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To be fair, I don't think I find the lack of touch *itself* "difficult". I'm very able to be alone to what would probably be considered an abnormally unhealthy degree. *Maybe* it's intertwined, but I …

I’m not sure how to process this. Idk if it’s my Anxious Attachment style acting up or if I’m being objective — Thoughts on finding this text exchange on my girlfriends phone? she was with a group of friends and at a bar and I guess she started talking to some guy there. I’m brown, she’s not referring to me wh…

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I finally realized my fear of closeness is really a fear of being known — I've been working to understand myself better as a DA, in part with the help of Reddit. I now feel the last puzzle pieces fell into place and I finally have a coherent story of why I am the way I am. …

Coaches — So,we all know the scam of RAIN I wanted to talk about this other girl ‘Amara innerpower’who keeps posting in various Ng groups on Facebook. Beware of this one too and never ever pay any coach for mon…

Mom is being kicked out — Parentified eldest daughter here. haven’t spoken to my recovering alcoholic mother in years. Doing so always sends me into a spiral. She puts herself in awful, high-risk situations, never chooses her …

I (28F) cut off my in-laws after how they treated me before and during my wedding, but I get anxious when my husband (27M) still talks to them. How do I move on? — TL;DR: My mother-in-law and sisters-in-law insulted me, fat-shamed and color-shamed me before our wedding and caused major drama during the wedding itself. Now they act sweet in front of my husband. I…

I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…

Advice on how to deal with parent giving ultimatum over my relationship — I'm a 28 year old gay Asian male currently living in an East Asian country for my job, away from my home country and my parents. All my life, I had a great and loving relationship with my parents. I w…

Surprise Surprise another tale of a cheater — Surprise Surprise another tale of a cheater Throw away account Midwest USA(MI) M42 F40 Two kids 20years of married Found out late December clear signs of cheating (got to work bag, bottle of lu…

I (36M) am in tears in my own home while my parents play with my daughter. — My wife has gone away for a conference today (for the first time since we had a kid). I am alone with my parents in my own home and feel so unsafe with them. At any time, I fear an attack will come my…

Finding out about an unknown child from an affair 28 years ago — I’ve found out I have been deceived for 28 years by 50M after DNA test I F47 and husband 50M. 29 years together, was contacted by my BIL 3 days ago , had spoken to a F27 who had take a dna test tryi…

She admits the lies and secrecy, but still denies anything physical — I’m posting because I feel like I’m losing my grip on what is real, and I need perspective from people who understand trickle truth, repeated minimizing, and what it feels like when someone admits jus…

What do you do when you feel annoyed and angry with someone for no reason — This is a vulnerable post, so please no judging...it's an honest question for inner exploration to find the love and compassion for others. There are some people who seem to instantly irk me. It's o…

26[M] and my 23[F] me and her just recently cut things off. — Things were going really good in the beginning, she was sweet and nice but I realized she was a very different and strange. Like maturity wise, she had so many issues she was very controlling when I’d…

AM Basically Slut-Shamed AND Victim Blamed Me For Having Someone’s Husband Sit Near Me — All of us went to church together as a family. I was sitting on one of the ends in our group. later a couple sat in the same row as us and the husband left one chair space between him and I. When we…

He showed up at my house tonight, drunk after 6.5 years — My ex (23M) and I (23F) dated from the age 14-17, throughout high school. He was one of my best friends and we loved each other dearly. We broke up because I didn’t want to be with him anymore bc I th…

The Tragedy of the Chinese Music Industry (and Society) — If anyone's been following the recent controversy in China concerning singers Li Ronghao and Shan Yichun, you've probably seen the actually vile environment that is the Chinese internet (and Chinese s…

My story of confusion - need advice — In early 2024, I met a woman from another country, and we embarked on a long-distance relationship that initially felt like a rare, once-in-a-lifetime connection. For the first two months, we were in …

The fact that someone as terrible and disgusting as me has been allowed to live this long is the world's worst joke. — **(This is a repost of a post I made a while ago, which I am reposting because I'm back in a slump again. There aren't any major changes other than the ending bit.)** 20M. This might be the longest p…

My mum is a pedophile — It took me 7 years to finally realise that my mum was a straight up pedophile and I still have to live with that women.What made me realise was multiple incident, the worst one when I was 10-13. She w…

lost my friend and my money and my crush likes to play games with me — Idek where to start because everything feels like it’s collapsing at once i got scammed and i feel stupid and worthless. i was just trying to sell my laptop on Dubizzle, and for once someone didn’t t…

Im tired of being put down for not being "cunning" — In other words "chalak" if some of you may get, im tired of being put down for it, im tired of getting told im too dumb to survive in this world or how many girls tend to be cunning except, i never ev…

18 months NC Adventure Time. — Just days after my 50th birthday, that of which was celebrated alone, in a holding cell. I had Frosted Flakes and a strawberry go-gurt for breakfast at 5a.m. And a lovely bologna sandwich with a s…

I feel cheated on too. — I found out, after years of suspicion, that my father is indeed cheating on my mum. My brother isn't ready yet for us to tell our innocent, clueless mother what's been going on, but we hopefully do it…

Therapist told me something that I'm a little confused by — Had therapy for the first time a few days ago and I honestly loved it, but my therapist told me something that I'm a little confused by. She said that I'm like a "little girl," (I'm 20) and that it's …

Favouritism and unfairness — Unfair and favouritism. How to Handle unfairness around you. I have been a research scholar for almost 3 years now. Got into new field worked my ass off. And still just reached average. A junior com…

Seeking advice about my wife's actions — Seeking advice I’m posting here because I need honest input from people who understand limerence/crush dynamics, especially if you’ve experienced it while in a committed relationship or from the part…

I'm just tied and fed-up of my narcissistic and emotionally immature mom — *Hi, I'm 35F who likes to stay with my parents sometimes to help out with their chores and other day-to-day stuff as they're old, and technologically-handicapped. But I don't look forward to staying w…

Just tired of my mom's bullshit — Hi, I'm 35F who likes to stay with my parents sometimes to help out with their chores and other day-to-day stuff as they're old, and technologically-handicapped. But I don't look forward to staying wi…

I feel like I'll never be able to live normally after being cheated on. — I need some support. I(21F)'ve been with my boyfriend(26M)for a year and a half and we planned future together. More than two months ago I had the opportunity to go through his phone after big fight.…

The letter I will never send. — # I'm not looking for sympathy, I just need to get this out there. I’ve spent countless hours sitting, pacing the house, going for late night walks and drives, pondering my thoughts, feeling stuck, …

Why not just end it? - emotional cheater — My three-year relationship ended two weeks ago. She initially broke up with me in January. I couldn’t believe it. There had been signs building up to the breakup for months. But I was still shocked. …

20F need more proof of my boyfriend 21M cheating on me — I \[20F\] don’t want to sound like the dumb girlfriend here but i really need some advice, desperately. i went onto my boyfriends \[21M\] phone, not because i suspected anything but because i am just …

She has never stood up for me and it finally broke me — At 35 I feel completely broken. It was a long time coming and it probably seems dumb to most but I’ve been suffering since she pulled this on me. When I text her about it she ignores me or tells me sh…

She has never stood up for me and it finally broke me — At 35 I feel completely broken. It was a long time coming and it probably seems dumb to most but I’ve been suffering since she pulled this on me. When I text her about it she ignores me or tells me sh…

"Mom wants to visit you with baked goods, do you mind?" — This morning I woke up and first thing I've seen was a message from my grandma. She sent me a fb link, I thought it would be some Happy Easter card, that's what elders do. But it was some sugary sweet…

The only bedtime phrase that stopped the daily “I miss Daddy” crying every single night — My daughter wouldn’t stop crying for her dad almost every night at bedtime since divorce. Not an innocent cry. Am talking about the kind of cry that broke both of us apart. I used to be so helpless no…

I (22F) feel incredible guilt about having a past sexual relationship before being with new (23m) partner — This is a stupid thing to be guilty about I know, life isn’t a romcom where you find your true love right off the bat. But I can’t shake this guilt and disappointment I have in myself about it Basica…

How do i move on? — Hey guys, i have a slight dilemma. Let me just say my entire story. When I was 17 i was w my partner for almost 5 years. I love him but it became toxic, he cheated and what not. I fully trusted him he…

My legal guardian (grandmother) used to give me pills to not deal with me when I was 17 — I'd appreciate someone being blunt with me about if this **was** that serious? I remembered this randomly last night on call with a sibling, I'm 20 going on 21 now and moved out. but for some context…

Jury Duty triggered my CPTSD and turned the day into a humiliation ritual — TW: mentions of domestic abuse and attempted unaliving I'm not sure if this is the place to post something like this but sometimes in order to cope and make myself feel better, I write it all out an…

I feel like my life is boring, nothing satisfies me — So I am a teenager, nothing seems to satisfy I'm pretty much average at everything (kinda good at studies though). I plan a lot end up failing at it miserably not because me but due to some circumstan…

Why the fuck do people joyfully reminisce about being abused online? — I'll just be watching some random video, not related to child abuse, abuse survivors, and abusive parents, and I'll find one comment, \*multiple\* comments happily recounting "Oh, this cat swatting th…

I saw the news (trigger warning) — my team don't allow me watch the news it go on Instagram or anywhere i used to learn about current affairs but that i had to see my solicitor and I saw some of what's going on and my heart is pounding…

I am a genuine disgusting, horrible piece of shit, and I don't know what to do about it. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD (I'm not officially diagnosed) and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years…

I am (39F) and my fiance (34M) sent a woman (25F) a DM and likes lots of her insta pics. What are your thoughts on social media interactions? — We are to be married this summer and he's wonderful, hard-working, and supportive. But this one girl, a former classmate of his (25F) and gorgeous on his social media REALLY gets under my skin and I d…

The best of days and the worst of days! - Days 19-22 of Recovery — well, it's been a while, and a ton of shit happened. some of this is bad, some of this is good, but it ended well so that's all that matters. please, take this warning, if you read past here just be…

life has brought me so down low im starting to be vulnerable — EDIT: And just to clarify this, before this I was the kind of person that people would always assume my life was perfect and i sort of held a highly perfectionistic public face for many reasons but al…

I [M30] have lost my desire to have sex with my girlfriend [F21], why is this? — Well for starters, she is fairly innocent. She hasn't had that many partners. I have had many. I'm a lot older, and I've gone through phases of high sexual activity. I ended up going down that road an…

Why i feel like this.. — I am a 29-year-old guy, and I don’t have any biological sisters.But in 2012, I met one of my cousin(Riya) for the first time from my father’s side relatives , because there had been a conflict between…

1. That doesnt disprove anything. It just means it may be more difficult. That's like saying mindfulness doesn't work because some people have ADHD.  2. Decent point but keep in mind some scientist …

This is the one. I'd also add that attachment doesn't just stop at partners — it's also at play at work, friendships, family relationships/siblings, and even children. It's really fucking hard to be …

They can be self critical, but that's actually the opposite of being accountable and aware because typically it's just another way to ruminate. I also think that tendency in general is what drives the…

Sorry, the more correct term is fearful avoidant leaning avoidant, and DA and FA are their own categories. However, there are a number of variations among FAs, including whether we lean anxious or avo…

Omg!1!! How dare u. I've been thru so much and now this. Is it really so bad to want to know why My DA hurt me so much despite me being literally an angel who is innocent as a newborn baby with inten…

I'm not suggesting that sub is 100% bad (nothing is all bad or all good). But it's absolutely an echo-chamber that frequently becomes toxic and dehumanizing, conflates every negative behavioral trait …

I'm still very new to this forum, but from I can see people here tend to explain the totality of events solely based on the attachment theory. While it does explain why someone with insecure attachmen…

Appreciate your honesty, but PLEASE DO NOT DATE until you’ve worked on yourself in a consistent, demonstrable way and have learned to actually change what you desire. You will only cause unnecessary …

It’s not really fair to bring someone innocent into the mess until it is demonstrably healed. Otherwise, it’s just using them as yet another crutch to justify prolonged weird behavior. We also have …

Yeah I agree with you on that That’s not what you said though, and what I was specifically responding to with that comment. You said “it’s not really fair to bring someone innocent into the mess with…

Ah I see that now sorry. My response remains the same though because I literally agree with you and didn’t claim otherwise. But the person I was responding to said we shouldn’t be dating at all bec…

Amen. I've read every comment up to now without commenting and while there has been some great insight on "how" to show up for an FA partner, the "what happens when they don't like it" insights are la…

>One FA said something to me about herself early on, in some conversation or another, that seemed innocent at the time because I was infatuated: "That doesn't make you want to run?" My preferred resp…

These are my personal experiences from FAs: bad texter, late replies, hard time describing themselves and their emotions, past history of relationships (or none), problems with parents, retreat in soc…

I feel like we’re like the same people in this way. And I have struggled heavily with this aspect in the past, feeling so powerless, feeling like no one consider things the way I do, wanting to contro…

The faux-closeness besides trauma dumping has been cuddly roleplay, because my autistic brain interprets that as ”real” because of the distance (and I’m starved for cuddling, in an innocent way, with …

I am struggling in my relationship and I feel extremely unheard, triggered, and hurt by him. I have in the past has been cheated on and my ex kept me a secret (or refuse to include me with his frien…

I’m hoping someone will say it’s not bad and it’s not a big deal and it’s just my anxious attachment style. But I also want the truth. She apologized for this type of behavior years ago. She told me …

> The faux-closeness besides trauma dumping has been cuddly roleplay, because my autistic brain interprets that as ”real” because of the distance (and I’m starved for cuddling, in an innocent way, wit…

If people are saying heal first, we are on the same page. There is nothing about this innocent post that should have sparked a heated discussion or snide comments. That is what is bothering me.

I am a 65 year old professional man, happily married to another man 25 years. Recently I started reaching out to make more straight "bro" friends because I really don't like the gay scene, (gay men ta…

I’ve had two aspects of this come up in therapy.  I’m kind of surprised how much I have to describe to my therapist about what Jonice Webb calls the Fatal Flaw—the conviction that there is something …

I do understand, and like i said, great work so far. Not detracting from that all! Like i said though i think its hard to simply extrapolate these results into a relationship, because a relationship …

Thank you for the insight and validation! Yes I wish I could tell them I would literally like them more if they just pulled some of their energy off of me. Texting is such a weird medium too, like s…

He said he needed space for his life to change. I accepted this and was happy because I assumed it was going to be a few months. Nope, it was about all of a week. I feel frustrated because I've litera…

That entire first paragraph hahahaha I think I kind of understand what my anxious friend was trying to do all those months ago when they found out I had a problem-- corner me to decorate my wound with…

I’m so sorry you were affected that way. It’s crazy how things can start innocent & fun & light and can descend into madness. The guy I’m talking to has a habit of ambiguity that makes me feel like I’…

Got it... Thanks... I couldn't express my needs with the avoidant I was seeing, he would flip out the moment id require more than 2h so we would talk about our needs and boundaries we have regarding r…

it wasn't a boundary if you interpreted her breaking it as a favourable outcome. Think of it this way: a boundary is an absolute NO. One of my boundaries is, for e.g., I won't date someone who humilia…

And this where I said “context matters”… there’s definitely a difference between an innocent hug and a”rubbing his boner up on you”… we’re clearly picturing two very different hugs OP asking if you f…

I'm 4 days post an Okay (not great, but not terrible) second date with a new guy. I posted before about how he seemed very excited to have matched with me and how we both have adhd so he felt understo…

Tbh, it sounds like you’re just waiting for your turn. He has a girlfriend, why are you talking to him for 30-60 minutes -everyday-? Imho, the way you formed the question is a clear answer. You’re as…

The girlfriend almost certainly does not see OP as a neutral friend and the fact that OP took the time out of her day to create a long post on Reddit about her apparently innocent friendship with a gu…

Whether it is your intention or not, you are imposing on this relationship. I would have a problem with my partner spending 30-60 minutes on the phone *daily* with a platonic female friend. Some peop…

Single guy, early 40s , have had both committed and casual encounters ( no , not simultaneously). Tend to be asked these things by friends so chiming in. In respect of the term " emotional affair "…

I had this situationship with this guy and he presented himself as this nice innocent kind nerd art guy who is not like other guys for almost a year we were Together and had conversations about stuff …

Might be worth asking yourself why you did lie initially? Did you have a feeling that she was going to blow up if you did straight up say you were dating her? Also you say you don't know how she kne…

Because sexual attraction is important to me and he looks so young and innocent and I feel like a predator...

seems like your daughter's just asking innocent questions about how the world works, not actually telling you to date younger lol. the exes thing is more interesting though - if multiple people are sa…

I'm trying to clean up my house as I'm likely moving states soon back to family. Stumbled upon my exbox staring at me with gifts from my French ex that ended 2 years ago due to the distance and …

I was always that person who said I’d never date someone who is separated/not officially divorced or even someone who is less than 6 months out of the divorce being finalized. Welp… I somehow ended …

As Aries I'm pretty boring and a hermit and I don't do anything to anyone. I used to be toxic but I'm getting old. I just don't care anymore and it feels great! I notice other Aries are innocent too. …

"I enjoyed bombing mostly innocent civilians in foreign countries for their natural resources like oil, metals & labour, "Sucks to be them, Too bad they won't change their circumstances by being bor…

I have been in a very similar situation. On and off for years since 2019, whenever I was single. Turns out she spent most of her 20s cheating on her highschool sweetheart boyfriend. She started therap…

Well, I meant unknown to OP, but I think the husband is the most likely candidate for the origin of the texts, unfortunately. I simply believe that the possibility exists that he is innocent (or at le…

A few things could be happening maybe someone at work fancies him and is stealing his phone. You could ask him to change your name on his phone and see if they stop as why would he continue to send wh…

Okay look, I think it’s suspicious as hell that HE isn’t more upset by this. If he were truly innocent then he’d be beside himself at his family leaving over it and he’d be desperately searching for s…

If he were innocent he would want to help you get to the bottom of it and stop the messages reaching you by any means possible. He isn't, and he won't, because he's lying to you. If he wanted to actu…

Not that I believe him. But there are many ways. Could be he's texting a family member or friend about whats going on and the person with the found phone can read those messages. Could be a neighbor/c…

He’s not doing anything, if my wife showed me one message that I hadn’t sent I’d freak out, change my number, do anything to stop it and prove it wasn’t me, he doesn’t seem to care at all, an innocent…