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I broke up with him and God, does it hurt — I broke up with my boyfriend of 2.5 years a week ago. Every day that passes I'm overcome with waves of despair and regret. Our relationship was so much work, and I worked so, so hard on us for so long…

Equity with new cofounder and fundraising. I will not promote — I'm starting a tech startup company. Currently outsourcing the tech team to build the app - every tech person I met wanted to be paid cash and wanted to take up to a year to get the platform up and ru…

I’m starting to panic 😨 — Ok I’ve ran an online boutique for about 5 years now but it has never been this slow. Then, I talked to my vendors and they basically said in order to avoid the tariffs, they will first ship to anothe…

Starting a startup. (i will not promote) — I have several ideas for applications (social networks), but all the hassle with opening a company and paying taxes to the authorities makes me give up on the idea; I simply don't have the energy for …

Is there sometimes no hope? — Good afternoon, DevOps people of Reddit. I want to know if anyone else is feeling this. I have been brought on a project to help this company achieve DevOps practices. My main issue is that I am getti…

Finding Like Minded Business People — **TL/DR :**  Looking for people who are stuck with unsure with what business they want to pursue and end up learning a little bit about all of them; that want to partner up to stay focused with each …

When Every Venture Fails: Should You Abandon the Dream? — If we fail every time we try to start a business, does that mean we should give up on entrepreneurship altogether and settle for being an employee?

Should I find a business partner? Sell Or just give up? My business has potential but I don't have to energy to make it happen. — I started a business about two and a half years ago. It is quite niche and has potential but I haven't been able to get over the tipping point of making it really work. We have great processes and a…

I need some FA to give me insights on this situation — Break up with a FA need some insights Hi guys, i really need some insights as someone whos desire is to be a safe space for a FA girl. Breakup context: I (M, 23) was in a 2-year relationship with my…

Law of Belief - Relationships — I have read the POSM by Joseph Murphy and gone through the index, but one thing that keeps coming up and seems to be rather controversial within the JM community is how law of belief affects other peo…

(3.5 years) Where did I go wrong ? — So I was manifesting this SP(ex), whom I really love, for about 3.5 years now. I did everything - SATS, affirmations, mental diet, journaling, etc. But nothing happened. I read the power of subconci…

Dismissive - Anxious dynamic catch 22, how could we make it work? — I'm having issues with a relationship that's really important to me. It's someone who I dated last year for 6 months. We have very intense and wonderful attraction and connection in a way that is rare…

Growing my inner child feels like murdering my soul — So now my relationships,my desires in life,wants ,needs basically evolve around the little guy in me.And if I were to give up on them and tell him that its not a dream or a game anymore,we are adult n…

My boyfriend and I had an argument over his marriage demands, and now he claims he means none of it... — Tl:dr: My boyfriend of two years has a list of requirements from me after we get married, and after our argument over it, which lead us to break up-- he said he didn't mean any of it and wants to go …

DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…

Just let go — Hey long time lurker here, just wanted to contribute my own success story that I’d previously shared in a Neville community. This happened some time ago and whenever I doubt my power (which sadly ha…

I (28F) had an affair and don’t know what I’m doing. Please help. — I’ve been with my husband for 8 years, married for 2. He is genuinely the best person I know. Kind, safe, loyal. He’s my best friend. When I cry, he’s who I want holding me. When something funny happe…

SELF-CONCEPT BLOCKS MANIFESTATIONS! Here's my quick fix — Feeling unworthy of receiving what we want is the dominant vibration even though we've affirmed 300 times "I am worthy!" It's our self-concept silently preventing our greatest desires! Even though i…

Become Indifferent Neville says. But it's easier said than done. My Tips. — If you want to be in charge of your creations you have to become indifferent to your own reactions. And it sounds easy until someone triggers the bejeezus out of you. Politics, your mother in law, pe…

DO NOT GIVE UP — DO NOT GIVE UP!!!!! I have so much to say. But ima try to keep it short ish. I just wanted to make a quick post about my journey. I’ve been “manifesting” for five years. I actually have not. Those f…

What you want need to be in your body/subconscious — What you want need to be in your body/subconscious You need to feel you deserve it and be comfortable with accepting it into your life You need to feel ready and that it's 'normal' for you now in yo…

You've Tried Manifesting Them Back Multiple Times - Here's Why It's Not Working — **"I've manifested my SP back multiple times but it never works. Now it just feels draining."** **You're not failing at manifestation.** **You're failing at creating coherent field states.** And th…

Spiritual Awakening & Instant Manifestation (wtf???) — So as the title says, wtf? I've been using multiple different ways of manifesting, manifesting with feeling, robotic affirming, and I've realized one thing. Manifesting is an act of creation that …

One of the loneliest things about being single is no significant human touch. — I'm trying to get out of a long term situationship with someone. He's (38m) not right for me (38f) and I'm not right for him​. That has been clear and well known. We're looking to just be friends. He…

OKAY LISTEN Y'ALL. — I don't know which tag this would come under but I just have to say this because the amount of 'im gonna give up' , 'its not working' ' what am I doing wrong' posts am seeing is insaneee. First of all…

Coworker with anxiety simply stopped talking one day — I don't have anxiety disorder myself. But in Dec I randomly started talking to a coworker from another team (our work and teams are completely unrelated to each other) who does. Apologies in advance f…

I manifested clear skin! Pictures below. — TW: skin issues, swipe on your own risk. The first 3 pictures are taken today in daylight no filter, the other pictures show my skin before. Months ago I got really bad dermatitis and acne, the skin…

I’m so frustrated!!!! — I have not dated in years because I was tired of getting used. Was introduced to a guy a few months back who was a very polite and seemed like a great catch. I made it very clear early on I was hoping…

My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do — Hi everyone, I could really use some outside perspective. I (F28) have been in a relationship with my partner (M28) for about 3 years. I love him a lot and I genuinely imagined a future with him. We …

Perimenopause and dating — For the ladies. I'm 40F. I'm oh so very lucky that I'm going through perimenopause early. 😑 TBH, I feel ugly these days. My face has changed in the last year and I'm gaining a little bit of weight,…

Discard/sudden breakup?! — Three months ago months ago I met a woman and had an intense, genuine connection. In under 8 weeks we spent 18-20 days together. She said she cared about me first, unprompted. We made future plans tog…

Older men who lie about their age in their dating profiles — I posted a question yesterday about how surprised I was to find that men who were claiming to be 55 (only 8 years older than me) seemed so old, and I was trying to understand why they would age so fas…

YOU KNOW.. — YOU KNOW you are god. YOU KNOW you are consciousness. YOU KNOW you are the observer. YOU KNOW it’s all an illusion. YOU KNOW time doesn’t exist. YOU KNOW there is no past or future. YOU KNOW the…

A couple great tips for easier Revision. — Revision is an extremely important yet underrated technique. After going through an event that "future" manifesting just wouldn't solve, I knew the only thing that would fix this situation is to chang…

THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…

How can I build a personal life that doesn’t depend on other people? — Hi Reddit!! I really need an outside perspective on my situation, because I feel like I’m completely lost in where I’m going and what I actually want from my life… Maybe people who have learned to man…

Decided to stop blaming things on my breakup, the world, and my mental health — Ever since my break up last year i’ve turned to alcohol, gambling, lots of random hookups with girls i would never make my wife. I’ve come to realize that she was one of the most important lessons in …

Carl Jung wasn't a psychologist. He was a shaman. — Carl Jung quietly wrote one of the most profound esoteric texts of all time, at least in my own personal opinion. Seven Sermons to the Dead was written in 1916, privately shared between a handful of J…

I am ruining my life and I feel like i cant stop it — Hello everyone and let me say thank you for taking the time to read and/or respond. Our time is valuable and I want you to know thst I genuinely appreciate you giving your time to a stranger... This …

Manifested all four things using a list method (With Proof) — I have shared about my February list manifestation here, too. This is for between March 10-20. The interview offer was the most insane one because I hadn't gotten to hear from them for two weeks, and …

I did not handle the breakup well and became obsessive. Never again. — This is gonna be long and messy, so just a warning. My ex ended things with me on text, without a call or meeting me. I requested her to give us proper closure in person, but she had asked for time, …

28M, 30F, wife and I are distancing and I don't know what to do. — 28M, 30F, wife and I are distancing and I don't know what to do. Throwaway account for obvious reasons. My (28M) wife (30F) and I have been distancing lately. We have been together for almost 5 year…

I lost everything to the war and I'm completely broken. 7 months of daily 6-hour work gave me nothing. How do I not give up? — Hey everyone. I'm writing this because I'm genuinely at a dead end and need some perspective from people who actually get this stuff. I'm from Ukraine, had to flee the war, and lost literally everythi…

If I Never Discovered Manifestation, I Probably Would Have Killed Myself. (NOT A VENT!) — **This isn't a vent, I'm just reflecting on how much Manifestation has changed me for the better, and hopefully, this post will encourage people who are new to manifestation to keep trying!** (Yes, I …

Boyfriend with a mentally ill ex wife. — I have been dating a guy (45m) for 6 months. We are very compatible and enjoy traveling and being together. He lives an hour away from me and works crazy shifts, so we only see each other about 4-5 t…

Quit weed 4 days ago and radio silence from every friend and family member. Am I going crazy? — On Wednesday last week, after finishing what I had and then smoking whatever Dusties I had left, I (24F) cleaned my bong, threw the cone piece and set out on my quitting journey. So far this has been…

A success story I’d like to share with you — Three jobs that are exactly what I wanted, money and something about love Last December, I was laid off from my full-time job, had €4,000 in debt, and was living alone, even though my partner and I …

This was what I said when we met up a week later after she said she would’ve married me while breaking up with me. Only reason we met up was cuz I asked if she was serious ab what she said and she said “yes. I would’ve married you” — I’ve had a lot of time to really think about and indulge in what happened to cause this. You are right. I shouldn’t have added her back. But what you’re wrong about is what you think what was said aft…

fiancee of 3 years just broke up — im just whining, its all my fault but I can't live with it. i helped him escape from his murderous transphobic mother and we started living together. shortly after he let his military father take him …

breakthrough trip & the bigger picture — Hello, it's me again. I know that there are people here who enjoy reading my experiences so thus my posting. Obviously a disclaimer is this experience is under the influence of a psychadelic, but it t…

Broke up with my gf because she wants kids now and I'm not ready. — I (30) just broke up with my gf (31) of 2 years and instantly feel awful and am questioning if I made the wrong decision. She has severe endometriosis so basically needs to start trying for kids now.…

Their loss though, they lost someone who would never give up on them and love them unconditionally. They will realise it one day, but we would’ve found someone more compatible. Life goes on with or wi…

Same. I hung in there , at first thinking no matter what she does. Im more wise , I see her flaws, i will help her change. Me the man she “use” to say i was. She=“never give up on me”. Me-“never”. 4 w…

I had a quick glance at this on my break and will chip in more later, just by point 1 alone I see you haven’t grasped it, feeling is the secret indeed. But the feeling isn’t emotions. 2 That knowing…

so let me ask you, why are you writing your argument against manifestation? do you want us to give up or to convince you otherwise? if I gave you an experiment, would you try it?

8 months? There've been guys who've gotten their exes back in a yeah or more. Don't give up 

Don't give up

Why didn't you continue im sure she didn't ask for much..I mean my partner left cause he snored and I cried so much due to sleep deprivation plus he wouldn't allow me to have my own life...so now he's…

$300k, $600k, or 10m doesn't really matter. Each successful person finds some sort of opportunity and pursues it. Then they create a system that helps them pursue it because you can't do it by yours…

I’m sorry. 😢 That sounds so hard. Take time away when you need it but don’t give up completely. We’re rooting for you. 💗

*" I am VERY familiar with the law and with NG's teachings, so no need to reiterate basics and quotes please - I'm asking about your real experiences. What made you actually believe and know? "* Repe…

>There is nothing conventionally rational about the LOB. Yet it works. There's just too much evidence out there to deny it and you've had it happen in your life often enough. That's why even after 6 y…

It feels like a child is clinging to me and then getting angry with me if I try to have a life or any interests outside of them. It starts with needling comments from them, passive aggression, accusat…

This is just someone regurgitating some LOApornstar nonsense about how important it is to give yourself a "mental diet" by forming a routine based in conscious thoughts with the hopes that your subcon…

Never give up on friendship or love. You can overcome this

I think there’s some good advice in this thread, but just adding this bc I didn’t see it mentioned in your post or other comments—work on platonic relationships! I know it can be difficult to make fri…

So if it’s not possible to heal without practicing what we learn in therapy every day within a relationship, should we just give up? I just want to be a bit more reasonable with avoidants who expres…

The feeling of attraction by the way disappears with fear, and we are all afraid of good relationships. Thats why, since in the past Ive almost always been in avoidant mode, I dont trust my feelings o…

Ah I see that now sorry. My response remains the same though because I literally agree with you and didn’t claim otherwise. But the person I was responding to said we shouldn’t be dating at all bec…

that certainly would also work, it is worth exploring different paths, which overall what I wanted person complaining to me to try to do something instead of just give up

You're welcome. You have the wish to fix things, that's the most important part. Don't give up on yourself and you'll do just fine!

’m in a really difficult spot with my boyfriend. We’ve been together since late 2021, and recently he’s been second-guessing our relationship. I think im anxious and he’s avoidant. I’m 22 and he’s 25 …

We anxious types tend to loose our self in relationships. We give up our self worth and self regulation and let the relationship do that for us. Then when the relationship feels the least bit threaten…

I don’t think it’s possible to be both an experiencer and a skeptic, not unless you’re just in denial about your experiences. And that does happen at the beginning! But it’s a stage you have to get pa…

You’re welcome. A lot of people in these communities shut down questions and are quick to say “you’re not doing it right” which is just nonsense. Of course you can change people. There are infinite …

If you would rather die than be single, something is very wrong with your perspective. It's not wrong to want a relationship either so I won't say things like "be happy being alone" (although you shou…

I’ve been dating someone whose behavior seems to text book match a lot of what I have read about Dismissive Avoidant and Fearful Avoidant. They are somewhere in between the two, but I would say mostly…

I think you have found an amazing partner, and that you are finding your healing. I don’t know your journey, and I don’t know what you’ve been through, but I’m proud of you. I’m proud of you for maki…

>*In order to move on, you need to not only stop feeling sorry for yourself,* *but also stop feeling sorry for the world.* *That is forgiveness in its essence.* *To give up a certain lens to see…

I also had terrible spirals where I become like an octopus clutching at him aggressively when I “feel” that he gets distant when in fact, he is just very busy. I would call him incessantly until his p…

The faux-closeness besides trauma dumping has been cuddly roleplay, because my autistic brain interprets that as ”real” because of the distance (and I’m starved for cuddling, in an innocent way, with …

I went through a devastating break up three years ago. My ex was a dismissive avoidant. We were in couples therapy before the breakup. I kept seeing the same therapist after the breakup and that’s whe…

I’m going through a really painful situation with someone I love, and I’m hoping to hear from people who have been in a similar anxious–avoidant loop. My ex(?) and I were slowly reconnecting after a …

Although your story is different to an avoidant, doesn’t matter DA/FA, unless your constantly throwing up boundary walls at random and make them chase you they’ll stick to the avoidant (unofficial) ha…

How long did it take to finally break the anxious–avoidant cycle and move on for real? I’m a 25F with an anxious attachment style, and I just ended an 18 month on and off situationship with a fearful…

Self- love and desire for a partner are two different things imo. Humans are built for connection and that comes in many different forms (friendships, family, romantic etc). If you have a preference…

It definitely feels comforting to know I’m not alone. I’m so sorry you are experiencing the same. It’s hard because you feel like you’re trying by being in a relationship but at the same time you feel…

We're proud of you! It does hurt to be in an asymmetrical dynamic. Especially when you can see the other person is a good person who is trying, which adds a layer of doubt. Makes you wonder if they're…

Whenever I try addressing conflicts instead of avoid them, it’s not just an emotional response, it’s like my whole body is physically fighting the urge to retreat. I also have diagnosed anxiety which …

I had not heard that before in therapy, but that is what I have always done in relationships, romantic or not. I give up all my wants and needs just to feel secure and loved. I did overlook her situat…

I really struggle knowing when I want to leave a relationship/dating situation if its because of my avoidance or if its genuinely a mismatch and it is so frustrating and terrifying. what if I'm making…

Edit: I accidentally posted before I was done 😂 First, congratulations on even getting this far! That's something to celebrate in itself. >* How would I start? I started with a lot of introspectiv…

What you should keep in mind about all attachment styles is that, those are the basis for those individuals to form any kind of attachment relationship. So no, behaviors are not limited to romantic re…

I probably should have mentioned in my post that we're polyamorous. I think in poly culture, there's less of an expectation for a single person to have a duty to meet all these emotional needs. Ther…

I know exactly what you mean and honestly I used to feel that way until I had a few people do it with me - which was a little easier for them because we at least have some communities in which we tang…

That’s not something I’m currently ready to do unfortunately. I know myself and I know that me just saying it’s over for good won’t change my actual thoughts or behaviours. I’ve accepted that we aren’…

Haha, is it bad to double down? XD Well, I guess there are many ways to see this, but I see the potential she has and no, im not loving her potential only, I love her in the present. Despite everythin…

After therapy yesterday, I got to listen to my FA soul sister. We each have our own struggles. I find it sad that in our corner of the world, it's just so easy to give up on healing-- family is inse…

Last week, after a 2 month hiatus, I decided to give up on dating apps. I opened Hinge to delete it and accidentally liked whatever profile was open when I opened the app. Hadn't even read it. As I wa…

Very welcome. The last little quip of my comment was said to me about 4 years ago and I held on to that idea for dear life. Mostly because I'm roughly the same age as you and dating intentionally, but…

This may not be at all what you need but recently I've been experimenting with making peace with the possibility of never finding "the one." I'm actually trying to convince myself that I'm not even su…