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From a previous relationship, my partner at a point started to be able to vocalise what she needs to emotionally regulate - which saved me from having to assume/mind-read and help me better engage wit…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

Breakup tears me apart — Due to my (F29) fear of abandonment I became ill with burnout/dysregulated nervous system 2,5 years ago, which meant I couldn't work, couldn't play sports, couldn't see my friends and family and was c…

Totally wrecked after breakup — Due to my (F29) fear of abandonment I became ill with burnout/dysregulated nervous system 2,5 years ago, which meant I couldn't work, couldn't play sports, couldn't see my friends and family and was c…

What you’re describing is actually a really common nervous system response after a breakup when someone has anxious attachment patterns. When you’ve been used to getting comfort, reassurance and emot…

Yes. My mom was my primary abuser, but my dad was an alcoholic. A violent one. I acted like he was perfect, but just had a few issues that I blamed on my mom. Reality was, he'd get drunk every night, …

Due to my (F29) fear of abandonment I became ill with burnout/dysregulated nervous system 2,5 years ago (which meant I couldn't work, couldn't play sports, couldn't see my friends and family and was c…

I also grew up being told I was too sensitive, that I needed to grow thicker skin. I've also had that thought process, that maybe I'm just too sensitive and my parents didn't actually do anything wr…

Due to my (F29) fear of abandonment I became ill with burnout/dysregulated nervous system 2,5 years ago, which meant I couldn't work, couldn't play sports, couldn't see my friends and family and was c…