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Reading through other comments, it seems like your issue is with the porn and not with the masturbation itself, is that accurate? Because masturbation is normal and healthy, unless it's impacting fun…
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…
“Asian Men Only Like White Women” Is So Baffling to Me — Preface: This post is about *women's perception* that "Asian men only like White women," not about who you should be in a relationship with . Of course, we shouldn't stop/discourage/vilify AMWF relati…
Is there a safe, low-key way to tap into sexual energy using meditation? — This is a sincere question, and feel free to keep it high level. I don't care about the specifics of your sexual preferences, your gender, etc. - I'm just honestly curious. I've had this experience b…
I know what to do, I’m just sad — My girlfriend (24F) broke up with me (27M) about 2 weeks ago. We had only been dating for 5 months, but we were serious. Spent many many days at her parents’ place (she lives at home), they loved me, …
Am I wrong to feel offended? — During my time as a student in the US every now and then when I'm at a social gathering, we might be talking about dating and I come across a white or black dude that would express their preference fo…
No memory of being validated — I tried to think of childhood memories of being validated by parents, but couldn't. I only have memories of either receiving zero attention or negative attention. As for feelings, I feel very blank re…
Question for the ladies on FB dating — I’ve been trying out Facebook dating for about a month and I’ve noticed something on there that I find peculiar. A majority of who I match with have both something casual and long-term relationship …
Struggling to start healing: keep invalidating myself because I feel like I have not suffered as much as my perpetrators — Hi guys, I am neurodivergent. I grew up with toxic parents, one who chronically invalidates all of their children's life choices, preferences, ideas and beliefs, and another who is emotionally absent…
why go back to your ex when there’s 8 billion people you haven’t met? — i know love is complicated, and we get fixated that xyz person HAS to be OUR person. but everything in life (and in love) is about perspective. if you get dumped by someone you really loved, it’s …
“Would you be ok if we slow our cadence down a bit? I like to have some time between our dates and texting interactions, so I can settle into my feelings and intentions.” Or something like that… If t…
I think your question is valid. You showed vulnerability by posting it here. I’m sorry so many adults in this sub choose to use their inside voice when responding. I think it would be different if we …
No. No. No. It's not about you being "worthy enough." It's about people's preferences, their own emotional issues that makes them choose someone, and a host of other reasons. I learned through my Avoi…
Okay I don't know if this is going to be controversial or something but here are my two cents: * *Yes*, building secure attachment means - allowing yourself to have preferences, and not engaging in r…
I think it's going to be really hard to say this *for sure* because how quickly or slowly a couple moves forward can vary wildly depending on individual preferences, circumstances, culture, etc. In th…
Good to hear that poly seems to have given you a good support system! Honestly, I don't argue that you should drop poly if you feel like it's good for you, however I would argue that a lot of the lon…
Very happy to share :) A few years ago I worked with a life coach to work on self-esteem and managing/setting boundaries. I still touch base with her when I need 1:1 support. After the avoidant discar…
The reason you don’t have a romantic relationship is because you won’t get out of your own way. You are stuck in what you want and what you like and how you feel. All very self-absorbed. A woman …
Hey everyone, I (31m) am living in a small Austrian town of about 25k. I have a stable, well-paying job I don’t want to leave, but I’m very lonely and struggling to meet someone. My attraction is stro…
Hey everyone, I (31m) am living in a small Austrian town of about 25k. I have a stable, well-paying job I don’t want to leave, but I’m very lonely and struggling to meet someone. My attraction is stro…
Thanks. He promised "more effort" and how he'll send details to family, so maybe I should wait. He did change in the past when I communicated preferences, e.g. unfollowed IG models. I also changed for…
"Who cares?" Going along with your own apathy about other people's preferences, why even ask about etiquette? If you are no longer interested, then what does it matter how you end the conversation? …
This probably will not be well received by many, but bear with me… you automatically remove half of your choices due to your political preferences, which is absolutely fine if this is important to you…
I have unusual sexual preferences, so the toughest part about dating new men is that they don't have the same sexual preferences as me. This makes me miss my exes. My ex wants me back. But we broke…
This is CRAZY. I have preferences too, but everyone looks the same in the dark. Who they are, how they treat you, and how much you enjoy each other's company is what really matters. Anyone worth da…
My take is that since you are probably the ideal body type of many men, these guys were being rude to you for what you represent (the “ideal” and not a person with feelings). People of course can have…
Sorry that you met these men. Their behaviour is inexcusable and insensitive. However I have to admit that I became more selective as I got older. When I was younger I didn't know what I wanted and …
I'm the same! Of course I have preferences, but I would never say to a guy, "Oh, you have blue eyes, I hate blue eyes!" Who says that?
Beyond basics like politics, religion, relationship preferences, there are some things I'm always monitoring in a new connection. Like: is this person actually paying attention or are they just follow…
i had to be brutally honest with myself after something like this happened to me last year. it was tough, and i hurt someone in the process. some people say they dont have physical preferences, but th…
I'm someone who grew up having Asian friends and never wishing I was White, and I'm personally not super interested in seeing this film. That said, I know other Asian people *didn't* grow up around ot…
"But when I hear "access to women"... it feels dehumanizing." To be fair, there are some whackjobs out there who think what you're worried about. However for most men, what this means is that they wa…
Introspection is a really mindful and healthy way to deal with the loss and grief that comes with divorce. I journal my perspective, often, it just helps to get it out. Usually once I’ve gone through …
I'd say, don't waste time on other people's trashy takes or preferences, the trash wasn't ours to begin with. Nobody should set or define rules on who you should date. The world is open, why handicap…
I’ll start by saying there is nothing wrong with having preferences, but the way this is being framed is not a preference it is negging. As a man, this is not loving behavior. I’ll give home boy a …
There are lots of people who would absolutely love your slim build. Whatever you do don’t change yourself to fit his preferences, it way easier to find someone who loves who you are
After being single for about 2 years, I realized I've been jumping from one rebound to the next my entire adult life. Healthy relationships don't start with trying to fill a peg hole, they start wit…
Yes what you describe is seemingly the definition of immaturity - lacking capacity for insight, being incapable of “self regard.” One of the things that makes me the angriest about my upbringing is th…
>One of the things that makes me the angriest about my upbringing is that I never developed a sense of agency, or the understanding that you can make things happen, that you can actively participate i…
I'm over my ex and last breakup, so that part is irrelevant for me but I totally understand the feeling of nothing happening... I'd say it's partly because men are just crazy at the moment, I don't kn…
I tried on different personalities. That void you’re feeling is bcuz you had to survive rather than properly grow and develop, most of us don’t have real personalities, rather we are a cluster of surv…
Hinge has a thing where you can add contacts to ensure you won't see them on here. I don't see how hiding race would do much of anything to change that. I do sometimes wonder if you or others have p…
Him saying he would leave you over this is a huge red flag. It would be very different if he said that he loves you as you are, or even that he would prefer that you don’t get surgery, but he’ll supp…
**Your body, your choice.** Absolutely 100% get it done if this has been something you’ve wanted to do to the point it’s become a goal and will help you have more confidence in yourself. However I hop…
People here who are jumping on your for your insecurity are fucking assholes. Being a woman dating men is *so hard* because of having to navigate misogyny like this. You’re really young and don’t have…
While there's no universal standard of attractiveness and we all have our own preferences, I believe that it's all a spectrum and even if someone isn't your "type" you can still acknowledge where they…
I dont actually think the two are connected here. Most likely dont learn their heritage languages due to attempts at assimilating "better". I've heard in my family, friends, and others that they see n…
I tell people I know to come up with 10 deal breakers. The top 5 are absolutely NO compromises at all. Firm deal breakers that you will NEVER ignore. A couple of mine for example are: smoking (of …
Research spontaneous vs responsive desire. The "libido" you are referring to, based on your comments, is a spontaneous desire. Someone with a very low spontaneous desire can still want to have lots of…
Weight is not a moral failure - its not anything that people attribute to it. It’s just body. You’re fit now and may you remain so - but I’ve known fit fat women and men, super unhealthy skinny women …
> This friend found an old picture of me through a college acquaintances Instagram and it’s spread through our friend group. I’ve had multiple of them reaching out to me, saying there was no way he co…
Hello Beneficial_Owl_928, Even through your struggle, you're showing tremendous strength, and I admire your transparency in sharing your emotions. Your ability to articulate your feelings so eloquent…
That's just it though, it isn't a big deal to men. It might be to a small percentage of people, but they aren't the majority. He isn't right about them, nor about you. If you thought they were pretty …
When you have a preference, you don't date people that you're not into. When you have an insecurity, you date anyone who will have you, and mask those insecurities by insulting the things you don't li…
doesn’t even need to be a tatted guy. just a guy who likes you and isn’t a jerk. my boyfriend didn’t have any attraction to tattoos or piercings before me, met me when I had my septum hidden at work, …
The irony of responding to a man politely explaining his preference by calling him pathetic, while in the next sentence advocating for this women to have preferences, is the perfect example of how the…
>So, a few days after posting, I humored him by taking him shopping. I asked him to pick out stuff that he wanted me to wear, and agreed to try them on in the dressing room. He picked out all the expe…
Well I mean I don’t think it’s as complicated as you’re making it seem? As a woman I also think the veiny super jacked muscles look kinda gross, just is to me. I have no problem with general fitness, …
You don't "get over this". It doesn't matter that he didn't know it was you.. he called another human being a "humpback". You can have preferences, you can have a type or whatever he wants to call it…
Different people use these terms differently—however, if I’m using the term “not the best match”, I usually mean that I’ve noticed some kind of incompatibility and some incompatibilities are apparent …