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Yes I noticed they're finally letting you filter more for free! Overall I find Hinge to be the best - I've noticed people actually read my profile and prompts! EDIT: It's funny, I have one of mine se…
Broke up with my gf because she wants kids now and I'm not ready. — I (30) just broke up with my gf (31) of 2 years and instantly feel awful and am questioning if I made the wrong decision. She has severe endometriosis so basically needs to start trying for kids now.…
Currently spiralling — Is this reason enough to leave my husband? I have been thinking about this since summer, this conversation has come up 3 times and he is in agreement so I’m pretty sure I am making the right choice …
33F, 31M Avoidant Shutdown — 33F, 31M. Have been dating since January. I need advice. My boyfriend is a dismissive avoidant (DA). We had a small discussion about our future relationship wants at the beginning of our relationship …
Genuinely want to hear your thoughts, I am exhausted looking for my person. — Ive been back on dating apps for about 2 months and it has been absolutely frustrating and worse than I remembered from a couple years ago. I am in my late 40's (49), I am not feeling the clock is tic…
Debate keeping relationship long term over kids F20 & M20 — Hi, me and my boyfriend have been tg for 2 years but he wants kids and i don’t. been thinking of breaking up with him. he’s sure that i will change my mind and he says he’ll stay with me and be consid…
I can’t get over my break up. — I \[28F\] broke up with my bf \[27M\] 2 weeks ago. We broke up on mutual terms, it was very respectful and kind and we reminisced about the last 4 years we spent together. We ended up having sex after…
Getting to know each other before brining up more serious matters isn't playing cool. So what if she wants kids too if she won't like for example how you dress or your lack of tact. There's time and p…
Anyone in their mid thirties who wants kids feel like sharing their perspective or venting? I came back to dating recently when I realized I had too much grief to pull the trigger on artificial …
I’m in the same boat. I’d love to find a long term committed relationship with someone I love, but like I’m also not gonna turn down a fling or a short term relationship. Gotta get through the short t…
I don't have much to say other than I really love and appreciate my girlfriend. It's almost 6 months and she's just pretty great overall. A couple months ago I started to feel like things got way too …
Depends on why you broke up. If you're really good friends as well as lovers and the main sticking point is one person wants kids and the other doesn't. I can see how a breakup might end up as being f…
😅 I was single for 5 years before my recent ex, on and off dating apps and had situationships, but never called someone my partner. And I really thought he'd be the one, and was just getting used to…
\>>rant warning<<< i saw a guy a couple of times, we had one of those rare really good connections. topic of kids came up and i was like eh, i'm unsure, there's a lot goes into that decision. and he…
I’m childfree by choice. I wouldn’t really care if it was a casual thing. For a relationship, hmmm… depends on how much time you have for dating, and, thinking long term, how much do you want your par…
Hinge offered new options to me yesterday that was pretty nice. They let me set 3 free deal breakers for things that are usually locked behind their subscription (I refuse to pay). It turns out its a …
Please give me your honest thoughts on putting "wants kids" in your dating app bio when you're 29/30 ish. It feels like it really tanks my match rate (haven't actually seen data so just guessing). I w…
IDK if it tanks your match rate, but if someone doesn't match because you want kids then isn't that a good thing since it weeds out incompatibility? I don't think most people assume that wants kids me…
I find it helpful, but my hinge profile also has "wants kids" on it. It's something i definitely want down the line, and I want to date someone who feels the same way.
I agree with the others, i've never interpreted 'wants kids' to mean they want them immediately.
A bit older than you, I have wants kids listed on my profiles, and it doesn't seem to hurt how many likes/matches I get.
The approach is important and there are better ways to do it. It’s like having kids, maybe the man wants kids but feels it’s inappropriate to be grilled about having children by a complete stranger on…
Same with my gf we broke sunday after FOUR YEARS becuse she wants kids and i dont.
Darling... he wanted the birds, doesn't take care of them, and now wants to make you choose between him and the pets? It sounds like a child with extra entitlement. Sooo... what happens when he wants…
> and he thought birds would be really cool and then he expected them to just be his besties without training or bonding? When they don't, he gives YOU an ultimatum? Nah, keep the birds, ditch the …
You need to make the smart decision for yourself here, because he's clearly too blinded by emotions to think about the future. If you get married and he wants kids, but then can't, because you don't…
You both want different things and you are more realistic about the future whereas he is a 31 year man living at home with his parents wanting to raise a family? How? Where? Even if you wanted kids,…
If he wants kids and you don't, you break up. You can find a man with the same values as you
You don't have to wait for him to leave. In fact, you absolutely should not wait. You can and should end the relationship. He is communicating to you- right now and in clear and unambiguous terms- tha…
You're not compatible. If you stay either divorce or an unplanned pregnancy in the future. It sounds like he wants kids and thinks you will change your mind later, maybe because "the clock is running …
The only answer is... You don't. There is no way of working this out because you're incompatible. He wants kids, you don't. Having kids isn't something you half-arse. Children deserve parents who are…
He is a bit immature, and you are pragmatic. You have different views and priorities, that’s ok, but it’s better to stop wasting time (especially him if he wants kids).
He wants to talk about weddings and babies and hes supposedly in a stable job but yet he's not financially responsible okay then that pretty much says everything I need to know So for him having kid…
He's 31 and lives with his parents. He's trying to change you because he wants kids - that alone means you are completely compatible. You are more financially mature than a 31 year old man. This rel…
You are not compatible.He wants kids and he's just hoping that you'll one day change your mind and you know you don't kids. Kids is a 2.Yes, one no kind of thing.It's both people don't want it , don'…
You need to call it.. before you "accidentally" wind up pregnant. He wants kids. He will continue to pressure you. He has no plans for life goals or housing and he's 31.
She wants kids though. She said it in the post.
Oh, I hope so. Being on the apps is sooo depressing bc it's all the same generic kind of guy...loves dogs wants kids really into fitness loves to travel....that's it. I didn't expect to run into someo…
As someone from the other side who wants kids (I’ve been a single parent for 13 years now and I want more-so I’m ok with picking up the slack from a partner—as I have been doing it alone for well over…
Needing some encouragement. 38F. I’ve swiped through all the liberal men on Hinge in my medium-large city and it’s bleak out there. I had significantly better luck in 2024 the last time I was on the …
I'm all aboard the adoption train currently. She says she wants kids so if it can't happen naturally then that's my first choice
>Ah I see. You can dish out the "what if" but can't take it. What did you want me to say to your hypothetical. If a man over 40 wants kids and is given the advice to date younger. What did you expect…
No longer on apps. I was. I don’t want a younger guy. I’m looking more long term than a fling. Younger guys want someone who wants kids etc. those days are over for me.
He said something so horrible that even the guests were taken aback. Maybe it’s time for you to bail. I don’t think this man wants kids. That joke proves that he’s relieved, not sad, a the loss of his…
No. I find its very rare that two people who were not already friends will go on a date, not want to pursue things romantically, but also still enjoy eachother's company enough to want to be friends. …
Yeah this very much reads like he expected her to wait for him but she’s 27 and wants kids
After a couple duds of first dates I found a profile of a guy who seems to have so much in common with me and I actually know of him from mutual events/communities in town. HOWEVER! He wants kids and …
Feeling a bit both funny and depressing that when I saw those young kids (age 18) that I can literally pop one out, and I’m still on r/datingoverthirty asking whether the guy I’ve been talking to is a…
Yeah this is obviously the danger of having younger partners and children late in life. Lots of men won't commit until their late 30s/early 40s and get pretty lucky if they find someone to have kids w…
We’re officially bf gf but we haven’t seen each other in 3 weeks. We had plans for me to come over to his place today but he said he threw his back out. This isn’t the first time. Idk what to do becau…
He wants kids at 49? It doesn't sound like he'll be able to keep up with a toddler at all. I had kids in my mid 30's and the sleeplessness and non-stop activity was a lot for me. I'm not sure this m…
Often I’ve liked guys, been attracted to them, no red flags but something just hasn’t clicked. Also as she is 36, if she wants kids she’s probably panicking that if she spends longer in relationships …
He wants kids and you didn't want kids ...it looks like he is showing you ..what he wants in future and it will cause problem in your life because you want a career right now..... You both have differ…
He’s *shown* you that he’s one of the stereotypical guys who wants kids but has no intention of doing anything but the fun parts. And certainly no by himself. Let him take all the nibblings himself …
So your previous discussions about kids sounded to him like "we will concentrate on our careers for a while and then have kids" and sounded to you like "we won't have kids and will concentrate on our …