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Feeling trapped

Feeling trapped — TW: unwanted advances, rape?, molested I’m in a relationship that’s slowly destroying me, and I don’t know how to navigate it anymore. I don't feel like I have a voice. I’ve been with my partner for…

r/NarcissisticAbusepost4/9/2026
We live in a culture that glorifies self-sufficiency and punishes inter-dependence and needs. That impacts what we start labelling as anxious attachment, and how we are encouraged to heal.

We live in a culture that glorifies self-sufficiency and punishes inter-dependence and needs. That impacts what we start labelling as anxious attachment, and how we are encouraged to heal. — Disclaimer - anxious attachment style is real, it creates distress in those who have it, and causes real strain to relationships. That being said, we cannot ignore that cultural norms have *always* di…

r/AnxiousAttachmentpost2/9/2026
Why The Universe "Punishes" Excitement

Why The Universe "Punishes" Excitement — I think it's actually quite simple. When you feel excited for something, what usually happens is the anticipation of getting that thing is usually a better feeling than actually having that thing. So …

r/lawofattractionpost3/20/2026
confused with a thousand techniques?

confused with a thousand techniques? — i got an analogy - see if it helps. what's GOD for you , there exist a million religion housing million gods , each with its own rules , regulations, cultures, do's and dont,s , people define the…

r/nevillegoddardpost3/29/2026
I (26F) told my boyfriend (26M) I sometimes miss the freedom of being single and he broke up with me on my birthday

It sounds like you felt kind of trapped in that relationship without realizing it. No one should have a "strict" partner. It sounds like it good you guys aren't together because a relationship shouldn…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/14/2026
I (26F) told my boyfriend (26M) I sometimes miss the freedom of being single and he broke up with me on my birthday

This guy did you a massive favor. I think maybe you are misinterpreting "I miss being single" when it's really "I miss being able to do things like randomly stop at a store on the way home or go out w…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/14/2026
I (26F) told my boyfriend (26M) I sometimes miss the freedom of being single and he broke up with me on my birthday

Yes. That feeling of sometimes missing being single is understandable, and it’s likely that most people in relationships occasionally miss that feeling of freedom. Nothing wrong with sharing that. Th…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/14/2026
I (26F) told my boyfriend (26M) I sometimes miss the freedom of being single and he broke up with me on my birthday

There IS a lot of joy in singlehood! Men tend to assume a single woman wants to sleep around. It’s got nothing to do with it. It’s just your autonomy, do what you want, when u want, how u want, or eve…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/15/2026
If someone is repeatedly triggering you despite knowing what your triggers are is it emotional abuse?

It is a power play. You are arguing with him. He wants out of the argument - for whatever reason - And he knows that by saying these words he causes you to spiral. He wins the argument. And he punish…

r/CPTSDcomment3/18/2026
If someone is repeatedly triggering you despite knowing what your triggers are is it emotional abuse?

Absolutely. I’m sorry for your abuse. [Signs of Manipulation - WebMD](https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/signs-manipulation) Signs of Manipulation Manipulation can take many forms. In fact, even ac…

r/CPTSDcomment3/18/2026
My (M19) Gf (F19) constantly asks for details on me being raped because she "can't wrap her head around it", is this worth it?

you trusted your gf enough to confide in her and she invalidated your pain and trauma; she is not a safe person. instead of comforting you or giving you space or whatever you require, she makes your t…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/20/2026
I (23F) was too nervous to finish a threesome and now my boyfriend (27M) seems to hate me

You don’t need to apologize for this. You were pressured into something you didn’t want, put on the spot, and then froze—that’s a completely normal reaction. What’s not normal is his behavior. He pus…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/22/2026
what are some you games you absoluetly should NOT play if you have CPTSD and the game is high colestrol

I’m right there with you. Life is Strange is one of my least favorite video games I’ve ever played. Rant incoming, feel free to ignore it, but I’m so tired of people glazing this game and I need to te…

r/CPTSDcomment4/3/2026
My abusers won. I'm dying. They're celebrating.

This always makes me wonder wtf I did in my previous life to live in such a shitty nightmare now. I don't believe in karma though, if it exists, it somehow always punishes the wrong people.

r/CPTSDcomment4/3/2026
My ex is getting remarried tomorrow

> My ex is getting remarried tomorrow. Today he sent me a text “I’ll never understand your choices” and “I would have always fought for my family”. WTF? What sane man of integrity texts his ex-wife t…

r/Divorcecomment4/4/2026
Anyone else here a Christian?

I had a few trips that made me see the Bible god as evil.. the fact that he condones chattel slavery, genocide, infanticide, kidnapping virgin war brides, stoning innocent women.. he punishes innocent…

r/Psychonautcomment4/5/2026
Why is it so hard to restrain yourself from feeling guilty or bad for them?

I forgot: I have also just now started to look at my life as my own, because she conditioned me to not do that. She always claimed that it is normal that I have no say in my own life until I have my …

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/5/2026
Narcissistic Abuse

That girl was not a sweet little angel. She was a performer. She sold you a dream in the beginning, and you bought it with both hands. The cheerful no swearing no smoking act was a costume, honey. Tha…

r/BreakUpscomment4/5/2026
Am I deactivating?

The way you describe it sounds more like a stable response, and we wouldn't be here in the first place :P. E.g. you go on a few dates with someone, slowly get to know them, and realise you're just n…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/5/2026
My (42F) husband (41M) grew a mustache that triggers my childhood trauma. He says I should get over it so he can do what he wants with his face. Am I being unfair in asking him to remove it?

He is an entitled POS and he loves to torture her based on all else he does. He also sees her as an object to fine tune to his needs. She is not a human with agency. The moment she became human to ask…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
I (28f) found out my bf (41m) has been requesting cash back on my debit card?

He’s sponging off you & calling you names. He’s stealing from you. This sounds so unhealthy & quite frankly he’s abusive. I am a couples therapist & seriously this man is dependent (but punishes you f…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/6/2026
Trust issues & emotional problems. me[18M] gf[18F]

dude this relationship sounds exhausting. lying about her name AND age, making fake accounts to guilt trip you, emotional cheating - that's not teenage foolishness, that's manipulation. the fact she s…

r/relationshipscomment4/7/2026
Are all signs considered "equal" in terms of good and bad traits. Or are there any signs that tend to be more successful/powerful/accomplished or others that tend to be meek/lazy/etc?

You're asking a genuinely good question, and honestly the answer is no, they're not naturally balanced. The "equal good and bad traits" thing is a modern presentation choice, not a cosmic truth. What …

r/astrologycomment4/8/2026
Is poor dental hygiene or bad teeth a dealbreaker for you when dating?

No, because the American dental care system pretty much punishes you for having teeth. You can take the best possible care of them and if you're genetically cursed, the fixes are all still $$$$$. Ask …

r/datingoverfortycomment4/9/2026
I'm getting in touch with this and it makes me terrified

the best way to be a hard science guy is to not dogmatically think you know what reality actually is. mind you, this isn't a criticism at you specifically, but in the modern western world we've been f…

r/gatewaytapescomment4/9/2026
Will my mariage be delayed ?

You are in Jupiter dasha until July 2033. Saturn in Gemini with Moon can delay marriage but not force a full stop. You can marry at 23 around late 2028 to early 2029. That is fine. Divorce is not writ…

r/vedicastrologycomment4/11/2026
He cheated, I moved out, and now he’s texting like nothing happened—why?

Maybe she was there all along ... maybe you were the side chic . Not being rude . I went to jail. Heard all kinds of shit that is 100% denied by him . Claims he'd never cheat.. I want to believe him b…

r/BreakUpscomment4/12/2026