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Completely mindfucked and heartbroken after a relationship with a highly intelligent covert narcissist — This is going to be a very long post, but if you want to know how a relationship with a highly intelligent covert narcissist looks like, you might be interested to read this. I've seen so much shit i…
“She doesn’t have to respect you” — My ex was told this today by a person in a position of major power over him after he vented about how I didn’t treat him like I used to when we were married. I mean he did betray and destroy our famil…
Success Story: Brought my savings account over $20K — This will be more of a public journal entry, as I'm still on my journey learning and mastering manifestation. There's a lot of backstory here so if you're not interested, you can skip below to the TLD…
Husband (28M) wants to cut off lifelong friend (28m) after he made AI porn of me (28F) How do we move forward? — My husband has been best friends with this guy since childhood, they grew up down the street from each other. I’ve been with my husband for 8 years, and I’ve known this friend the entire time. A few …
Why are people so mean? — A few days ago a boy called me the f\* slur on the bus and I was upset for the rest of the day. A couple months ago I got into a argument with my mom and she called me a " a f slur who likes it up the…
Thoughts of reconciliation — I was just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience. I asked for the divorce in Oct after 9 years of marriage. I questioned my decision a couple times in the beginning but his behavior reall…
I manifested the man of my dreams and he turned out to be a cheater. Help — So my life has been super weird for the past two years. Everything that could go wrong went wrong. In my career, love life and my social life. But I recovered. Just this feb/march I reached a state of…
I manifested the man of my dreams but he turned out to be a cheater. Help — So my life has been super weird for the past two years. Everything that could go wrong went wrong. In my career, love life and my social life. But I recovered. Just this feb/march I reached a state of…
MY [26M] Girlfriend [26F] of 3 years cheated on me with one of my closest friends — Hey everyone. I was thinking whether i should write about what i experienced and I came to the conclusion that sorting out the story and putting it black on white as they say might help me overcome i…
My date (24m) of 18 days hasn't replied for almost 24 hours since I (26f) asked him to think about how he feels about me. Did I overdo it? — So at the beginning, we both said we wanted serious things and wanted to take it slow. 18 days, we have had 4 dates. I slept over at his place twice for around 5 days in total. I kind of felt like we …
Friendship breakup. Mourning for friendship — Something specific that happened with a couple I was friends with, it was a somewhat complex dynamic. The thing is that on a friends' outing (there were like 6 of us) my friend (let's call him V, ask…
What would you do if you still love each other but her family got in the way? — TL;DR We still love each other, but we broke up after a big fight that involved my family. They told him to keep his distance, and now he feels like he can’t handle my family anymore. I suggested he…
What would you do if you (18, M) still love each other but her (18, F)family got in the way? — TL;DR: We still love each other, but we broke up after a big fight that involved my family. They told him to keep his distance, and now he feels like he can’t handle my family anymore. I suggested he…
I've seen the opposite. I've seen people encourage illegal acts. It was a recent post about a PS5. The girlfriend bought their boyfriend a PS5 for his birthday and like a week later he said he wants …
Yeah, I think it hurts extra hard when you considered them a friend and knew what they were capable of acting like and just chose not to at a certain point. I’m aware that I was likely a “rebound” or …
Me (anxiously attached) was just broken up with by the girlfriend (fearful avoidant) two days ago. Morning text excited to see me in the evening, but when I got to her place, mood was somber. We had a…
Are you guys in a committed exclusive relationship? If not, he likely wants you for the girlfriend treatment and for sex without commitment
I don't think it's necessarily an emotional affair. But I think you might be impeding their relationship some. Consciously or subconsciously-- I think you have feelings for this guy. How would yo…
I don't think it's an emotional affair, but it's clear to me you are imposing on their relationship, even unintentionally. Given that you were friends before this relationship started, he needs to de…
He's also at fault here, don't get me wrong. I just feel sorry for the girlfriend.
💯 The girlfriend knows OP is not a threat. Not healthy for OP
So, I don’t think that the girlfriend really cares. She sees you as “manly” or whatever. The fact that you both spent several nights together in a hotel room and nothing happened is a clear indicato…
Well, I'd be interested in the girlfriend's perspective on this, because she obviously has some inkling you have a crush on him
The girlfriend almost certainly does not see OP as a neutral friend and the fact that OP took the time out of her day to create a long post on Reddit about her apparently innocent friendship with a gu…
I'm pretty sure the girlfriend senses you liking the dude and not liking her. So even though your friend is telling her nothing is going on she knows you like him and that's always going to be a probl…
Yeah, the only person I've ever talked to on the phone that often was someone I was in an LDR with - we talked on the phone every day even when we were "just friends" and we've continued that pattern …
As someone who was “the girlfriend”, yes, you need to back off. I was in a relationship with a man who had a female best friend and it made me feel so insecure and anxious even though I was trying to …
Yes maybe the girlfriend is not interested in a friendship with OP and OP feels she isn’t liked by her bc of that.
Thank you for posting this! I used to have guy friends and every time one of them was in a relationship, I just don’t have any more contact maybe like once a year or every few months, simply for the r…
OP, it’s your friend’s responsibility to set the boundary with you in regard to his relationship with the other woman. If the girlfriend is uncomfortable, that’s between him and her. She voiced her op…
Sure, but I don't think it's OP's responsibility to do the work the friend should be doing (ie: managing the relationship with his female friends). At the end of the day, yes, most women wouldn't lik…
I get that, but you can see it the other way around too. I don't think that romantic relationships are by default more important than friendship, especially if we're talking about a couple of months o…
The dog lived with the girlfriend, it sounds like. Exactly how was he supposed to help?
Not good maybe. You mentioned she had asked you in the past about you reciprocating postings of her on your own page more often. By her bringing it up she was asking for reassurances of your relation…
So I'll give an example of something that illustrates one of her symptoms: She is unapologetically, and even destructively, dedicated to her kids. Now at first glance, we want to say "Sure, she loves…
I tried this: Several different things are happening in that thread, and most commenters are collapsing them into one narrative (“AI causes psychosis / AI flatters users”). The situation described i…
The only other option that it’s not him is that if he has a girlfriend and she’s using his phone when he leaves the room to go to the bathroom or whatever. She makes these text messages and then delet…
This is important timing. Building a village when a baby is born is from the ground up and I think your brother is trying to lay the foundation, and earlier commitment with clear support makes the who…
I would report the girlfriend to adult protective services. It's against the law to financially exploit an elderly senior citizen. Tell them you suspect she's taking advantage of your father because h…
>This simultaneously gets rid of the golddigger, infantilizes the old man (which will massively break his ego), and puts the farm back in her pocket Hopefully. I wonder who's power of attorney? I ho…
My ex has serious abandonment wounds along with narc traits, so she love-bombed me, created a lot of intensity then blamed me when I hesitated and/or tried to slow her down. She would say the followin…
Maybe she's upset about the girlfriend you took to Poland? [https://www.reddit.com/r/travel/comments/1rttr9z/just\_got\_back\_from\_poland\_and\_honestly\_felt/](https://www.reddit.com/r/travel/comme…
That's really interesting. She love-bombed me so intensely, that it made me question her motives and hesitate. By doing so she would say things like; "you're sabotaging us. There's an expiration date …
OP, you did nothing to deserve this at all. This is not your fault. She is a girlfriend, she failed the girlfriend test and is not a good candidate to be a wife or mother. Cheaters have issues, m…
This exact situation happened to an acquaintance of mine. Her husband died very young (approximately 30years old)- they were together for at least 10 years at that time, and married for approximately …
Dude if it was someone who kicked you in the balls before palm smacking both your ears leaving you dazed and in pain, would you still be wondering why they moved back to your home town? No you would …
Took the girlfriend to meet my college friend group and it went so, so well. Everyone liked her and her assessment afterwards was spot on. Got home, told her I wasn't quite feeling right and we shou…
Perhaps I missed it, but I don't see anywhere how you release your stress on her. A relationship goes 2 ways. Also, sharing stories is part of sharing your lives with each other in a relationship. Wou…
What is confusing... She cheated and in your shock you made a bad decision that you couldn't even follow through on. You now know exactly who your wife is. So either stay and tell her it's now a o…
On the one hand I emotionally see where you’re coming from. If I was fighting with someone and they said harsh things to me, I would always have that in the back of my mind and would struggle to forge…
Why though, I literally am just providing another point of view, and not justifying the girlfriend in question. I don’t understand
Go get therapy, now. You need to break up with the girlfriend and work on yourself and heal your trauma before you try to be with anyone else. You also need to work on your self esteem so you can st…
That is possible, not sure I'd jump right to grooming as they didn't get together until she was well grown...unless it's found that there was something happening earlier. Creepy and weird as hell for …
Your comment has been removed and you are banned. Weaponising empathy for the girlfriend as a bludgeon to beat OP with is absolutely inappropriate. You are ignoring the reality of OP's situation: OP…
I was that 19 year old. I thought I was messaging the woman half of the relationship the whole time. He was telling her that I had found them and thought she was attractive, so I hit him up to ask. T…
Still out here. It’s crazy how badly I wanted to not exist anymore. Now I know that my ex is just another person in my lifelong journey to fuckup in public places. It’s a comfort to know that the girl…
So in my late 20s I did a similar thing. Met a guy at a mutual friend's birthday the same day he accepted a job in another province. (Canada - 4 hour flight for reference.) He left, we "ended it" but …
The ex husband was difficult with me at first and I ignored him. I figured he would mellow out with time. Nope. Hard nope. He has gone out of his way to involve the children, paint himself as the vict…
I could be misunderstanding, but I think the girlfriend is fine with that. I believe what she’s asking is will his parents *ever* view the child as their grandchild (I.e., if and when they ever get m…
I agree that they should be open to treating kids equally. I think OP should have a more detailed conversation with his parents about it. I don’t know about their culture, but I live in Greece and h…
Hard day today. Divorce has been final for about two and a half years now. Ex just signed a custody modification agreement where he agreed to me taking primary custody after he realized that he would …
How was it life-changing for the girlfriend and why would she need to lean on her parents about it?
Dump the girlfriend. It’s over. She has betrayed your trust and will do it again and again. She will ruin your life if you stay with her.