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Lord as my grandmother used to say I would have a conniption and tell him shape up or get out. The dirty dishes would be placed in his car and his dirty clothes would remain where ever he dropped them…
How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2 — We stand with the disabled users of reddit and in our community. Starting July 1, Reddit's API policy blind/visually impaired communities will be more dependent on sighted people for moderation. When …
Sitemap 404 error in Yoast — Hi everyone, I am stuck on this for 2 days. I am Getting 404 Not Found on my website sitemap, I have activated it on Yoast. Here is what I have done so far to fix this using youtube vidoes and Chatgpt…
G4 connection -Shopify or GTM? — Just ran into some guidance that said that all google tags should be administered with the Google Tag Manger (GTM) and the Google analytics G4 should be disabled in the Google & YouTube app inside of …
My upcoming ideas — A tinder like app that links old or disabled people with care or help
The post-abuse life is rarely worth it — Losing your youth to abuse, coming out extremely fragmented and almost disabled when it comes to forming relationships, chronic illness that prevents you from work that prevents you from money that pr…
The divorce was the best decision of my life and I have to talk about it. — I'm 27f and I've been in a marriage with a man who absolutely did NOT connect with me for six years. Like... In the beginning, we were best friends since we were tots. Best friends through high school…
Children know when they parents don't love them. Children know when their parents resent and hate them. — It's surprising the amount of parents who not only think that their abuse is justified, but that believe that their children "are too young, so they won't notice" or "they'll forget about it". I heard…
Apologies for posting again. Apparently I am the abuser and narcissist - I am beyond devastated. No more sharing stuff online for me. *TW - unaliving mention* — I apologise for posting again but this may well be the last social media post I ever make. I am totally devastated and feel close to unaliving. I know that sound dramatic and I am deeply ashamed but t…
the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…
Realizing there is caretaker codependency happening in my relationship — My own journey with codependency has been a lot. My previous relationships were abusive. I’ve been in intense talk and EMDR therapy for a very long time and made lots of progress, but it feels as thou…
Why are koreans so class/status conscious? — \*\* here, 'koreans' mean korean-koreans or first gen korean immigrants, not korean americans who tend to be more chill in my experience. I'm a first gen immigrant. I'm posting it here in a hope to ge…
breakthrough trip & the bigger picture — Hello, it's me again. I know that there are people here who enjoy reading my experiences so thus my posting. Obviously a disclaimer is this experience is under the influence of a psychadelic, but it t…
I feel like the world wants you to die,when you are disabled/ chronically ill. — I don't know, but i feel it is the reality of the world.
Disability *does* make manifestation harder, and I think that’s the point. — I’m sure this won’t be revelatory for a lot of people. I’m new to this stuff and more than open to being wrong, but… I was moderately disabled (not that that has any standardised meaning but whatever…
I (42F) want to leave my disabled husband (45M). But; don’t know how. — I have been married for almost 20 years. We have 2 kids (8&10). Husband had surgery on his foot about 2 years ago. And, instead of fixing it, they messed it up more. He says he is always in pain and …
I (34F) have to move from WA to CA for my dream job and my boyfriend (42M) would have to quit his job to move with me — I (34F) am a successful product designer living in Seattle WA. I own my home. I make Good Money. My bf (42M) has never had an issue with me outearning him and is celebratory of my success. I was laid …
My sister (36f) and I (28f)are fighting because she didn’t tell me that mom died and I really feel like she crossed a line. How do I fix this? — TL;DR: my sister was told about my mom’s death, but intentionally withheld information from me. After I confronted her about it, she became mean and made unhinged and unsubstantiated claims about me, …
How much did you pay for your divorce? — I feel like I am getting raked over the coals. This is the second time I have gone through divorce proceedings with my soon to be ex. The first time was 5 years ago and I paid $5,000 for mediation an…
Struggling with no energy — I've been struggling for a long time with no energy. I can't seem to get myself to do my chores. I feel like such an incapable adult. I'm disabled, but have recently been able to go back occasionall…
I found out that my abusers lost everything because they k*lled a child and I don't know how to feel — I'm an institutional child abuse survivor and lived in an abusive boarding school for \~1 year (felt more like 5 years) when I was 13 yo. It was a terrible environment in which every aspect of our liv…
Delayed no contact 3/4 years later 😂 — me and my ex broke up amicably 3/4 years ago and remained "friends". id say at the beginning, once the emotions had settled a bit (we'd been together 8 years so fair amount of hurt there) we were frie…
It hurts thinking that my own parent chooses the US president over her own children — It hurts its just another reminder that she will listen to everyone but me and that includes the devil himself and all his evil followers. Im not even asking for much, maybe to not be told im wrong an…
My father disabled me — TLDR: my father broke my bone, ring finger, for the sake of his ego. I refuse to accept his apology. ADVICE WANTED I (22m) have had a long history with my father abusing and violating me and then h…
Parents completely oblivious to how dysfunctional and harmful our relationship is — Sorry in advance for the long post. My latest family drama started at the beginning of this week when I noticed my mother's chronic cough had gotten worse and sounded different and my mother casually …
What is a home? What is belonging? What is safety? What is connection? — These feelings are supposedly integral parts of being a human being-and I just seem to totally lack the ability to feel them or don't get to experience them. All the people I connected with were toxi…
Beginning the process of escaping my controlling parents. I’ve never felt more isolated in my life. — I’ve posted here months ago up until now: no updates because there weren’t any to note. I guess this is more of a vent than anything, but it would be nice to hear if anyone has felt similarly while le…
Bullied Out of my Family — I've never fit in with my family. My mom had post postpartum depression, so she didn't really love or connect with me as a baby. She struggled a lot and had no support network, so I don't blame her fo…
Is touch avoidance an autistic thing, a C-PTSD thing or is it cormobid with both? — I went to see someone I've been texting since December 11, he's very respectful of me and kind and caring, he respects the fact I'm a ND, mid transition and disabled (dyspraxia) young adult (25 ftm) W…
Calling Narcissists abusive is "ableist" now? — I and another user just had comments in a thread in the CPTSD subreddit deleted for telling OP that they had a fundamental misunderstanding of what NPD and narcissism are, and that we're allowed to ta…
So is it now "ableist" to talk about Narcissistic Abuse? — I and another user just had comments in a thread in the CPTSD subreddit deleted for telling OP that they had a fundamental misunderstanding of what NPD and narcissism are, and that we're allowed to ta…
I(26F) am debating ending things after he(M27) got a new job — For context, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years now. Ngl, it's been pretty rocky since the beginning. We've had issues with his addiction to porn and women the whole time basical…
My parents trapped me. I’m not allowed to date or leave and they threatened to kill me — (F30) I have two narcissistic, controlling parents and I feel completely trapped. I’m the scapegoat in my family. I can’t date, have a relationship, or move out until I get married but I also can’t ch…
My parents trapped me. I’m not allowed to date or leave and they threatened to kill me — (F30) I have two narcissistic, controlling parents and I feel completely trapped. I’m the scapegoat in my family. I can’t date, have a relationship, or move out until I get married but I also can’t ch…
how come (certain) people react aggressively to suicide, and suicidal thoughts? — I started thinking about suicide when I was 12. I'm 21 now. One of the first things I heard was that I was being "selfish" and "stupid". My grandmother was dying back in 2016, her brother found out ab…
Concerns about fertility and children. — Hello everyone! I am curious to know if I will have difficulties with fertility/will not be able to have children and/or if any of my children will be disabled (mentally or physically). There is nothi…
I dont want to live like this (but I will keep living) — long vent just typing to keep myself focused on this instead of hurting myself. i am the most safe and lucky and happy ive been in my whole life and i still just dont want to be here. ive worked thr…
My parents ‘trained’ me like an animal, how do I undo that? — Hello everyone! TW for multiple kinds of abuse and self harm. I was unfortunately a victim of FDIA (also known as Munchausen by Proxy) and it’s still affecting my daily life. When I was a young kid…
Need some friendship advice — Hello, I have been friends with a person in another country for 10 years. We message and video call and play online games all the time. They helped me deal with the passing of both my mother and fathe…
I feel responsible for my mom — For context, I’m 31 male, unmarried , my parents are in early 60s. My father is a covert narcissist and has damaged especially me and my mom a lot. I want to keep my distance, but I feel like I am bet…
How to go lc when disabled and she’s my “caretaker” — Title- I’m 31 and I live with my parents and it’s destroying me and I need just a smidge of breathing room. I have multiple disabilities but I’m actually white capable of things- mainly I’m just exha…
Setting new boundaries with an old friend — TL;DR: I'm struggling with updating boundaries with a recently disabled friend. I want to stay close and supportive so need to proceed carefully. I (48/F) have a friend (47/NB) of 15 years who was in…
Was my dad abusive or am i just ungrateful and blaming him for issues — this may be a long post, sorry in advance.. my dad is a person that I both love and really dislike. I'm currently still dependent on him and my mom (though they are divorced) because I'm disabled. I …
Should I accept my narcissistic parents’ job offer as a scaffold out of financial dependence? — TLDR; My wealthy parents have a sordid and calculated history of financial abuse, but are offering me to pay me to help manage their investments. I am disabled, possibly for life, and don’t know if I …
Does anyone else’s experiences seem to get minimized a lot with toxic positivity? — I’m honestly sick and tired of people telling me I don’t have it the worst in life or that I shouldn’t compare and the list goes on. I know THIS. However when you grow up in a volatile environment wh…
Delusion? — I’m just thinking. If I pretend I’m not mentally ill, will I become not mentally ill? If I just act like I don’t have CPTSD, will I eventually become functional. A fake it until you make it type thin…
i think i was groomed, hes now working where i get therapy, im overwhelmed — a few months ago i was homeless due to fleeing dv and moved into a mental health group home. there was a team lead who acted weird: \- invited me to have frequent private conversations with him when …
Parents staying friends with my known abuser — Just what it says on the tin. Adoptive parents (69&70years old) are choosing to stay friends w/ my godfather(their close work friend from before my adoption). I am 29 & coming out of the FOG over m…
Had an insane headache all day, Then went into an extremely realistic dream state. Met my dead friend. — idk if this is the right sub for this, but as the title says I had an awful headache all day last week. later, at night had a dream so detailed and real and lasted for what felt like hours. to keep…
Anyone else experience this? — So my narcissistic mother-in-law has been getting agitated and angry because my husband and I aren't messaging her frequently. For context, my husband and I are trying to finish our education, we work…
Huge realization today-- I'm a betta fish. TW EDs. — So, I've had a really rough few days. In reality a rough year. I'm currently recovering from having a spontaneous CSF leak repaired, so my brain is...vulnerable and more dysregulated than usual. I've…
Honestly, senior services are going to be drastically needed soon. I'm in the US, so I don't know if it's the same in Canada, but here as the Baby Boomer generation ages, we have so many people who ar…
Turn off the active status. I also turned off read receipts and disabled notifications. I like the delaying worrying thing and scheduled worry time.
Hi all - this could be considered a graphic post. Just FYI. I wanted to introduce myself and say why im here. My first memory is of being used as a human shield by my dad when cops pulled a gun on him…
Even though I'm FA, as a person whose almost exclusively avoidant in friendships, I don't think this is true at all. My secure friendships all followed a pretty distinct trajectory of periods where I …
Please take a look at my recent post, where people are telling me it's my fault/responsibility to take care of myself when I'm disabled. [https://www.reddit.com/r/Codependency/comments/1ql0b2k/codepen…
I think hinge doesn't use your phone's location, right? Or is it just a setting I disabled at some point? Hinge always shows me people from where I live, even when I travel somewhere else.
On moving in together while being Covid-cautious: **TL;DR:** I am high-risk and I mask up, partner generally does not. Thinking about the possibility of moving in together. He'd be someone least like…
On dating while being disabled and Covid-cautious: Health updates! 1. My partner went for an STI screening to do "whatever that gives me the peace of mind to be with him" and tested negative so far! …
No not really taking energy out of me. It’s more just anxiety inducing. And no my social anxiety hasn’t really dulled overall. But more so in the last year or so but that’s also because I got less dep…
I’ve been burned by that. Met a man who had been separated from his wife for 1.5 years, and the ex had a long term serious boyfriend which made me feel confident it was safe. They had a severely disab…
The irony to me is that you seem fine. I'm disabled and therefore medically retired and living meagerly, and I do drive a car, but much of my life I didn't and would be rejected for not having a car a…
To overcome all you have, you have clearly been working hard on yourself and you have so much to be proud of!! I have a bit of a difficult situation as well that to many people would inhibit dating. …
i feel this. escaped abuse just to become disabled and unable to do shit and holding down friendships has become difficult, idk how my friend puts up with me. coping has been really hard, still trying…
I'm 41F and I have definitely had a lot of thoughts lately about "how my life turned out" and how things are so far from how I ever wanted them to be. Not like 41 is ancient, but a couple of years ago…
Just wanted to express that as 36F, I feel the exact same way. Especially since I'm also disabled, so the effort needed to "overcome" trauma to be extremely high-functioning with a prosperous career i…
Being disabled in top of that i get you 100%. I mean is that or death, i dnt really have the choice ig 🙃
Yup it's either this or more frequently "you are so resilient" and it rubs me the same way. i had no choice and I'm now extremely burnt out and disabled. I had to survive for myself and for my sibling…
That's a beautiful reply, thank you. It's one of my struggles also. I'm right now on a trip with my 75 year old father and I'm seeing his health struggles first hand. Probably my absolute biggest fear…
if someone with only 1 leg would make that everyone elses problem would you call him a "little disabled twat"? no, because it is giving the wrong message that being disabled is wrong.
Been trapped inside since 2012, caring for my disabled brothers who fucking hate me, by my alcoholic mum. 29 years old and not allowed to wear my own underwear or clothes, haven't talked to anyone out…
God i relate to this so much. I feel like I just can't be honest with simple questions that people always ask in small talk! I have to figure out a variation of the truth so others won't be uncomforta…
Hi, 3 month postpartum here. I am also 5’8” and when my husband and I met I was 160 and am now 170ish. On medication for OCD and have an IUD. So some physical similarities but wildly different situati…
I’m a disabled 72 yr old f, with chronic pain. I watch cartoons every single day. The laughter is very important part of my pain management. I’m just grateful that these short film are now availab…
Honestly, you can always say "Oh, I'm not working right now because I'm working through some health issues with my doctor at the moment." If they pry (and they shouldn't) you can tell them you're not …
I’m disabled and unable to work :)
I did this after being told not to and was pretty trapped. Just take your legal documents. You might risk too much by trying to move something that is literally large lol. You can buy everything else …
I've never really been to school, and I've struggled to get employed because she keeps sabotaging me by throwing all my clothes out and my stuff in general, which is not illegal in my area. I also hav…
Whoa that's funny if we are close in age. I'm taurus ♉ rising at 22 degrees. 1982. Chiron being conjunct my Aries ♈ sun, has been bringing up a lot. I felt I was at my prime goal weight, Taurus NN wa…
I luckily(?) have a physical illness as well so I can just tell them i'm disabled with chronic pain and omit the mental health aspect. I also have a couple micro income streams so technically I could …
I tell them I’m disabled. It helps that I sometimes carry a cane but if people pry, I either say I’d rather not get too into it or use an umbrella term for it like “nervous system stuff”. POTS, H-EDS…
The website says making a new account is disabled, too.
Find a new therapist. Be prepared to try a few as there are a lot of bad ones out there. I’m sorry for your abuse. Last time I went for help the psychiatrist insinuated at least 3 times I should end m…
i have often been shamed by people and eben emotionally abused by my extended and some primary "family" for being on SSDI for 7 years now. actually just had a huge blowup about it last week where my s…
i dont say theyre responsible for me feeling that way so im not using them as an excuse nice try tho had to think for a second if youre right what im saying is you dont call people insecure. the same…
Girl I'm old, fat and disabled - I'm not even pre-diabetic. I have never been, either, much to the shock of many of my former doctors and nurses. Your boyfriend is just fucking with you to be an assho…
I don't diisagree. But i've had 500$ dollar VALUE epifany style sessions. Is disabled my life for the better, in a way tobsay i was not going to exist anymore, and it's been almost 9 years consecutive…
I cheerfully smile and say, "oh, I'm disabled." The cheerful smile is important because they will immediately realize that "I'm sorry" is not an appropriate response to something said in a cheerful ma…
Actually my situation is simular and the chronic stress disabled me. My body didnt know how to relax, even when i was living on my own. My situation was even milder. We were mostly ignored, but we had…
I'm disabled - I nearly died earlier this year after bleeding around the clock for weeks. I've just had surgery to remove my colon & have a permanent stoma. I also have a heart condition and have to w…
I can completely understand were you are coming from. I'm also pretty disabled (had a stroke when I was 7 from open heart surgery) and I couldn't leave until I was 26. I was super lucky to have a part…
Comment removed - victim-blaming. There are many reasons people can be stuck with abusers. In this case, the OP is disabled. Talking down to the OP isn't going to help.
Completely get it. Raised by two attorneys with the intention to be something important - an animal rights lawyer, a Senator's wife, an Olympic softball player. I applied myself, was kind and loving i…
You do save yourself in the sense that only you can do the actual emotional work for healing. But the rest? Yeah. You ain't getting out of mounting debt because of unemployment or feeling alone when…
Growing up as adult child of disabled parents forced me to be responsible for anyone. My parents criticized me in front of my friends, my ex, my siblings or strangers. My mom criticized me or blame me…
And of course any support system you have managed to build fucks off shortly after you are disabled in a way that's inconvenient or annoying for them. I'm just like "I'm very tired and also I'd like a…
I could be the man in this. I’ll clarify, you’re probably correct in your read. But you asked for perspective. Has he ever come to you with things not working in the past? Little things to work on…
"Sure, he actively and deliberately ignored her STOP signal and STRANGLED HER UNCONSCIOUS and then showed more concern for his dick than for her well-being afterwards, but she totally needs to give hi…
Honestly, risking breath play at all, ever, is incredibly dangerous and stupid. Risking it with someone you've only been dating for a matter of months is insane. I am all for the consensual kink, bu…
Those 2 factors are still luck because they involve being in the right place at the right time while having skills they need for that project/job. But they also chose me over many other qualified cand…
I appreciate the detailed thoughts. I disagree that they’re still completely luck, but I understand where you’re coming from and agree that navigating our society as a disabled or ill individual is be…