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For me this kind of language is what has stung about some breakups more than the actual breakup itself. One that comes to mind is my summer fwb. Great situation, we'd kinda dated casually before, go…

Sharing my learnings as a mid-seniority job seeker — I started job-hunting in April. After two weeks of sending applications and receiving zero feedback (only ghosting), I scheduled a few calls with my mentor. Based in Eastern Europe and looking for a f…

Interview for associate devops role, not sure how it went, need opinions — I had a technical discussion with with a smaller company(around 100-200 employees) and they are filling out a new devops team. I have 7 YOE at large tech companies as a software engineer, but my dutie…

Failing to Find Google Maps Scraper (that does everything) — I've built a directory listing website and I'm using WP All Import plugin to pull in data from a spreadsheet (which consists of scraped business info from their Google Maps / GBP listings). Being tha…

What is one marketing hack that you are surprised actually works? — For example, we acquired our first 100 customers by hacking SEO via Reddit. For example, we found for some questions our cusotmers searched on Google, reddit was the $# 1 result. So we commented our s…

Duolingo leader throws shade at r/UXDesign — You all might remember this thread a few months ago, [debating Duolingo renaming UX to “Product Experience.”](https://www.reddit.com/r/UXDesign/comments/1j3hvkw/duolingo_renames_ux/) The VP Mig announ…

After raising for 7 startups, my pitch decks have fallen into three categories (I will not promote) — Over the years, I've raised funding for 7 startups. I've also raised for startup funds and stare at a hundred pitch decks a month. Based on the patterns, I've realized my pitch decks have fallen into …

I don't want to cry all day and feel lonely anymore. I don't want to fear abandonment anymore. I want to improve myself. — In 12th grade I became very close to a classmate of mine. Both of us bonded over shared trauma and basically became inseparable. We texted each other 24/7 and became very VERY affectionate which then …

How do you stop feeling of needing to be perfect? — I have no problem getting dates, but things always seem to end after 1-3 months. Sometimes, it was my decision to break up or it was theirs but I didn't disagree. But I've had guys dump me when I thou…

How to be comfortable in new, developing relationships without devaluing them for not being as deep as a past relationship (phantom ex?) — After many months of thinking, I've come to the conclusion that one of the things that made my past relationship so special is the fact that it was the first time I had ever been in touch with someone…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…

Saw the same man I've been seeing as a kid — I'm sorry about the use of A.I but my drawing skills are bad and I don't know how to explain this but I've seen this man in my dreams ever since I was a child. I remember seeing shows like Tom and Jer…

Do narcs enjoy kissing? — It took me a while to realize that my nex never enjoyed kissing. There was this one episode where I waited till bed time to tell him "hey, it's been a while 😏" and he turned to the other side and sai…

Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…

F**CKKKKKKKKK — I don’t really have anywhere to say this, so I’m just putting it here. I was with someone for a long time who I truly believed was my person. From the beginning, there was just something about her th…

Shame has dictated my entire life for 41 years — And I didn't know it until now. It was the silent background noise, the "I'm not good enough," "Don't do that or you'll fail!" "Look how stupid you are, you can't do anything right," "Don't notice m…

If you’re already doing well in the US, would you still leave? — I (26M) wouldn’t say I am doing well but I have a job that pays alright relative to the CoL (Portland, OR). I am healthy and have no debts apart from credit card bills. Thing is I am not satisfied an…

Recorded one conversation a week for a month and it was the most uncomfortable and useful thing I've ever done — Not secretly, I'd just tell whoever I was talking to "hey do you mind if I record this, I'm trying to work on how I communicate" and every single person said yes. Except for one so far. Then I'd list…

I did it, I broke no contact. — So I had made a previous post about reaching out to my ex after a month of no contact. I was super hesitant about it and almost didn’t do it because I was worried about the result. But after some hesi…

Hypomania with MDMA and doubts — In December I had an experience with MDMA that made me increasingly happy until, in mid-January, I was told in the emergency room that I was hypomanic. I was prescribed Olanzapine 7.5 And that caused…

Hairy Crabgrass (Digitaria Sanguinalis) -- Is it a potential 5-MeO-DMT source? [In a wider Ayahuasca narrative] — I can't say for sure if it was the grass because I also have a lot of existential stuff going on. I read a report on an old message board that someone's cats like eating crabgrass. They tried ferment…

Today I got the confirmation of why we shouldn't trust 3D — Sorry for my terrible English, I'm using a translator. I’ll summarize my situation a little: I’ve been manifesting my ex since December, and the 'bridge of incidents' in the situation is that he sees …

For those who stayed no contact with a parent until they died did you regret it? — Went from the golden child to the scapegoat between about age 30 and 40. When I was 55 my father told me he did not love me anymore. I am 64 now he is 91 and we have been no contact for 8 years. Some…

The Revision method works! Trust me, it does! — I have read a ton of books and watched numerous manifestation YouTube channels. Most of their teachings are based on Neville Goddard's teachings. And gotta say, that going back to read his words just …

THE PHOENIX LIGHTS 29th ANNIVERSARY This is what I saw that night March 13, 1997. It was a totally solid piece of machinery not just lights. I could see the bottom of the UFO clearly by two light sources illuminating the bottom of the craft as it flew over my head — I posted this also in UFO sub. March 13, 1997 I was working in East Mesa, Arizona in a 10 bed Hospice inpatient unit as the Charge RN. We worked 12 hour shifts getting off at 7:30 PM but that night t…

Manifested a $32K scholarship with accidental SATS!!! — Hi all :) I have a pretty amazing success story that I’d love to share, and I hope it may motivate some of you in your manifestation journeys 😊 Basically, I accidentally manifested a $32,000 scholar…

Endogenous DMT activation in sleep? Spontaneous breakthrough-like state with fractals, death sensation, head pops, high-pitched noise — [](/r/DMT/?f=flair_name%3A%22Experience%22)So this is going to sound stupidly insane but… I need to put it somewhere for someone who might understand. Background: had a 6g mushroom trip a while back.…

Sunken Cost Fallacy — Married for almost 27 years. Got married at the ripe age of 19. Funny thing, I thought it was a mistake on my wedding night when he got out of bed to jack off because I was so exhausted from the long …

i think i shifted timelines and i dont want to seem crazy. — i was staying up really late cause i wasn't that tired and suddenly i felt quite tired so i rested for a bit but i stayed semi lucid dreaming, and the dreams were long but everytime i woke up the time…

I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough! — I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough I just came back from a 4 week long vacation in Turks and Caicos in the Caribbean. This was the 10th year in a row I have don…

Spring Cleaning and Change — Currently, the biggest benefit for me since the new year has been discarding items. I've gotten into a bad habit of stockpiling possessions in one room and eventually thinking I would take action on t…

Favorite sexual experience while on psilocybin? — For me, I loved how much more enhanced it was. That feeling when you’re close to orgasm, and you know that if you don’t get there asap—if you hit that wall—you’ll lose the ability to get there? (in t…

First “bad” trip taught me a lot - sharing my experience to help others — I’m 28m, good job, good relationships, physically fit, happy overall. Experienced tripper with several high-dose mushroom trips under my belt. Always had positive experiences. Took 4g mushrooms today…

Unexplained flash of light — A few years ago my sister & I were laying in bed both on our phones & we saw what looked like a camera flash came from one side of the room. We both ignored it partially bc we hoped it was the other o…

I made my husband confess to OBS and here’s what happened — For your education and entertainment purposes, this is the story of what happened when I forced my husband to confess to OBS. Quick backstory: (you can read the full post on my profile) my husband h…

Breakup with my partner and best friend — Its one of the first time im using reddit so im hope it'll be alright. I've had a best friend. He's been my confident for 10 years, he was my safe person, I was relying on him for everything. 3 year…

Decided to stop blaming things on my breakup, the world, and my mental health — Ever since my break up last year i’ve turned to alcohol, gambling, lots of random hookups with girls i would never make my wife. I’ve come to realize that she was one of the most important lessons in …

How do I (F26) talk to my partner (M33) about casual misogyny? — I (F26) had recently expressed excitement/interest about one of my partner's (M33) interests. It is a sort of biking/beer drinking tour that he does with his friends a few times a year (all male). I …

Carl Jung wasn't a psychologist. He was a shaman. — Carl Jung quietly wrote one of the most profound esoteric texts of all time, at least in my own personal opinion. Seven Sermons to the Dead was written in 1916, privately shared between a handful of J…

What if you’re the impression? — I posted here a while back asking whether the process of examining impressions ever gets in its own way. Whether progress looks like faster processing or less need to process at all. The responses hel…

Dream or Real? — I’m curious if anyone has had a similar experience. **TLDR:** Saw a grey in my room. Communicated I wasn’t afraid. Instant paralysis. Felt three taps on my forehead. It showed me images. At the tail…

Heroic Dose Trip Report — Took 6 g of PE yesterday and had one of the most profound experiences of my life. I used Orange Tek method. Now, onto the trip! Zero nausea on the come up and the come up itself was very fast. It wa…

Cried over my ex like we broke up yesterday — I broke up with an intense yet beautiful relationship I had 3 years ago. Our relationship felt like we were married, had many lives together and out of all of my relationships it was the most I felt s…

My partner (f34) “quiet quit” our relationship and I (m37) need closure. — We had been together for approximately 4 years. Engaged for the last year. Bought a house. Had big plans to ride off into the sunset together. It was the best 4 years of my life; we were absolutely cr…

I Changed Myself and Got it All — Hello, I’ve been wanting to write this post for a very long time. Grab a snack and come along for the ride! **The Beginning: April - October 2022** I discovered Neville 4 years ago; after a year of …

Text that Blew Apart My Entire Life — Note: This is a repost of a post I made a couple of days ago. I deleted it because it was made from my 10 year old account and I needed to make a throwaway account to work on my issues in case my STBX…

Processing my NDE and the paranormal experiences that followed — I can’t sleep and i’m feeling the need to document a sequence of experiences I had from February 2019 through 2020 that forever changed my life. I’ll try my best to keep each section somewhat brief, b…

Women's Experiences After Mushrooms — Tl;dr: Have other women had changes in their period or changes in their libido following a mushroom trip? Hello everyone, I had my first mushroom trip about a month ago and wanted to share some phys…

Met my ex after a year apart. It was the best day since our breakup. Here's what happend. — A year ago, I said goodbye to someone I truly loved. A year and a half together, big plans, intense love. The breakup was painful and messy. For a year I processed it, analyzed it, doubted myself. Ev…

It's truly over — I spoke to her yesterday. It's been almost 3 months since the breakup (she broke up with me) and we've spoken a bit back and forth. I had so much hope until yesterday. I just told her how i felt, lots…

Hi there - you may want to post this as a new thread (a toplevel post) or as a comment in the weekly check-in thread since not many people are going to see it here. I think basically all parents who …

Hm. I wonder if that could be it. But I'm also super new to spirituality. How do I overcome this? I'm wondering if also maybe it was because it was the first time I was trying to separate my conscious…

Is it possible for multiple “travelers” to converge in one place? Not sure if it was AP, but if it was then it was accidental. May have been a crazy dream, but I’m looking for an Elijah from Detroit. …

From my experience the way he described it was the confusing part, especially considering the dozen translations there are of this book. Personally I think that a few things he is not right about w…

Hi, sorry for the long response but please bear with me. TLDR at the bottom. You are slightly correct, but drug addiction posts will also more than likely be removed. 1- There is actually another…

I should have clarified, the "blowing hot and cold" is effectively the post quality cool down, which usually occurs after a period of us being emotionally and physically close. That cool down can happ…

I'm seeing a DA, and while we're not in an official relationship, it very much feels like we are and he just doesn't want to label it. I've noticed a pattern with him that every time there's a big s…

Living through this right now. Was dating a DA last year and I really liked her, but she would put me down and be generally disrespectful at times. She would often say things that minimized our relati…

I hear you and I can see that your comment is grounded in past experiences. Fair enough. The only reason I chose to pursue this was because I had new found knowledge. This was the first time I've date…

Thank you, I take notes for euphemisms. My ex DA used to minimize everything and make it look like its nothing. Dismissing & criticising my feelings too as if it was the biggest sin to have emotions. …

According to my group counseling geared mainly towards avoidant attachment styles I fall into more anxious as a FA. But it's a FA that falls more avoidant that my anxious side is triggered. I was rela…

One of my biggest and longstanding issues is that I do not/did not involve anyone. It’s not even like I lay something at their feet and then rip it away suddenly and blame them. I simply never asked. …

This is definitely not true. You can still get attracted to them. Especially avoidants tend to be very charming, successful and if the person is smart or you share a lot of common interests, until the…

I used to be an avoidant. What you are describing sounds very familiar and for me it was the part of me that was afraid of good, uncomplicated love. It made me come up with all sorts of nonsensical is…

Your story might be my story if he didn’t break up with me (of course, with having a mature conversation). It lasted a month, and we were thrilled until we first met and it became real and fantastic –…

You never took a long break from each other so ofc it was the same cycles. Also it takes years to work on attachment issues. They don't just change in a few months time. In regards to relationsh…

Wow, you have done a significant amount of research. I am just now learning about these Avoidant Attachment Styles. I'm not real sure what my SO has, and I'm also not sure which attachment style I hav…

It was they who eventually reached out to me, saying they missed me and wanted to restart things. They then asked me to let them reply at their pace. That's the thing I considered what you said but a…

I know it can be expensive but you mentioned in your original post you have a good career. You also, in your own words, are desperate to date someone. Are you really not able to come up with ~$100 dol…

TLDR: Seeking advice re: Dismissive Avoidant 50F dumped my Anxious-leaning Secure self (53M) but posts her upcoming travel to our once-shared calendar.  ..... Yes, it was the classical Avoidant's int…

Text of original post by u/Positive-Entrance193: In 12th grade I became very close to a classmate of mine. Both of us bonded over shared trauma and basically became inseparable. We texted each other 2…

Text of original post by u/rkuchiki123: I have no problem getting dates, but things always seem to end after 1-3 months. Sometimes, it was my decision to break up or it was theirs but I didn't disagre…

I think i fucked up.... So I (32F) just ended things with a guy (33M) that I've been seeing for 2 ish months. I cant tell if my anxious attachment style got the best of me or of there were genuinel…

Like you say in the comments, some of these people are crossing your boundaries and in cases like that, it isn't a good idea to give a disingenuous response because it will most likely be taken as a g…

Same! It was the best resource on attachment I've found. It helped me understand on a deep level why I was acting in ways that seemed so illogical and shameful. When I read it I was in a repetitive cy…

Don't go back to FA. I'm planning to break up with mine again after the patterns repeated again and he lashed out at me in an argument. It was the worst blow up we've ever had and the things he said t…

I almost got into a new relationship before I was properly healed from the previous one. It was the first thing I said, I gave a huge warning label, but we tried anyway. Every step forward was accompa…

It's just a breadcrumb. Staying close without real connection. Avoidants can't do connection, vulnerability, responsibility. You dating someone else during the 18 months apart was not the reason they …

I've been through something very similar. Ultimately, you and this person have broken up multiple times. The two of you have talked about boundaries, problematic patterns, etc. Suddenly dropping o…

How long did it take to finally break the anxious–avoidant cycle and move on for real? I’m a 25F with an anxious attachment style, and I just ended an 18 month on and off situationship with a fearful…

This is very articulate. For me it was learning what the anxiety needed and was saying - part of it was my past, part of it was legitimate anxiety because my ex was pulling away and unsure, and part o…

What you're describing is common DA deactivation, the overwhelm, pulling away without ending things and asking for space while staying socially active elsewhere. The issue isn't whether it's "normal" …

yeap… sometimes i still wonder if it was the right thing to do tho

he has accepted that you will never be his, that he will never be loved loudly by you, but he remembers how close he almost got and for a minute it seemed like you might actually let him love you and …

I can relate to a lot of this! For context, I come from a background where controlled emotions and behaviour is very normal and almost rewarded, so for me, that's always been my comfort zone. Additio…

Thank you. It was the inner paradigm shift I desperately needed.

This is extremely relatable for me too. I'm actually just learning about attachment theory now at 36, and reading about all the thoughts and behaviours and feelings common to anxious attachment style …

How long did the intense grief + obsessive thinking last? The grief stopped when I allowed myself to understand what exactly I was grieving for. Was it that version of me, was it the safety, was it …

when my ex fiance dumped me it was really sudden and out of nowhere. it was really impersonal and there was no explaination at all (plus it was the day before valentines day.... the asshole 😒) we ha…

Yeah, my last ex blindsided me with a breakup and it left me very, very hurt and scared, because 1) it was the first person I had dated seriously in 10 years, and 2) he was a friend of many years, so …

You are very brave for doing that, like seriously. If they behaved like this again and again even after you told them, it was the right decision. I heard that avoidant attachers often withdraw and th…

Others have said, this seems a typical trope that exists more with women but I experienced this as a man. Dated for someone in 2025 for 9 months who was great on paper, most compatible, we both had so…

I'm having such a hard time trying to not reach out to the guy I ended things with last week, and to try to stop hoping he reaches out to me... It was the first guy I've felt a connection with in 2 ye…

Thank you for the advice and suggestions I greatly appreciate it. What does chefs kiss mean? I'll try to make the "recently discovered" prompt more interesting and unique. I've cut my own hair for …

Oh yes I know and that's how I've had it for years. Someone on a daily yesterday mentioned removing dealbreakers to help with your algorithm if your likes were drying up (or maybe it was the day befor…

I imagine the song now - was in the target wine isle, glance over, caught his eye and he was looking mighty fine. Hahaha. - I wish I could have made this more Taylor but it was the best I could do. 😂

We’ve been dating a couple months and it was the first time it felt off. It wasn’t anything serious, just needed to check in to see what was going on and then it morphed into us talking about not seei…

You feel what you feel and to me it sounds like you’re not into her and there’s a lot cons which is fine! However, it was the 1st date. Some people aren’t going to be affectionate on a 1st date or…

Yeah I used it when I lived in London and still do to keep up with my friends abroad. My family group chat is all there too. Even though we’re all in the US, it was the easiest way for us to share m…

Despite always being told “it’s a numbers game,”I’m happy with my decision to single date, especially after taking a long break. I was able to pay attention to the guys I went out with by focusing onl…