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Very true. Also like a lot of routine plans are (or can be) flexible. If the only day someone is available this week or next happens to land on one of my gym days for example, you'd better bet I'm wil…

Physical Reaction — I will try to keep the backstory short. I had not known anxious attachment was a thing or that one of my coworkers had become one of only a couple people I really felt a deep connection to, until a f…

For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…

DDay - 2/19/2026 - Online Emotional Affair Led to Full Blown Infidelity — I found out my wife was going on “solo” concert trips, but was also using them as a way to vacation with a guy she had been talking to online for years. Seventeen years together and seven years marri…

this life is yours. — realizing that  the deaf beethoven mfing made fucking masterpieces bro  fucking shakespeare wrote shit without ai like straight from his head bro  like bob proctor who was 2k in debt is fucking ric…

Did your Nex try to hide your existence from their social media? — After mine ghosted me and blocked me on everything, she refused to follow me back on Instagram. When I asked why, she told me to "calm down" and I never brought it up again. I didnt get it, but then …

5 years of relationship gone; I'm 20 and just was dumped — me and him always had our issues of on and off. ive always stayed despite all the things he's done and i understadn that its my fault for allowing him to do the things he did. I just feel really sad b…

I emotionally cheated — So were going through a rough phase. He was pretty much insecure, whenever my phone was busy he used to call my ex and check if his phone was also busy and was trying to play games. I had stopped talk…

How do I keep going? — About 8 months post-separation now. Stuck on the other side of the country from family for medical training after my wife cheated on me while I was applying to residency - chose to stay as a compromis…

How do i come to terms with being by myself? — As someone with a litany of mental health diagnoses its really hard to confide in people without making them uncomfortable/tired of me or getting them to understand how i feel or think. Ive ruined fri…

Can true growth only happen when you’re apart? — He broke it off with me after 7 years so he can “grow” and said I was too attached to him. I never saw it as attachment, we were both so busy with our lives but for some reason he felt as though I cou…

I (30F) feel trapped in marriage with my husband (34M). I'm wanting to cheat — We have been married 5 years, together for 10. Have two children ages 4 and 1. In the last year, he's turned into someone I don't even recognized. Stopped helping with the kids, works a lot of overt…

Dating is tiring F25 M26 — Hello everyone, maybe this is a bit of a vent but. I F25 have gotten involved with M26. He approached me at the gym and made small talk. I thought he was my exact type and was excited at the thought t…

My (26M) GF (20F) suddenly needs a break and space until bootcamp is done — My (26M) Girlfriend (20f) is currently away at a firefighting boot camp and says she needs a break/some space to figure her life out and well talk when shes back. Tl:Dr Gf is super stressed and overw…

parents chopped my little sisters hair off — Im f19 and raised my siblings most of my life, im very protective of them and have tried to shield them from my religious strict parents, ive taken a lot of their mistreatment so my siblings wouldnt b…

I need to vent — idk why to do anymore I gave her everything that I could,only for her to tell me that she lesbian???did 8 months mean nothing? the day she dumped me ,we were talking laughing holding hand only for m…

what do i do now — tl;dr We were together for almost 4 years. We started dating when we were 17, since 12th grade, and we’re now in our 4th year. About 5 months ago, we broke up for the first time. The reason we broke …

This is a long one — My ex (30m) and I(32f) broke up about a week ago. We started dating in November 2025. Each of us had left a relationship recently (like less than a month). The beginning of our relationship we click…

Leaving a loving relationship that lacks attunement? I’m [27F] and he’s [30M] — I have been with my partner for 4 years now. I love him a lot and he loves me too. I have never been this free and comfortable with anyone else before and think that’s one of the many reasons why I’ve…

Be Doers Of The Word and Not Hearers Only — # (I'm long-winded by nature so LONG post ahead!) Hello beautiful people, I felt called to write this post because my life seems to have done a 180º flip overnight. For context I've been applying N…

how do i be more productive/busy instead of ruminating on trauma 24/7 ? — so i (18F) am a first-year uni student who has dealt with lots of traumatic situations. in early high school, i dealt with a borderline abusive friendship. in late high school, i dealt with bullying f…

How do I (33F) get my boyfriend (33M) out of his apocalypse mindset? — My (33F) boyfriend (33M) and I have been together for about 1.5 years, and we recently moved in together. I love him dearly and while we've always had minor disagreements, we have very similar persona…

DAE's work stop them from processing trauma? — I am so behind on my schoolwork, and probably always will be. But I'm only behind because I don't process my trauma and my body breaks down every time I try to lock in. But I don't have time to proces…

And anxious people also trigger avoidance. You're so busy pointing the finger, it seems unlikely that you take accountability for your own maladaptive behaviours.

TLDR: Anxious(22M) seeking advice during a break with an avoidant(21F) . I am an extremely anxious person due to cheating and abandonment in prior relationships. I never used to care as much about th…

Haven’t posted here in a long time. I feel that you’re in denial. Who’s so busy that they can’t send a text 1-2 times daily? Can’t call for a few mins every few days? Nobody! Absolutely nobody if …

Text of original post by u/upernikos: I will try to keep the backstory short. I had not known anxious attachment was a thing or that one of my coworkers had become one of only a couple people I reall…

Like you say in the comments, some of these people are crossing your boundaries and in cases like that, it isn't a good idea to give a disingenuous response because it will most likely be taken as a g…

imagine yourself when you are so busy doing something that you can’t answer your phone! i think to myself, well, when i’m studying, or taking an exam, or working (when i was employed). especially when…

when my partner and i weren't living together, we would do tuesday night, thursday night, saturday and sunday together. we had our own lives and work. we live together now and baseline spend every nig…

I think that’s actually a good way to look at it - this person doesn’t really know you. You don’t really know them either. It’s so busy to build a future and a fantasy around someone early on. It’s e…

Actions. Not words. You know in 96 hours he could’ve spared 2 min to say “sorry, so busy with family, will get back soon!” But instead, nothing?  You need to move on from this, I think.

Interesting. I've been thinking about joining an improv class for ages now... but given how I was overwhelmed by anxiety, grabbed my stuff and fled at the onset of the get-to-know-game the last time I…

Had a really great 4th date the other weekend - with a first visit to one of our houses, he brought flowers, no stutter in the in-person chemistry (for me, and it seems like for him, it just keeps get…

Laying the groundwork to going back to working for myself by summer has pretty much kept me so busy during the day that I don't think about the fact that I'm not dating. If you want less free time, st…

“I wanted to know if I was being ignored or if he was just swamped” if someone you've been talking to consistently for months doesnt text for five (or even two or three) days you are being ignored. …

When did it become normalized that “maybe” means “no” in dating? I can handle outright rejection, but I’m going to lose my mind if I’m strung along one more time by someone who blindsides me that he’s…

what are you so busy with that one date per week is too much?

I wanted to make a similar post because I don't know how people have time for hobbies and to date. And I rarely get to see my friends because they're all in relationships. This is my schedule: Offic…

Question: Does anyone 'formulate' their ideal partner through the FWBs they have? He is my first FWB arrangement, and I don't see him as often as I'd like, but after hooking up last week, we were ch…

When your manifestation is going to happen soon you will see strong signs and synchronicities. These signs and synchronicities will have to do with your manifestation. Sometimes the signs are really …

I'm so busy on my days off with my hobbies and chores. I bought property in the country and have 3 horses and a donkey. It's a lot of work. Upkeep and maintenance alone takes up a lot of my weekends. …

This makes two of us. Especially when you click and connect with her, it makes it hard to not get excited. I’m the same exact way. I found that a lot of that was my anxiety. I came up with the worst t…

I understand the desire to have a partner. But you haven’t been alone since your divorce. A year isn’t long enough to know YOU, to be with yourself and know exactly what YOU want. You’ve been given a …

At my most stressed, busy, energy drained and dont want to talk to anyone else because I just want to sleep, the longest I've taken to respond to someone is the next day because I was so busy at work,…

I know. Before I realized the situation (in our first day or two of texting) he was telling me his schedule for the week, and it was so busy. He was unavailable any day except Friday. I had plans on F…

Yep. Turns out my mom was a covert N and I didn't figure it out until later. We were all so busy surviving my alcoholic dad.

I think I just assumed that what well-adjusted adult would be interested in a child’s world? Like, not be bored by it or find it beneath them or childish to want to play or talk about little kid thoug…

It just reminds me of a coach I tried to date years ago: He was so busy with coaching and training and meetings, he literally had maybe 2-4 nights a MONTH for a relationship. It was just stupid at tha…

The fact that you’re here says that you’re different. I know my parents did the best they knew how to do… my mom at least I’m sure did and never meant to hurt me. But she shows up in relationships wit…

Hi All, I’m really interested to get other view points on a person I am dating to see if I should be concerned. Me (M34) and the person I’ve met (M34) are both bisexual men who met on a dating app a…

YOU thought this was an issue where you were just busy and it was something you needed to work through. Did she share the same pov? Never assume anything. Healthy relationships require an annoying amo…

If NC is too much for you, you can try Low Contact (LC) or Very Low Contact (VLC). I don't visit my parents hardly ever. I live in a different country so I use that as an excuse (flights are too expen…

I’m worried that this is me. My husband left me six weeks ago, after revealing an affair. I’m so busy with the kids, work. I don’t feel any rage, just numbness. Help me out — how do I grieve the way I…

Yeah I get that, it’s taken me awhile to build up my friends as well and to see who has stuck around. I’ve found my closer friends to have come from work. The first year or two at my job I never thoug…

I think there are multiple reasons why it takes years, or even decades, to realize that you've been abused. The first reason that I see is a developemental one. As a baby, your world is incredibly …

These are excuses of the mind. People are so busy because they need to escape the stillness of the mind. The avoidance of inner stillness keeps you lost in thought and always seeking. This is the il…

I have the same exact problem. For someone that is so busy with life what time of the day would be best for meditation? Morning or night?

I recall a story about a wise man who was asked how long per day to meditate. His response? One hour. Their reply was something to the effect “I don’t have time for one hour a day. So how long whe…

Trust me.. they know regulars at the bar. Just try and pick a time its not so busy.

Thank you this makes so much sense, I just felt like I was being over the top about everything but I’m just constantly in fight or flight mode. This is really validating and nice to hear. I have thoug…

I was just in there and he was there but omg it’s so busy in there all the time

I wish I had advice, I like the person who commenters advice about trying to engage with community and groups with like minded interests and activities… easier said than done for various reasons, the …

Quite a long time ago when I was studying in college - my life was so busy that sometimes I would sleep for just an hour or two before waking up and heading back to college. At those times, when I we…

Not really... Ive been so busy with stuff i sort of forgot and also not feeling well..

Look at you, flexing your emotional maturity, real champ, huh? So busy tooting your own horn and trying to sound poetic about it that you gave no important details. Why did she leave in the first pl…

The guy I really liked just cancelled our fourth date this week. Initially I asked him if he wanted to meet again, he did say yes but this week would he busy with friends and family and he would get b…

You're unhappy OP. I'm sorry! You're trying to be everything to everyone but you're the one left behind in the shuffle, and your husband is feeling older too and wants some spice in his life. You're n…

Yes I told her that I'm having a hard time being away from her and she said she is trying to not be so busy. She does message every day and I get a call most days. Seeing each other, however, is very …

1. Get a job 2. Become so busy in the job you can't think of anything other than the job 3. You won't be dreaming about sex because you'll have job nightmares You are welcome.

Trying really hard to not be negative about my first date tonight, I think this will be my last one for a while though. I am just so busy the rest of the week and weekend, and really am bummed I am no…

Yeah I hear you, I smoked it for the best part of 20years stopping occasionally. But i permanently stopped last year cos I have 3 very young kids and I need constantly do things. Plus I don’t want to …