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LOL. I am you. Sometimes I'm also just the clinically "diagnosed" Neurodivergent. I think sharing in my passions and interests (and I always share in the other person's). I made a new friend and th…

Type 1 Diabetes — Hi everyone, I have recently been diagnosed with type 1 diabetes and have had to start taking insulin injections. I don’t want to live like this forever though, completely dependent on something so m…

A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse.  We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon.  W…

Anyone here navigating entrepreneurship with ADHD? How do you manage focus, procrastination, and distractions? — Hey everyone, I wanted to reach out to the community to see how many of you might relate. I've been wondering lately if I might have ADHD — I haven’t been officially diagnosed, but I know a lot of pe…

I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

What I'm realizing: I relate closest to others with deep trauma and that is a troublesome recipe. — TW: addiction, suicide, physical and emotional abuse, CSA. I have CPTSD, routine struggles with depression and anxiety and the corresponding executive dysfunction. I grew up with an alcoholic parent…

Wife cheated on me with multiple men over the course of 3 months. — Me (31m) found out this past December that my wife (27f) had been talking to as many as 20+ people on Snapchat (non nude but inappropriate photos, sexting, ect.). I confronted before new years by tell…

How do I beat decision paralysis? — My entire life I've struggled with making decisions, whether it's choosing what food to buy at the shop, which route to take on a trip, or more important things like what job to take, or what I should…

I manifested the cure of my disidrosis(with photos) — Hello guys, I will tell how I manifested the cure of my disidrosis. So I will tell how I MANIFESTED my disidrosis😢: So guys, at the beggining of 2025 I was diagnosed with chondropathy, I didn't knew…

stopped trying to "fix" my adhd and started doing this instead — If someone is in a wheelchair, and they encounters stairs, they aren’t just gonna try their best to get down the stairs, they’re going to use the ramp or elevator. why should we keep trying to do thin…

I spent 8 years trying to “fix” my mental health and now I think the real problem is that I’ve been obsessively trying to fix myself — Hi everyone, I’m trying to explain something I’ve been struggling with and I’m wondering if anyone else has gone through something similar. For about 8 years, I’ve been deeply focused on “healing” m…

Therapist told me I was a narcissist during a session, completely shutdown. — Hi everyone. I have been actively looking for a psychiatrist or therapist to take me seriously when trying to pick through cPTSD, and autistic shutdown. The services in my province (Canadian) only of…

My husband (36M) told me (33F) that I don’t deserve love until I’m 140lbs again? — When my husband and I first met, I was around 140lbs. At the time, I was early 20s, depressed, high anxiety, drinking all the time to fill a void, etc. I was freshly out of a terrible relationship tha…

My biological mother sexually abused me in such weird sadistic ways throughout my childhood and I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced this — For context I am a 20 year old girl I was raised by my two lesbian parents they got a sperm donor and had me and my twin sister. Starting since I’m assuming a toddler up until about 13 my biological m…

Does it get better?? :( — I’m so tired. I’ve struggled with anxiety for years I’m almost 20. It’s gotten to a point where it has taking over my life. I got diagnosed during the pandemic and then I didn’t do anything about it, …

I was going to be incredible — I was such a smart kid. A gifted child, kind and clever and great at academics. Everyone said I was going to change the world. I could have done so much. Instead I am thirty and I am frozen with terr…

please, take your time to hear my story, because no one else ever did — My mom gave birth to me when she was 41 years old, I have a sister and a brother, my sister is 27 years old, but she has mental problems and behaves terribly immature, so she is always making screamin…

Please tell them the truth before it destroys them. — If you’re cheating on your partner, please stop. And if you already did, have the courage to tell them the truth. Infidelity doesn’t just “hurt someone’s feelings.” It can destroy a person from the i…

Did anyone here grow up with a parent who was autistic/neurodivergent or emotionally distant/neglectful ? — Hi everyone. I (20f) am posting because for a long time i have known that I was very emotionally neglected as a child and I’m wondering if anyone here grew up with an autistic parent. My mom was diag…

I (29F) have cancer and my estranged father (60M) is funding my treatment but forcing me to leave my boyfriend (24M) or marry him immediately. Do I have any way out? — Please be kind. I was unable to type so used audio to text converter and ai to fix the spelling mistakes. I m already in a terrible mental state so hope this sub can be a little gentle on me. Haven't …

HUGE tantrum from my NDad due to my recent success. Hilarious but also depressing. 🫩🥹 — My ndad is currently throwing a tantrum - screaming, stomping around, making threats etc whilst telling my mum and I that it’s my fault, and that I know what I did, therefore avoiding/refusing to expa…

I think I’m genuinely stupid — As the title says, I think I’m genuinely a dumb person. When someone says “this guys is empty headed” that’s literally me. I’ve always known I’m not the most intelligent person, I deflect that by ta…

Sunken Cost Fallacy — Married for almost 27 years. Got married at the ripe age of 19. Funny thing, I thought it was a mistake on my wedding night when he got out of bed to jack off because I was so exhausted from the long …

Anyone else have a parent with an undiagnosed mental illness? — Growing up my mom was always physically there but never emotionally present. She has never been able to admit to things she considers embarrassing (even if they're really not), being wrong or When I …

How do I “do” therapy? — I started therapy recently after being diagnosed for the first time with depression and anxiety, but I really don’t enjoy it. I show up and I feel like it’s always having the ball put in my court so t…

Starting over at 32, jobless lost 20s to sickness — I was diagnosed with a brain tumor when I was 22 and doing bachelors, tumor is benign but in critical place that really messed me up, health took a down ward turn with a lot of complications, i dîd no…

My (M38) wife (F34) has been very quiet since a conversation we had of why I love her. Confused about her silence. — So I'm a little bit confused about this. A couple of days ago, my wife came to me asking the question that has been asked many times during our marriage. "Do you still love me? And why do you love me?…

I’m 19 and left with a 4yo autistic sister. I feel extremely hopeless. — I’m 19f, my mom passed away November 2025 and Im left with a 5year old neurotypical sister and 4 year old sister diagnosed with autism, ocd, and adhd. My sisters and I have different fathers, their fa…

Feeling genuine disgust when my parents seem proud of me/brag about my accomplishments — Is it just me that experiences this weird psychological twist of sorts? My parents only seem proud of me when I conform to their “ideal” image of me. Mind you, when that was the case my depression wa…

self concept work is no joke — For years I have been manifesting things like money, good career, etc via scripting, visualization and other methods with ease. But I noticed that every time I acquired those things there was still …

Having a good Therapist is literally life-changing. What a surprise. — My new therapist that I’ve been seeing for a few weeks now is genuinely one of the most kind Therapist I’ve ever worked with. She’s authentic and is open with me and I have a really good connection wi…

My best friend (F35) with BPD has dropped off the radar and I (F30) don’t know if inviting her to my wedding will be too much pressure or not involving her will hurt more. What should I do? — My best friend and I met 8 years ago at work. Our friendship was very full on as we worked together and lived in the same city but even when we both left the city we met in, we stayed in close touch. …

How do people become emotionally immature? — I was raised by and surrounded by emotionally immature adults my whole life, while living in a toxic and abusive household created mainly by my father’s abuse towards my mother, and her compliance and…

How do I (39F) forgive my husband (39M) for making a fake vet appt for our senior dog? — My husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for 4, and have 2 kids with another on the way. We have also been best friends since we were in middle school up until we started dating. A …

Literally Crying Right Now — I have been going through so much and struggling to stay positive. This morning I decided fuck this..I have the power to change this. I’m shifting my mindset and I’m not going to feel stressed or depr…

Need help - feeling lost, weak, burnt out, uninspired - evil eye or what? — I will try and keep this as to the point as possible. In the last three and a half years I have lost contact with myself, i Felt I was on top of everything, achieving my dreams and succeeding and then…

Leaving my relationship for the right reason — Me (m30) and my partner (f39) have been together for 8 years. We have two kids below 4. She has been diagnosed with different mental health issues. She has also had two very rough childbirths. During …

I (21M) have survived two decades of severe physical, emotional, and financial abuse from my Indian parents. I'm finally exhausted and need to tell my story. I am not free yet. — # TL;DR: I'm a 20-year-old only child in India who has endured severe physical, verbal, emotional, and financial abuse from my parents since toddlerhood. They have beaten me, medically neglected me, …

Midlife dating plot twist I didn’t see coming… (I have breast cancer 🙄) — I was only just musing recently about how sexy midlife dating is.. His suspected sleep apnea, my post-three-big-babies body (haemorrhoids, saggy boobs!)… all the glamorous stuff. And now I’ve just b…

Why are my intimate relationships so rough? (unhealthy relationship w/ the masculine?) — I have a pattern of being in highly codependent relationships and usually I’m the one displaying avoidant toxic traits, and I can feel very strong masculinity even as I identify as female. My current …

Trans in a religious and conservative Viet household — Truthfully, it’s just awful. I (23FtM, pre-everything) am bisexual and trans. And I just happen to unfortunately be born in a Vietnamese Catholic household that loves our good ol’ president. Not to me…

What are your opinions about disclosing HPV to potential new partners? — I 43F was diagnosed last year with high risk hpv. I had recently left a relationship due to infidelity and as soon as I learned I carried the virus I informed my previous partner (not to accuse) so th…

Gut issues during spiritual growth? — Hi I was seeking some advise regarding a health issue ife been experiencing for a few years which doesnt seem to be getting better. Ive been diagnosed with Ulcerative colitis. Over the last few yea…

Partner (27F) wants to separate (26F) following her cancer diagnosis. — My girlfriend of almost two years was diagnosed with cancer last week and she texted me yesterday that because she "doesn't want to weigh (me) down" with her treatments ahead. She asked for space for …

Help/advise needed please: “Spiritual awakening” or/and brain inflammation, thus spiritual psychosis, etc. — This is extremely important to me, and I think to humanity as well, so I appreciate you taking the time to read and potentially respond. This is my personal ongoing testimony; I fear no psychological …

My Orb experience as a kid and what it did to me — Hello everyone, ive been lurking here for a while and i thought id finally share my first and only ever orb experience. i remember this day very vividly and i have pretty much 0 recollection of any m…

My dad was diagnosed with stage 4 duodenum cancer today. — I am 23. Dad is 53. Just 2 weeks back everything in our lives was so great. Just 2 weeks back, he had told me he plans to live another 50 years. Just 3 weeks back, My sister had said "Thank God for ho…

I think I’ve been having my first experiences - looking for a bit of guidance from the community — Over the past couple of years my view of reality and the world has shifted quite a bit. I’ve done a lot more exploring of the spiritual side of life and feel I’ve really “woken up”. I’ve had a couple …

I finally found a job I can handle and I’m so happy about it — I’m 27, diagnosed with CPTSD, and keeping a job was nearly impossible for the longest time. I never made it past 6 months of working before having a mental breakdown and needing to quit. For the last …

Tips For Starting? — I have been in and out of OBE and other things with my interests in life and really want to be able to fully dive into these tapes and the whole process and see what I can discover about myself. Any t…

So if you are diagnosed with stage 4 cancer one day, did you create that stage 4 cancer for yourself?

Lmao, no, don't worry about it. I have daddy issues as well, and I have friends with BPD that have pointed out that I may have it too (I'm not diagnosed and have no need to know though atm). And I tot…

I was diagnosed three years ago with ADHD. My wife, who is a psychotherapist, speculated for a long time and then gave me an assessment, which was then confirmed with a psychiatrist. But I've been run…

I have been diagnosed for a while I own a couple company’s. my adhd has gotten in the way but the more you work the more you learn how to manage it by failing! If it’s a really big important decision …

Hey thanks for posting this. I started my entrepreneurship journey around an year back and the struggle to focus and manage distractions is so real. I have not been diagnosed officially but have read …

The demonization of avoidant people really annoys me. I'm fearful avoidant so I see all perspectives in this and yeah avoidance is hurtful, neglect is painful, creating space through fights is toxic a…

Thanks qgain for such in-deep advices, I really appreciate that. No, I don't know for a fact that she's a DA, that's just my conclusion from reading different online resources (includong this sub). Th…

He does, but we don't go at it the same way or look at the same things. Like he has not read those books yet and he might eventualy, but he dosen't want me to bring it up, he wants to choose to do it.…

Well she was doing it in secret, but the guy she started dating - months before we broke up, talked to one of his female friends, who talked to one of my female friends, who is a gossip, who talked to…

TLDR: Seeking advice re: Dismissive Avoidant 50F dumped my Anxious-leaning Secure self (53M) but posts her upcoming travel to our once-shared calendar.  ..... Yes, it was the classical Avoidant's int…

Oh gosh, I can feel your pain through the screen. What you are going through is a normal modern human experience, so please don't place all the blame on yourself. It's amazing that you are trying to b…

I struggle keeping relationships for a full 2 years, people usually get fed up with me being so needy but I think the older I get and the more comfortable I am with myself and understand myself more t…

Friend is distancing and I’m not sure how to correctly deal with it. I very much believe I have an anxious attachment style and it’s very closely linked with my BPD and OCD. In the past year, I bec…

My ex and I broke up 7 months ago.. we never fought and his reasoning was he felt we were too different (we were together for 2 years).  I was crushed... he stated he felt he needed to end it so that …

Thanks so much, I definitely pride myself on being self-aware. I was self-aware through the whole toxic "relationship" but just wanted to convince myself it could work because I had a really good time…

I’ve decided that I very likely have an undiagnosed anxiety disorder. I’m seeing a psychiatrist over the next couple weeks. I’ve had really bad anxiety my entire life but I’ve never done anything ab…

I'm not diagnosed but I do believe I'm on the autism spectrum. How does that tie into this issue?

Text of original post by u/f1rstpancake: TW: addiction, suicide, physical and emotional abuse, CSA. I have CPTSD, routine struggles with depression and anxiety and the corresponding executive dysfun…

I recently made this connection myself, I have adhd (diagnosed this year at 28) and although it’s been several months where I’ve had my diagnosis, I’ve just started coming to terms with how it’s affec…

I err on the side that believing it is what makes it impossible. My mother was DA and now “earned secure” - she was only 17 shy of 18 when I was delivered into the world. She got diagnosed with DID w…

I actually didn’t accuse you personally. I said these are the places where misinformation spreads. And as someone who has BPD in remission, I think it’s better for any talk about BPD to come from pe…

My experience? My dad fits the clinical definition of NPD; my sister, BPD; and at least one of my exes was diagnosed BPD. I went down the diagnostic rabbit hole after that. Oh, and I'm completing a p…

You don’t need to be arsey or defensive about it. I was just asking what your exposure or experince was with PD’s. As someone who is learning about them I’m sure you’d agree that there is a lot of mis…

Whenever I try addressing conflicts instead of avoid them, it’s not just an emotional response, it’s like my whole body is physically fighting the urge to retreat. I also have diagnosed anxiety which …

Thank you for your message. I’ve only recently started therapy but I think it’ll be a while till we address the relationship. A part of me knew it wasn’t entirely ok but there is a substantial amount …

hi everyone, sorry for the long post - myself (26F) and my partner (26M) of 6 years have broken up less than a week ago and i've never such acute visceral pain. i'm riddled with the worst physical anx…

Tldr seeking advice for an anxious attachment whose my boyfriend has recently been diagnosed with depression Sorry it’s a little long! So basically at the beginning of last year I (27 F) started not…

I appreciate your kind words. I’ve opened up about some of my struggles before. Only like two people. The first guy minimized my problems and would often change the topic to sex. He was never a good p…

i was just like you (and honestly still am sometimes) and i got diagnosed with ROCD. after starting medication, doing a lot of targeted therapy, & being honest and open with my partner about everythin…

I know right, wtf is this attitude that if you're divorced you have to be celebate for like 3+ years. 1) you're rusty at dating, it's gonna be at least another year of getting up to speed on dating …

I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease when I was 19. It took 9 months to find a reasonable treatment for it that mitigated many of the symptoms most of the time, I still spent two to three weeks …

My ex would play the piano and guitar and reorganize his shelfs of stuff for hours! ADHD, un diagnosed, unmedicated, except for his self-medicating. If we got into an argument, he would blame me for h…

So I told him (the guy I am seeing) about the communication (lack of it). That I connect with someone through communication and I feel like communication have been quite minimal between us (like curio…

Sounds like a pile of excuses, especially if he's claiming undiagnosed things as part of the problem. I'd find someone who was a better fit and who doesn't just blow smoke at you and try and make you …

It’s funny how life works. A year ago today, I was in the hospital diagnosed with T2 diabetes. I actually almost died because I was in DKA, which meant my own blood became toxic to me. Luckily I ma…

Late-diagnosed autistic 32F here! I was in a similar situation 5 years ago (with the only difference is that I don’t want to date my friend as we have different relationship goals). If, in a parallel …

Vent. My guy came over last night. It was okay. Just felt a little flat. Think we hit our first bump this morning. It’s been over three months. No bf/gf definitions, but we’re not dating anyone else. …

My girlfriend's had fluctuating eczema for the first time in her life since maybe September, had kidney issues in December, and has alternated between colds/flu/coughs since the new year. The eczema…

On the no medical issues thing: I wouldn't be so sure about this. Many hormonal imbalances, nutritional deficiencies, depressive states, etc. can go undiagnosed for a lifetime. But the flip side is th…

For a number of years I had a friend who I helped during a tough time in his life. He probably has undiagnosed autism or some other issue, but I was happy to assist him. I gave him a job, spent time…

Hi everyone! I'd like to know if anyone has any fresh perspectives or advice on my situation. I'm a 36-year-old man, diagnosed with autism. Never had a girlfried, neither my first kiss or hug  I…

Hi, I am also diagnosed. I started dating in my teens, albeit I am no expert. I worked hard on my masking skills and appearance my whole life, to the point of obsession with blending in. I can only…

So he answered this to my "breakup message" (a bit below). His response: "Can we at least call each other tomorrow to settle this up.. I just don’t know what to say anymore". What do I even say? Wh…

This was a very volatile week for me, with several important new insights. Context: I'm DA (40M), on a healing journey for 4.5 months now, my aim is to reconnect with my wife (41F) who is FA, togethe…

So I didn’t listen to the advice and I replied today to his message from yesterday asking if we could at least have a call. I replied “yes, okay”. Guess what, he never replied or called me. So yeah, n…

Think it's a combination of both. I definitely do have undiagnosed mental health issues which may contribute heavily to my inability to connect with people and a preference for my own company. I can…

This bitch got a third date!!!!! My dude came in clutch with a 6pm Wednesday call for a Saturday night date. Per my rules, he was very close to the cutoff and I was about to get “very busy” with “othe…

Thanks It’s definitely been a work in progress and finding the right therapist and modality really started helping. My therapist thinks I may be on the spectrum and I kind of see it. Especially with …

I'm autistic and have been on Prozac for a few months now. I take it for depression and anxiety (likely caused by being undiagnosed for 32 years). I wouldn't say I've been flattened by it. It's reduce…

I've always thought this exact subject is interesting. I was born May of 1996 and have Saturn at 4° Aries 10H with some really rough aspects including squares to my ascendant, Venus in 12H, and Jupi…