rescued

My narcissistic hoarder mother continues to collect things and animals, and is now refusing to bury her dead cat. Things are getting out of hand, and I need advice on how to move forward </3 — **I am desperate for help and advice of people in similar situations.** *\* This story contains sensetive topics relating to animal abuse and neglect, as well as mental health topics, if you are sens…

Mom is being kicked out — Parentified eldest daughter here. haven’t spoken to my recovering alcoholic mother in years. Doing so always sends me into a spiral. She puts herself in awful, high-risk situations, never chooses her …

Did your narcissist go through pets like they were handbags? — I remember so many pets that were either sold after the narc only had them for a few months. Or the pet just wouldn’t make it. Snakes, dogs, cats, hedgehogs, ferrets, chinchillas, possibly more. Whe…

I saved a family member’s life and my narc parent tells everyone they’re a hero. — Note: I literally did the bare minimum when no one else would. An elderly family member of mine could not be contacted for more than a week. I only see this person a few times a year and we don’t r…

Has anyone ever changed their entire selves/view on life? — I (40f) have been struggling with selfishness my whole life. My husband left me and asked for a divorce but more recently agreed to a trial separation. One thing he brought up today was that I never s…

SF to name street after Chinese-American woman who saved thousands from human trafficking — I was happy to read this news about a street in San Francisco being renamed after a brave Chinese-American woman named Tien Fuh Wu who saved thousands of women and girls from human trafficking. With r…

What gives you the ick as you heal and your emotional maturity increases? — As a Codependent in recovery, what are things that you used to feel were normal that now gives you the ick? For me, for example, some of the examples are when I see people who overshare without givi…

Fantasies about being rescued? — Did anyone else used to fantasize about being rescued or saved from traumatic situations? Like, I know now adaptive daydreaming is a thing and it's a thing I've also experienced, but did anyone ever f…

Saved by Aliens! Twelve Benevolent Encounters — [**Saved by Aliens! Twelve Benevolent Encounters**](https://youtu.be/aPMjZJDOfis) by Preston Dennett https://preview.redd.it/78ywlpbo7zsg1.jpg?width=1604&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=bac3d50493e2b7125956…

My Mom Kept Killing Our Pets — I always thought that animals had very short life spans. Through my childhood, we had adopted and buried at least 7 cats, 5 dogs, 2 rabbits, and 3 hamsters , not to mention a myriad of wild animals li…

NMom keeps bringing up a traumatic experience related to the water whenever I try to bring up going to the beach — TW for mention/description of near-drowning experience I will try to keep this part short for context. When I was a junior in high school, my friend and I were at the beach for spring break when she …

Thoughts? Advice needed — Hey gang. 30MTF trans gal here and I know its the end of the road. My spouse and I have been married 5 years and one week, together for 7 years. Unfortunately I'm filling due to verbal and emotional a…

I feel like my parents wanted kids only in the “puppy stage” and now they just resent us — I’m 22F and lately I keep thinking my parents were never actually ready to have kids long term. It feels like they wanted children only when we were small and dependent, but now that we are older and …

How does one deal with and angry ex-to-be, who lies? — Kinda just the title. She convinced my family (and some neighbors!) I'm, bear with me, suicidal, homicidal, unstable (etc). Our kids come over, and spend the night here weekly. Also, I have federally…

I not only inadvertently rescued a clingy dog, but am the indoor home of last resort for a clingy cat. I'm suffocating. Children need lots of physical contact, supervision. You can't take time off fro…

The anxious behavior strategies are fairly more obvious. >C1 (Threateningly Angry): They use anger to coerce attached figures into proving care and comfort. >C2 (Disarmingly Desirous of Comfort): Co…

I can understand how you feel. I think your reaction is normal, but dogs are like family members. He probably loved that dog a lot and being able to say goodbye was important to him. I had an ex who…

It’s so true. My mom blew about my aunt not telling my mom she looked nice when mom arrived at my aunt’s who was hosting her daughter’s wedding shower. My mom was seething with jealousy. I didn’t have…

Sorry, venting more … On Saturday I went to the Women’s march. It was literally just next to the place of the guy I was seeing. He forgot his wallet at my place the night before. Clearly, he didn’t w…

Do not get rid of your birds. Get rid of the man. I (F33) have two parrots (African grey and an Amazon) I rescued both under extenuating circumstances. For reference I always wanted cats haha you chos…

So so so true. This is just one part of my life of having such a friend. Then I have a long term partner who always needs to be rescued almost on a daily basis which takes another big chunk of my life…

It's the difference between doing it for **you** and doing it for **them**. My late brother was constantly rescued by my parents as a teen and adult, and for my dad it was almost always about getting…

My mom didn’t do this but she did leave me on the side of the highway about 5 miles outside of town, and told me to walk home when I was a teenager. I was rescued by my adult sister who found out late…

Know that when it actually comes down to the truth, the police/medical team have your name on there as the person that reached out. The one that helped get info and get your relative to safety. They h…

This is really good advice, OP. This is a very hard situation you’re in, and I’m so sorry you have to experience it. In addition to all the other very good advice in the comments, I’d just like to emp…

You're spot on actually. She has a lot of fearful avoidant traits – the intense beginning, the slow withdrawal when things got too real, the sabotaging when the relationship became serious, running f…

Please dont ever visit a Zoo again. Freedom is the only species-appropriate way. Especially under LSD you should connect to a gorilla that they are ashamed to sit there and be a 1minute attraction to…

We didn't have kids but we have a dog that I rescued from his parents'acreage. I don't want to say I would go through it all again, but I love my dog so much I just may. I just wish I left after we re…

For context I was winning industry awards. It’s not that I didn’t have the ability, I was at the top of my game, but I used work to bury my abuse. Then I started having dissociations and anger issues …

I had the inverse, a life and death homicide event as a kid basically forced me into becoming Robin then everything after that was learning how different life became. Stemming from when I needed to pr…

I still do, to a certain extent. I occasionally dream several "What-If" scenarios where my life turned out better when I was a kid and someone rescued me; be it family or friends, or friends' family…

The past already happened and I accepted it but I do have fantasies being rescued from my current Hell. Even tho I’m not currently in danger I feel unsafe all the time and the freezes and flashbacks f…

Didn’t really have fantasies about being rescued or saved per se. But I used to fantasize about a situation in which my dad wasn’t my dad. It was a weird sort of hope or fantasy that I had another bio…

I've been going through my things from my childhood, and one of the things I came across was some of my writing. It wasn't good, but there was a lot of it. One of the stories was about children that …

All my adult life. To be rescued and looked after and protected.

Omg I also loved The Rescuers and Mary Poppins, I would spend all my time trying to imagine scenarios where I'd be rescued or freed from the prison which was my life.

Yes. I fantasise about getting the attention and support I never received and being rescued, saved

I compulsively rescued obe of my past boyfriends. Paid his rent for months. Bought him a truck. He was not appreciative. He did not want to be in a reciprocal relationship Rescued usually end up b…

I think a lot of us missed out on that developmental stage as a young child where we should have had someone to protect us, stand up for us, and rescue us. We didn’t get a healthy foundation of securi…

I daydreamed about being rescued instead of developing any sense of self.

As kids my sister and I would day dream aloud together about being rescued/escaping. Our fantasies usually involved a person kidnapping us from our parents and saving us, but then we'd decide we didn'…

Thanks friend! It is helpful! I will give it some thought. Thinking about childhood is very painful, but in small doses maybe. I did this once before intuitively, went back and “rescued” my child from…

Nice one My forner ex would be very sweet for a while The rescues got all the more time consuming So did his chaos. Navigating those was always time consuming At a certain point I rescued alk our…

The law doesn’t mean everyone’s life is going to be great. It just delivers what you put out into the universe. Even unknowingly. There are people who are rescued from awful situations as there a…

i don't find mushrooms during meditation, lolol. i find them before meditation if i desire to consume them. i love to just embrace the hallucinations/illusions/delusions, never give in to fears. learn…

Absolutely, I have regrets that things don’t work out and usually there’s regrets too because I try to see things from BOTH our sides in the breakup. Not many people do this. I grieved deeply and pa…

I had an ex-girlfriend who was obsessed with me and would demand I play DBD with her. Then she’d just hunt me down and kill me over and over again. Demand friends tell her where I was. Hover by my hoo…

Yeah. My mom did this constantly so you had to owe her. When I rescued my first dog at 22 she tried paying for her. I wouldnt let my mom, I knew she would lay claim, make demands, want custody, violat…

Am still telling my story at 74. Read about people with complex trauma, (especially bad ACEs and domestic violence) that we long to be rescued. Thought one day someone would recognize my good fawning …

Today on social media I saw one guy I dated very shortly back in 2018. He posted photos with his partner. Him and I connected due to painful breakups we were going through back then. He truly seemed l…

Long reply but i have to give the background: I made this exact mistake, please learn from it. Same timeline, dated for 1.5 years, she dumped me over wanting to move in, i wasn't ready for that. I was…

Thank you for your reply! Yes you're right! I have a travel bucket list, but due to the uncertainties of the war, I do not want to get stuck up abroad so that's on hold. - I already have a rescued …

Yep. My dad’s best friend is the modern equivalent of “new money.” He got into insurance young, got rich enough to have multiple timeshares in Hawaii, Florida and Aruba, owns several houses and lots o…

i just wish someone could help me i wish i could be rescued i wish the pain could end 

M31, here I had a very similar experience last year with a short intense 3 month relationship (f27). It was my first relationship in a few years. My mental health was great before her and I stopped kn…

Yes, honestly can’t see things ever improving. I’m so unbelievably depressed and done. Nobody seems to understand what my life has been like, they just think I’m crazy. I want to be saved and rescued …

Awesome! Email the Monroe Instirute.org. they offered a spoon bending class a cpuple of years ago. I have followed them since the 90s. They have a section called the Dolphin Energy Club. Totally …

Who says I abandoned my family I rescued me

Hey. I'm in a chair now. Putting my dog down was on par with loosing my gma. I loved them both with all my being. My service dog saved my from an attempt. He got help. Was never more then an inch from…

I dont think many relationships are exactly black and white. Many of my #associations# had redeeming points. Mutual rescue was definitely a theme. I was desperate to be rescued as a child. Being #res…