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Im lost unsure of what to do next

Im lost unsure of what to do next — This is intentionally my burner account. If not applicable to mods, I understand. I'm 35 M. Gay. Jewish heritage & struggling or trying to cope with Nmom & how to "mentally let go" from her fear of …

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/9/2026
did you need mental health treatment because of the aftermath

did you need mental health treatment because of the aftermath — A year ago today I was starting an intense outpatient therapy program because, with my already existing depression, I spiraled so bad after being cruelly discarded it became a mental health crisis for…

r/NarcissisticAbusepost3/10/2026
codependency quiz wrecked me - turns out my "helping" was actually controlling

codependency quiz wrecked me - turns out my "helping" was actually controlling — I took a codependency quiz last week on taro's tarot and i genuinely feel like the floor dropped out from under me. I've always been the person everyone comes to. The fixer. The one who drops everythi…

r/Codependencypost3/17/2026
I BROKE NO CONTACT

I BROKE NO CONTACT — I broke it and I’m the one who said I wanted it. I’m sorry for crossing that boundary, for possibly confusing you, but I’m not sorry for still loving and longing for you. I’m not sorry for wanting to …

r/ExNoContactpost3/24/2026
This was what I said when we met up a week later after she said she would’ve married me while breaking up with me. Only reason we met up was cuz I asked if she was serious ab what she said and she said “yes. I would’ve married you”

This was what I said when we met up a week later after she said she would’ve married me while breaking up with me. Only reason we met up was cuz I asked if she was serious ab what she said and she said “yes. I would’ve married you” — I’ve had a lot of time to really think about and indulge in what happened to cause this. You are right. I shouldn’t have added her back. But what you’re wrong about is what you think what was said aft…

r/BreakUpspost3/29/2026
(Update) Did I do it properly? I MtF23 broke up with her F23 finally.

(Update) Did I do it properly? I MtF23 broke up with her F23 finally. — Original post - https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/s/ARpwhUQoto I 23mtf broke up with her 23f via a message while she’s asleep… I put: “Hey, I’ve been thinking about this a lot and I need…

r/relationship_advicepost4/6/2026
Blindsided by a breakup after 9 years. Struggling to cope

Blindsided by a breakup after 9 years. Struggling to cope — This is going to be a rambling mess I’m sorry. My (32f) partner of 9 years (34m) blindsided me with a breakup in January. I don’t know what stage I’m in of grief. I have spent the last four days cryin…

r/BreakUpspost4/8/2026
My(19M) friendship with my close friend(20M) came to an end.Why?

My(19M) friendship with my close friend(20M) came to an end.Why? — First of all I don't know how this really works I've been on reddit for 6 years now and never made a post. Back in highschool I met Joseph(It's not his actual name).I thought we were similar as i…

r/relationship_advicepost4/13/2026
The song Wicked Game by Chris Isaak sounds like an AP singing about falling in love with a DA

Great observation. Ever since I've had a situationship with an avoidant, I came to notice this a lot in songs. I've heard them written seemingly from the perspective of each side... more commonly anx…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/7/2025
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread

The whole discard thing is getting a bit overblown in my opinion. If it’s not working out I’ll end it. Then it’s done. Why are you counting the days of no contact hoping I’ll change my mind? Why are y…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment2/3/2026
Has anyone else experienced something very feeling strange ever since the election of the current American President??

I'll share a bit of my story, take from it what you will. I have a degree in political science. In 2015 I was living in Washington DC, reading from a minimum of five news sources a day. I knew polit…

r/experiencerscomment3/9/2026
If you are a dumper missing your dumpee you caused the pain

The entire post is projecting what they went through onto other people. You can break up for all sorts of reasons and still love your ex. Do you need me to list examples?

r/BreakUpscomment3/9/2026
A Lucid Dreaming Technique I Accidentally Discovered (Using Multi-Sensory Daydreaming)

Hello! Essentially the basis of the technique is to imagine yourself in a place as you are falling asleep & engaging your senses as much as possible. (Primarily sight, hearing and touch especially) …

r/LucidDreamingcomment3/12/2026
Considering divorce from my husband. I need perspective.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. You're not alone. I'm in a marriage with a partner that a number of people in my life are telling me I should divorce, so I understand that position. A positi…

r/Codependencycomment3/16/2026
I want to send this text so bad

Can I just pretend this message is from my cancer bf that took off on me without a word, this would make it a tiny bit better. I know op made this to make themselves feel better but I think they ended…

r/BreakUpscomment3/19/2026
I saw my ex after 3 months of no contact, everything looks different.

This is why I don’t like that my gf has guy friends that one of use to be her ex but they quote un quote weren’t really into each other and he’s gay or so I caught one of them holding hands and this w…

r/BreakUpscomment3/20/2026
Mom wants to review financials with me 2x a year to receive my inheritance

"Mom, if this ongoing "financial review" is a requirement to get an inheritance I don't want it. I have no problem telling anyone who asks that you don't have faith in your own parenting and thus dec…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/23/2026
How do I F21 fix my relationship with my F21 twin sister after her M22 fiancée SA’d me?

Did her boyfriend admit to his family what he did? You say they're posting on FB and shaming your family for being angry, so are they basically admitting he SA you and are saying your family is over r…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/25/2026
the “meditate 10–20 minutes a day” advice is why I never stick to it

You are, of course, overthinking and over-feeling, which is exactly why you need meditation. You are a slave to your impulses. It’s actually extremely simple. I don’t care how busy your life is—10 mi…

r/Meditationcomment3/25/2026
Feeling depressed over hair

you will lose it again buddy, you need medication that stops the hormome DHT from producing. Finasteride or Dutasteride. Don't want to scare you but if you want to keep your hair you need to take it.

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/30/2026
My dad used to try and make me relax and get rid of all thoughts, what was he doing?

The brain is a muscle. If a muscle is used repeatedly, it will hurt. As such, it is good to give it a rest. The brain doesn't work like a bicep or a pec. Therefore, the type of resting differs. To re…

r/Meditationcomment3/30/2026
Psychiatrist said "We all have some form of trauma" and she also said "blah blah" when I was sharing my trauma

Personally seeing a psychiatrist is a mistake in my opinion as someone who has been in therapy for years and has a formal education in counseling and psychology, a psychiatrist is useless for anything…

r/CPTSDcomment3/31/2026
We need to address the truth that the majority here cant afford therapy

I paid for a year and it did nothing to me. Talking to ChatGPT was much more helpful. But it’s not for everyone and I did a ton of research myself too so I didn’t only follow AI blindly. For 25 bucks …

r/CPTSDcomment3/31/2026
Meds?? More therapy?

what is your nutrition looking like? your brain is a part of your body, if you want it to work right you have to give it what it needs. Meds can help, see a phsycologist they gave me bipolar meds off …

r/Anxietyhelpcomment4/2/2026
Spoon bending with psychokinesis and next steps

Did i do it right? I feel like im missing something. Why did you need meditation to do this. And I guess my more important question is why? https://preview.redd.it/xpvimrkwlvsg1.jpeg?width=3000&form…

r/gatewaytapescomment4/3/2026
Is there anything I can do with the tight chest feeling?

Your probably at the point that you need meds. They do help

r/Anxietyhelpcomment4/4/2026
13+ hour long non stop adrenaline rush / anxiety attack

So I am a big advocate of not taking medication until you absolutely need it; I firmly believe most people can overcome the majority of their anxiety/panic issues through rewiring their brains, accept…

r/Anxietyhelpcomment4/5/2026
Non-generic tips for someone struggling with lifelong depression?

Honestly you sound like you need medication, maybe forever which can be hard to stomach. If youve tried it in the past and it hasnt worked start looking into different meds and demanding to find the r…

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment4/5/2026
Wife reached back out after no contact for months

Don't let her fool you. Everything she's doing now is attempt to sweep this under the rug as fast as possible. Her desire to 'earn your trust back' is simply a means to an end to her getting what she…

r/Divorcecomment4/5/2026
Procrastination is literally ruining my life and I want to snap out of it before it is too late.

If you’re at a U.S. university, you can use their mental health services to get diagnosed. There are a ton of ADHD meds, both stimulant and non-stimulant. Go by what a doctor recommends, not what you…

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment4/6/2026
Why do my parents only help me when they are put to shame. (TW: SELF HARM)

Just for a weekend?!?! They won’t even look into getting a doctor’s appointment to see if you need medicine or therapy 😳? If so then I’m so soo sorry. Shaming is an incredibly toxic parenting tech…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment4/6/2026
31M, why am I failing at everything - No job, Partner broke up with me, No Luck at all? Is something wrong with me?

OP, as a fellow moon+ketu conjunction native myself, I feel you need meditation, and more importantly, CBT from a good therapist. Or, just do CBT journaling at home. Few questions: \- Do you also h…

r/vedicastrologycomment4/7/2026
He broke the NC and I left him on read and it feels powerful.

Girl, honestly, my ex did the same thing to me. We had only an 11-month relationship, and he broke up with me over a vague reason. He said the same things your ex did. The most hated part is, “Do call…

r/BreakUpscomment4/7/2026
Newbie looking for meditation recommendations for anxiety / depression / anticipatory grief

condolences about your pet. you have my sympathy. that's a really hard thing to deal with and the grief is very real. meditation is not medicine or therapy. if you need medicine or therapy, please do…

r/Meditationcomment4/8/2026
Sleeping only 4 hours a day since 2022, pls help when this will end

You need melatonin. Go to your doctor or atleast get a few kiwis today. Eat 1 hr before bedtime. No screen or light after that. See if it helps.

r/vedicastrologycomment4/9/2026
Did anyone else feel completely blindsided when they realised how parentified they were?

Thank you for your comment and I’m sorry this comment doesn’t come across well. I’m using voice to text because I’m really overwhelmed and tired tonight. It’s really nice to hear from people who get …

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment4/9/2026
My partner (29m) is upset that I (29f) don’t hold him accountable

Yes, all of this! And OP, think long and hard before marrying or having children with this man because he’s the type that will Weaponized his incompetence and say things like, “just tell me what you n…

r/relationshipscomment4/10/2026
I [20F] and my Bf [19M] are struggling to get over something that happened, what can we do? (Slight TW)

You need mental health intervention. You were already having manic episodes before you were assaulted, probably because of your childhood abuse. Then on top of that you have the trauma of a sexual ass…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
Am I, 43F, being ridiculous or is he, 45M?

> when it’s pretty darn clear what I meant * * ***happen often*** * * and they’re very frustrating. Refusing to deal with pedantic assholery is something I started doing after I finished college. I…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/12/2026
spent 10 months analyzing breakups after mine wrecked me. here's what i learned

We are in the same story too. It was so heartbreaking to be told you aren't enough for your person, just being compared to the fantasy ideal partner they built up in their heads while they already had…

r/BreakUpscomment4/12/2026
Boyfriend of one year looks COMPLETELY different from when we started dating and it’s affecting my attraction [26F, 27M]

I edited to add that we have a massive shortage of doctors in Canada because that might not make sense to Americans. But if you need me to repeat what I wrote in the OP and my reply to you, I can do t…

r/relationshipscomment4/13/2026