Identity

Stop Affirming into a Void: Why Your "Identity" is Blocking Your Manifestations — I see the same questions popping up every single day: "Why isn't it working?" "I've been affirming for weeks, what am I doing wrong?" "Should I switch from Law of Assumption to Law of Attraction?" He…

One the biggest founder skill is knowing when to walk away - I will not promote — Yes it's hard to kill a project. Yes you might think "I need to keep going" to make it. And that's true in a way, you need to not quit. But iterating/pivoting is not quiting. It's showing agility an…

I’ve decided to go all in on my mental health tech startup — how do I fully shift from side project mindset to founder mindset? - i will not promote — Hi, I run a platform with digital tools to help people build mental strength and emotional resilience. Until now, I’ve treated it like a serious side project, but starting today, I’m committing to it…

Rate limit when trying to log in to WP Engine — Hello everyone. I need to access to WP Engine to restart the plugins installed in a project. The administrators of the page gave me a link to create a password for my user and i loged in using my mobi…

Have you managed to avoid making your brand into your ego identity? — One of the things I find most distasteful about entrepreneurship is the idea of enmeshing oneself with the brand they are pushing. This is one of the biggest reasons I got out of real estate. Have you…

I AM..........THE IDENTITY

Recovering DA trying to reconnect with FA wife — For context: * I (40M) am a DA, my wife (41F) an FA. We have three children. * Together for 17 years, married for 13 years, distant/no-touch for over 10 years but stable and no deep conflicts. * Cont…

Global Policy Journal: “Don’t look up?“ – Why it is past time for serious holistic research into Unidentified Anomalous Phenomena — Karin Austin, Michael Bohlander and Kimberly S. Engels have contributed an excellent article to the Global Policy Journal. Two of these people I've met personally and they are experiencers who are doi…

What is my core wound when I don't worry what others think about me, I'm not afraid of being alone, but still no boundaries with closest people — I want to heal my wounds and spot and correct the false truths that I have about myself and others, but I'm finding it quite difficult. It is because it seems to me that I lack some essential traits o…

I want love but can't push past knowing that I would be a burden in all of my relationships — Hi, I am a 26F and want to seek some advice from this subreddit because I truly do not know who else I can talk about this with, and writing has always been easier than talking out loud. Sidenote: I …

Feeling “off” after trust rupture — attachment system or intuition? — I have been dating my current partner for about a year now. Long post incoming. I’m posting because I’m noticing a significant avoidant shift in myself and I need perspective specifically on my own at…

3 years in. Bro, it gets wild. — Okay, so a large part of this community seems to use SATS as a high-preparation, ritual method and yes it’s very powerful in that way. But you’re literally God. Why keep yourself so limited? Nevill…

Experienced ego dissolution and timelessness while a friend spiraled into a bad trip believing we were communicating through “waves” — I wanted to share a recent experience because the contrast between my trip and my friend’s bad trip was extremely interesting, and I’m curious if others have seen similar dynamics in group trips. We …

Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…

how common is it for 2nd generation asian americans who didn't really connect with their ethnic identity during their younger years to embrace their ethnic identity as they get older? — when i was younger i desired to fit in with whiteness yet with age, I became more embracing of my ethnic identity.

Codependency and an ex that keeps coming back — Hey guys! So, I've run out of ideas on this. I got together with a single mum in summer 2024 and we parted ways around last October. Since then, we agreed to stay friends but she wouldn't even give m…

I (28F) had an affair and don’t know what I’m doing. Please help. — I’ve been with my husband for 8 years, married for 2. He is genuinely the best person I know. Kind, safe, loyal. He’s my best friend. When I cry, he’s who I want holding me. When something funny happe…

I think I might have extreme codependency and I don’t know how to break the cycle — I’ve been realizing something about myself that’s honestly kind of scary, and I’m wondering if anyone here has experienced something similar or managed to get out of it. I feel like I’m at a really e…

How to survive transit Uranus Square natal Sun? — Everything's been super intense for me lately. My old career blowing up. Sudden extreme desire to break free and do something different. Identity crisis. Tons of stress and anxiety. Like a very intens…

I’ve been with a narc for 5 years and I don’t recognize myself anymore. How do I get "me" back? — I’m writing this because I feel completely lost. I’ve been with a narcissistic partner for 5 years, and looking in the mirror is scary because I don’t know the person looking back. I used to be jovia…

Spiritual Awakening & Instant Manifestation (wtf???) — So as the title says, wtf? I've been using multiple different ways of manifesting, manifesting with feeling, robotic affirming, and I've realized one thing. Manifesting is an act of creation that …

This is a lifestyle — At some point you have to ask yourself one question: Do you really believe in your own bullshit? Not Neville’s philosophy. Not a guru’s interpretation. Yours. Because sooner or later you realize s…

Growing Up With a Perfectionist Parent Is Messing With My Sense of Self — Recently I’ve started noticing a pattern in the way my mom treats me and my siblings, and it’s been messing with my head a lot. I genuinely love my mom and I know she loves us deeply—she’s the kind of…

Permanent Enlightenment — I’m curious about something and would love to hear from people with long-term meditation practice. Many traditions talk about enlightenment or awakening as something that can stabilize. But in my own…

Cheated on after 10.5 years together, divorced at 11 years together. — Hi Everyone, This is half venting and half hoping for advice or people to listen. I'm at a low point right now so I thought reaching out to a community might be beneficial as opposed to holding it…

OKAY LISTEN Y'ALL. — I don't know which tag this would come under but I just have to say this because the amount of 'im gonna give up' , 'its not working' ' what am I doing wrong' posts am seeing is insaneee. First of all…

I hate it when Asians take advantage of other Asians to make sales — As Asians, we want to support “Asian-owned” businesses right? I rather buy in auntie’s more expensive mom and pop grocery store than a chain grocery store, if there’s a choice. Then there’s Asians wh…

Need help with purpose — Hello everyone, Right now I am in a mentally rough spot. The short story is that I didn’t get a job I had been working towards for the first couple years of my time at uni. I made it to the final rou…

Some Pointers after 12 Years of Meditation — Meditation is an invisible skill, which makes it especially prone to confusion and obfuscation. I wanted to jot down some pointers and opinions about meditation that have served me at one point or an…

The secret is to take the meaning of your manifestation, and apply it to yourself. — Manifestation isn't a game of frequencies to me, it's a game of meaning. As we know: the wishfullfilled is not needing the manifestation anymore. Neville says you can't need wht you have. Let's say…

It Was Always About You — I thought I would share an experience I had a while ago that really changed my understanding of Neville’s teachings and manifestation in general. **How it started** In 2022 I was very into occultism…

My Divorce Journey - Hope it Helps someone — Just want to share some notes on my journey through divorce…I’ve been divorced for about two years after a 15 year marriage (2 kids) and I’m finally on firm ground with myself. Just some key points …

Considering divorce from my husband. I need perspective. — Hey everyone, I've been lurking, but it's my first time posting, so sorry if this is inappropriate. For starters, I'm not asking for advice, as in "what to do", but more like perspective in case I'm …

All is now. Be Here Now. — One of the biggest misunderstandings about manifestation is the idea that you are trying to create something in the future. Neville’s teachings point to something deeper. Creation is finished. Every…

codependency quiz wrecked me - turns out my "helping" was actually controlling — I took a codependency quiz last week on taro's tarot and i genuinely feel like the floor dropped out from under me. I've always been the person everyone comes to. The fixer. The one who drops everythi…

I made my husband confess to OBS and here’s what happened — For your education and entertainment purposes, this is the story of what happened when I forced my husband to confess to OBS. Quick backstory: (you can read the full post on my profile) my husband h…

A Narcissus is an empty shell with no real existence — "A Narcissus, such as Ovid's Narcissus, is someone who thinks he has found himself by looking in the mirror. His life consists in searching for his reflection in the gaze of others. The other exists, …

The one trait that predicts narcissism more reliably than anything else — I spent years trying to figure out why some people drain everything around them while others don't. After a lot of research and painful personal experience, I found one principle that predicts it more…

Carl Jung wasn't a psychologist. He was a shaman. — Carl Jung quietly wrote one of the most profound esoteric texts of all time, at least in my own personal opinion. Seven Sermons to the Dead was written in 1916, privately shared between a handful of J…

I manifest through Frequency Training Daily! — Frequency is the composite of your Identity, Beliefs and Intentions. When you train these 3 things daily: Your subconscious beliefs change and then because your beliefs changed, you feel differen…

I Want to Make Something CLEAR. Manifesting is easy. — Manifesting is easy. It really is. The bridge of incidents and how long it lasts is actually UP TO YOU. And how long it takes for you to manifest something is also UP TO YOU. What do I mean? I mean e…

it finally clicked — i just. omg. i just NEED to share this SOMEWHERE. i spent 6 years trying to think myself into “making” shifting happen. 6 years focused on only my mental health, believing if i finally found the one …

PsychoCybernetics Visualization — Based on the teachings of PsychoCybernetics, I started visualizing every morning and evening to optimize my personality. I've noticed profound positive changes in my personality over the past week. A…

"Men Can't Be Men Anymore" — A week ago, I [posted about the Louis Theroux documentary on the “Manosphere,”](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/1rtveyg/the_manosphere/) noting my surprise at the scale of the phenomenon, u…

Self-Love: Self-Care, Self-Containment, Self-Possession — At some point I realized that I couldn't show up for a relationship with someone else until I could consistently show up for myself. 😁 I put this together in response to seeing discussions and posts…

Why do I always circle back to personal expression and identity? — Ever since covid I've been on this path of constantly workshopping myself so I can be a better version of myself. I've grown a lot but at the same time I feel like I still have so much work to do. F…

My husband cheated. I don't want 50/50 custody. I also don't know if I can stay with my husband. I don't know what to do. — Both options suck. I found out my husband cheated on me during my pregnancy with our first child (which we both wanted). It was a physical and emotional affair. It continued after our son was born. It…

For anyone who struggles to believe in Manifestation. Read this. — (Apologies in advance for the long post) Okay so I used to be that person who would physically cringe when someone said “manifest it.” Like, I get it. The whole world around this thing is just deepl…

How does my third house stellium in Capricorn impact this transition in my life? — I’m new to astrology so I’m still wrapping my head around the extraordinary amount of information to examine and explore. Source of birth time is my birth certificate. I’m on the cusp of a major iden…

The best things I did to stop me ruminating and wishing my ex would come back (After wishing she would for more than a year) — Hello Everyone At the beginning of 2025 I went through the type of breakup I would not wish on my worst enemy, I wont bore you with the details but I struggled with this for over a year. Here are …

transiting saturn conjunct natal saturn in aries (11th house, whole sign) — how does this relate to relationship endings and social/identity restructuring? — hi everyone 💛 i’m asking about a specific saturn transit during my saturn return. transiting saturn in aries is currently conjunct my natal saturn at 14° aries in my 11th house (whole sign). over …

Hey, I am an overconfident twat that lacks any real creativity. I tend to just jump in on anything to feel included . Sometimes it's confusing cause I don't even understand what I'm trying to shit on.…

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

I've been in therapy for over a year for various reasons, and for me the first thing I needed to work on was my self image. Understanding and accepting myself, building confidence and a stronger sense…

Simply get back to the things that give me joy in life. Nature, cycling, career progression, healthy cooking, travel, caving, gym, movie buff, research, etc. Never abandon my identity ever again when …

Love the question!! You don’t need a relationship to grow, that’s the beauty of it (you can but it will be slower, depending on what kind of partner you end up with) You could try to explore being mo…

Thank you. This research at least is not wedded to what is seems to me to be a very over simplified model. I've just read the abstract and will chew through the rest of it. Then look at what else …

No, my statement has nothing to do with validation. I find when someone says 'that's invalidating', they haven't sat down and thought about what they're saying. And why would I need to constantly vali…

I second this! focus on doing things that make you- you. those of us who spent our childhood begging our caregivers to love us and constantly trying to convince them we are worthy of their affection l…

I’ve dated someone who was in your mental state before, I haven’t had a chance to say anything to her as I’m keeping her in the no contact zone. Now that I understand more and put a lot of effort into…

The feeling of attraction by the way disappears with fear, and we are all afraid of good relationships. Thats why, since in the past Ive almost always been in avoidant mode, I dont trust my feelings o…

It was special. He made me see the importance of putting myself first, finding my identity. Aside from the lack of physical and emotional intimacy, it was actually perfect. He would get so frustrat…

TLDR: Anxious(22M) seeking advice during a break with an avoidant(21F) . I am an extremely anxious person due to cheating and abandonment in prior relationships. I never used to care as much about th…

So… I have dated someone with DID before. Dissociative Identity Disorder. In these individuals, when anything even remotely stressful happens; they will quite literally turn into a different person. L…

I have seen that there is a lot of overlap due to the trauma so I guess it makes sense that there can be traits. I guess its about severity and whether there's the other diagnosable traits like identi…

I did see your disclaimers, and I do believe change can happen quickly. I managed to make huge changes myself as a DA in a very short period of time, completely changing how I act and feel around my w…

I am earned secure. When I found attachment-styles, I was already on the healing journey, so I cannot say with accuracy what my untreated and unconscious attachment style was; probably FA leaning DA. …

The best antidote in my opinion is to just put in less effort and observe more in the beginning stages. Lots of anxious people focus a lot on conforming to their potential partner's ideal type out of…

Hey everyone👋 Over the last few years I've struggled with identity, motivation, feelings of failure. I've come back to Stoicism as a way to ground me, help me be more rooted in whats important to me…

What I do is actively spend time in my own life and make it fulfilling on its own. I have a bad habit of dropping everything I love and centering only other people, which becomes a problem, so what re…

Hi, avoidant aplspec aroace (the quadruple a!) here :) It's important to differentiate a trauma response with sexuality but it can be tricky. I think first things first, you should acknowledge whic…

This is not a skill issue. It’s not something that can be fixed by the use of one tool or another. This isn’t about feeling. That’s why grounding statements don’t work because it’s not about the arous…

I don't think you understand what I mean. Attachment is some sort of coping. Coping with stress situations is happening to keep up a salutegenese or in other words: trying the best possible without ha…

Great post! Dampening factors often include tight Saturn aspects, which can contain or delay emotional expression. Pluto aspects can internalize and intensify it so feelings run deep yet hidden. Uranu…

Interesting [question.it](http://question.it) really hits home because I actually started to learn astrology last year to navigate some personal hurdles. I found that aspects to the Ascendant act like…

I think it can be good because full disclosure but also potentially worrisome because I fear "do they that feel their mental illness is a defining characteristic of their identity?" Rather than just p…

I’m a 29’44 Pisces sun. The first time Neptune conjunct my sun was in 2023. Neptune and Saturn simultaneously conjunct my sun after three years of the back and forth this last month? I just don’t have…

That is right on the money in my experience! I had moved 2,000 miles from my beloved home city in late 2021 and was grieving the loss of my old home and a big part of my identity which was tied to tha…

If I had to choose one, I’d lean 11th. The 3rd house explains the *mechanism* of Reddit. Writing, scrolling, exchanging information, short-form communication. That’s the interface. But the reason pe…

Sorta sounds like he wants you to break up with him. His whole worldview/identity has been shattered by this academic feedback and you aren't a good enough reason to keep things together.

He is definitely more than just okay but I wasn't seeing things very objectively yesterday. We pushed a past celebration to the 6-month because we were swamped with work earlier. He promised to cook :…

After about 30 years, I always wonder how much someone’s felt shift toward their Sun sign or Rising sign is also being shaped by progressions, because secondary progressions can literally move those i…

the distinction the first commenter made is crucial -- direction matters enormously. transit pluto opposite your natal sun is a completely different animal from your transiting sun opposing natal plut…

a full moon on your birthday means the moon is opposing your natal sun, which happens roughly once a year and marks the emotional peak of your solar cycle. it's like a personal harvest -- whatever you…

i am turning 30 this year, i’m a taurus sun and a scorpio rising. i’ve always felt deeply connected to my ascendant sign and i think it has a lot to with being raised by a single mother who is a scorp…

moon-pluto is the sleeper on that list. sun transits you feel in your identity and life direction -- you know something's off. but moon-pluto hits your emotional baseline and your sense of safety in a…

i've had clients with sun-uranus transits and honestly? it's like they're being rewired from the inside out. sudden changes in their sense of identity, which can be super disorienting. one client had …

Really putting emotional boundaries in place and in action so I have more confidence in when it’s worth my while to stay connected or withdraw. And surviving the upheaval that changing my identity h…

Two minutes can absolutely make a difference, but also I think there's a common misunderstanding about what the natal chart does and doesn't do: >The ascendant and other angles can move into a new d…

Omg you're an art teacher?! I'm sorry but unless he was home-schooled his entire fucking life and has never seen or read a single piece of media involving schools and had not paid attention to **an…

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I’m been thinking a lot about this. I don’t have a conclusion yet but wanted to comment. I’m a 5H 29 degree Pisces Sun, 23 degree Pisces North Node. This last three years has been brutal. A complete l…

lol so if u looked at my post/comment history then u will know what u said is not true😂and browsing through your comments you seem to make sweeping generalizations. I try to make my posts informativ…

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Lol they reported for “bigotry and hatred” and other things related to identity

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Hey everyone. I took powerful mind-altering drugs that are known to distort perception, identity, time, and reality. Predictably, my perception, identity, time, and sense of reality were distorted. …

Not good maybe. You mentioned she had asked you in the past about you reciprocating postings of her on your own page more often. By her bringing it up she was asking for reassurances of your relation…

Unfortunately i can understand and relate to this. I was also in a situationship for nearly 7 years and was even pregnant from it. Not an ideal situation for him, considering he lied about having a da…

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I think the more you let go of this identity the more you can realize how similar and close you are to other people. Its like in the image "the son of man" with the apple being said somewhat distancin…