a conscience

To be fair, I don't think I find the lack of touch *itself* "difficult". I'm very able to be alone to what would probably be considered an abnormally unhealthy degree. *Maybe* it's intertwined, but I …

Aussi je tiens à rappeler que les techniques en soit ne sont pas nécessairement à faire,quand tu veux un truc pour de vraies tu trouveras ça tout naturelle d'y penser,le fredonner où ton attention l'é…

Cheat on you once-blame him, cheat on you twice-blame yourself for continuing to stay. And this is my opinion but if he cheated and came to you right away about it completely guilt that means he has a…

*I feel like my best friend stabbed me in the back without remorse.* That's how it feels, exactly. I'm sorry you're going through this. It's awful, but you'll get through it. And you're absolutely …

D'après mon expérience, elle renforce ce qui est là. Si je suis très anxieuse et pas prête à lâcher prise, elle va empirer les choses, mais si je suis fatiguée, elle m'oblige à me poser, si je suis c…

I went through this when I was really young. High-school sweetheart, marriage and baby. We didn't make it a year. We made it 6 months after I found out the truth (although thats because he was abusive…

You can get past these things. If you personally can. I'm not sure I could. But I know she's got one of the most important ingredients. A conscience.

Props for having a conscience. Guilt is a great thing to keep you from ever doing this again. Know that whatever you’re feeling she’s feeling much worse. She probably feels like her best isn’t good en…

Sorry, what do you mean closure? What exactly do you want from a final discussion? She lied to you day after day, month after month. You think she just suddenly got a conscience and will say exactly…

Oui je ressens la même chose que toi, je fais de la méditation de façon intensive depuis cinq ans et depuis je ne peux plus supporter les bruits comme avant. J’habite dans une grande ville. Et mainten…

What she's doing is abuse. It's really hard thing to accept, but she's not the mother you needed and she isn't suddenly going to develop a conscience either. She fights with your dad in front of…

You sound like a decent guy who’s trying to do right by his kids. I think it’s actually quite noble that you’re feeling this concerned for your ex’s future. Not many people in your position would sit …

Y’a bien pire que ça… elle a rompu, à un moment totalement fatidique.. mais je suis resté compréhensif, respectant la décision et restant silencieux après avoir mis les choses au clair. Puis j’ai eu…

Narcs don’t do accountability. A genuine apology requires the ability to empathize with the person you’ve hurt. Narcs never developed empathy — this inability to feel empathy is the foundational def…

I went NC with my nmom in 2005. I never broke that boundary... I am honestly not sure if she is dead or alive. It has zero impact on my life. I don't think of her very often any more. My great success…

Gaining more education on Vulnerable Narcissism will increase your chances to identify and stop your flea behaviors. Dr. Ramani on Youtube is a great source to learn. Doing that internal work can mean…

Yep. Not sure what the difference would be. I date men (and women, but they’re not the issue at hand) in their 40s, I’m in the Midwest, and it wouldn’t excuse the behavior, but I don’t dress provocat…

I'm sorry you are dealing with this. It must feel like you are living in a nightmare! I would look to see how it started. Did she manipulate him into carrying on and "nerves" were actually his micro-c…

Yeah, lying about who you are might get you a date. It’s a short-term strategy that doesn’t work in the long term, though (and leaves anyone with a conscience feeling like shit, so arguably doesn’t wo…

The best was the invoice. At $350 an hour. Every text and email was billed for 1/2 hour. Each one I sent and each one civil lawyer sent. Charged $175 for 1 text message. But she was good and I’ve…

>eventually I stopped because the guilt and shame became too much and it hurt to see them cry A lot of adults don’t feel ashamed of hitting children, that’s why they do it. This kind of shame is ac…