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Edit to add at the beginning: YOU DESERVE BETTER. You deserve someone who won't cheat on you. Nothing is wrong with you. Him cheating is his own character flaw. HE DOESN'T DESERVE YOU. 21 years toget…

Warning: Aggressive Tactics from Paperstack – A Cautionary Tale for Store owners seeking funding — Hey fellow builders, I want to share our recent experience with [Paperstack](https://paperstack.ai/), an e-commerce financing provider, to caution others who might be considering their services. We …

Theme Suggestions- simple, visual oriented, for events/non-profit — Hello! I run a small nonprofit that produces low or no cost music shows for the community. Part of our mission is to be as supportive as possible to the creatives "on both sides of the stage"... So w…

Proud of my results as a non expert and want to share and say thanks! — I posted about my SEO efforts about 5 months ago and I had such a warm response from everyone that I kind of wanted to provide an update. I had both shared my results and asked for advice on next step…

I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …

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What are good books or podcasts to consume if I’m early in a great relationship and trying not to let me anxiety ruin it? — I’ve been dating a really amazing and supportive partner for the last few months. I thought I had done the work to heal my anxious attachment style, but I’m quickly learning there is a lot more work …

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Master’s degree, big scholarship, and leaving a toxic situation — Background: I was keen to leave my toxic family situation for years but let’s just say it wasn’t happening. I got a good job in my hometown, I found someone I loved who was desperate to marry me, I …

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I (28F) cut off my in-laws after how they treated me before and during my wedding, but I get anxious when my husband (27M) still talks to them. How do I move on? — TL;DR: My mother-in-law and sisters-in-law insulted me, fat-shamed and color-shamed me before our wedding and caused major drama during the wedding itself. Now they act sweet in front of my husband. I…

Found out 10 year situation-ship has been married the entire time — I’m absolutely gutted. Sick to my stomach. We’ve (now 28F 35M) been on and off in a passionate, toxic, can’t-keep-our-hands-off-each-other “relationship”, and we couldn’t seem to ever stay away from…

I’m the problem. — My husband is perfect; amazing Dad who does half if not more than half of the school runs. He cooks every night, he brings me a cup of tea in bed every morning. He is supportive of my job (I’m C Suite…

How to come to terms with life of umemployment? — I used to work in faang. I lost my job due to my bipolar condition. I have been unable to resume my career. I have been able to save decent money and my family is supportive. I miss being employed …

My mom called my son’s birthday party “f***ing embarrassing” because she cares more about what people think than celebrating him — **UPDATE:** Thank you to everyone who commented and shared advice. A lot of people suggested going no contact with my mom to protect myself and my son. I understand why people said that, but I want …

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Does anyone else just not tell their mother anything — I have too much trauma to write here but in short I stopped telling my mum anything from about the age of 16 (now 31) because I learnt the hard way that anytime I was brave enough to share my true tho…

UPDATE: The Trickle Truth is Real — I don’t feel like sharing too much because it’s painful, but the trickle truth is real. I was able to get access to the texts since her affair partner didn’t delete them. They never had any in person …

Anyone else's parents never encouraged their hobbies? — I love to sing. I haven't used my voice in over a decade and thinking about it makes me want to cry. For years I've been waiting for permission to use it. My body still fights me to sing above a whi…

UPDATE: My (32f) fiancé (28m) repeatedly does not clean the house — Hello lovely reddit. First relevant links. My first post I deleted (so you can peruse the comments if you are interested): [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/18yjl0g/my\_32f\_fianc%C3%…

Is my relationship doomed? I love him, but I’m so alone. — Hey everyone, I’m Lucy (F, late 20s) and I’ve been with my husband, Rick (M, late 20s) for about 8 years, married for 2. I know he cares about me and our family, and I see that he loves us. But latel…

How to help my wife? Severe depression over lack of suitable work after 2yrs. I'm desperate. — My wife has been struggling hard with life since we moved over a year ago. She has anxiety and depression which has gotten worse. I help by doing more stuff around the home and trying to be supportive…

My ex wife changed after the divorce and I don’t want her back but I am angry — I see little bits of my ex wife life through my kid and I just don’t see the women I divorced anymore. She immediately got a new husband not even 2 years later. I original thought it would fail becaus…

How to bring up SI to my therapist? — (Prefacing: I am currently safe! This post just sucks to make.) I'm relatively new to having a therapist, I started last year in November. I feel like I hit the jackpot with my therapist, I think we …

I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…

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This was so helpful to me. I’d be interested to learn more about the potential effects of a parent who was always physically present, but whose emotional availability varied to extremes for the first …

Hey, I am an overconfident twat that lacks any real creativity. I tend to just jump in on anything to feel included . Sometimes it's confusing cause I don't even understand what I'm trying to shit on.…

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

Fair question - the way I see it, victim blaming = "this is actually your fault" but victim mentality = "the way you are approaching this/life is hurting you/holding you back" ~~~as long as the commen…

Now THIS is the kind of conversation we need to be having. As a fearful avoidant who leans both anxious and dismissive avoidant I have to say I love this sub but I’m getting tired of the victimhood co…

Love the question!! You don’t need a relationship to grow, that’s the beauty of it (you can but it will be slower, depending on what kind of partner you end up with) You could try to explore being mo…

Thanks for your supportive comment 😊I definitely think anyone’s energy is better spent elsewhere than in these dynamics. But sometimes they hurt and make you feel confused

Congratulations! You did that hard work of putting in the time, and now you get to reap the benefits. So important to have a supportive spouse. I also have 2 young kids and it’s keeping me from jumpin…

Thank you for your supportive words :) I am definitely still an AP, but in comparison to some years ago I am able to identify my patterns and self regulate my emotions much more. This is the big diffe…

Thanks. Even if Im anxious or fearful, I usually bring up pretty quickly what bothers me because I hate mis understanding and I also hate to think badly of my partner. This way I am vulnerable even in…

As a regular of that sub, I dare to disagree. While it's indeed true people (and early on myself included, until I knew better) confuse or wrongly attribute abusive patterns and narcissism to avoidant…

u/TTMI2 It’s really a shame to see sooo many cut throat answers here that leave little room for personal development and growth. These responses are missing a very important point; *attachment styles…

I'm still very new to this forum, but from I can see people here tend to explain the totality of events solely based on the attachment theory. While it does explain why someone with insecure attachmen…

i actually really like this. i think folks are quick to dismiss the perspective because they haven’t experienced someone genuinely working to understand them and meet them where they’re at. also becau…

When I mention ‘AI’ I don’t necessarily mean that which exists in its current form, but rather a smart artificial intelligence that actually does know how to counter your thoughts and redirect them to…

I used to struggle with this and at times I still do. I was very honest with my partner from early days about my issues and he is so supportive and kind. I think honestly is important! I also try to …

OP, I think what the person above said is very true. I was honest with my partner from the start, and thankfully they were also quite supportive. This helped immensely What also helps me is to tak…

Wow, you have done a significant amount of research. I am just now learning about these Avoidant Attachment Styles. I'm not real sure what my SO has, and I'm also not sure which attachment style I hav…

Forgive me for being thick, but I think I just became even more confused. I read both posts and just finished reading the link to the post by Marsh273, you shared. I have read quite a few of them in …

This is actually such a huge win! You’re learning to catch yourself mid-anxious spiral and reframe the story you’re telling yourself. That’s not silly at all, that’s real growth. The fact that you wen…

I appreciate that, nice to have encouragement!!  My sister is in a fight for her life, but making some incremental progress everyday... and thankfully I do have good friends & family around me as a su…

>It’s also worth wondering WHY I want to even try to be friends in the first place. Must be an anxious thing Grief avoidance is common in both anxious and avoidant attachment systems. My advice, as …

The majority of a message (thought stream) sent to my significant other, after two days of receiving (what I believe to be) whimsical communication and apathetic tone, from someone I know loves me—am …

What he did was not normal in the opposite way to what you're thinking. He was more supportive than the average person would be. 

If I didn’t think it was worth it I wouldn’t be pursuing. He shows up in every way supportive, very loving, affectionate, shows pda, disciplined, hard working. if the flaw of me having to learn how to…

*Should I text her or stay silent? Don’t want to restart hope or regret not trying.* I (male) am really confused about a girl and could use some clear advice. Around 2 months ago, I confessed to a …

Also, my ex would do similar things like you described. If I voiced I was concerned I had BPD and shared “why,” he would be supportive in the moment but the second there was conflict he would weaponiz…

> Now I know how to set boundaries. That's great!! I'm still learning how to actually reinforce these and protect myself and it has been very helpful for me to reorient my thinking from: "I'm being…

I think there are just a lot of people out there who have traumatic experiences, unfortunately. I don't think it's necessarily bad to form connections with people who have trauma because it can be hel…

> The sub doesn't let me post That's weird. There are auto-rules that limit TOP-LEVEL comments for posts tagged as "Seeking Personal Stoic Guidance". You have to be tagged as a "Contributor". I do…

Kids are clingy, they need to be for survival. It's good you have awareness of this so you can learn to be emotionally supportive prior to having a child, so you don't end up neglecting them.

I'm usually a lurker on all social media so I don't have much karma (posting makes my stomach hurt lmao) I hope I get enough soon to post, I just wanna be a supportive partner. 

About a year ago, I thought I was ready to date and was as healed as I could be, so I started dating someone and am now in a serious relationship with them. However, I noticed early on in the relation…

Thank you so much for this reply! I’m glad to hear that the consensus is to stick through the ick and I love that sharing has made you feel better! I have communicated that I need space sometimes, t…

Mainly platonic connections - family (those who are safe and with whom you can be authentic) and platonic friendships. People you can go to and talk to about what's going on with you who will be supp…

New here. I have known for a while that I am an anxious attacher. In a previous relationship my husband cheated on me. I stayed way too long, but finally was able to make the break and it was great. …

I get the feeling that normal people just won't get it. I have this innate desire to seek out people who have been broken like me.  But that being said, in the past year my brother married a happy s…

I type out messages with vulnerable content so that I can send them to my SO, but I end up deleting them because it feels icky and unsafe. Even if he's been supportive in a way that is both caring and…

I've heard (and taught) all this stuff so many times. I just...have a lot of snags around it all. Let me go through each of your points. I have other hobbies and interests, but it's hard for me to ac…

hi everyone, sorry for the long post - myself (26F) and my partner (26M) of 6 years have broken up less than a week ago and i've never such acute visceral pain. i'm riddled with the worst physical anx…

There is no direct correlation between low cognitive empathy and anxious attachment. I could not find a study that explicitly drew that conclusion. Studies do report that securely attached people show…

I used to only feel intensity and the push/pull of chaos as chemistry. Like Spiritual Twist said, I had to heal my own wounds and nervous system to be attracted to peace. If you haven't read it, I HI…

That meta analysis addresses empathy in general. As stated by them >We did not differentiate the dimension of the empathy; both cognitive and emotional dimensions were included as a general measure o…

I can definitely relate a lot to your experiences - I also was religious up until about age 26 when I deconstructed, and lost most of my Christian friends when I stopped going to church. It was a real…

Well that’s great that you still have contact. It sounds more like you are grieving the loss of where the friendship was at previously. Friendships can have hiccups and still bounce back later on down…

I wasn't ever really planning on having children but wonder if I would feel differently with the right person if they wanted kids? My sister recently became pregnant and is older. She never planned on…

I don't think your friend's comment was nice, but if this is the same guy you've been seeing who hasn't been very supportive or present for you in your times of sadness and distress, I can see why she…

It's been a tough time this past week. Last week I finally got around to starting to thrive in Sunny San Diego with a good handful of dates in January and more scheduled, spending time with family, bu…

It sounds like you have been through a lot in general. I think one of the hardest things about being single is having to navigate through hard times alone. Not that we can't do it, it's just that havi…

Bummer and I understand that sometimes these games require an exact number of people. But next time if someone cancels maybe you could have someone as a backup / willing to sub in if needed? Obviously…