bad texter

For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…

Needing help setting boundaries — Hello! I wanted some advice on how to deal with my mom. For context: I am 26 and live a half hour from my parents, who are both retired. I visit them two to three times per month between two jobs, an…

I’m (22F) seeing a guy (32M) who’s great in person but inconsistent over text — I’ve been seeing a guy I met from bumble nearly a month ago and I'm feeling really confused about his communication. FYI- he made it clear when we matched he was looking for a relationship. We've be…

He's going to another college over 2,000 away and that's why I might have to end things. — I really don't want to and I dont really know if this is the right subreddit to post on since we're still together. We've (18F)(18M) known each other since freshman year and we've been dating almost 8…

He's going to another college over 2,000 away and that's why I might have to end things. — TL;DR: I really don't want to since we're still together. We've (18F)(18M) known each other since freshman year and we've been dating almost 8 months. Although 8 months doesn't sound that long, we've …

So I (38M)'ve just been dumped again by someone who picked up on my attachment anxiety, and I'm extremely frustrated because I'm pretty far along my healing journey, but not finished yet obviously, an…

The overarching question is, how do you know when you are doing something unhealthy as an anxiously attached person versus you're justified in having your needs met and the person you are dating is be…

These are my personal experiences from FAs: bad texter, late replies, hard time describing themselves and their emotions, past history of relationships (or none), problems with parents, retreat in soc…

I have been dating a guy for a couple months. I can’t tell if I am getting in my head and overthinking things, or if he is not that interested. I am having a conversation with him about this as soon a…

I'm currently suffering and this is so interesting. My wonder is - is this only useful while dating? When I'm single I don't have this feeling at all because ofc I have nothing to lose but while datin…

I preferred minimal texting before the first date, and I would text a bit more often after that if we have a second date planned. I'm a pretty consistent and frequent texter and prefer the same. I don…

I think it would be appropriate to bring up on the next date. Open the conversation by saying something like "I've really enjoyed spending time with you and I'd like to keep seeing you." And let it fl…

If the chemistry was there on the first date, I would ask for a second date at this point. I wouldn't let it go on as it is for too much longer. It's possible he's just a bad texter, so if it felt goo…

Is he a bad texter or just not interested? He has been consistently planning dates but on week 4, I started noticing his lack of interest on text; slow and dry replies. The vibes are kinda off. What…

I'm four dates in with a girl, and I'm having a hard time getting a read on her. The dates have been fun, she's attractive, we have common interests and values, and in general she's great on paper. Ou…

Had a really great 4th date the other weekend - with a first visit to one of our houses, he brought flowers, no stutter in the in-person chemistry (for me, and it seems like for him, it just keeps get…

I dated a woman in law school who also worked full time. She regularly had 60-70 hour weeks and even she never had more than 24 hours between texts Not sure if it’s a dealbreaker for you (some peopl…

on a diff note, I just want to say that the whole “if he doesn’t reply straight away or doesn’t text often” is not always true. they can be bad texters and still be completely into you. Pay attentio…

I am a bad texter. I have a good life with hobbies and friends and a job I love that I like to be present for instead of staring into a black box, but I get a lot of dates that get upset with it. My d…

Just made a comment about this. I am the bad texter. Set up a date and I’m all yours. Between dates, I’m being just as present with the rest of my life, and if I’m going to see you again, I’m really e…

I think you can wait until just after the first date. I'd say something like "hey, by the way, I just want you to know that I can be slow to respond to texts, but that doesn't mean I'm not interested!…

I honestly can't tell this time around if it was really lack of interest or genuinely that he knew I had standards and knew he wouldn't or couldn't meet them, but it comes to the same, doesn't it? Thi…

To be fair and I probably should have said, she's outright said to me she's a bad texter. I guess I struggle most with the fact she will reach out to me, but then give me very stilted messaging. I jus…

Im a bad texter because I simply just hate it . I’d much rather face to conversations . I get cold cold over messaging to as my messages are just a couple of words