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That sounds exactly like my parents, and I suspect that's how people are in general for the most part. Some of the things you mentioned are definitely not a parent thing, but "people in general" thing…
How to fully be present in my dating break (build momentum at the start)? — You'd think taking a break would be straight forward, but I feel like it's more challenge for us anxious attachment/pure-O OCD types who struggle with rumination or feelings of inadequacy about their …
How to seperate Asian parenting culture vs just straight up abuse? — For a long time, I’ve generalized Filipino/Asian parenting to be just very abusive overall. And I’ve thought that my parents were bad because they were Filipino, and that I know many other Filipinos w…
First Regulate Your Nervous System — Recently I watched a YouTube video by a guy named Reeves Tsang called how to reset your nervous system (and how to finally override your reality) This is one of the first manifestation videos I've se…
I feel like certain people latch onto me and drain my energy—how do I handle this? — Hey everyone, I’m brand new to all of this, and I’m hoping for some guidance. I’ve always noticed that, at different times in my life, I’ve had specific individuals who seem almost obsessed with linge…
Walking meditation. Am I just ego tripping? — So I went for a 2h walk today with headphones. And as I progressed I naturally became more mindfull. Thats when I decided to slow down so I could keep more awareness. This is something I do often, but…
How to stop liking men? Or people in general? — Hi, so for context. I’m a woman that has never really felt a strong connection to ‘womanhood’ or ‘womanlyness’ like normal women do. I usually avoid women’s groups/circles and just focus on me. Also, …
Anything related to shame wounds based on my chart? — For some context, my childhood was a bit rough. My family on my father's side, especially my grandfather, used to mock and call me out for being queer. The way I live my life doesn't correlate with hi…
I 32F dont feel respected by my friends 39M and 25F — Im 32 Female and well i consider myself to be easily hurt and i hate confrontation. I have noticed people in general tend to tell me stuff and im wondering because they sense that im in a sense harmle…
I need some people to hear and believe me — Someone in my life is a lot like my mother. Not someone I chose to know, I was unlucky enough to move in above her. And she's DARVO'd and smear campaigned, the list goes on. I know there's essentially…
How many of us have disorganized attachment? — I saw a chart that described this quadrant as a negative view of self with a negative view of others. I feel so awful for being so negative and pessimistic about people in general but I can’t help it.
How does one go about dating — Okay so I’m a 17 (turning 18) yo trans guy and up until the last year, I’ve had little to no interest in relationships—or people in general—due to mental health reasons as well as other things. Howeve…
I feel this. as a female FA who leans anxious (specifically towards men) I can relate a lot because in my female friendships, a lot of the time you're expected to be an emotional rock all the time for…
Me ex said he was “anxious attachment”, he proceeded to panic and freak out after he got me pregnant and dump and abandon me. Any time I talked about moving the relationship to the next level, or plan…
Sorry, I meant general “you” as in people in general. Attachment theory & therapy can not be dispensed like candy from a machine. People need to interact with other humans to learn coping mechanisms. …
Not just women - people in general will feel the intensity of your need and it's a little alarming. Loneliness is not just a romantic relationship issue, it's an overall relationship with people issue…
Text of original post by u/wordsworthcrafting: You'd think taking a break would be straight forward, but I feel like it's more challenge for us anxious attachment/pure-O OCD types who struggle with ru…
Hi, vv genuine question. would be amazing if you could help me out! How do I manifest a job that pays me well (enough to go on vacations abroad as well) and one where I have peace of mind? The one thi…
Things that have helped me: - keeping on dating, don’t make one person my only option. Or if dating isn’t happening I try and carry on going to queer events and just meeting new people in general to r…
Yup, I have posted about him before. I was close with his mom before I became friends with him. I don't want to ruin a perfectly good friendship.... he's liked by everyone and he likes people in gener…
Granted I'm really not a fan of people hijacking clinical psych terminology and assigning people they barely know with personality issues, how is this him being avoidant vs. just not being as into you…
Disinterest does not mean he has trouble bonding or being intimate with people in general, which is what the pop psych term "avoidant" means. Why are we labeling people avoidant (implying he's doing…
Both likes were well within my regular filters though. I think hinges algo started showing me to more people in general rather than people just outside my filters as the settings you choose dont deter…
If it were me, I would continue to be avoidant of men and prioritize friendship with healthy women. And maybe try to see if you get an inner bisexual hiding in there to explore romance with women. Jk…
Interesting. What do you think they mean by "people like you"? Like people in general or is it some characteristic about you? I have no idea why people match just to argue. For me I just skip over t…
Ah, this made me sad-laugh a little. It echoes a lot of my own thoughts lately. I'm not actively dating right now, but I find that people in general just aren't that curious about others in conversati…
I've been guilty of that behaviour in the past where I'd do stuff like planning bdays or gift giving; Partly because I enjoyed the person's company, but also partly because I was "banking intimacy". I…
If things seem to be going similarly on the next date, you could ask a direct question like "Are you hesitant to kiss new people in general or are you still figuring out how you feel about me?" I ag…
If it means anything, I am in a very similar boat (M33). I have friends, hobbies and a job I enjoy. Pretty much a normal life, but I have never had a girlfriend (just a few flings that didn't go anywh…
i'm not trying to sound like a bitch but i really read this post thinking it was a young 20 something year old. just the subject line alone. more just people in general but i dont understand why bein…
Bro. That's just how women are. If tue date was really bad do u think they go home and say omg I made the date really bad? No they go he made the date really bad. Banter and dates and all that is …
I'm only 29, so I typically only lurk since I'm not 40+ but I'm definetely in the category of men who are interested in older women so I'll give an answer. It's partially a sex thing. Older women are …
7th house is marriage along with contracts and agreements in general. It can be long term friendships and how you relate to people in general. For my 7th house saturn return, one of the things that …
I want to ask if a casual guy friend likes me, and the advice seems to be "just ask" - for valid reasons, I don't understand how to put this into practice without bluntly just going "Hey, I was wonder…
after reading all of this, all I can say is: girl...... Wow, whether you're gay or straight, your asian parents are just always diabolical. You're a man, like girl please, is your mom not aware of…
Hahaha you're a stronger man than me. Old me chased harder thinking I could be better. Forgive harder. Whatever. I was chasing the idealistic version of her in the good moments and ignoring the bad.…
It's going to depend on how the chart is layed out, I think the marriage for saturn in the 7th is a more "pure" example of something that can happen. Another example of that for me was there were a lo…
.It stems from those people going to asian countries and having bad and horrible experiences with Asian people in general. Making it seems like EVERY asian person is racist towards non-asian and non-w…
People who have narcissistic traits/are controlling hate when you hold up a mirror to them. It sounds like you exposed an insecurity he actually knows makes sense - he limits your freedom. You have to…
I don't know if generational trauma is at an all time high or if people are more open to talk about it or become aware of it due to the internet. The concept of trauma and bad parents goes back pretty…
I’m so sorry. I’ve tried to contain my anger towards him and him alone, not myself. I think part of my exes plan was so corrode my view of people in general, so I didn’t think I could do better than h…
I am really sorry to hear that. No matter who it is in your family, that kind of treatment doesn't feel good. I think you'll still get a lot from the book, because it's mainly tools on dealing with em…
My last date had 52 in her profile, turns out she was 6 years older & my senior. Her pictures were not up to date either. So let's remove the "men" & replace it with people in general.
I think that's just people in general. If something isn't normalized, they think it's abnormal, thus labelling it all as bad. Then they light up a cigarette while thinking "damn these people who do we…
Not in today’s world, younger people in general are hesitant to have kids now
It sounds like she was trying to convince herself she wasn't into what she was obviously fantasizing about. I think people in general have trouble admitting there's a difference between the type of pe…
Yes, it's become more popular/widely known about, in fact my ex blind sided me and poly bombed me in 2023 because she impulsively decided she needs to go "try it" to not die with regret on her future …
It’s so bad out there ime that I made a commitment to not worry about men for at least a year, or until this phase of red pill is gone. Something is seriously wrong with men/people in general nowadays…
Women will say they checked out and they couldn't do it anymore and thats true for man children that can't change at all, but they will also absolutely not give you any grace if you don't correct it i…
Because on some level, it's true that we each have our own difficulties, and it's even true that what's small to one person could be monumental to someone else, but it still don't always equate to tra…
I went to a second date yesterday with a guy from Hinge. The guy is great on paper (same age, emotionally available and seems emotionally mature, financially stable, no addiction, wants a long term re…
Most people hold one or more negative core beliefs about themselves that lead to developing dysfunctional coping mechanisms. I've been in therapy for about two years now, and my therapist and I have d…
To put it stoically: You’re allowing your emotional reaction to lead you away from wisdom. You stated your bias clearly though: “ as an educator, as a woman, as a child who grow up surrounded wit…
Tried the stupid dating apps again and managed to make a great match. We have loads of stuff in common and she seems like a genuinely good person. The first date went great and we really hit it off, e…
Who knows. As a guy that can communicate well and have good conversations, that definitely isn't something my dates run into. Granted, I can converse with people in general outside of dating. Somet…
This is my biggest pet peeve. Being an avoidant woman doesn’t just cause problems in your romantic relationships, but your platonic ones too—even if you aren’t avoidant in friendships. Which, I’m avoi…
Sounds paradoxical. I think all the air signs are somewhat paradoxical. Gemini being the most obvious paradox as they are two faced. The difference between Aqaurius and Gemini is Aqaurius tries to rec…
They are the viewpoint of NHI looking around & announcing their presence. Technically they are best described as a camera, or at a deeper level a "sensing portal" - two way mental connection capable …
“Notice how your love for your partners never really diminished, even though you may have been angry or hurt and a need not met in that moment.” Yes, but women aren't looking for perfection. And you …
You don’t mention how long you’ve been dating him, nor even a ballpark of your ages, which would be more helpful. That thread of neglect—especially for financial stability—is going to bite you in the…
I'm not gonna lie my guy, this feels like a lot of excuses to just avoid putting yourself out there, or you're overthinking this like u/falilth says... 1. Dating apps suck, yes, absolutely no-one wil…
I recognized that look from my mother, and I used to think there was something wrong with me because I perceived it that way. It became most apparent when my parents destroyed my relationship with m…