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Yes, my parents are also like this. A few years ago, I passed out in public due to an illness and texted my sibling for help. While I was passed out alone in some bathroom, my Nmother got jealous th…

Unsent letter to a prior ex, in the midst of a current breakup. — I am in a crash course on my own nervous system while in the midst of a breakup with a dismissive avoidant man I've loved for almost five years. I'd known about the anxious-avoidant trap for some time…

Managing Guilt and Shame — Hi everybody! I'm tackling the superiority complex part of my codependency today and I realized some of the root of the problem. I've got some pretty bad negative self talk and it really comes out whe…

How to deal with resentment. It is making me bitter and angry — Been wronged a lot in my life. Ig I had poor boundaries and my locus of control was outwards. I've this resentment and anger that I'm waking up with everyday and it is costing me peace. Everyday I'm d…

I ran into someone who wronged me and almost lost my cool. How to handle this? — I am going to try to keep this brief. I had a hard time making friends as an adult. My best friend passed away in high school, and I know I romanticize a lot (as you will learn) but I swear I have ne…

Forgiveness — How do you forgive someone who never gave you a genuine apology? Who didn't even give you a dignified, respectful breakup? He ditched me so bad and I feel so wronged. I try not to feel any anger, bu…

Narcissist are simply evil. — They are evil. From beginning to end everything they do is strategic. intentional. They know exactly where they are going with this. They know exactly how much it hurts you and still keep doin it. She…

I have really horrible vindictive thoughts which I sometimes act on, and I don't know how to stop — I'm diagnosed with BPD but I strongly suspect covert narcissism or a combination of the two, possibly ASPD traits. I'm 36F but I feel way too old for this shit and I don't understand why I'm repeatin…

Is there a way you can revise the past? — I (29) worked a really toxic job for years in my 20s. I was being mistreated and bullied. I don’t want to repeat the insults or anything here but I wasn’t alone and many people have been fired like I…

Anyone can relate... — Me: Can you stop yelling... Mom: You think you're the one who's wronged here?! I'm more wronged than you! You brought all this on yourself! Both of us: \*arguing\* Dad: \*sighs\* \*scolds the mothe…

I (28f) can’t tell if my anxiety is affecting my relationship or if something is actually wrong (Partner 28m) — TLDR: I don't trust my thoughts and feelings and want to know if what I'm going through is a normal couple emotional relationship bump. Summary: I’m in a generally loving relationship, but I struggle…

Am I (28F) overreacting or is my partner (28M) unsupportive? — TLDR: I don't trust my thoughts and feelings and want to know if what I'm going through is a normal couple emotional relationship bump. Summary: I’m in a generally loving relationship, but I struggle…

Silence — 5 years engaged and a year apart. I know he will never come back. He never had feelings honestly. He betrayed me in every way and tried to hide it. I found out. He never showed remorse apologize takin…

Never really feeling fully adult — Not sure if this is the right thread but needed to rant a bit and maybe find those who feel the same I was never taught social mannerisms growing up and never quite feel like I matured properly becau…

I'm the bad guy! And I admit it! But I'm growing. — TL;DR I did dumb shit but I've learned & grown & I want some insight from guys who've accepted accountability & made the best from the worst. So I'm gonna get this started with some backstory. STBXW …

How does the honeymoon phase end? I feel like mine was so forceful. — TL;DR I’m 24(F) who’s been with my boyfriend 26(M) since October 2024. Close friends to lovers type of story. A few months of trying to date, dating then official on Oct. We were well into the honey…

“I suffer, so you suffer” mindset, why? — I’m not fully sure if this is the right Reddit thread for this, so please kindly point me in the right direction if not. My dad, and brother subsequently, have always had a “I suffer/suffered, so you…

Why do I feel so good about holding grudges and ignoring people? — Back in 2019, I asked out a co-worker who initially said yes. We went on a few dates before she called things off and she had cited not being in a good place for dating because of two things. One was …

why are angry victims less likely to receive sympathy? — this might be manipulative, but the times i’ve acted sad instead of showing my anger at being wronged, i received more sympathy. on the other hand, the times that i did display my anger at the situati…

manifested (kind of) an SP from thin air! — this will be a long one, buckle up! # chapter 0, my journey so i started manifesting seriously from a month now. i didnt really know what it was before that. i kind of thought it was hocus pocus ps…

How do I get my ex back after I wronged him — For context we were together for 2 yrs 9 months before he broke up with me. He broke up with me because I ran after my ex when I was drunk on dec/25 but I don’t remember doing that at all but it was t…

Does anyone else feel like the investment isn't worth the potential reward anymore? — Because I'm really starting to. I know dating at ANY age is a weed out process. You're going to be into some people that aren't into you. Some people are going to be into you that YOU'RE not into. Yo…

how to healthily overcome resentment in the present moment? — not dating anyone atm but I want to learn how to healthily process someone is unable to meet a particular need without just feeling resentment and being stuck on that bitterness and anger that I have …

Text of original post by u/f1rstpancake: I am in a crash course on my own nervous system while in the midst of a breakup with a dismissive avoidant man I've loved for almost five years. I'd known abou…

I’ve had two aspects of this come up in therapy.  I’m kind of surprised how much I have to describe to my therapist about what Jonice Webb calls the Fatal Flaw—the conviction that there is something …

This last one was my fourth one. In a row. Just very long relationships over a long amount of time so each time the lovebombing worked. Trauma bond with this one was *deep* though. Covert narcissist. …

> forgiveness is like canceling a debt  I think this is valid. when it takes more effort or energy to try to collect the debt than to just forget it or give it to a collections agency, if you can…

I broke up with my ex 10+ years ago. I still have moments where a memory, good or bad, pops into my head and I feel a flare of emotion, usually very negative. Through therapy, I understand that this…

I'm a CPTSD sufferer too, and I've done a lot of reading on these things. So I want to explain some of these terms (BPD, NPD and autism), as you might find it useful for understanding yourself. There…

I actually liked The Foreigner starring Jackie Chan. The plot idea is that he lives in Ireland, and after a tragedy he fights back against those who wronged him. This isn't a normal comedic Jackie Cha…

For being gay lol, i didn’t even run away they kicked me out. It’s actually insane, but she fully feels i wronged her by “choosing” to be gay.

A lot of Asian guys have a screw you mentality, they don't care who gets hurt as long as they get paid. And then on top of that I suspect there's Asian men out there who were wronged by some other Asi…

Stability I suppose. Emotional maturity. Men who have turned the page on their last relationship. I’ve sat through dozens of dates where they describe in detail their dead bedroom marriages, their par…

Not for me. I'm 5 months in and still cry every day. All he posts online is how terrible I was and how smart men don't get married and other really hurtful stuff. I NEVER cheated on him. I NEVER lied …

Idek if they even actually feel wronged half the time. They seem to enjoy making our lives miserable at every turn by finding reasons to get mad at us.

Staying in touch with someone you have been with should be acceptable. That being said SAYING YOU CAN'T BE FRIENDS WITHOUT THE DESIRE TO HOOK UP AFTER... That is different... He either was nervous a…

Their brains don’t tell them they are wrong. Anything you perceive as wrong they have a reason for doing it and it’s not their fault. They cheated because of you, they lost their job because someone w…

I know you said you try to be accepting, non judgmental, etc. but in the same sentence you say it is very negative, etc. Try to see those thoughts as just thoughts, and not as good/bad/positive/nega…

Okay so everyone is going to tell you to just leave, but it’s clear you both have a lot of resentment. However, you two clearly have built a life together so I think it’s worth trying to salvage. It…

So my girlfriend of 4 years cheated on me, it's been more thN a month since I left. And you mentioned something here which happened to me, she didn't even know how to Apologize. She started mentioning…

I'm sorry, but I feel like I'm missing something here. Ignoring the typical Reddit projection and hyperbole, and just looking at the facts, I can understand why this situation is confusing and unexpec…

The problem is they don’t realize they wronged you. For them it’s completely normal behavior like they ate a bagel or something. Their system of values is completely different. They are so empty and d…

You're welcome :). Oh yeah, the guilt tripping is horrendous, or remembering things you once did or said as a child and still pulling that out whenever there's a fight. In the past few years whenever…

You handled this really well! Narcissists are experts at pushing our buttons, and unfortunately, we will always have to meet them where they’re at, never the other way around. It’s not fair, but it do…

Exactly. I mean, by default, the whole situation is because my mother feels she's being wronged already. By what I did, what my wife did etc. I don't want to imagine how it'd be if I'd actually wrong …

I’ve opened up to my partner, although it’s somewhat difficult to explain things to someone who doesn’t already know the language of attachment theory. Just this week, I had a deactivation episode bec…

I have also heard this, but it doesn't feel nice to bring up a concern where you feel you've been "wronged" only to have to regulate your partner.

Racial preferences ARE racist. I know this because I would never discriminate against a certain ethnic group because that to me, personally, feels racist, and I'm not a freaking racist. So for any guy…

Great writeup and self awareness.  I believe that it's because our lived experiences, particularly during childhood, define our sense of what is normal. We don't even question why things are the w…

Relationships are overrated. I honestly haven’t had a normal relationship since pre covid. Everybody is crazy now. This happened to me once only it was a shorter amount of time we dated but I really l…

I’m curious, because I’m dealing with this thought that they are already wronged, but what is going on?

It wouldn't surprise me if he's saying you two engaged in consensual sexual activity where you "encouraged"/seduced him. Only you know if your sister is the kind of person who would knows he assault…

Your chart ruler (Aquarius) is fixed. Not a sign known for “letting go”. Capricorn and Virgo are both kinda serious (especially Capricorn) where they take themselves very seriously. Scorpio is also …

But what if, as the dumpee, I CAUSED the breakup. I did actions to hurt her and It was my fault. We didn't talk much but I left her a letter explaining that while I would be open to reconciliation, I…

I’m in the same boat. Also that weird thing where some parents say “don’t say hate it’s a strong word,” ok then let me use it. I used to not show many emotions because it could be criticized some way.…

hahahahaha i can answer this question. in fact i did answer this exact question myself. Virtue is not a prescription society can give you. it's a lesson you must take upon yourself. are you at this c…

Correction - you did NOT fail that test. I think you passed successfully. Look up DARVO, because he threw something at your *head* and now he's the wronged person because you didn't block it? Cmon now…

Back when it entered my 12th House, I had already started my 12th PY. The whole months of May and June, I worked my ass off to the point of exhaustion. In the meantime, my father started showing his t…

Been through this exact thing and it's wild how someone can just flip a switch like that. My ex went from texting me good morning every day to acting like I was some stranger who wronged her, but look…

You did the right thing, unless you wanted you girlfriend getting railed by strangers. Press charges against her mom for assault. She asked a question, you knew where she stood, you walked. No harm no…

Actually yes. She was on anti-psychotics talking some gibberish about some girl who wronged her. I thought she was a bit strange in her head. Like crazy or something.....it wasn't until she became god…

Same here. I never knew my growing up years was so effed up if my older age gap siblings didn't randomly one day decide to compare our childhood. When it was my turn and I talked about mine, only thei…

Everything I'm about to say in no way is in defense of her. She chose betrayal and deceit instead of communication, that's a fact, and the why behind it all will never change that. She KNOWINGLY chose…

Man. This right here is the post most people never write. Because what you just did? That's not just "processing." That's ownership. Real ownership. Not the performative kind where you beat yourself …

I like to look at rulerships, and what you're saying immediately points to your Taurus mars ruling your Aries placements! Taurus has a more slow, methodical, homebody kind of energy compared to the dy…

Seneca (IIRC, hopefully someone has a better citation handy) talks about how Cato handled being struck on one occasion and spat on on another--he took it in stride. Musonius Rufus also gave a lecture…

Sounds like medical abuse to me. I was the wronged party and I've got to sit and listen to you "explain" the unacceptable? I totally see why she should go, but couples therapy just seems like abu…

In my case, I found I need to work a 12 step program for my codependency. Otherwise my mind focuses on past, replaying refueling things & I rely on others to do what I want so I can feel good. Also, …

I need therapy honestly lol. Do you recommend it? I keep thinking it will be a waste of time, like they will just tell me what I already know. I feel like my true therapy would be for the people who…

I might not be there yet. I keep finding myself straying toward how I feel wronged and what they did. I keep imagining conversations that feel satisfying in my head but that I don't want to have in re…

Yeah, no, we don’t sign ourselves up to commit insurance fraud! Absolutely not. They’ve made it work this long without buying a van, they can make it for a bit longer while Brother gets his license …

What you are feeling right now is absolutely normal. Every human being, when wronged, has some desire of justice. Legal, karma, social, whatever. Let yourself process this information and then let it …

Yeah that’s what I struggled with as well. That my ex never faced justice for the abuse. I also had a great partner, yet it didn’t stop me from wanting the person who wronged me to face some sort of …