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I (31M) am currently in a sexless marriage with my wife (33F). Wwyd?

What do the household responsibilities look like? Does she do the larger share? The most common reason why women disengage with sex after kids is because they're doing the lion's share of the work. …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/4/2026
From Rejection to Redemption: How I Broke Into DevOps

Fair play, I’m so happy for you. I’m also a sysadmin with decade of experience with Win, Mac and Linux, and have been helping out my company with devops stuff every opportunity I get (pipelines, ter…

r/DevOpscomment5/3/2025
My husband moved in with his AP? Is it ok for me to date?

This is completely legitimate, don’t let people who don’t know your circumstances dictate to you what you should be doing. Before some major negative changes at my job, one of our best perks was wha…

r/Divorcecomment3/10/2026
We Interviewed Our Friends Annika & Tristan, And They Gave A Great Oak Impression For His Gracious Welcome To The Experiencer Community!

>If you want to hear what is (in my opinion) a great Oak impression, wait until minute 45:00 or so! Oh *really* now! \*Checks impression\* Omfg lolol. I shall have some words with Annika :P I kid…

r/experiencerscomment3/11/2026
Why is casual sex so hard?

Not sure it would help but I'm reading the Poly Bible. It covers alot of the discussion here and suggests many ways to deal with things like jealousy, boundaries, relationship design etc. I'm still no…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/12/2026
Could having pisces rising "erase" my capricorn sun?

The fact is that Sun sign focused astrology is less than 100 years old, brought in by astrologers so they could sell more columns because everyone knows their Sun sign but not their Ascendant. Prior t…

r/AskAstrologerscomment3/12/2026
My experience with NHI's, contact and navigating society.

>*I'm happy you've found some measure of peace and health, especially if you're a contact experiencer, which is often inherently stressful. But I'm not here to just say niceties, I'm on a mission. The…

r/experiencerscomment3/12/2026
Discharged after a 3 star Google review

"Privileged way to look at it"? Don't throw around nonsense. Leaving a review is not an innately aggressive action. Leaving an honest review is FAIR PLAY. It is REASONABLE. It is what people are SUP…

r/therapycomment3/14/2026
My wife got pregnant and immediately turned into a completely different person. It’s like she’s trying to destroy me.

Fair play mate, glad you got there in the end. Must've been a nightmare. Hopefully it doesn't go that way for me but reassuring to know there's light at the end if it does. Take care

r/Divorcecomment3/14/2026
My wife got pregnant and immediately turned into a completely different person. It’s like she’s trying to destroy me.

fair play to you for making that call must've been tough. Hopefully it doesn't get to that point but good to know it's an option if she proper loses it. Glad he's doing well now, gives me a bit of hop…

r/Divorcecomment3/14/2026
My wife got pregnant and immediately turned into a completely different person. It’s like she’s trying to destroy me.

This is really not a cool comment. I’m a mental health clinician and your wife either seems to really be going through a mental break, OR, (and please don’t take this the wrong way - I know I don’t kn…

r/Divorcecomment3/14/2026
My wife got pregnant and immediately turned into a completely different person. It’s like she’s trying to destroy me.

That's fair, appreciate a different perspective. Genuinely have asked her what more she needs from me and she just says "if you don't know then I can't tell you" which does me head in. I'm working, co…

r/Divorcecomment3/14/2026
My wife got pregnant and immediately turned into a completely different person. It’s like she’s trying to destroy me.

This is really helpful, thank you. The fact you felt the rage but didn't act on it abusively says everything she's choosing to take it out on me rather than managing it. And the gaslighting is what fu…

r/Divorcecomment3/14/2026
My wife got pregnant and immediately turned into a completely different person. It’s like she’s trying to destroy me.

Fucking hell mate that's rough. Cannabis induced psychosis is no joke people think it's just a plant but it can proper flip a switch in some people. Fair play for sticking by her through it, can't hav…

r/Divorcecomment3/15/2026
How do I (39F) forgive my husband (39M) for making a fake vet appt for our senior dog?

Yooo you should read Fair Play and then figure out a way to get hubs on board to read it. I’d recommend couples therapy as well. He’s keeping score and how can you do that in a marriage as a team and …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/20/2026
30F struggling with mental load: boyfriend (28M) doesn’t take initiative at home

you need to have a serious conversation with him to let him know that you are considering ending the relationship / moving out unless he makes serious changes. read ‘Fair Play’ by Eve Rodsky together …

r/relationshipscomment3/31/2026
30F struggling with mental load: boyfriend (28M) doesn’t take initiative at home

The part that’s exhausting isn’t the chores, it the ASKING. Having to come up with the request, remember to follow up, check if it got done. The logistical overhead of managing another adult is in and…

r/relationshipscomment3/31/2026
My 23M bf gets a panic attack every time i ask him to pick up after himself 22F am i the problem?

This is pure manipulation. It’s actually quietly terrifying that someone would go to these lengths to get out of basic cleaning.  It is true that not everyone has the same standards, and when you liv…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/2/2026
I (23F) was recently told by my bf (27M) that my downstairs looks like roast beef

Turn about is fair play. Start insulting his hygiene and his size. The trash will take itself out

r/relationship_advicecomment4/12/2026