honeymoon phase

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

Help me to recognise my attachment style please! — I (26F) am struggling with this a lot, since my patterns of romantic behavior don’t seem to fit neatly into any of the four categories (AA, FA, DA, SA). On the one hand, I clearly crave intimacy and…

Does this have to do with my attachment style or is it normal? — I used to score as anxiously attached when I was in my last relationship. I feel like I still have some anxious tendencies in my relationship now but I also sometimes feel avoidant and for the most pa…

Cooling off or anxious attachment? — Dating a guy for a year now. I’m still struggling with managing the scars from my marriage/brutal divorce in what feels like a good, healthy relationship. I’m learning I probably have an anxious attac…

Trying not to get too ahead of myself with new partner — I need to clear my head a bit. About 8 weeks ago I (55F) cold approached a man (49) at a bar. He asked for my number and has been consistent and open with communication since. We are exclusive, see e…

Plain "lost feelings" or might she be an avoidant?! — We were together eight weeks. No conflicts, no issues. She was fully invested, she initiated equally (or even more), said "I love you" first after one month, made future plans for the summer and easte…

Just trying to gain closure on my own... — This is something I wrote in my journal, trying to process emotions and gain closure. Lori, Since you would not give me the opportunity for closure, I'm going to do what I can to get it here. This…

Can You Change a Toxic Relationship? - Is this the right place to post this? — Hello, I am a long-time lurker of this sub first time poster. I’m not sure how to even start this post all I can say is I am completely at a loss. I am so afraid to be alone. Actually, I am horrified.…

How Am I Supposed To Feel? What Am I Feeling? — So I (26F) just got out of my first real relationship with someone (25F) who I really liked - the day it happened (a week ago from tomorrow) I was devastated and begged her to stay, and about the same…

My (F34) husband (M35) hasn't tried to learn what makes me orgasm in our seven years together. I don't want to leave the relationship but am beginning to feel like a predator. Any advice? — I've been with my husband for almost 7 years, married for 2. He is legitimately my best friend, and I am very much still in love with him, so please don't immediately tell me to leave him. Throughou…

Relationship anxiety — one of the hardest things in life is, dealing with heartbreaks. I had few painful heartbreaks before my marriage. so when I got married, I literally winged it to marriage during honeymoon phase of ge…

(35M) (31F) broke up today. — Honestly, where do I even begin… I believe a big reason my significant other became overwhelmed in our relationship was the amount of emphasis she placed on our future and decisions. It was honestl…

What does a good relationship looks like right after honeymoon phase? — I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (36M) for around seven months now. This is the first time I'm in a relationship with an emotionally mature and available person. But we're at a phase of relation…

I (20F) can’t tell if I’ve fallen out of love with my bf (20M) or if it’s just the end of the honeymoon phase — I have been dating my boyfriend for about 8 months. He is my first boyfriend and (basically) first everything so I have no frame of reference to tell me whether what I am feeling is normal. We were f…

How do you bring excitement back to your relationship? (F22) M(23) — My partner and I have been together for 4 years. Id say this issue has honestly been going on for almost a year now but we’ve both ignored it because of major personal life challenges we’ve been deali…

My (F19) BF (M18) broke up with me and I'm heartbroken and confused — Context: We've know each other for 7 years and dated over 9 months. We had few mutual friends. I've had a crush on him about 3 years and we decided to try it out. Throughout our relationship many thi…

How does the honeymoon phase end? I feel like mine was so forceful. — TL;DR I’m 24(F) who’s been with my boyfriend 26(M) since October 2024. Close friends to lovers type of story. A few months of trying to date, dating then official on Oct. We were well into the honey…

24ftm and 24f are these reasons for a breakup?? — I’ve been in a relationship with my high school best friend for almost 4 years. At first it was great, everything felt so amazing and fun. Obviously honeymoon phase. But it still felt good up until th…

My gf (22F) and I’s (24M) sex life is absent. How do help improve this? — For context she is very anxious around sex and has had some poor experiences in the past before we started dating. We’ve been together for roughly a year and in the initial few months it was great as …

Boyfriend (32M) never lets me talk or changes the subject when I (26F) do. — I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year now. In the beginning, this was never a problem and he seemed genuinely interested in me and anything I had to say. Now that the honeymoon phase wore off, it s…

Boyfriend 23M does not talk to me 21F the way he talks to his friends — My boyfriend (23m) and I (21f) have been in a LDR for about six months now. Earlier this week, he sent me screenshots of his conversations with his friends, and I noticed how energetic and engaged he …

Should I be concerned about my friend's new relationship? — One of my closest friends has been dating their partner for about 7 months. She seems really happy but I'm afraid she could possibly be moving too fast and losing herself. At the time she started dati…

Honeymoon phase 19F 21M — I am in the honeymoon phase right now I think. And honestly? I’m pretty terrified. Everyone says it will end. And that’s okay I guess . I just hope it still is ok when it does. I don’t want to have …

Hey. How would you explain DA almost never being attached in early stages of a relationship (first months lets say) why is it so common for them to act loke they are the most attached to the other per…

Same situation bro , it … my mental health up after 2 yrs she pushed me away and within 2 weeks she was in this honeymoon phase with someone else lmao

Same thing happened to me. To me, its a respect thing. I knew going into the relationship that she had a tendency to isolate. I was ok with with it because I myself do that on occasion (with family I …

So many examples I can think of lol. In general, after our honeymoon phase was over, she deactivated and started pulling away. I assumed this was caused by anxiety, so instead of calling out her dism…

My take: People are terrible at self-identifying their primary attachment pattern. You see it over and over again on these subs, people claiming to be secure who could not be more obviously insecure…

People who are securely attached are often more than their attachment style because their behavior isn’t constantly filtered through anxiety or emotional defense mechanisms. They’re not performing saf…

You're romanticizing her avoidance? She wasn't really being vulnerable. She was telling you your ass is grass. It makes you feel secure that you're choosing to be "okay" with her FA attachment because…

Learning this after holding onto the thought of a reunion with a DA for the last 3 weeks (she broke up with me). I read similar Reddit and YouTube replies but I wanted the honeymoon phase back and tho…

Help me to recognise my attachment style please! I (26F) am struggling with this a lot, since my patterns of romantic behavior don’t seem to fit neatly into any of the four categories (AA, FA, DA, SA…

(Jsyk I edited my original comment a bit while you were typing.) Without the presence of any kind of protest behavior or chasing, I'm doubling down on my DA hypothesis. I think the AI roleplay fits i…

I'm a FA in therapy (although with another FA/DA was leaning anxious). A lot of people don't have the skills and guts to communicate uncomfortable things. Here comes ghosting, which is way easier to d…

I've been single for years due to isolation. And one day I began chatting with a guy who I had really great chemistry with. And i soon realised that I am anxiously attached (I did the online test too …

Security can sometimes feel boring after coming from a push-pull dynamic. It’s only a problem if you’re actively turned off to sex with your partner. Honeymoon phases *can* last six months to two …

You might benefit from a combination of 1. reducing "enmeshment" by strengthening each person's individual interests, by say, taking separate evening classes at a community college and talking to ea…

I'm exactly like this. Mines like Honey moon phase, be super laid back meaning no boundaries or labels, let a lot of disrespect slide for awhile, spew it out, break up, 3 days later apologize, get bac…

I am just so moved by what you wrote, this is such beautiful growth on your end. Resentment and being shut down are usually because things have built up over years. I wonder if you asked her if she’…

Thanks! > Resentment and being shut down are usually because things have built up over years. I wonder if you asked her if she’d be open to writing out all the hurt and what she’d need to feel safe a…

I am AA, he is displaying avoidant behaviours. I don't want to speculate on his attachment style, I can only work off of what he says and does. The honeymoon phase was fast and intense, and it ended …

I hate to tell you this, but you only knew him 5mon. You didn’t even really see the real him till 2 weeks ago. You guys moved way too fast and yes it does sound like you are codependent based on how y…

Good, I’m glad 😊 I’ll also add—and maybe you feel similarly—but I was always freaked out by using the Love word and I often fretted, “How am I going to know I love him? How is that supposed to feel? …

Three months is very much within the avoidant honeymoon phase. I hope he remains ready to do the work. I'll admit I am jaded. I would rather light myself on fire than touch an avoidant ever again.. An…

Okay…here is what I am seeing in what you are saying. It doesn’t sound like you really enjoy your hobbies/interests very much. Like you are doing them because you think you should but not because yo…

Hi, just wanted to say you're not alone in this. I'm aroace (my attachment style comes to play in platonic relationships) but for the longest time in my life I denied being aromantic because I wanted…

..... but some relationships DO stay in the honeymoon phase forever <- completely not the point but this part is driving me bonkers It's just part and parcel with every relationship being different. …

Worries me that they say "every great relationship is usually pretty hard." That's just not a true statement. Sure, honeymoon phase doesn't last forever, but.... if all your relationships are hard, th…

Honeymoon phase can last a pretty long time, so long in fact many people die before seeing it end. If a relationship doesn’t bring you joy, you have no obligation to stay in it.

I love that. I used to be a romantic, but through the years I’ve sort of lost that spark… it seems like every relationship I have starts like that and then it’s just kind of meh. But I also know that …

I have come to believe that a honeymoon phase is a red flag. It's essentially a lie, where you are both idolising each other and this big show of love and feelings is fuelled by a sort of delusion tha…

If you tell every boyfriend ILY within a year, then it’s completely meaningless. How can anyone believe you actually mean it when you throw it around so loosely? And how can you love people you hardly…

I don't think there is a clock, and if there is, I haven't been paying attention to it. But you need to be honest with the guy about where you're at with your feelings. He's probably smitten wi…

Proposed to my girlfriend 2 months ago. My attraction the past 6 months has fallen off a cliff but I told myself that was the honeymoon phase ending. It has turned into me finding issues with everythi…

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It seems that you have identified this is the honeymoon phase cooling off and it's more steady rather than intense now. Is there actually currently anything in particular you're hoping or wanting tha…

I (21F) feel very jealous and am worried about making him (22M) feel smothered. For context, this is my first real relationship, nobody ever asked me out or anything growing up. Me and my boyfriend h…

What is “a little while”? Remember the beginning of a relationship is the “honeymoon phase”. Everything feels great and wonderful. Everyone is putting their best foot forward. You are not seeing the w…

That's how I started as well. I wanted some really casual fun. Was very transparent with my situation and where I was...I ended up in a 3 year relationship that was awesome for the honeymoon phase (wh…

I have been in this sort of relationship. It was my previous one before the one I’m in now - we were together for 4 years. We were so in love every day and the honeymoon phase never ended. Very high…

I’m 4 years out from that relationship. I took almost 1 month off work (thank god I was able to) and just laid on the couch. I cried all the time and could barely eat. The grief made me physically ill…

I posted here a week ago and some people commented and I appreciated that and figured I’d vent and give an update. Basically my gf last week said that she’s unsure of the relationship and wanted time…

Tough times ahead of you. It’s going to be a hell of a lot worse for her very soon. Once the honeymoon phase of their sex life is over and she realizes that guy is not you and the fun and games are no…

Fast infatuation doesn't necessarily have to crash and burn though right? It just depends on how the couple adjusts and reacts as the honeymoon phase cools down. Which also comes with anticipation *…

It's very common,you are in the honeymoon phase. But it passes

Exactly. Once the honeymoon phase ends and reality sets in it’s a whole new ballgame.

Hi, I was in a really long relationship and yes, really lots of memories, places we visited, unfinished plans, everything. I’d wish I could be like you and get comfortable with the idea of being okay…

I really like this advice (and the harshness is needed, so no problem there); thank you for responding and taking the time to type it out. I wont say much, but we've talked more and noticed some probl…

Focus on yourself. She is still relatively early in her new marriage so may still be in a honeymoon phase. Regardless it doesn't matter how that one ends. Focus on what you can control and thats bette…

That sounds like lovebombing. She is probably only into the initial honeymoon phase that gives her the high but she doesn’t know what she wants in the long term. Don’t look back and move on to the nex…

How long were you married though, and when did it start to become intolerable? Both your ex wife and the new husband are probably still on their best behavior, and in the late stages of the honeymoon …

Yep thats where im at. Starting at the new dating but not honeymoon phase. I agree it is because it was a woman which is terrible. Its not an excuse and she cheated on me. If it was a man I would be…

Original copy of post by u/anapforme: Have therapy tomorrow, but I need to clear my head a bit. About 8 weeks ago I (55F) cold approached a man (49) at a bar. He asked for my number and has been co…