e…

My fiance (34f) was so toxic this weekend at my friend's destination wedding , I'm (37f) and feel too old for this — A friend I haven't seen in a few years got married in Mexico this past weekend; a huge group of my my friends were all there, we haven't been together in a very very long time. my friend invited my fi…

I Feel Like a Candle in a Small Black Box. — I have recently returned to meditation over the past seven months. It's been over a decade since I last sought meditation as a refuse or source of spiritual growth. When I was younger, I was able to…

Politics right now is more than just “opinions” such as believing in “higher or lower taxes.” It is about human rights… and Trumps presidency has shown he zero interest in the sort. There is nothing t…

I literally cried reading this. This is very similar to what happened to me and my whole brain chemistry changed I feel like I died inside and I can’t seem to shake the feeling. It truly torture and I…

Agreed. It’s been hellish trying to convince myself I made the right choices. I was in therapy the other day crying about how perfect my ex was. He had every single thing I wanted in a person, except …

i really wish people understood the real trauma this causes…… it’s awful…. it takes a lot to heal from this. to trust… to open up……. it really sucks that the majority of people that inflict this type …

The fact you pointed out specifically what it says and that we need to go by that is hilarious and not how it works and only if someone is guilty of posting things needing co-sign would except that or…

Thanks I really appreciate you posting this! I agree and second this does work great. That's awesome to hear about your job, sounds like you'd be a great manager to have. I sadly can't compete anymor…

If you are sensitive to energy, you might be absorbing and reflecting back to people parts of themselves they don't like. Also, we can come across as wierd to some people. And most people can't se…

Exactly! If I was OP I could not see past this, this is telling on such a deep level, and indicative of a person I would very much *not* would want to start a family with

From my experience, it’s a person who’s constantly vigilant against anything that threatens their created image of themselves. Deep down they know what they really are, be that mediocre or lame or pat…

Thanks for trying, but they can't see past their own prejudices.

My wife did a lot of horrible things to me during our marriage, but even after I knew it was over I fought hard to see past those things, forgive them, or let them go, because it was really important …

1. I didn’t try to get my ex back. I left them at a very difficult time in their life and it took months after the breakup for me to be able to fully see my role in how things played out in our relati…

Those of us that speak up become the black sheep. 4 kids in our family, 2 of us have cut all contact, one has been low contact for 20yrs and the fourth poor girl, still lives with them and is becoming…

I can’t remember what exactly the argument was over but I found something on his phone and confronted him about. This was a monthly occurrence at this point of the relationship. I remember him getting…

He was very clear about his wishes. There is no future for you two. Please have the selfrespect to cut any contact with him. I know: You love him, you want to be close to him. But staying in contact o…

Yes, you are a primate, and this kind of behavior is typical of primates. Your insecurity and willingness to take risk and exert effort to appear a certain way to others is evolutionarily advantageous…

My nex told everyone that I forced her to take illegal drugs, I was emotionally abusive and neglectful, and I was unsafe for her to be around. She even threatened a restraining order cause she “had al…

Its they way you said it like its a life deal breaker its just sad that you cant see past the person plus their actually is attractive bald guys out there not all of them are hideous as you seem to th…

Hmm, I think this is a you problem. If this is something you can't see past and are going to hold against her, then yes, break up with her for her sake. And "I was her 24th body" is a very weird way t…

I think it’s hard to see past this I couldn’t imagine being in another relationship. It’s the furtherest thing in my mind. Thanks for the honesty.

I struggle with this so much at times, I really appreciate you making this post because I was feeling so alone. When I struggle with these feelings it makes me feel like a monster, like maybe I didn't…

do u ever think youll be together again? i feel like compared to him, im not as emotionally grounded and has always thought if u love eachother youll stay through everything. im trying to see past my …

This 100% - within 3 years of being with a supportive partner that wanted mutual growth and I don't feel like I'm spinning my wheels in clay anymore. I'm not thriving, but I can experience joy on occa…

Get into therapy or talk to a friend. Some of our thoughts and actions are NOT helpful and do NOT need validation but rather redirection. A chatbot cannot help you recognize that. It’ll validate your …

Yeah it’s hard when you have to consider the well being of kids - especially when your partner can’t see past their own wants. I wanted to wait until mine was in kindergarten. He met someone new a…

>I heard somewhere there are three things that make a man decide if he wanted to be with a woman. Subscribing to the idea that all men are the same simpleton who can't see past 3 aspects of human co…

man this hits way too close to home for me. had something similar happen few years back with someone who kept switching between wanting forever and then pulling away completely when life got rough. th…

I think that’s where I am at now. I’ve managed around it, and some moments have been worse then others and I tried to see past it, thinking we could make it work somehow but I’m starting to give up. I…

Can trying/learning to AP lead to just… sleep walking? Cause I’m scared of that. Also if I AP to another state(is that possible?) do other people see me or am I essentially “a ghost”? Can I see past l…

>How do I move past this? How do I awaken my spirit and move past the borders of this box? You just keep doing it. There's no magical technique that's going to unlock everything. It's the hours put…

Ahem. My husband, whom had a very similar situation (like almost to the t, you can see past comments) lost his virginity to me, nonexistent testosterone levels (I think his was 130 or 150 when he fina…

I tried to date a man recently after a long break and he was nice enough but the reality is after so much abuse at the hands of so many men i just baseline cannot respect them anymore. I just cant see…

When you’re in the thick of something it’s really hard to see past the rose colored glasses. I made this post to feel solid in my decision to leave as sometimes bad relationships can make you question…

This. I dated abusive partner with BPD and cptsd for 3 years eons ago, and then around 10 yrs later I developed CPTSD after dating malignant NPD. Bpd partner it felt more like emotional abuse from a…