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Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
Changing or staying? Product Designer — Hello. I’ve barely been a junior product designer for a year before I was laid off and threatened by AI. Same telltale as everyone in design/IT industries. I’ve been unemployed for 2 months now, and …
Please tell them the truth before it destroys them. — If you’re cheating on your partner, please stop. And if you already did, have the courage to tell them the truth. Infidelity doesn’t just “hurt someone’s feelings.” It can destroy a person from the i…
The deep scars of emotional neglect. — I am the 4th, and youngest child of an emotionally unstable, single mother. Growing up with her was hell. You never knew what you were going to get. One day she would be distant and completely unrespo…
It only took 3ish days of being decently consistent — Small success story that I feel the need to share with my favorite online community. So, for context, I'm a huge Spyro fan (videogame) and I play it on PlayStation 2. To play the game, I need a Play…
Nostalgia is now another form of grief — You know that scene in Inside Out 2 when "Nostalgia" comes out for a few seconds? I remember when I watched that movie, I laughed and turned to my husband and said, "She is at the center console for m…
YouTube therapist is a fraud — I am using a throwaway account. I am so angry and feel trapped, and don’t know what to do. About a year and a half ago, a friend of mine (we have been friends for our whole lives, had a falling out, a…
feeling alone — i dont think anyone else has been through what ive been through and it eats at me from inside out because no matter how many friends i make or no matter how much i socialize the people who hurt me alw…
Strangers again — Isn’t it weird how two people who knew each other inside out, who were each other’s bestfriend, person is now a stranger? I bumped into my ex today and it feels weird and bittersweet how someone who u…
When your best friends breaks your heart and you feel partially to blame. — Hi all **edited for sense** At the very beginning of our relationship, I cheated on him twice. I was in a terrible place, and I broke his trust completely. I stayed, I confessed, and I was terrif…
You're on the right track with the 9th and 12th houses — they work together beautifully for this theme. The 9th is your long-distance, foreign-lands, philosophical expansion house, while the 12th rule…
i've had clients with sun-uranus transits and honestly? it's like they're being rewired from the inside out. sudden changes in their sense of identity, which can be super disorienting. one client had …
Yeah if you can cry watching Inside Out then why the heck can you not understand that I want empathy? I tried all the logic in the world and all the emotions.
I found it insane as well. But then I looked at the news and the number of stories of parents abusing, torturing and killing their children. And it seemed narcs like my parents did not go to that ext…
I’m sorry you’re going through this. You might not see it right now, but I hope one day you’ll look back at this moment and see it differently. Maybe even as the beginning of something better for you.…
Check my profile. I hv a whole essay on what she said to me. Broke me from inside out
I just slowly die from there inside out...
9 months , and I realised I’m so at peace with not dividing my time, if someone comes into my life that is a fit ; great! If not, I have so many incredible friends now and so many hobbies that I hones…
I was Daddy's girl until I was in my thirties. Then I really opened my eyes to just how fucking selfish he was. Literally yesterday I remembered having panic attacks trying to drive down to his place …
hugs I can empathize with that. I think we often mention only one side of divorce because the topic leans one away for the sake of the discussion here. I think Inside Out (my therapist recommended) t…
Honestly - at your ages a person should be capable of a nuanced thought. Perhaps the exact wording might have been couched differently. but we almost always grieve (a little bit) of what was. As an …
Me rn. It’s so built up I feel like the angry guy from inside out
At this stage I would not tell her, or any other person who is new in your life. you might tell her you inherited some funds that make your life slightly easier but you cannot touch the full sum no m…
No what *really screws things up* and makes things worse is… Chasing love externally when you don’t love yourself -> which leads to choosing people who don’t love you -> which reinforces the original…
Oh my god, I am so sorry. I know exactly how that feels, though it’s not related to my nparent. It was a horrible situation where I was trying to support a friend going through a mental health crisis…
Start treating yourself better because youre a walking target for toxic narcissist men. You probably feel ugly wearing makeup because you a)dont wear it a lot and don't recognize yourself b) you don…
Totally. My mom was so hellbent on me doing so acadmeically well that it was like I forgot how to have fun or feel anything at all. I have a strong work ethic now but only because I want to heal t…
What absolutely breaks my heart here OP is that, even after all these years, your are still seeking to appease him. What is glaringly missing in your post is any true care for yourself and your needs,…
I’ll tell you my experience. I met a guy on tinder when I was 18 because he “super liked” me as i was passing his city on the highway. He lived about a three hour drive from me. Something just insta…
Yes, classic trickle truth. If she told you the truth then she knows you will call it quits so she is hanging on for dear life. He will of course deny everything as I am sure he has something to lose …
I felt similarly when my abuser died a couple of years ago. I didn't have an immediate reaction; it was just facts. Like, it's good to know, thanks, but strangely indifferent. After I had a chance to …
It’s time to embrace that *you are now in the new chapter*! You have everything you want in life, it’s magnificent and you ARE that person. Step into it and everything will align, whilst your energy i…
Dude you are going through a rough time, and I understand that... but the real talk is... talk to her, confront her, you already have a sense of betrayal, and let me tell ya something... this feeling …
Wisdom comes from experience. Experience comes from making mistakes. For a seed to achieve is potential it must come completely undone. Its insides turn inside out and for anyone who doesn’t understan…
In my first marriage, my ex was addicted to porn. Intimacy was difficult because he always preferred to "do it himself" while watching/reading something. The goalposts on what he liked on me kept movi…
Because he's been showing you how he feels about you and that it didn't matter if you were perfectly behaved or not, he couldn't be satisfied. The mask is off. Now is the time you go on YouTube and st…
Where I live when it rains the wind also picks up by a fairly extreme amount so if you pulled out an umbrella it would just get flung inside out over and over until it broke
It’s because he doesn’t want to be the bad guy. It’s not because he still has hope for your marriage. He wants you to be the one to divorce so he can’t act like he didn’t do this to your family. That …
Seek legal advice just to get you started. I was where you are a little over a year ago. Apart from my kids being a little older, I remember the upside down, inside out, feelings. In my case I later l…
Have some self respect buddy. It’s time to… NOT find a new gf. But to work on yourself. Before you start trusting people again you need to be head strong about YOU. Understand yourself more than anyon…
I lost 70 lbs in a few months when I found out my husband cheated. It has caused me permanent heart damage. Please try to eat something and drink lots of fluids. Your world has been turned completely …
Yeah I get this during longer sessions, feels like you're inflating from the inside out or something
I'm working on this too, so maybe not a 180, but a work in progress? It's scary & sometimes I backslide but that's ok too. I think it's one of those things that we practice little by little & then g…
You are not alone in this! My experience is very similar and honestly reading this helped me feel validated in my own trauma because there is something so evil about tickling. Being hurt in a way that…
I will keep you updated ! For now I am probably going to start with meditation and knowing myself from the inside out....a 7 day meditation schedule where you don't use any digital device for 7 days, …
She got away with so much because you are a pushover. She showed back into the house because you are a pushover. You have no boundaries. You don't even know how to create boundaries. You are going to …
Me too. I sorry you know this pain too. But at least the cult will be tearing each other apart from the inside out, like theyre already starting to
Simple, there are cases where therapy has made couples stronger despite what people said about fuck cheaters; that’s not objective advice, that’s just rage. I’ve once cheated on my girlfriend whom I…
its hard for people who havent been through csa to grasp how bad it is, which is completely understandable, csa is something so vile that should never happen. its not meant to be real, its not natural…
I think our guilt about being useful and useless is the pressure we’re unable to take off of ourselves. When I don’t see the point anymore, that’s it, I’m done, just doing the bare minimum. Finding …
If it didnt survive the storm.. you have to build something that will. Fr the inside out. Heck if i can try so can you. 🥹
Being able to truly accept the answer to those questions is something that comes not of rational contemplation but of true spiritual maturity that tends to arrive only after emptying out the pain body…
Sometimes silver linings have clouds? I recently met a woman in her 60s who was utterly stunning in her youth. I asked her what it was like to be beautiful and got something quite similar to your stor…
It will. Yeah that person was not making you feel healthy from the inside out. The first thing that happens to me if I am with someone unhealthy for me is I lose sleep and stop eating lol. Real sadnes…
Ok, well I do appreciate the responses, and the suggestions. I'm always exceptionally well groomed. Dressed well, fresh and clean. I can only imagine a woman being approached by some guy who totally d…
Hi, please reply… I am having debilitating IBS, chronic pain all over, chronic fatigue as a result of all of the trauma escaping to the surface after years of pushing it down… I don’t know what to do,…
Agreed. Maybe even check out Intimacy From the Inside Out (IFIO). It’s couples IFS work.