finding myself

I mean in terms of similar relationship goals, yes. But there's a lot of people who list looking for long-term because they are "open to it" but not necessarily really seeking it as they kind of know …

How long does it realistically take to put together an enterprise product case study? — Finding myself on a job hunt again (the company announced restructuring). I am working on putting together the latest case studies for my portfolio, along with my day job. Wondering how long it t…

Break up + no contact update (post 4 months) — I thought I’d give an update into my healing progress since my breakup, in hopes to shed a little light on the small positives that can come from heartbreak. For context, my ex and I broke up in Octob…

When does “just being single” cross into being non-monogamous? — If someone is having sex with multiple people, on an ongoing basis, I always thought that was polyamory/ENM. I myself automatically go exclusive after the first time I sleep with someone, and verball…

My abduction story. — I was abducted from my balcony when I was 16 years old. It was October 2018, around 8:00 PM, when my mother called me downstairs for dinner. I left my phone on my study table and stepped out to get my…

Anyone else just ends up with a lucid dream mimicking separation? If that's what it is? — I go through the entire process, the vibrations, the subsequent feeling of separation and finding myself floating in my room, only to be met with radically different environments, for example yesterda…

how old were you when you realized that your family and feelings weren't "normal" — I was in my early 20s when I realized that not everyone goes to bed crying and is afraid of their parents, and that started this journey of finding myself outside of the narc trauma I had been under f…

Finding myself — Hi everyone I’ve recently gone threw a break up a weird situation where we still live together until he finds a place, I have 2 kids and my life is a mess. I have many many problems I need to work …

Hello — About 23 years ago, at the ripe age of 12, I was an active member of the [astralsociety.org](http://astralsociety.org) forum. Unfortunately that doesn't exist anymore, and it appears that a lot of peo…

Close Friend Unicorn hunted my girlfriend while we were still together. I wish I wasn't worried about her. — The guy encouraged me to date her. Was my confidant during the talking stage and told me he wanted the best for me. Meanwhile he set himself up as emotional support for her and started slowly pursuing…

i dont know whats my issue — first of all, i dont use reddit often so im sorry if i sound 'awkward' also this post contains very sensitive topics. I never really had a good life for multiple reasons: my father was absent and my …

Art peace about finding myself through meditation and shadow work

Do you guys say goodbye before unmatching? — Hi beautiful people, As an empty nester, 43F, Bumble and Hinge user, I'm finding myself in situations where I match with a gent, and have an interesting back and forth and great vibe, which starts pe…

I need help learning to break awareness. — Greetings and salutations people. I need help with an issue I've been having while sleeping. So, I've long since learned that I have complete control over my dreams no matter what and remember dreams …

Why am i so embarrassed to ask for therapy? — Hi! i don’t know what’s wrong with me, but i have a habit of shutting down anything surrounding therapy like a weird form of self sabotage even though i want to go to therapy so badly. I’ve always bee…

Need some advice/dating support — Feeling a little down in the dumps lately. I recently just got out of a 3 year relationship. He broke up with me because "he loves me but isn't in love with me". I just keep finding myself so sad to…

False Awakening Loops — I’m posting this in the hopes of gaining advice to help me exit my false awakening loops. About two years ago I stated regularly having dreams that I knew were a dream because something slight would …

Rekindling Relationships — Partner of loving four years called and wanted to go on a break/breakup very recently over distance, and needed space to find ourselves again. My mental health was at its worst this year, and did weig…

Do I write a email to my NM? — Hi, I’ve been NC with my NM for over 10 years now and it’s taken a lot of counselling, deep inner work and self help to be at the stage I am now, I also now have 3 children and my own family. Recently…

Keeping the relationship alive in my head. — Struggling with this. My friends are mortified when I tell them I’ve been listening to all their old voicemails. Told me to delete them. I literally would never. We broke up with so much love still t…

Would you break no contact after almost 3yr break up as the dumper? — We broke up because I was really new to dating and I didn’t know much about who I am tbh. After a long time of finding myself and therapy, turns out I’m avoidant attachment and she was anxious attachm…

1 Month NC. He sent an IG request but I know he's still hooking up. The urge to break NC is destroying me. — ​I met for a hookup a guy (24yo) but it turned into something much deeper and we both caught feelings. We spent over two months constantly together, with him initiating about 90% of the contact. He wa…

So I started with the tapes recently — Hi everyone, I just wanted to share my experience starting with the tapes, I'm only at tape 2 of wave 1, so it's very early. For context, I've been doing my own meditation for a few months already, n…

I (28F)chose someone (28M) I knew was unstable and now I don’t know if love is enough. — I feel like this is one of those situations where I already know what people are going to say but I’m going to share it anyway.  My boyfriend and I have been together off and on for 10 years, since w…

I (f20s) am struggling terribly while dating a really good guy — I have been going on dates with someone who is kind, consistent, and grounded. He has not done anything to make me feel unsafe. I have C-PTSD and anxiety due to a lot of issues in my household growin…

Did I make the right choice ending things with my situationship? — I'm writing this post an ultimatum to myself that I won't think about this anymore. I (24 M) found myself falling in love with a (23F) and ended up having a situationship with her which I ended recent…

I’m dating a really great guy, but I’m still filled with fear and anxiety — I have been going on dates with someone who is kind, consistent, and grounded for the past month. He has not done anything to make me feel unsafe. I have C-PTSD and anxiety due to a lot of issues in …

How does one go about dating — Okay so I’m a 17 (turning 18) yo trans guy and up until the last year, I’ve had little to no interest in relationships—or people in general—due to mental health reasons as well as other things. Howeve…

Ultimately, I've found that I have been attracted to lots of people with whom no secure attachment is possible because it feels *really really good* to take care of someone and have them appreciate yo…

Sending some telepathic hugs your way! That's a tough place to be. I've been learning being comfortable and understanding that I'll survive the discomfort are two independent concepts. That's helped m…

Thank you I really appreciate your perspective. It's definitely made reflect on what I want from a relationship, or communication in general. I've always sort of worked under the assumption that peopl…

welp I lived with my best friend after uni and yep, ruined our relationship. on the flip side, I moved in with two strangers two years ago and one of them has become one of my closest friends now, so …

I went through the same thing, but I didn’t notice it until after breaking up. When I was still in the relationship, I tried meeting up with friends more, doing things on my own more, etc, but these t…

Still struggling with finding myself attractive. All I can ever think about is how I’m balding and that women hate bald men.

Hey, I get it. My long term relationship ended at the 3 year mark a year ago. It was so hard to move forward, I had invested so much time and energy. I also remembered how much of a nightmare the ap…

Past couple of weeks have been tough. I've been seeing a guy since mid Jan. Saw him a total of 8 times in the first four weeks. He's sweet and respectful, good communicator, good cook, we generally …

Precisely! It was a part of a book on Stoicism that I’m listening to on Audible. It’s been helpful to internalize that and practice everyday when im finding myself browsing the socials.

1. It’s been over 7 years since I left my narc abuser and I’m still finding myself. I go to therapy every two weeks, speak out my feelings with a couple chosen safe people who never truly left me. I’v…

You will find yourself again. Cut off all contact with that person and focus on yourself and what makes you feel happy. I left my ex 3 years ago in June and while I'm still finding myself, I also feel…

5 Months post breakup slowly finding myself again after i left. 2 Years of manipulation, gaslighting and cheating 1 year of therapy because I was the problem according to them and slowly figuring out …

Wow, what an interesting perspective. I found my way to this thread after a day of feeling lots of things, but starting to land in loneliness and finding myself searching for a salve. Embracing the lo…

That kind of reminds me also of the saying, it’s what’s on the inside that counts. I began my own “awakening” last June. Not entirely from the experience that started, but from the grip alcohol addic…

Original copy of post by u/Upbeat_Main_7141: If someone is having sex with multiple people, on an ongoing basis, I always thought that was polyamory/ENM. I myself automatically go exclusive after th…

>When does “just being single” cross into being non-monogamous? >If someone is having sex with multiple people, on an ongoing basis, I always thought that was polyamory/ENM. Polyamory is an agreeme…

Thanks for sharing this. I’m going through a divorce right now, after staying for way too long and putting up with years of being betrayed. My ex was also sexually abused as a child, and has refused t…

Yes I’ve recently come to terms with the fact that I’ve been searching for a great love to fill the hole my parents left. Constantly finding myself in relationships where I’m desperate to “be chosen” …

Used to be me til about 15-20 years ago! It can be hard to get out of my mindset even years later since it gets baked in so hard. I still finding myself defaulting to traditionalist thinking for a sec…

I’m finding myself in a similar situation life wise with my partner. We bought a house start of this year that needs a lot of tlc and he started doing a lot of projects around the house. Since then it…

OMG I love that. "Depression can't strike a moving object" Not really new hobbies. But I moved to Oregon coast during my divorce and it has been really healing. It's beautiful here and there are so …

it isnt *for* him or to win him back. i just wish he was able to be a part of the journey🤍 he left february 24th. i worked every single day afterward up until march 22nd. a lot of 10-12 hour days. pr…

To quote myself, from *Things I Keep Finding Myself Saying Lately*, "What else am I supposed to do? Roll over in a ditch and die?"

Don't really have much other options here since I live in a small town. I've always been a very introspective and self aware person, tbh I'm always finding myself having breakthrough moments all on my…

Oh my gosh this is almost exactly what happened to me. She was the “leader,” or at least just acted like she was smarter than everyone. I told her I was tired of getting talked to like I’m stupid or c…

Thank you for this man, it really does make me feel better. I’ve definitely spent a lot of time in recent weeks reflecting on the changes I’ve seen from within more than anything. I know I’m still fin…

Apologizing for everything, even if it’s not inconvenient or rude, out of an attempt to preemptively keep the peace. Locking doors reflexively, and on the flip side, parents barging into bathrooms a…

Hey, I’ve been there, although I’m an androgynous, non-binary guy, but I am pansexual and have dated all kinds of people. For the longest time I thought I was aro, or even aroace because I just hated …

Mid 50s male. Ex divorced me last year. I was scared being alone too but I would either freeze in place or accept the change and make the most of it. My first goal was just survive..especially since…

I might not be there yet. I keep finding myself straying toward how I feel wronged and what they did. I keep imagining conversations that feel satisfying in my head but that I don't want to have in re…

Original copy of post by u/Affectionate_Box2129: Hi beautiful people, As an empty nester, 43F, Bumble and Hinge user, I'm finding myself in situations where I match with a gent, and have an interest…

I'm sorry it went down that way. As long as your life is comfortable enough I guess is all that matters, that's what I'm finding myself having to accept.

Thanks so much! It sounds to me like learning to let go of control over my situation is the best way to get the thoughts to stop. Do you know any strategies to help with letting go? I feel wronged by …

yeah... :) I like to consume the apps in sprints. When I am feeling a little lonely I'll make a profile and engage for a few days, go on a few dates, and then when I get bored I just leave and continu…

I think for the intention of finding a relationship, I'm not sure if my philosophy is the best given I haven't been in a real long term relationship in 5 years, only a few situationships here and ther…

What you're describing is a specific kind of grief that almost nobody talks about, where you're not just mourning the person, you're mourning the entire reality you thought you were living in. The con…

Why did he leave without any explanation, and in such a cold way? It makes me feel like everything was a lie. And yet, I keep finding myself defending him—telling myself he must have had his reasons.…

Only you can truly answer this question. I personally haven’t had a drink in 14 years and I consider it. I was in AA for 7 years and outgrew it (that’s another story). I knew I had to find myself so I…

Thank you for pointing this out. I too am anxious and full of dread - and finding myself shocked that people seem to be just blowing this off as another rant. You put the reason into words for me. T…

Without intending to undervalue other posts, posts like yours are the coolest and most authentic to me. Your experience is similar to mine, a long-time sleep paralysis experiencer, but unlike you, I f…

I share the same experience & am finding myself in a really bad mental space. I was born with an eye condition that makes me legally blind (inherited), both of my parents or even siblings don't even b…

Interesting food for thought. I think I’m finding myself dissatisfied with dating at our age BECAUSE I expect a relationship to transform my life in some way—and actually desire that transformation—…

I only regret that my relationship with my immediate family alienated me from my extended family. The trade off was still worth it because I began finding myself along the way.

I totally get you. I think plenty of ua has been there. I was way down like you. Couldnt eat. Couldnt sleep. Lost 4 kgs in few days. Ask your family to call you. They dont need to fix things, but some…

I think there's various ways of experiencing the feeling of being "chosen". For me, when I think of "being chosen" to do this, it's definitely more of a feeling like maybe I just happen to be open en…

I’ve been no contact for almost four years, we met in April of 2017. Even though I’m so much better now than I was at the end of communication, I’ve gone to a lot of therapy, I’m still upset I lost m…

I feel this 100%. I'm kinda going through the process right now of journalling and thinking and honestly isolating. But I'm coming upon realizations that were hardly broached in nearly ten years of th…