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To be fair, I don't think I find the lack of touch *itself* "difficult". I'm very able to be alone to what would probably be considered an abnormally unhealthy degree. *Maybe* it's intertwined, but I …
How to heal avoidant attachment? — Uhhhh hey gang. Formerly severe fearful avoidant here. The attachment quizzes put everyone somewhere on a quadrant, with the bottom being high avoidance and the right high anxiety. So I was farrrr in …
What's your opinion on custom radio select inputs? — Hey folks, I'm currently working on an interface that lets users choose between two options. Technically, this is a radio input. But I've used Tailwind's peer classes to create a custom interface for …
What I learned building a quoting system for a construction company doing $10M+ a year — I recently finished a project for a construction company doing roughly $10M per year. They were quoting jobs using Excel and email threads, and while it technically worked, it was slow, error-prone, a…
Found out my friend and her coworkers are stealing money from their job — My friend works at a small franchise location that is a self serve food place. The amount of staff is small (8) and I recently found out that the they all essentially steal money. The owner doesn’t li…
Consultant business- IN or FL — Hey everyone- I am now based in Florida (originally MI) and my business partner is in IN. We technically have all three options possible. What is the best state to incorporate from your experience?…
How to shift focus when anxiously attached — I'm anxiously attached and have very little to no sense of self. I know therapy's necessary but I'm not starting before another month. I'll take any insight or advice on how to manage it, shift my foc…
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…
I Genially Think My (35F) Husband (36M) is a Psychopath — Hi everyone, please I need help. I’m 35F and my husband is 36M. We’ve been married for 10 years and have two boys (7 and 5). I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. About three months ago my hus…
Is my relationship doomed? I love him, but I’m so alone. — Hey everyone, I’m Lucy (F, late 20s) and I’ve been with my husband, Rick (M, late 20s) for about 8 years, married for 2. I know he cares about me and our family, and I see that he loves us. But latel…
NHI that Stop Time and Timelessness of the Oversoul; More Research that Supports how Aliens Obscure Human Memories. — Hi everyone. This is [me](https://www.reddit.com/r/Experiencers/comments/1ai4nzi/i_had_26_physical_contact_events_with_grey_aliens/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_c…
My boyfriend blew our savings. (F32) (M34) — I don't want to go into too much detail since he uses reddit but as the title says my(f32) boyfriend(m34) blew our savings on a really dumb investment. We've been together 6 years and have a 4 year ol…
A couple great tips for easier Revision. — Revision is an extremely important yet underrated technique. After going through an event that "future" manifesting just wouldn't solve, I knew the only thing that would fix this situation is to chang…
Fiancé 26 M shamed me 25F for my kink — My fiancé (28M) and I (25F) been together 4 years and have a 2 year old together. We’ve had a pretty health and active sex life from the start, we recently starting exploring more in the bedroom but…
How tf do you grow up in a communist state, then immigrate to America and be the biggest classist asshole around? — Anytime my mother would ever bring me to a store she would always remark that if I don’t keep my grades up I’m gonna end up working there. It’s the same thing with the plumber or any other handyman th…
what finally got me to shift - I broke my mind ⋆˚࿔ — I used to be the person who would try to shift every single night and wake up crying from a failed attempt because I was so frustrated with the fact that I wasn’t shifting. I thought that I fully be…
calling sick into work — hi all. i want to preface by saying im a college student who works part time 3 days a week a a clothing store. my managers and coworkers are great and i really respect them. i’m not feeling well whats…
Easiest way to Lucid Dream — I’ll keep this short and simple. Stay awake all day. No naps. Do whatever you normally do all day. Do not think about sleep until you are at the point where you’re struggling to keep your eyes open, …
1.5 Years Update 💀 My predictions became true — No, I do NOT want my ex back—like ever 😭 but I do have a story + some lessons from how everything played out. So basically, about 1.5 years ago, my ex randomly broke up with me out of nowhere. Like……
Navigating ego, experience, and opportunity in the music industry (Stoic advice needed) — I don’t know if this is the right place to ask this but here we go! I work in the music industry and recently I’ve started getting some real opportunities, like working with more established artists.…
Anyone else get that constant “something is wrong” feeling? — It’s hard to explain, but I keep having this feeling like something is off, even when everything is technically fine. Nothing specific is happening, but I can’t fully relax. It’s like I’m waiting for …
Question I would please like answered, if you have a good idea of what I'm asking? Serious — Technically speaking this is a strange sighting. I would really appreciate someone who may give me a proper answer and what it may mean. This is what happened, although condensed, I will stick to the …
affordable therapy when you make too much for assistance but not enough for 150 a session? — I feel like I’m in the worst possible affordability bracket. I technically make “too much” to qualify for any assistance or low income clinics, but not enough to casually drop 600 a month on therapy. …
breakthrough trip & the bigger picture — Hello, it's me again. I know that there are people here who enjoy reading my experiences so thus my posting. Obviously a disclaimer is this experience is under the influence of a psychadelic, but it t…
I broke up with my ex, but now I’m the one stuck and hurting — I have been with my ex for 7 years we were high-school sweet heart we started dating in 2017. we graduated high-school together nad college. we did everything together had got our first apartment. in…
Why you feel drained. — \# emotions For the longest time, I couldn't figure out why I was so exhausted. I’d finish a day where I technically didn't "do" much—no big projects, no heavy lifting—but I felt like I’d been in a f…
My brother (28M) is getting married to his gf (18F) and I am TA for disapproving... — The reason I have a problem with it, aside from just the age difference, is that they started dating two years ago. I found out he was dating her when he was ARRESTED over his inappropriate behavior…
My Ex’s Ex has been stalking me for 2 years. — Pretty much the title. Not sure if anyone else has experienced this. For those of you who want some back story, I (25F) was with a man for about 10 months. We had a very dramatic breakup and he put m…
It still hurts — It's been 4 months roughly since I broke things off. We technically only dated for a month but had a situationship thing going on for a bit before that. (My first and definitely not last blaring red f…
I'm already behind in life at 18 — I wasn't sure which flair to use, because I think I need advice on a lot of things. I also want to preface by saying I do not blame any of this on my parents, schools, mental health, etc, and this was…
Another way of looking at reality — I was standing in my balcony just watching the moon when I saw a firecracker burst in the sky. About a second later, I heard the sound. That small gap messed with my head a bit. Because if I didn’t ha…
Idk — So recently I got out of a long distance relationship/friendship (I say that because technically we werent together but we got to the point to where it felt like we were… at least on my end of it) wit…
Please suggest any ritual for getting pregnant — Hi friends. I'm 30f. Trying to get pregnant since some cycles. Technically did it in time just for 2 cycles. I was very hopeful this time but I just got my period. Please suggest any ritual or somethi…
Date of USA citizenship/renunciation of Chinese citizenship and new name of adoptee — I was adopted from China as an infant to American parents in 2003 and now need the exact date of which I gave up my Chinese citizenship and became a USA citizen and also the date of my name change. …
How do you stop overthinking and just start, when perfection is holding you back? — I feel stuck in a loop and I don’t know how to break out of it. I really want to learn things properly and become technically strong—like actually build skills, understand them deeply, and be able to…
Realising I was raised in a non-religious household that *felt* really religious. Anyone else? — I mean no disrespect to anyone who has positive experiences with religion - I'm talking about shame, unquestionable dogma, and fear of making a single mistake because you'd be a bad or sinful person. …
Hello!! Quick question regarding my father walking in on me while I shower. — I'm 15(afab) and my dad has always had a problem with this. He's never really been a big boundaries man, and has laid his head on my chest multiple times, along with various other odd things. I'm not …
My father won't clean up the mess he made in the bathroom and he thinks it's funny. Am I overreacting? Would I be if I stopped doing things for him that I would usually do?* — Marked as NSFW due to the general content: mentions of urine/fecal matter (in a bathroom), but with some level of descriptions of the bathroom as a scene visually. (Note; I hope that that is okay to t…
AITAH for cutting my mother off and finally refusing to tolerate her behavior? — AITA for cutting my mother off and finally refusing to tolerate her behavior? For context, I (29F) have had an on-and-off relationship with my mother (48F) my entire life. She is technically my stepm…
Me (25M) and my girlfriend (25F) of 6 years. Need to know if this counts as cheating. — For context, I'm someone who has always wanted to improve myself and become the best version of myself. I've always worked on things in my own way and at my own pace. My girlfriend had grown frustrate…
Cat is safe and healthy ❤️ — I cannot believe it. I’m still freaking out. One of my cats has had health issues all his life, and long story short, one of the ways he acts out is by eating stuff he shouldn’t. He has already had e…
Therapist keeps minimizing my situation? (CBT) — I need outside perspective because I genuinely don’t know if I’m being too sensitive or if this is actually not great. Whenever I talk about how overwhelmed I’ve been the past few years, especially wi…
Why do middle class parents care so much about name brands? — Something I’ve noticed is that way too often, people in the middle class get loans on things they can barely afford. There’s so much emphasis on going to school just for the name, but not enough empha…
How do i come to terms with being by myself? — As someone with a litany of mental health diagnoses its really hard to confide in people without making them uncomfortable/tired of me or getting them to understand how i feel or think. Ive ruined fri…
Are you happy now? — I've been completely alone ever since I moved out 7 years ago. I had to distance myself from my friends and extended family because my mother was using them to keep tabs on me and I didn't find out un…
My boyfriend (24M) wants to go spend a weekend with someone he has history with — Me (24F) and my boyfriend (24M) have been dating since July last year, but officially got together at Christmas time. I am his first ever serious gf… Only 2 months ago did I find out there was a cr…
Literally not a day goes by that i don’t think about my ex — we broke up 8 months ago, had a very good closer talk, we’re technically friends now but i really have no want or need to contact him except for when i’m sad and lonely (but i don’t!) we’re fine, my…
I (28M) want her (31 F) back but am conflicted around how everything ended. — Hey y'all, I'm looking for some advice on if I should continue holding out and hoping to get back with my short term ex or finally find a way to try and get over this. there's many layers to this bu…
grandma refuses to buy me basic needs and refuses to take my aps money — so i currently live with my grandma who’s a bitch. she’ll refuse to buy me any food for days and then when i finally ask she argues with me the whole time we go anywhere and argues with me over how an…
Done talking to him…what do you all think of this man? — Going to try to keep this short & sweet. I met a guy, he sold me my car and gave me his number. I texted him that I'd love to go out with him. He set a date to a steak house and I was pretty into him …
Absolutely. I see so many comments that say things like "call the police" about things that aren't illegal, like - as much as you might WANT some things to be illegal doesn't mean they actually are. …
This is the poor man’s version. For deploys, trigger your GH Action pipeline on what ever event that matches your branching or tagging strategy. That action would build/push a docker image or build an…
This is the first I'm seeing about the Backstage platform, it seems like it can do a lot, and is pretty extensible. Considering the tool belt seems to revolve around Typescript, it's giving me the imp…
Setting boundaries is not easy technically you should have learned boundaries as a child. Therefore you are certainly neglected. That's a pretty difficult thing to deal with.
I’ve recently got into a new relationship with a great guy, it’s been about 3 months and before this we were dating exclusively for the previous 3. We are technically long distance but I spend 80% of …
I have had numerous friends I think when we come from scarcity we believe that there will never be another As for the comment true friends stick around. I would not agree with that. People have dif…
Yes! Wow! Beautiful said, thank you for that! I certainly agree with you. In dating this time around (and I still am dating, technically), my approach was to make friends. I didn't push anyone away, b…
Text of original post by u/Aromatic-Spite-1516: I'm anxiously attached and have very little to no sense of self. I know therapy's necessary but I'm not starting before another month. I'll take any ins…
I was hoping he would, but I know I need to be able to manage myself right now as I might just get angry at him this time if he acts helpless around me like last night. I don't want to get mad at him …
Would you have actually gone to the hospital if he had suggested? If he had sprung up and said “let’s go to the hospital right now” would you have been relieved he made that decision? Since you had me…
I guess I understand that everyone splits under a certain pressure or environment and I definitely get people do it with racism, sexism and paedophilia etc but I dunno, I feel like I mentalise quite w…
Thank you for responding to me. Making this post was incredibly embarrassing for me because this entire situation feels absurd and the fact that it’s making me spiral so much has been really confusing…
I know the feeling...I used to turn up my nose at the idea of seeking a relation cuz it seemed so needy. When I was a teen/young 20s I felt superior to the girls who were boy-crazy or "pick-me"s. I th…
That's how she identified herself. As for why we meet so rarely ... Not entirely sure tbh. We're about 30ish mins away from each other, and we technically do have different days off. The only thing th…
My mom used to do the narration thing when I lived with my parents. It's so hard to coherently describe *why* it feels so bad when all they're really doing is just narrating out loud what you're doing…
Casual sex is technically no attachment, therefore not compatible with secure attachment
I don’t deal with people that get “angry” about this, but I second the idea of being clear to avoid confusing people and to be more trustworthy I don’t like “I wont respond for the next 5 hours beca…
Technically the anxious part does get sort of killed, so does the avoidant They are survival miswirings that can be undone... by leaning into them without acting on them
In true Co-Dependency, both people in the relationship are part of the abuse. Both could technically qualify as both abusers, and victims. Thats what makes this so aweful. "Fixer" is a better name …
Question for fam. If a girl invites you over to her apartment after the third date and you already had sex after the second date (booty call the day after technically) is sex implied here as well? …
I’m not technically living with him. We’ve been split for a few years and the divorce is finalised. But he was house sitting for me while I was overseas and now I’m going home but he needs time to …
Not sure on any international context since I’ve only lived in the US, but politics/social causes are personal; can’t really separate them even if someone doesn’t want to talk about it or doesn’t pref…
I had a guy ask on a date if I wanted him to tell me why he matched me. I told him I honestly didn't want to know. He told me anyway. He was also "technically still married" and didn't tell me unti…
On it. I’m gonna buy a snorkel and some flippers tormrow. I can’t imagine it being that far to swim. Plus you’re on the east coast, so it’s technically closer! If only there was another way to get…
That's, on average, a new woman every ten days. Technically every nine and a half. If that's not a lot, what is? Two new women a week?
How would you feel if your boyfriend of 3 years wrote sexy/adoring/"lust" letters to other women, but you discovered it in a nefarious way by logging into his Insta, and \* you were both "technically"…
Oh absolutely. We want closeness but seek it with the people who won’t give it to us instead of the ones that can…so in some ways, subconsciously, we don’t want the intimacy even though we think we do…
I used to be like this. I used to think that if I did everything right, then people won't hurt or intimidate me. Turns out abusers just do that anyways regardless of if you're kind to them or not. H…
I'm jealous, I had the opposite experience recently 😂 a kid at the fitness studio asked whose mom I was. I guess *technically* I'm old enough to have a 10ish year old kid in the class that was finish…
I had a first date and it was technically fine but not a match. I turned him down kindly but firmly the next day. Probably not fully ready because I find myself so mad at my ex because we had such a g…
I was out of town last Vday, celebrating myself haha. I was seeing a guy but we had only been on one date so I was technically single. He later became my boyfriend (now ex). I took myself out to dinne…
I love this distinction of "technically lonely" ... So you're alone? Lol
Yeah. And I should clarify im much more inclined to match with folks within a 15 - 30 minute distance rather than across town. Like dating someone out in mesquite or oak cliff/ Irving/ ft worth isnt r…
Ex I’d dated for <3 years, and off/on after a somewhat mutual (technically I called it) break up told me she didn’t want to date anymore, last night. We’d flirted with getting back together for months…
Given this clarification, my take is that it’s 100% random and there are no commonalities to be found. If I roll a die and get a 3 vs a 6 that wasn’t the cosmos (well technically it was but…let’s not …
It took me a solid two years to start to get over a 5 year+ relationship. Technically three years but we were still enmeshed and seeing each other for the first year so that year was more of one big l…
I guess nothing would happen if I clarify, unless he senses that I am interested in him & that makes him uncomfortable? Yes I have terrible anxiety, of course I know it's disproprotionate, but that…
How do people deal with receiving the slow fade? I've been on a number of dates over the last 3 months, we've had sex, but now their response are taking longer and longer and are shorter and shorter. …
I got ghosted by a guy after 3 dates when he had relentlessly pursued me for months... But no, you cant technically ghost someone youve never met...
I felt a bit blindsided and was worried about hurting her feelings. The person I'm hanging out with/seeing is so casual that I felt like it didnt' even matter if I brought it up or not as it feels lik…
Got all the things for my gift package for -her- birthday. Given part of the gift is a tin filled with a rosebud tea blend, I'm technically giving her roses. Who says romance is dead LOL
it's significant, not accidental. when the solar return ascendant falls in the same sign as the natal ascendant, the SR houses align closely with your natal houses — meaning the year's themes land in …
For me… Aquarius Jupiter is my chart ruler and is in my 2nd house (3rd in whole signs). I’ve somehow chosen things to study that require massive machines and lots of space lol. Like printmaking, piano…
We had sex the other day, technically our 4th date and I think things are still going at a good pace. I take the sex as an added bonus as I enjoy talking to her and hanging out.
That battle you describe between the Sun at 4° and Venus at 29° makes perfect sense because they are basically on opposite ends of the same room. Since the Sun is at the lowest degree in your Taurus …
To add another anecdote to the "it's all relative and context matters" pile: My husband and I separated after only 2 years of being married (and another 5 together before that). We continued to cohabi…
I met my husband when he was still technically married to his ex. They'd been separated and living apart for a while and he was totally honest with me about everything. They were mostly still married …
technically, she would've have had to make a choice regarding citizenship by now. but as with any country, legal and bureaucracy matters move as quickly or as slowly as the government needs. also, th…
She is being deliberately hypocritical and illogical in a way that sounds to me like she is keeping you only until something “better” comes along. Her explanations make no sense and her accusation abo…
My Jupiter is technically 0 degrees in my 1st house Sag placement, but it’s on the cusp of my 12th house Scorpio placement so I wonder if that makes a difference. I’m in my early 30s, so I guess there…