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Completely mindfucked and heartbroken after a relationship with a highly intelligent covert narcissist — This is going to be a very long post, but if you want to know how a relationship with a highly intelligent covert narcissist looks like, you might be interested to read this. I've seen so much shit i…
Shopify Support is the absolute WORST — I have had issues with payouts- as in first they disable my payouts for verifaction then I get an email saying everything is okay and then within hours without no communication or email, I´ve checked …
Questions for people who have shifted :> (or just have done a lot of research) — This is just a bunch of questions Ive had. I believe in shifting, I’m just curious about some specifics (sorry if these are absolutely idiotic) 1. Can you script you forget about this reality? Will i…
Break up 2 days before my girlfriend’s graduation, or wait a week? (32m & 25f) — I (32M) just got back from a vacation in Greece with my girlfriend (25F). I’ve had doubts for a while about whether I want to stay in this relationship, but during the trip I realized that I don’t see…
Woke up to boyfriend on the couch? — I (31 F) randomly woke up at 12:45 AM and saw that my boyfriend (33 M) wasn’t in bed next to me. All of the lights are off in the apartment. So I get up, walk out into the living room, and I see him s…
Having a hard time moving on — She was my everything at one point even though our relationship wasn't the best as we had a rocky one from the start. It's been 2 years since we broke up, but in that time we eventually started talkin…
27F) My girlfriend (33F) hurt me but is acting like everything is normal how do I handle her behavior without making things worse? — I really need outside perspective because I feel like I’m starting to lose trust in my own judgment. Me and my girlfriend have been together, and recently something happened where she admitted she hur…
My girlfriend [29F] is always distant for a few days after she and I [29M] return from vacation — We recently got back from our trip to Taiwan for our 2 year anniversary, and the entire trip was so great. It was a trip we both absolutely loved, and cherished; however, we got back from vacation thi…
I stayed with a miserable guy due to my empathy. — /this is very long. To get everything straight, I had met a boy online last years November. we thought the same, matched personalities, all of that fun stuff. BTW: To anybody else reading this😭, I…
My sibling was killed last week — my brother was killed by a car last week and my parents are being unbearable. I was extremely LC with both of them before he was killed. he was LC with them as well and on even worse terms with them…
People of Reddit pls help me understand how breakups work — I’ll try and keep it short. We dated for 3 years known each other for 5 years. We broke up a couple weeks ago due to me neglecting the relationship and the day of the breakup we were still kinda talki…
How bad is the damage do you guys think she’s completely done? — I’ll try and keep it short. We dated for 3 years known each other for 5 years. We broke up a couple weeks ago due to me neglecting the relationship and the day of the breakup we were still kinda talki…
I feel quite lost. — I've never really had someone I could talk to about my problems. I have lots of people in my life I COULD talk to, but I feel like there's no one who could understand. I don't know where it starts. …
21F dating 25M unsure what to do — I've come to Reddit for genuine healthy advice as I can't in rea life. For context, I 21F have been going out with my partner 25M for the past 2 1/2 years. Before I start, to clarify, he has ADHD and …
I (21M) feel anxious and overanalyze my relationship with my girlfriend (18F) constantly, how can I manage this? — Logically, I know my relationship is safe. Everything seems fine. My partner hasn’t done anything concerning. But mentally, I can’t stop thinking about it all the time. I keep overanalyzing small thin…
idk if this is just me or childhood stuff — so i been noticing something in myself lately and idk what it is even when things are fine like everything is ok on paper i still: feel like im not enough overthink how ppl see me way too muc…
How do I silently move / Engagement — I have known my fiance since I was 19 years old. We are pretty much trauma bonded. I am 24 turning 25 this year. I am a chemist who wants to go to law school. There hasn't been any physically infideli…
Is this normal, or am I being dramatic? — I just want to hear others opinions, and if someone else has/had similar experiences, because I feel like I'm being overdramatic about this. All advice is welcome and I would really appreciate it. I a…
A content creator who passed away reminded me of what happened to me. — Well... I recently learned that a content creator passed away from cancer and... that she had focused her personality and her community on creating an exemplary and friendly community,where he simply …
I know this is difficult to do, but my advice, as an anxious who's moving towards secure, would be to stop texting and calling. It's only been a few days and you know that he was having phone problems…
Problem is I don’t pull away I’m FA. I struggle with conflict, so I’ll just act like everything is ok to avoid conflict. Problem is I don’t know how I feel about her one way or the other.
This so a great comment, as someone with anxious attachment it is really hard sometimes to distinguish your gut feeling/intuition from your anxiety. The only thing that helps me to differentiate is …
Yes, when you are able to not act based on your insecurities, it helps you to realize, that everything is okay, even if you just let it be
Yes that's it. If you don't let the attachement control your actions and then everything is okay at the end, you will slowly but surely realize, that you can just let things be and your brain won't fe…
I logically know everything is ok and they will be safe. But my animal brain struggles tremendously with the “threat”
I am currently in a push-pull dynamic with my partner. I call her partner because there has not been a definitive decision made on whether we have split up or not, if that makes sense? There have been…
Just be clear about what you’re asking for (parameters), how long (even an estimate), and repeat that everything is OK but this is how you regulate. Communicate it and it should be fine. I had no prob…
Me too. Always asking him: are you okay?? You seem off today, whats going on? Him saying nothing, and me being left with knowing that something is wrong. Always, and when i asked him more than 2-3 t…
That's what I told them as well and the reply was "I have thought about that and that is not the reason, it's not just the butterflies that passed, I just don't feel the same anymore". Like fucking he…
when my life was shit, I was also doing all the techniques. I thought something was wrong with me and that it doesn't work, the more shit I dealt with. go about your day like everything is okay. flip …
I knew my current partner was secure because he has his own life, does his own thing some days and shows me a good amount of affection but it’s not smothering. He doesn’t need constant validation. H…
I am sorry to hear about this.. I have experienced more than enough men who lie when they are not interested about being busy, family issues, that I didn't give you the benefit of the doubt. Hope ev…
I do a similar thing with slasher movies. They are comforting because they are so formulaic and predictable, and the final girl always survives in the end. Horror happens, but then it's over and every…
I feel like hotter Asian guys are more likely to speak up about it for some reason, a lot of mid guys have an ego about it so pretend that everything is okay. I have no idea why that is.
I would never stop communicating with a woman because she told me that I made her feel good, and I would tell her if I met someone else or otherwise wanted to stop seeing her. I don't know what you s…
Cripes, that was a rollercoaster! I hope everything is okay! 🤞💪 And yes you’re right, whether he ends up being present, or not, I will be okay. I will def start to prioritise looking after me. It’s…
I understand. Maybe find a way to say it that isn’t confrontational then? Point is that she understands you are aware of the truth and saying everything is ok makes you feel uncomfortable
When I take a low dosage, my neurodivergent brain goes "nice visuals... Now what... I'm bored". When it's a high dose I go like "LET'S TRY TO FIND A SOLUTION TO THE MIND OH GOD NO OH GOD NO I'M SO COO…
What if it's that he's insecure and built up this story/scenario in his mind of failure after failure after the first time and then psyched himself out too much to where he retracted and then began to…
personally I believe men do it to boost the ego. As a woman, since my partner left I haven’t bothered with social media , I haven’t posted any photos i’ve been quiet because i’m hurting and grieving t…
This is not what they mean by saying live from the end and act as if everything is okay. I would imagine being home safe and sound and feeling that as real as you can.
I did not used to believe this was true, that kids were better off with divorced parents than parents who stayed together for them. I have long since changed my mind. It’s mostly because people who do…
People are exactly as capable of being told the truth at 20 as they are 80. The current highest heart rate of a person above the age of 80 was from a gentleman who only got into exercising at 72. She’…
all i’ll say is that, anxiety passes and you will be able to live your live. go see a doctor or therapist about this issue if you haven’t already. talking to someone about this stuff can really help a…
I think what people mix together a lot which differs from case to case is HOW you break up. I think we all understand that you can end a relationship for whatever reason you feel like, especially if i…
hun. he’s stealing from you. he can’t hold down a job and won’t support himself much less help YOU, why are you with this hobo-sexual again? dude is gaslighting you, and pretending everything is ok wh…
I have this too, it sounds like your suffering from perfectionism - which i feel is very common with anxiety As much as you may think this inkling thought of perfectionism isnt creeping in - it probab…
Trust people when they tell you who they are. Don't rush into things, take the time to actually get to know the person and take it slow. Check in more with my partner about how they feel in the relati…
You could just go into survival mode. Stepped wife style and pretend everything is okay. Fake it till you make it. Love him more and hope one day it wont just be about sex. Something I realized onc…
You gauge it by the success of your relationships. And how much you’re able to have language and capacity for what you feel and expressing that sincerely. If that’s not present, especially the express…
I’m not big on counting breaths - but If it’s working… it’s ok. When you reach a deep state - instead of immediately quitting. Relax into it. That’s what the practice is for. You started sinking int…
Literally everything. Now that I can see the unconscious bullying, all my memories are reforming to show exactly what was happening as opposed to my optimistic child mind trying to tell me everythin…
Yeah that sounds like it sucks for sure. The just being around each other part hits. We’d be together and she’d just zone out and stare into space. I’d ask if everything is okay/how she’s feeling and …
Existing. I literally can feel the air on my skin while sitting still. I can hear the sound of the fridge next room. I can sniff out a lot of shit - like if the cats take a shit and I am sleeping, I w…
If this experience is based on the dating site trial and error dates of that world, then I would say, be chill if you can. Send a nice note and leave it to fate. Also keep dating and don't internalize…